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[inthemudhole]

Do I just suck at life, or is it actually hard to talk to someone that's suicidal and is about to take their own life?

I'm talking to someone quite close to me and they're about to take their own life.
This conversation is very crucial. What I say could completely turn it around positively or negatively.

Has anyone been in this situation before?
Any tips?
PLEASE?!

I'm sorry, but I care for this person.

Do I just suck at life or is it really actually a hard situation?

[Skyline Drive]

You do not suck at life. I've been in a similar situation.. my ex best friend ODed on drugs. She was really close too dying. I just suggest you tell your friend everything you feel for them and try to bring out the positive out in them. I don't really know what else to say.. I hope that helps you in some way.

[aznhunnie6o1]

I haven't been in this situation before... and most of the time when someone talks to me about killing themselves, their doing it for the attention.

Try to bring out the good points in his/her life? Sorry I couldn't help... Hope everything turns out ok for him.

[inthemudhole]

Thanks for the advice, guys. I'm going to try that.

I'm trying to talk to him about things, but... It's just hard to because I'm in the same situation he is and it's so hard to tell him to be positive and stuff.

Anyway, thanks. I'll try that.

[Chii]

a situation like this is really hard...even i don't really know what to say...there really isn't a straight answer for this, for every good point you bring up he can probably give you 10 bad points...that's the usual case for depressed people...

you should probably just tell him how important he is to you and how much you and other people need him in life...things like that, things always get better in life, give him examples from your life and other peoples' ...this is the best i can think of, i've never really been in this situation...

i seriously wish you good luck

edit
i don't think you suck at life, i don't think anyone does for that matter, it's not like there's a set way to live life

[inthemudhole]

Thanks for all the advice and for the good lucks. It helped.
He's a bit better now. He said he's not going to kill himself at this point.
I still am going to watch him like crazy. (I don't mean that in a stalker way...you know what I mean.)

Thanks again.
It was great of you guys to answer so quickly too.

[swe3ttemptasian]

I saved a friend last summer.. he wanted to commit suicide.. but try to calm them little by little. Don't just jump out and say.. don't kill yourself. Be careful of everything you say to this person..

[WhiteLotus*]

Yes I've been in both positions: the suicidal one & the person wanting to save someone's life.

Tell them how much they'll miss the good thingws in life such as the friendship between you too. Tell him/her how much you appreciate them being in your life, how much fun you guys have together, etc.

I dunno. It worked with Michael.

[xXirockhardXx]

I've never been in this situation. I think you should try to tell him the good things about life. Also tell him how special he is. Hope everything works out.

[HongKongDong]

I have. The whole time I was thinking, "Oh hell naw you are hella cool, PLUS! I will not be the reason for someone committing suicide!"

Depends on the situation really, why they want to and all that. I was hella scared a HUGE conversation went by that I might tell you how it went so you can have some ideas but anyways... eventually she said goodbye I have to go. I was like no!! BUt first promise me, I made her promise me. Then I asked her.. why, what is her real reason of doing it. Is her reasoning really that good. Is it worth killin yourself. I didn't want some bullshit like noone loves or cares about her blah blah blah I made her tell me the real reason. She told me.. my hear was struck. Then she said goobye, that she has to leave. I was like "No!!! WHAT DID I DO?!??!" "What did I say that was wrong?!?!" I kept telling her to not go cause I thought she was implying that she was going to kill herself right there and then. Go figure before she left she said thank you, but she really had to go. SHe said she'll talk to me tommorow and thanked me again. I'm mad at her for that lol... making me think that I was the one that let her make her final decision on suicide.

[angelrevelation]

yea a few of my friends have been suicidal. wow now that i think about it, thats a lot like... 4! you just have to be patient with them i guess. support them, but always be there for them. just do what seems to be best at the moment. make them feel stupid if you have to. but it WILL make them think twice about suicide. and send them to the school counselor lol

[ItzOnlySydney]

yes. my friend heather, her boyfriend hung up on her and she thought he was mad she was about to kill herself. and i just sat down and talked it out with her and thoght about every word i said. it's an uneasy feeling knowning that every word u say could motivate their actions.

[Rachel]

^wow she was going to kill herself because her boyfriend hung up on her??? that is sad.

and brie- i am glad you helped your friend! you DO NOT suck at life!

[Angel_Cece]

no hunny you dont suck. i commend you at talking with your friend. suicide is a very sad topic, stay strong and just keeping talking with her. i guess i've been in your shoes before with another close friend of mine, except it was drugs not suicide.

[*mishyerr*]

First off, are you sure she is going to? Signs that people are gonna succeed in committing suicide are (WTF MY BACKPSPACEKEYSI BIS BROKEN!! JEEAZZZ FREAKIN IDIOT KEYBOARD) okay anyway its like if they have a planned addate and a certain way they are for surely going to do it. If she does,/hshe *he does than tell the *some adutslts.

SoORRY I MY FREAKIN SPABACKPASPACE KEY IS BROKEN AND IM DTOO LAZY TO HIGHLIGHT.. T.T

[Angel_Cece]

Thanks for all the advice and for the good lucks. It helped.
He's a bit better now. He said he's not going to kill himself at this point.
I still am going to watch him like crazy. (I don't mean that in a stalker way...you know what I mean.)

Thanks again.
It was great of you guys to answer so quickly too.

Oh i didnt see that, im glad. if things get worst remember keep talking and tell him how much you love him.

[mouse_3k]

Your fine just get them help like a counsler(sp?) or somethin. I have a friend thats always worried about me and if she sees a cut on my arm, she freaks out and continue to ask me questions about it *which gets SOOOOOO annoying that it makes me wanna kill myself more* so just dont get annoying...just get her help on a hotline or somethin

[spacewicket]

its tough, but if they need help regarding this, they need professional help, age is impt and they are quite unpredictable...dont take this too lightly and its not u

[inthemudhole]

Thanks again for all of your help and comments.
I appreciate it and thanks for being so friendly and quick to respond. I really do appreciate it. I'll keep all of this in mind in case if there is a next time...

If a mod wishes to close this, they may do so. I have nothing else to ask or add at this point.

[aera]

my friend told my best friend about committing suicide and my best friend told me. i told my friend how much her friendship meant to me and my best friend said that she changed her mind.

tell your friend how much he means to you.

wait... i didnt see that either... (like angel_cece) but just in case =]

[misoshiru]

you don't suck at life. it's the fact that it's really hard to get depressed people to snap out of it. i've been the depressed before, and now, i can see how much my friends tried to bring me out of my depression and that they suffered too.