My partner is STUBBORN |
 Mar 27 2005, 02:16 PM
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If only...  Group: Member Posts: 409 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 100,037  |
My boy-friend is SOOOOo stubborn.
Like, when something comes up, I talk and talk and talk, and ask him whats wrong and what he's thinking. At times, he just gets SOOoo silent... I know he's mad or either annoyed, but he's stubborn to say ne thing... We agreed to have an open relationship, but I don't see it. I gotta bug him about it constantly for about an hour till he spill the beans. What can I say for him to understand my point of view, that we need to communicate and be open in our relationship to help make it work.... *Sighs |
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Mar 27 2005, 02:37 PM
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 This is all my luck, it's all I got. Group: Member Posts: 1,373 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,532 |
I dont get your question.
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Mar 27 2005, 02:43 PM
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She wants to know how to make her boyfriend start talking and being more open. Don't force it. If he's not cool talking about stuff that might just be a personality thing. You keep pushing at him to open up and you're gonna push him away.
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Mar 27 2005, 02:57 PM
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This is all my luck, it's all I got. Group: Member Posts: 1,373 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,532 |
^^ Oh ok. I think you should try to talk to him about it.If he dosent agree with you just try to get it out of him. Hope that made sence.
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Mar 27 2005, 03:02 PM
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If only... Group: Member Posts: 409 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 100,037 |
QUOTE(xXirockhardXx @ Mar 27 2005, 2:57 PM) ^^ Oh ok. I think you should try to talk to him about it.If he dosent agree with you just try to get it out of him. Hope that made sence.  thats a huge contradiction with [Mediocre]Artist. Ne ways... We talked about it, and we both agreed from the start to be open... But he's not holding up his end of the bargain. Plus, he claims that his personality... BUt its not s trait thats that positive in life, in general I'm speaking.... Ne more suggestions? |
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Mar 27 2005, 03:09 PM
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QUOTE(rememberme @ Mar 27 2005, 2:02 PM) thats a huge contradiction with [Mediocre]Artist. Ne ways... Advice doesn't always agree. Its up to you to decide whats the best course of action for your personal situation. We don't know you or your boyfriend or how your relationship is, we can only give you options that maybe you haven't thought of. In the end, the choice is your's. |
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Mar 27 2005, 03:11 PM
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all u can do. make it known if he ever whats to tlak to r always there
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Mar 27 2005, 03:28 PM
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POWAPOSTA Group: Member Posts: 3,169 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,725 |
maybe he doesn't love you anymore.
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Mar 27 2005, 03:34 PM
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If only... Group: Member Posts: 409 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 100,037 |
QUOTE(airam @ Mar 27 2005, 3:28 PM) maybe he doesn't love you anymore. hahah that would be funny Guys are asses Lol |
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Mar 27 2005, 04:04 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
well if you continue to be like *whats wrong? you ok?* over and over and keep talking and talking, yes it does get annoying...I would be silent too if you kept asking me what was wrong over and over
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Mar 27 2005, 04:46 PM
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If only... Group: Member Posts: 409 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 100,037 |
QUOTE(mouse_3k @ Mar 27 2005, 4:04 PM) well if you continue to be like *whats wrong? you ok?* over and over and keep talking and talking, yes it does get annoying...I would be silent too if you kept asking me what was wrong over and over True true. You do indeed have a point. But he annoys me at the same time when I don't know how he feels about the relationship, or what I did that made him become this way. I was wondering, how can I approach him, and form a comprimise. ? 
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Mar 27 2005, 05:03 PM
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 poison is pretty. Group: Member Posts: 95 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,648 |
you're probably doing this already, but if you want to get a clear answer ask questions that are upfront like "are you happy with me or not?" if he's not open.. take him out to do something fun. its can clear up his head. good luck.
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Mar 27 2005, 05:27 PM
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Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
QUOTE I was wondering, how can I approach him, and form a comprimise. ? Go up to him face to face and ask him straight up "wtf is wrong with you? you got a problem, then say it dont hide it." If you guys cant tell the true feelings for each other on the tables, its all going go crash and burn |
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Mar 27 2005, 08:13 PM
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i'm just like your bf, i have troubles opening up on how i feel and stuff like that. well it does take me a while.
just be patient, slowly he'll become more open to you, maybe you shouldn't talk THAT much, listen to what he wants to say sometimes. |
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Mar 27 2005, 09:32 PM
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 High Voltage!∞ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,728 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,157 |
QUOTE(shanny @ Mar 27 2005, 2:03 PM) you're probably doing this already, but if you want to get a clear answer ask questions that are upfront like "are you happy with me or not?" if he's not open.. take him out to do something fun. its can clear up his head. good luck. I agree. Also, just be pateint, see if he opens up [:
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Mar 28 2005, 12:13 AM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Just tell him that you'll always be there for him if he ever wants to talk...if he doesn't want to talk about it..there's probably a reason why...if you keep making him talk to you..he might not like it and the distance between the two of you will still continue to grow...meaning...it'd only harm your relationship if you continuously pressure him to talk to you about his problems..
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Mar 28 2005, 09:04 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 38 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,148 |
u know what? i think u oughtta quit annoying him wen he's moody. it appears that ur bf is sorta the "grouchy-type"..and guys...well...let's just say that wen u annoy them alot, it's bye-bye to the relationship (like what happened to my ex-bf and me). so why dont u just do something that doesnt involve talking. perhaps walk over, give him a hug, say "hope u feel better, sweetie" or send him some flowers. that's it. dont do any more. and iff he still doesnt get better... DUMP him. =]
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Mar 28 2005, 04:21 PM
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If only... Group: Member Posts: 409 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 100,037 |
f**k. I just got dumped.
he stated that he felt as though he keeps pissing me off, and he hates doing that... So... He said its best that we break-up. I'm sad so sad now... |
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Mar 29 2005, 05:24 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 66 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 116,633 |
maybe he is still new at relationships or is bein a drama king
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Mar 29 2005, 06:07 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 66 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 116,633 |
hope everything works out
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Mar 29 2005, 06:25 PM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
blowjob
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Mar 29 2005, 06:35 PM
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POWAPOSTA Group: Member Posts: 3,169 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,725 |
^har dee har har
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Mar 29 2005, 06:51 PM
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 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
aww; he's stupid. don't worry; there'll be other fishes in the sea.
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Mar 29 2005, 07:18 PM
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life is so ironic... Group: Member Posts: 73 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 112,671 |
When u talk to him try not to look at him talk to him side by side or maybe on the phone. Guys feel more comfortable that way. Also, did u try not wanting to know? if for one day or maybe even a week- your not trying to find out whats going on in his day he will wonder why. after a while he'll ask you perhaps get suspicious and jelous maybe then, when he comes up to you, you can tlak to him about it.
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Mar 29 2005, 10:28 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
well, i guess you nagged him too much and he broke up with you
some guys don't like to talk about their problems like women do, he probably would've gotten over it if you weren't in his face all the time |
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