i am gay. what do i do ?, plaze help |
 Mar 27 2005, 08:49 AM
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All my frends like gils and wen i go to one of their houses wen look at "magazines" and they r always getting hard and i just have to pretend i do :( wat do i do !
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Mar 27 2005, 09:24 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
get new friends? don't go to their houses?
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Mar 27 2005, 10:01 AM
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Do they know you're gay?
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Mar 27 2005, 12:57 PM
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 to be loved by someone you love is.. everything Group: Member Posts: 1,207 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,205 |
uhh, you should tell them you're gay, you shouldn't hide your sexuality
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Mar 27 2005, 01:01 PM
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QUOTE(swe3ttemptasian @ Mar 27 2005, 10:57 AM) uhh, you should tell them you're gay, you shouldn't hide your sexuality  I agree, but the downfall is that your "friends" might become homophobic of you and your secret of you being gay would come out and eventually reach your parents. Unless your parents do not know about it. But if they really are your friends, they were your friend because of who you are, I mean, if they started to not like you anymore because of you sexuality, then they really aren't friends, are they? |
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Mar 27 2005, 01:10 PM
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 白人看不懂 !!!! Group: Member Posts: 3,838 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 40,824 |
My man,
It's time to have a good soul searching trip AKA walk to the park and feed the duckies and reflect on life. I'm sure just coming out is freekin rediculous to do, so why bother saying that? It would be the SIMPLEST solution, but the hardest. So the thing you can do now is soul search and reflect on your own life. Then accept it and come out. |
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Mar 27 2005, 01:26 PM
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yerp! Group: Member Posts: 3,489 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,454 |
You go out, buy a couple of cans of fluffy whip, three male strippers and have yourself a party.
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| *nightmare4taki* |
Mar 27 2005, 01:28 PM
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^Thats just digusting!!!!!!!
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Mar 27 2005, 01:29 PM
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dont do to their house if you dont want to be put in that awkard postion and if they dont know that your gay you may eventually have to tell them
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Mar 27 2005, 01:39 PM
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 Another ditch in the road... you keep moving Group: Member Posts: 6,281 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,152 |
tell, them, find out which of them are really your friends, and those who are will accomodate you
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Mar 27 2005, 01:53 PM
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yerp! Group: Member Posts: 3,489 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,454 |
QUOTE(nightmare4taki @ Mar 27 2005, 1:28 PM) ^Thats just digusting!!!!!!! Chill out. It was a joke. 
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Mar 27 2005, 01:59 PM
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telling your sexuality gives you relief but...some people just won't understand and will just judge you
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Mar 27 2005, 02:05 PM
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 This is all my luck, it's all I got. Group: Member Posts: 1,373 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,532 |
I think you should come out. They should understand. If they dont try to find new friends. I hope everything works out.
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Mar 27 2005, 02:12 PM
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[FONT=Arial][SIZE=1] this is probably easier said than done, but u shouldnt be ashamed of being gay, u should just like tell them straight up, and if they think its weird, then they're not good friends
attached image unnecessary and wayyy too big! -Frankie This post has been edited by Frankie: May 24 2005, 12:42 PM |
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Mar 27 2005, 02:17 PM
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^^^um resize the pic
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Mar 27 2005, 02:17 PM
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 ˘ž Wanting it. ˘ž Group: Member Posts: 2,060 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 39,234 |
^ resize that.
i think you should just let it out. no one should be ashmed of their sexual oriention. |
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Mar 27 2005, 02:43 PM
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 Can't have the hand without the cock. Group: Member Posts: 2,481 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,622 |
^yeah i agree.
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Mar 27 2005, 02:47 PM
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 HAAAAAAAA. Group: Member Posts: 4,472 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,068 |
QUOTE([f]eleeza @ Mar 27 2005, 1:26 PM) You go out, buy a couple of cans of fluffy whip, three male strippers and have yourself a party. Rofl. That made me laugh. Fluffy whip and three male strippers. Lmao. If you tell them you're gay, they might freak out because of all those times they look at those magazines. They're straight. You're gay. They just might freak out and spread the news. Unless, if they're REALLY good friends, then they won't do it, but mostly, people end up spreading the news. T_T |
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Mar 27 2005, 02:53 PM
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get new friends.
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Apr 1 2005, 04:37 AM
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well tell them who you really are... they are your real friends when they understand and accept you but if they dont... well find new friends who will accept you for who you are..
iam lyk you but then i have straight guy best friends, they accept me for who iam... 
