Love, are teenagers capable of it? Options

[sadolakced acid]

of course, those of you who have gf/bf probably say yes...

however; think a second... it it really love? can teenagers who don't really know what love is, feel love?

would you die if your bf/gf died? like in romeo and juliet, an 'example' of teenaged love?

and also, is it ok to say 'i love you' if all you really feel is like, lust,infatuation, or fondness?

[WhiteLotus*]

Me and my friend Adam were actually talking about this the other day.

He said that teenagers believe that they're in love because their sex drives and raging hormones are making them believe that they are. It helped me quesiton to whether I was really in love with my boyfriend or not.

I personally don't like it when all these young teenagers say," Oh, I love him soo much!" That's B.S, when I know they're going to break up soon.

I believe that you only fall in love once, so in my world, it's nearly impossible to say that to all the 823482397583897486438 boyfriends teenagers can have nowadays.

[ichiban]

Well of course it's possible for teenagers to actually be in love ... they just often confuse it with infatuation.

but all that crap in their xangas and profiles saying I LOVE HER/HIM FOREVER! WE'LL BE TOGETHER ALWAYS! and they break up a month later ... hahahha how funny ..

[SimplicityGirl]

Of course teenagers can feel love...but there's different degrees of love

I personally don't think that the love that teens feel is the same love as two older experienced adults feel. Most of the time when they think they're in love, it's usually lust and infactuation; I know that from experience. I thought I loved my ex; I mean, I had this really strong attraction towards him, but it only turned out that I was just lusting after him.

[misoshiru]

i believe that teens can feel love. i mean, as you said, "can teenagers who don't really know what love is, feel love?" if teens cannot feel love, then they wouldn't be able to feel love either after they've become adults. i mean, we all love at a point in life, then why can't a teen feel love?

[tinababy143]

well i think love is a strong feeling that you have never felt for anyone before..so yes..i think teenagers can love as much as a teenager can..maybe they cant be in love like 50 year old couples are in love..but i definetely think they can be in love..if that makes sense =/

[Rikkiismyname]

Well I guess it is possible as both myself, mand two of myfreinds have boyfriends and my friend Meghan claims to be in love with her boyfriend but i'm not so sure about the other one. Yes love for teens is possible but it is quite commonly mistaken for a large amount of liking or lust.

[mistaken_identit...]

I always thought the kinda of love teenagers have for each other is very shallow. I don't know, maybe that's what I think about my friends dating but it's a feeling I get when I see them dating guys for the sake of showing off or something like that. To me, it seems more like a crush than really 'loving' the person. People these days use the word 'love' too easily...even when it's probably only a crush or fondness of a person. Oh well that's how I think anyway.

But then I think it is possible for teens to really love someone... though I think people change so much during adolecent...I think it's hard for them to commit to one person for a long time.

[_sarcastic_]

teenagers are able to feel like, just a different kind of love adults feel.

[silver-rain]

Yes, I believe teenagers are capable of feeling love. Some mistake lust or infatuation for love, but then there are some that are truly in love. I do believe that I am in love with my boyfriend, and hope that we'll be together forever. And, if my boyfriend did die, I know that it would be so devastating and I wouldn't know what to do with myself because he means so much to me.

[dancingkait]

me and my friends were talking about this a little while ago too. i think teenagers are capable of falling in love but very often they confuse love with infatuation and lust. for me, love is such a strong word and i think its crazy when after like 2 months couples say "i love you forever!". i dont understand those kids. i dont want to abuse and overuse the word so that when i actually do fall in love the word will still have that same strong meaning.

[Rachel]

well i am in a relationship right now but i don't really think teenagers know what real/true love is.

i hate when people have been dating for a week and they are all like oMg i LYkE looVe yoU tOoo mUch BAbbyE. also, it took me a good while to say i love you back to my current boyfriend.

personally, i think i may have been in love with a past relationship/still have those feelings for him but only time will tell. i don't think many teenagers grasp love. they think its just like a way to say that you really like someone and you want to bang them, but it means soo much more.

the phrase i love you is thrown around waaay to easily in todays world so it is really like losing its meaning.

[WrathOfOnigo]

Teenagers can love. But often it is just a misleading feeling and they just thought they were. Take once highschool sweethearts, they were teenagers at one time and claimed they "love" eachother. Then obviously that love they claimed they had really was there if they still love eachother when they're older.

[--x who0ps]

most teenagers say they can.
i believe they can, but the teenagers that say it these days, cant.
i think their "i love you`s" are hollow words.
they jst say it cause it shows that they like each other.
likei had this friend who was with this girl & they were together for like 3 months. they always said " i love you " & "we`ll be together till forever" & " we were soulmates" or wtevr. infact, this girl said all of that to my friend the day before she broke up with him. & actually, she didnt even have a reason to break up with him. now think. is it possible to say that & actually mean it & then jst stop feeling that way the next day? no. its not possible. & i strongly think most teenage couples are that way. you hear them saying "oh i love you forever & ever till eternity" but then break up the nxt day. how meaningful was that?
so unless they can actually prove their love, it means nothing.

