too fast?, am i? Options

[*jeanna*]

i am going out with my besterest friend,matt, in the whole wide world and we've only been going out for 1 month and 7 days and we are already at 3rd base. [oral] :cough:
do you think we are going way too fast?

[iheartsimba]

I think you should go however fast you want when the time is right and the emotions for eachother are real..I mean theres no rules that you have to wait exactly 3 months before that or anyhting. Just do it when the time is right..

[Chii]

since you're already best friends, it's as if you're starting out on your like 100th date or something...it's not that bad, my best friend (now boyfriend) didn't even wait a month

[Nicolatofu]

Different people move at different paces. That's nothing. Most of my friends went to third after a week of knowing each other. Plus like chii mentioned above, you already were both friends, so when most people are using the first few months to really get to know each other, you've already went through that process.

[*stephinika*]

^^
exactly. as long as you're moving at a pace you're comfortable with.

[Shattered_Hope]

err.....there is no speed...as long as the feeling of both sides are mutual....

[Rachel]

Just don't do anything you don't want to do.

Hell, I only waited a month before giving "it up" with my current boyfriend. Ohh how I love him!

[_sarcastic_]

there's no set rule on how long you have to be together to go to a certain base. it's really up to you

[silver-rain]

Yeah like everyone's said, it's really up to you- there's no set pace.

[fameONE]

Don't let your mind seek advice your gut already knows. How do you feel about it. If you're down, then go down.

[mouse_3k]

I guess it varies with each couple..

[starlette]

I suppose if he is your best friend, you guys know eachother and are really comfortable with eachother so it sounds okay with me. I went thru the same thing (his name is matt too...weird) And because we were so close and knew eachother so well, when we hooked up things just happened. I mean, if this was some guy you didnt know, and you were jumping in and doing private things and you didnt know anything about him, that is too soon. But since you two are obviously close enough to be best friends, a lot of times that is a natural direction people go in. And I mean, as long as you are being safe, and not stupid, I think you are good.

[twelveislands]

It's all your decision. It's bad to ask for advice on this because on here you get some people going 'nooo, your going to go to hell!' But yeah, all up to you.

My friend went all the way with her boyfriend after 2 weeks and it was her first time. I just find that kinda.. bleugh. At least could of waited over a month. He's 20 something and she's 16 and she's petite and has like a young child's body and he made her stand naked infront of him so he could look at her. Ick. I just think that's kinda perverted. But that's me.

[lilshelil]

Your going out with your best friend?
in a way everyone is right its totally up to you
but the point you created this topic was to get an honest answer right?
yea. too fast.

[megan_x3]

^^
exactly. as long as you're moving at a pace you're comfortable with.

yupyup !! agree !

[heyyfrankie]

to me, yes too fast. but he is your best friend and from that statement, i concluded that y'all have known each other for a while so i guess it is fine. but as kristin already said, it is your relationship so go at whatever speed you are comfortable at.

[Just_Dream]

^ Agreed. I mean, if you really wanted to go that far, then go ahead. Remember that it's your choice, but there could be consequences. Hypothetically speaking, what if you and your bf broke up? Would you regret giving him oral pleasure?

Whatever floats your boat. I personally think it would be moving too fast, since it's only been a short time since you two have been dating, regardless of whether you've known him for a long time.

[*islandgirl4eva*]

To reiterate, if you felt ready, then no, you didn't move too fast. Take you time and go at your own pace.

[whywasisostupid]

Different people move at different paces. That's nothing. Most of my friends went to third after a week of knowing each other. Plus like chii mentioned above, you already were both friends, so when most people are using the first few months to really get to know each other, you've already went through that process.

exactly. if yall were alreadly best friends, then its fine. It actuly doenst matter, its your pace.

[Chii]

He's 20 something and she's 16 and she's petite and has like a young child's body and he made her stand naked infront of him so he could look at her. Ick. I just think that's kinda perverted. But that's me.

my god that's so gross...

[darklync]

lol, how can u girls talk about personal stuff like this???

[XaZnX07]

haha lol oral i just dont understand why couples have to do this is it because everyone does it?? i mean it might feel good but is it really necessary i mean when your in love its just love and when you have sex its making love haha i am just tyring to prove a point dont bother to listen to me if you dont want to

now i sound gay cause i dont think its oral is needed in a relationship



.:tony:.

