what would you do.... Options

[xenosaga]

...when you have a boyfriend, but didnt tell your mom.....after a month with him, your mom starts to talk to you about having boyfriends...she said "promise me you won't have a boyfriend after high school ok?" and you reply "promise"...but dont forget you still have a boyfriend..what would you do?

[comatose_delusio...]

thats so f**king stereotypical asian parent that it brings tears to my eyes

[xenosaga]

yup...this is happening to me right now

[_sarcastic_]

i guess i'll just have to tell the truth.

[bravodancer04]

Yeah..I would tell her the truth. And I think you meant to say..UNTiL after highschool

[*StanleyThePanda*]

Tell the truth
You shouldn't have said "promise" in the first place.
You should've either told her about your b/f then or when you first started dating.
You shouldn't keep it a secret.

[Rachel]

Why would your mom not want you to have a boyfriend AFTER highschool....

[katlina22]

dnt say nuffin...

[mai_z]

first of all, you shouldn't have promised! but now that it's done, I'd probably keep quiet about it,until you guys are in a really stable relationship, and sit down with your mom and talk to her about it calmly

[No1_2_NoBody13]

i wouldnt tell her and if she found out...pull the whole kids have to lie sumtimes to make parents happy...works for me!!!

[vampireduster]

tell the truth

[mouse_3k]

Screw the promise, do whatever u wanna do.

[aera]

i wouldnt say anything.

[danishcookiez]

the same situation's happened to me, and i just never told her, and promised anyways but crossed my fingers behind my back

[smilz2dasun]

what she doesnt know, wont hurt her.

[booger butt]

Eh, been there & probably still there. I just have her meet him and play it off as him being my friend. It usually works.

[Nicole0402]

I'd be like....mom you know how i promised not to have a boyfriend? Well i think i kind of have one. then explain to her that your good and responsible and not having sex(even if u are) and all that mushy stuff moms want to hear

[just_a_lazy_bum]

wow, i'm in the same position as u 'cept she asked 'do you have a boyfriend?' and me: .. uh.. walk away, haha she didn't talk to me after that, but yea i'd probably wait till u guys have a stable relationship and then tell

[Litt0_TeeZy]

i can't say because it hasn't happened to me yet....

[betrayedbytheduc...]

i would probably lie about the promise like you did. because if you think of it, your mom is being way too crazy if you can't have a boyfriend. thats just way too stupid. how would you feel without a boyfriend? a little lonely,right? that would kinda suck being lonely for most of your childhood. you want to make the best of these years. blah blah blah thats all i got to say.

[to-devastate]

The right thing to do would be to tell her.
But; honestly, I would just keep it a secret. Wouldn't tell her. Hah.

[ANG33ZY]

tell the truth. why did you promise.

[xenosaga]

idk..my mom just gave the "talk" about boyfriends and sorry if i posted it wrong. its actually UNTIL AFTER HIGH SCHOOL!

[kryzcoak47luv666]

Tell her the truth, hide it if you can help it, but if you can't, just tell her that your really happy with him, and tell her how great he is, and say if she met him she would like him, and tell her that you just were happy and were afraid to tell her because you didn't jeoperdize your happyness to please her. Be blunt about it.

[*mzkandi*]

You should go ahead and tell her before she eventually finds out.

[Soleil]

Well if your bf thing is getting serious then i would consider you telling your mom the truth

[murderwaltz]

i wouldnt have said "promise" in the first place. but if you have one of those strict mothers, then yeah i would say it. but your mom needs to understand that youre a teenager and you need to have a little fun too. im sure your mom's been there before. having a boyfriend and whatnot. just tell her that you have one. if she makes a big deal out of it, too bad. she has to accept whether she wants too or not. your mom cant make decisions for you anymore. its your life.

[angelshortipnai]

I think u should tell her, 'cause if they found out afterwards, they'd be like, "I already told u not to have a bf after highschool! U promised me!" then they'll get more mad ladiladilala. just tell her.

[..:loveee.NuTTii]

YOU NEVER SAY PROMISE TO A MOTHER....results can be deadly
just tell her "Mom-I had a boyfriend before you gave my the talk. The only reason i said promise is cuz I didn't want to dissapoint you."
Some sad thing like that...hopefully she'll take pity on you

[FracturedSilence]

*Cries*. This is why most asian people are nerdy and fat.

Damn parents don't let them have a life.


And in answer:
Just... don't... tell her. If you don't want to.

[gOODpIRATE]

i know what you mean. my mother=the same.

what i would do is the next time she brings it up, just go "why?" or "what happens if i do?". not in a dis respectful way out course !

[TYPiKALFEMME]

i agree with mskandi, i mean yes i know what youre going through, because i also have asian parents but they are not as strict as some are still; just tell her because if she finds out in another way other than urself..it'll be worse..trust me ive been there; just say say ure sorry that u promise, and that u only said because you knew it would hurt her and say that u promise to keep up grades and everything.

[xenosaga]

thanks for helping me out!

[tinababy143]

i would go to her and explain to her that yeah you made a promise..but you have feelings for this guy..you arent in love with the guy and you arent planning on marrying him 2maro or anything..but you like him and he likes you and explain to her that he wants to//will meet the family and all that stuff..i did that with my mom and shes more in love with my bf now than i am haha

[pingpang_0811]

i won't tell mum until she finds it out.

[shortiiex]

cross my fingers when i promise

[teniweniwaheeni]

lol, don't feel weird, I did that with my mom, I'm still going out with him, but they didn't meet until he and I were togethe rfor like, three months, lol I felt bad at first, but then again my mom and I dont' have that great of a relationship, she keeps a lot of shizz from me, so yeah... I had my own reasons for not telling her, but when I promised, I crossed my fingers, lol =P

[nicky04033]

keep it secret........cuz it can be a real big trouble

[lilJdawg]

I guess you got to tell the truth, i mean you did say "promise".

[lovemeofrme]

1. you should not have promised something like that (you dont know what is gunna happen in the future) and 2. i think you should tell her.....i tell my mom everything and we totally understand each other...trust me once it's off your chest you will feel a lot better....

hope i helped

[blah122986]

id just still keep it a secret.....im kinda in dat situation right now....

[xxpiNk_grAffitix...]

I'd definentely tell her the truth. She'll understand, more then likely. And if she doesn't, stand up for yourself. Being "smart" and talking back isn't always bad to your parents, as long as you usually respect them. Heck, I do it to my parents all the time...they don't care. Then again the are pretty immature.

[xbr0kensmil3]

i would have told her the truth when she asked instead of promising something that i can't keep.

[toodlepops.]

I'll tell the truth.
I can't stand hiding something from my mum

[latinabloomlova]

hmm...tough spot. i'd say keep lying until you can't anymore & when u do say it, don't say how long it's been going on. it'll only make it worse!