[l_baybeexgrl_l]

i guess teens say "i love you" because it shows how much they care for one another. doesn't mean.. Oh I love you, lets spend our lives together.. *break up*

[mouse_3k]

Yes I think teens can be in love. They just have to open their eyes and realize it. I am single so yah...

I already went through my first real love so I believe us teens can be in true love.

And with my first love, yes I would have died if he died. I would kill myself still if it ment to keep him alive. Even though he broke up w/ me, I still care for him. He broke up w/ me about half a year ago. A month ago, I had a dream he died and I woke up crying.

Yes, I was in love and I believe teens can fall in love.

[Just_Dream]

But what you posted, I'm guessing that you think teenage love is different from.. adult love? How can we possibly pinpoint exactly what separates teenage love and adult love?

Maybe I have different views because I consider myself to be IN LOVE. But I might never truly know if what I feel is love. But whatever I have with my significant other right now seems the closest thing to love that I've ever felt.. It's stronger than the "love" I feel for my family, amazingly. It's true that at times it seems like infatuation/lust/fondness, but I'm ready to call what I feel to be "love".

But who truly is in love? How do you know that adults aren't just infatuated? There's no real way to truly define love, even if the dictionary gives us a definition for it... For everyone it's different. It just depends if we're all willing to admit that it is love, to call it love, etc.

I have my first love now.. and my love for him is still going strong Although, usually I believe that love comes both ways--from each person in the relationship, I mean--but, at times, I feel like I'm on my own about love... As if my boyfriend might not truly love me as I thought he did. Sometimes I wonder about that.. And it makes me feel sick when I think about it. :/

[swe3ttemptasian]

anybody is capable of being in love

[dani41790]

i think they would be able to feel love if they have matured alot.

[gaby]

i believe that teens can feel love.  i mean, as you said, "can teenagers who don't really know what love is, feel love?"  if teens cannot feel love, then they wouldn't be able to feel love either after they've become adults.  i mean, we all love at a point in life, then why can't a teen feel love?

I totally agree with that. Teenagers are capable of it. You have to look at who the person is. I mean, if they are really immature and date around a lot and claim to love every boyfriend they have, then you must know that they aren't in love. However, if the person if mature and have been with the person for a while and didn't say it the first week, then it must be true love. I am in love right now. I know it's not infatuation or lust. I don't know what I would do without my boyfriend and I everytime I picture the future, he is there.

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

I'd say any age is capable of being in love...you can't say that it's childish love...if adult love was soOo strong why is divorce the highest it's ever been in the century that it ever has been...

[y0urelectrikk]

I thinks its possible. Like in the movie.. The Notebook!! Gosh I love that movie. Yea i know its only a movie but it could happen.

[Chii]

i think it's rare for a teenager to seriously be in love. most don't know what the f*ck is going on or when you need to just get out of the relationship. most girls i see stay in an abusive relationship just for the hell of it, just to keep their boyfriend, that's not love, that's living a lie. i also hate it when people are like "happp one week baby, i love you so much <3333" it's ridiculous.

say it when you mean it...my boyfriend was the first to tell me he loved me, before we went out i'd tell him i loved him as a friend, i needed to adjust and i told him i'd tell him when i really felt it

[demolished]

No, i woundnt died if i had one .. and it depends how teen use the word " i love you " .. they usually broke up all the time .. espcially when they have xanga, they would talk about their lover.

[lilliannnn]

of course, those of you who have gf/bf probably say yes... 

however;  think a second...  it it really love?  can teenagers who don't really know what love is, feel love? 

would you die if your bf/gf died?  like in romeo and juliet, an 'example' of teenaged love?

and also, is it ok to say 'i love you' if all you really feel is like, lust,infatuation, or fondness?

1. i have a boyfriend.. and i hate to say it but i'm no where close to being "in love" with him.

2. but i have been in love. so yes, i think teengers (anyone really) can be capable of falling in love.

[angelrevelation]

depends on the maturity and understanding (of the world) of the 2 teens... i think they can, but i havent experienced it yet

[sexii_baobeii]

yeah. there is such thing as teenage love. u experience heartaches....u wanna b with them ALL the time (not fohr sx). u'll know. u'll know iff ur in love. ; )

[sammi rules you]

it's possible to love, it's just not the same kind of love that adults have. people mature over time, etc. it's teenage love.

[foreverandaday6]

well, i guess they could...some of them. If they're feeling something stronger than lust/infatuation. But most of the kids i knew in intermediate, they would go out with a person and then 'kapoot', it's over.