[illuminessence]

I don't think anyone can judge for you. It all depends how close you guys are. Some ppl's paces are very different. Since you've been best friends, it's a bit different. I think this is something you hafta judge for yourself based on whether or not you're comfortable with it.

[*jeanna*]

haha lol oral i just dont understand why couples have to do this is it because everyone does it?? i mean it might feel good but is it really necessary i mean when your in love its just love and when you have sex its making love haha i am just tyring to prove a point dont bother to listen to me if you dont want  to

now i sound gay cause i dont think its oral is needed in a relationship 
.:tony:.

i like giving oral so it doesn't bother me. i was the one who suggested it. [i'm such a whore even though he is my first boyfriend] haha.

[*mzkandi*]

i like giving oral so it doesn't bother me. i was the one who suggested it. [i'm such a whore even though he is my first boyfriend] haha.

your not a whore for wanting to perform oral on your boyfriend. like someone has already mentioned every couple's pace is different. what may be a comfortable pace for one couple may be too fast or too slow for the next.

[sammi rules you]

a little, but do whatever you want. if you think that's ok, all the power to ya.

i'm kinda fast too, so i understand.

[racoons > you]

no its not too fast.

there is no set of rules which can be applied universally to every relationship.

you just have to go with what you feel comfotable with

[vampireduster]

if you feel like you are then you are. if not then just keep it normal

[bravodancer04]

I don`t think that`s fast..I`ve done that after a few weeks..i mean..what?

[aera]

depends on you. if you think you are, then you are. if you dont, the you arent.

[*x____duckii*]

I suppose if he is your best friend, you guys know eachother and are really comfortable with eachother so it sounds okay with me.  I went thru the same thing (his name is matt too...weird)  And because we were so close and knew eachother so well, when we hooked up things just happened.  I mean, if this was some guy you didnt know, and you were jumping in and doing private things and you didnt know anything about him, that is too soon.  But since you two are obviously close enough to be best friends, a lot of times that is a natural direction people go in.  And I mean, as long as you are being safe, and not stupid, I think you are good.

That was exactly what I was going to say.

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

watever feels rite n u've known this guy for a while so its safe

[LittleLulu]

jus like ppl say....as long as ur comfortable.. theres no RULE to it


...i've been with my bf for..a month..n all we've done is held hands..n hugged HAH..but then..yea wee're young.. not so experienced..n blah...
but w.e\ XD

[shattered_dream]

a month and a week? hm. My bf's friend and her bf were on 3rd base after a month too.. personaly i'd wait a hell lot longer, but if ur comfortable with what ur doing then that's all it matters~

[icy_angelx]

It doesn't matter the speed....It just counts on how much you like each other....if that's your speed then it's your speed....

[blah122986]

thiers no set amount of time to do something...just do it when da both of u feel comfartable and ready..

[*jeanna*]

two months and 8 days.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

There's no pace too fast, so it all depends on you if your comfortable with it or not.

[brand0n]

jgfdjc,l/l

[Angel_Cece]

^ um spam. hmm i dont exactly call that fast, however if your emotions are set to love him then go for it. but don't do what you don't think is right for you. and i wouldn't recommend intercourse if you get that deep.

[miss barnes]

thats probably faster than i would go but whatever floats your boat

[sammi rules you]

well, besides, you're old enough to make your own decisions. if i would have let him, me and my bf probably would have had sex by now, since we've been moving pretty fast, but i know i'm not ready for it myself just based on my personal morals. i think i'm too young for that. probably if i was older, i would have. and we've been together 1 month and 11 days.

[MeanBastard]

Sounds fun, what techniques do you use?

[whatiismae]

depends. if you feel like you really know him, and that it was worth it, than no. but if you feel like its not a real relationship, its mostly physical, blah blah, than maybe. but since you were best friends before this relationshpi, it's probably okay. and since you're feeling like you might be moving way too fast.. maybe you are.
i dont know, since you guys are pretty tight, i guess you're moving okay. you might want to settle your hormones just a little, though.

[Kneuklid Romance]

jgfdjc,l/l

My thoughts exactly.

-Kevyn