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Apr 1 2005, 07:02 AM
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How about... GOING STRAIGHT! Lol. Just kidding. If u swing that way I don't really care but I don'tr think tellin ur friends that u're gay would work. Plus... can I have some of those magazines? Just kidding. Go to a physciatrist or something and find out why you are gay... it might be a phase
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Apr 1 2005, 07:06 AM
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Tell them you are gay and if they dont accept you, get new friends that will, or look for gay friends. Its not going to be easy. My half brother is gay and he doesnt have a straight friend, all his friends are gay.
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Apr 1 2005, 07:58 AM
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i think it may freek them out at first..
most of my friends are bisexual and when i found this out i was a lil wierded out cuz..they kinda liked me so...just feel as you go ....if it seems like they are your true friends tell them...or you can call a hot line and ask them for help |
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Apr 1 2005, 08:39 AM
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QUOTE(DaTru KataLYST @ Mar 28 2005, 4:10 AM) My man, i think hes putting first dibs on you when you come out... wow... you first boyfriend!!!!! i think your friends may already know if all your friends are girls and you read their magazines |
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Apr 1 2005, 08:44 AM
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At the moment i have a friend that just came out of the closet.. well maybe 2 months ago. All his friends were guys. Not only he gained lots of girl friends by coming out his friends accepted him. I guess his friends had a clue on how he acted.. I love him tho he's my best friend he's liked by many. I mean SOMETIMES (rarely) Ppl would call him a fag pretty sad but his friends got his back.
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Apr 1 2005, 04:02 PM
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if your gay, your gay. tell them and see what their respond is and if their like, OMG your gay!! and starts spreading the rumor, then you see his true side of what he does to friends.. find newer ones after.
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Apr 23 2005, 03:16 AM
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 Be yourself. Unless you suck Group: Member Posts: 135 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,315 |
You shouldn't be ashamed of being gay. Ever. I know what it's like and if you get all guilt ridden and uncomfortable with yourself your life will be hell. I think you should ask them what their views on gay people are. If they are positive come out. If not find new friends even though it may be hard to do. You just have to know that if they don't accept you theyreally aren't your friends and they are holding you back.
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Apr 23 2005, 05:29 AM
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Just start hinting and if they start getting awkward then maybe you shouldn't tell them, if you know you can tell them and they accept it, then more power to you, otherwise, get new friends.
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Apr 23 2005, 08:45 AM
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 SCHGEB!SCHGEB! Group: Member Posts: 1,786 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,217 |
just tell them.. or keep it to urself
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Apr 23 2005, 08:48 AM
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let them know your gay
it may be hard for them at first but they will come around and eventually respect you for being open about it i didn't know my best friend was gay so i was always asking him about girl he liked or sometimes try to help him out with a girl until one day he told me and i was like "oh that makes sense"
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Apr 23 2005, 09:01 AM
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 College Dude Group: Member Posts: 177 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 106,527 |
ok... for me... tell them how u feel... then after that.. im pretty sure they'll accept u... after all.. they are ur friends ryt? tell them that u are not a stereotype gay person... that u are special... ur unique.. and i believe ur sexual orientation should not be an impendiment of ur friendship.
... take it easy!
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Apr 23 2005, 12:19 PM
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 You can call me Jon Group: Duplicate Posts: 878 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,806 |
True. As a bisexual, it was a bit difficult to come out. It still is. Well, first off, tell the few friends that you know that will understand, if any. That'll give you something to fall back in case all else fails. But telling everyone else will cause your life to change a lot, very, very fast. Take it in stages. Slowly, it'll be easier.
You can try to change your orientation, but it's pretty damn hard to. Why and how you became is less important than accepting and dealing with what you already have. It will seem brooding over a while, especially in the stages of coming out. You might ask yourself "Why am I this way?" or "Why do people treat me that way?". Unfortunately, we can't help it. Best of luck, and Life's Speed. |
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Apr 23 2005, 03:23 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
either tell them that you are gay or just don't say anything at all. therefore, you aren't lying and you aren't letting them know that girls don't turn you on. but being is nothing to be ashamed of. you have to tell everyone sooner or later.
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Apr 23 2005, 03:57 PM
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QUOTE(IamRad @ Apr 23 2005, 8:45 AM) just tell them.. or keep it to urself umm thats helpfull  I know it's hard but you should really tell them, and if they can't accept it then maybe you should find new friends =/ |
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Apr 23 2005, 05:04 PM
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QUOTE(15boyAus @ Mar 27 2005, 5:49 AM) wen i go to one of their houses wen look at "magazines" and they r always getting hard and i just have to pretend i do hahahaha comedy right here... |
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Apr 23 2005, 05:11 PM
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if they are ur friends they wouldnt care if u were gay or not
the rite thing to do is to tell them ur gay.this will help becuz u will be able to get it all off ur chest good luck man |
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Apr 23 2005, 06:26 PM
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QUOTE(FoOd @ Mar 27 2005, 1:01 PM) I agree, but the downfall is that your "friends" might become homophobic of you and your secret of you being gay would come out and eventually reach your parents. Unless your parents do not know about it. But if they really are your friends, they were your friend because of who you are, I mean, if they started to not like you anymore because of you sexuality, then they really aren't friends, are they? thats a terrible explanation. thats like someone saying "im a serial killer and im afraid to tell my friends because theyll be scared of me!" and then you responding by saying "well if theyre really scared of you and your murders, then theyre really arent your friends" people make friends under certain circumstances, and when something happens that crosses a large boundary like a persons sexuality, its a rather good reason to break off a friendship |
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Apr 23 2005, 06:45 PM
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RaWr! Group: Member Posts: 603 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 90,404 |
heh i smell a troll
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Apr 23 2005, 06:58 PM
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Hm, now is it that important to tell them that. If they're truly your friends, then they wouldnt care if you wanted to look at porno's with them. You would be able to exclude yourself out of it. However, if their the ignorant a-hole type, naw, they wouldnt be any real friends. Those are the type of friends that are shifty and that you can't trust. I wouldn't tell them however. Think about why it would be important to tell them, and you would find much less reasons to find than not to tell them.
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Apr 24 2005, 05:06 AM
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No Matter What You Do Or Say People Will Always Judge You...
Where Do You Live? That Will have A lot To Do With How people Will React... Do Your Parents know? ... Tell Them First... They Should Respect Your Life Choices No matter What And if They Dont, dont worry, theyll come to their senses... the fact is that this is a major secret and i can guarantee your life will change a great deal once the truth is known... Friendships And Relationships Will Be Seriously Tested... I Doubt N E One Will Welcome It With Open Arms... But Its Not Right Of You To Hide It From Them Any longer... How Old Are You? ... Are You Emotionally Prepared For The Termoil This May Cause? If Not Then Wait Untill You Are... Just Stop Playing The Role Of The Straight Guy... Be Yourself... And Dont Hit on a straight guy... That Could Get You In Trouble.. lol Maturity Level Is Everything... If Your Dealing With Middle schoolers Theyll Hear Your Gay And Probably try and Beat The hell Out Of You or atack you Mentally And emotionally on a daily basis... ( Not True For Everyone But There are quite a few intolerant individuals in this world)... People Suck... Gay Rights Have Been heading The Tabloids Quite A Bit lately... It Has Always Been A Sensitive Issue... And With The Catholics, christians, and other assorted religions trying to ban gay marriage... Your Sexual Prefference will probably make you a target... If You Live In A large City... Or Around The West Coast You Shouldnt have Much of A problem... people In That area are generally speaking much more accepting... I Just Hope You Dont Live In Some Small Town With A Church Every 7 Blocks... Good Luck... ~ Grim_Sorrow (heterosexual) ( i'm bored... this sucks) 
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Apr 24 2005, 11:50 AM
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it kinda seems as if 15boyaus is making this up.
1. he has a single post and it was made to create this topic. 2. he registered in march and his only post was in march 3. his situation is so unlikely...guys watching porn together and all getting hard |
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Apr 24 2005, 03:20 PM
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QUOTE(wind&fire @ Apr 1 2005, 9:39 AM) i think hes putting first dibs on you when you come out... wow... you first boyfriend!!!!! ........ wat is going on.... |
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Apr 24 2005, 04:42 PM
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 Go on, hug me, I dare you... Group: Member Posts: 299 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 116,809 |
Hmm, hang yourself in the garden I guess?
I thought I was gay and I cam onto my camp mate so much and realised it did nothing for me. Let's just say I prefer my tacos to my hotdogs. (obvious will and grace quote) |
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Apr 24 2005, 06:05 PM
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 Class of 2005!!! Group: Member Posts: 1,132 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,080 |
You should tak to them. I mean, if they stop being your friends because of it, it's their loss. Don't pretend to be something ur not.
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Apr 24 2005, 06:19 PM
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 Hello my name is Yula, I'm a baller! Group: Member Posts: 329 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 125,918 |
What you should do is, never come near me or drop dead. Another alternitave is to tell them your gay and get hated on. Or move to prison and you know what happens there!
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Apr 24 2005, 06:27 PM
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to hell with you Group: Member Posts: 2,547 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,506 |
tell the.
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Apr 24 2005, 09:28 PM
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 Litt0 Mi55 T@rA! Group: Member Posts: 185 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,734 |
hmm...well i don't like it when people hide in the closet...but then i also know it's hard to have everyone look at you as the "gay guy"...i have gay best friends and people always ask me "is he gay" blah blah blah! I DON'T GIVE A FLYING RAT'S BEHIND if he's gay or not...he's the best friend i fell in love with when i met him...gay or not. you're who you are. if they can't accept that..kick them to the curb
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Apr 24 2005, 09:33 PM
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QUOTE([f]eleeza @ Mar 27 2005, 2:26 PM) You go out, buy a couple of cans of fluffy whip, three male strippers and have yourself a party.  I second that. lol. Actually, that's a pretty good idea. Could you invite me, too?  I don't think you should go with the chick that said get new friends. Just because you're gay doesn't mean you need new friends. Just try being open about it. Maybe they're willing to do other things when they're around you rather than check out chicks. |
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Apr 24 2005, 09:37 PM
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QUOTE(WinterNights2 @ Apr 24 2005, 7:19 PM) What you should do is, never come near me or drop dead. Another alternitave is to tell them your gay and get hated on. Or move to prison and you know what happens there! You f*cking bastard. I'm bi and I totally accept other people's opinions and I usually don't mind homophobes but... when they start wishing bad upon gays/bisexuals/lesbians, that's where it just becomes wrong.  You know what.. f*ck you. No one can control their sexuality and if they can.. they're not that sexuality because it's never an option. Period. Just like you can't control being straight. You're the one who should just drop dead and move in with a sexy fat middle age man named bubba in prison and get ass raped. 
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Apr 24 2005, 09:46 PM
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 that heaven is overrated Group: Member Posts: 5,096 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,124 |
You shouldn't put yourself down just because you're gay. You should just tell your friends the truth, or else you'd just feel more guilty about it. =\
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Apr 24 2005, 10:22 PM
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Be yourself. Unless you suck Group: Member Posts: 135 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,315 |
QUOTE(WinterNights2 @ Apr 25 2005, 12:19 PM) What you should do is, never come near me or drop dead. Another alternitave is to tell them your gay and get hated on. Or move to prison and you know what happens there! God, what an @$$hole. People like that are the reason we have so many problems in society. Life would be better if people were just more accpeting of others. |
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Apr 25 2005, 12:02 AM
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 if you feel like dying; you might wanna sing Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,836 |
QUOTE You go out, buy a couple of cans of fluffy whip, three male strippers and have yourself a party. sounds fun. don`t forget to invite me too... even though im not a lesbian, thats ok. gay guys are friendly =] hey my advice for you is just to tell them straightt up; that is if and when you are ready. if they dont take it in & they dont support you they aren`t true friends & you dont need them in life. if you wanna chat more then you can pm me or IM me at hiddenxem0ti0n |
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Apr 27 2005, 09:02 AM
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don't go to their houses.
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May 24 2005, 07:59 AM
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It's ok to be gay! Im not but you are and that's ok. if people are making fun of you you give me a holla'!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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May 24 2005, 05:37 PM
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ever try getting hard by looking at them getting hard?
No, just playing. uhh, well, you can do it, if you want. |
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May 24 2005, 05:38 PM
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QUOTE(ethik dreamer @ May 24 2005, 4:37 PM) ever try getting hard by looking at them getting hard? HAHAHAHA. That was really really funny. |
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May 24 2005, 06:04 PM
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 when the sun sleeps. Group: Member Posts: 210 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 138,079 |
yoh u should tell them ur gay, i have alot of gay frineds. they help me shop cause im semi-metro(means i dress well) and i dont gota problem being around them so they shouldnt either.
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