Although, teenagers can love, either it be for their family or that special someone. Anyone can love at any age, it's no one's business to say that they can't. When they become older, their love capacity will grow because they'll be more experienced and mature. They still can love tho.

[mistaken_identit...]

Oh yes, good point. I hate it when people say 'I love you' when they've only been dating for a week. My friend said that on her first date and I'm like wtf isn't that waaay too soon *rolleyes*

[ItzOnlySydney]

yes and no.

they always say oh i <33 james( or whatever) andthey rly don't love him they just rly like him.

but i do think teenagers are capable of love

[aera]

i personally think that like is stronger than love. after all, it's easier to fall out of love.

[IGB]

I think most people learn to love as they go, can't blame somebody for being stupid "back then" really.

[JackieEcstatic]

i think teenagers can definitely fall in love.. been there done that. my mom and my "friends" didnt think i was in love.. but when you would be happy to DIE for someone you are "in love" with.. then yeah.. i think you're in love..

my point:
teenagers can fall in love, too

[illuminessence]

There is no age set for love. You can fall in love anytime.

[AngelTears]

I dont know..

I hear 'OMG Im in love.' so much that I hardly belive it anymore.

I think its possible, I mean you see people who started dating sense the 8th grade and got married and are really happy..

But *shrug* I think most teenagers confense themselves they're in love and just go along with it..

[vampireduster]

maybe. i dont know. some last a long time with their highschool sweet hearts. while others dont.

[xBEBE]

i believe that anyone is capable of being in love. you can fall in love at any age.

[eboarder2020]

I believe teenagers are capable of love. I know that we are talking about Romantic love, but think of all the different aspects of love... Teens have love from their parents, and give love to their parents. They have friends who "love them" and also give that love back to their friends. So if they have love in all these difference aspects of their life I for one believe that Teens are much capable of a romantic type of love.

[Kneuklid Romance]

...99% of the time no. Not that kind of love anyway.

-Kevyn

[moo.]

i never really went out with anyone. my friends all had at least one bf. but me? no after watching all of my friends jr. high and high school relationships dont last. they just hurt people. its not right. i think you should only date someone if your ready for a real commitment. lately ive been noticeing that the words "i love you" are used too loosely. i never said i love you to a guy. it may sound really ignorant. but it comes and goes.

[loljuliana]

i basically think it's impossible for people to be in love at this age. but i guess people say "i love you" because it sounds better than "i like you".

[multifaceted]

its not just teens, adults think that they are in love but they really arent. its just lust. i dont think anyone could really handle love that well because love itself is hard to handle

[canny]

Love...everyone is capable....dont have to categorize...

[SSJ Kenshin]

It took me almost 4 months to say "I love you" and mean it in that sense. I believe saying those hallowed words in vain i.e. after a week or two, is just stupid.

[xlaydee_v]

of course, those of you who have gf/bf probably say yes... 

however;  think a second...  it it really love?  can teenagers who don't really know what love is, feel love? 

would you die if your bf/gf died?  like in romeo and juliet, an 'example' of teenaged love?

and also, is it ok to say 'i love you' if all you really feel is like, lust,infatuation, or fondness?

lolss.. anything is really possible if you think about it. but most of the times it's just a deep crush that we eventually do get over. most people don't mean it when they say 'i love you' =T and yeah, of course they can feel love. everyone does. i wouldn't die because my bf/gf died (even though i don't have one currently) i would be mourning.. but they aren't worth my life.. my life is so much more(praising the Lord ;D and trying to find my way out to Heaven, my real, permanent home[hopefully]) it is ok to say 'i love you' if you dont really feel it i guess, because a lot of ppl do that. but its really not right.. but it is in a way w/e LOLS

but from now on, i made a promise to myself that i won't go out with someone unless i really really<3them

[aNg3LBaBi3]

yes teens are capable of love, and yes most of the time people confuse it with lust and etc. not everyone would say they love their boyfriend if they were honest. if you asked me 4 yrs ago did i love my boyfriend, i would say no. i would say i like him. alot of people use the word love easily, but i don't. i could never say i love you until a year and 3 mths. i first met my boyfriend at 14 and we're still together and living together (im almost 19). yea, we did break up twice over issues within the relationship. but while were apart, we couldnt help missing each other and wanting us to be together. just because you break up with someone does not mean you love them in some cases. anyways teenagers can definitely feel love, thing is how do you know if it rlly is? you'll know when your in love. your in love when you see him/her as perfect despite their imperfections. when you need and want them in your life every waking moment, when you can commit to only them in every way; as in no looking at others, flirting, etc. you'll know when you don't even have to think twice when you ask yourself, when you feel it and know it.

i am a highschool sweetheart, i can't say we will be together forever. no one can say, only God knows. but i do know i am in love, i know i could never feel this way exactly for another, if it ever happens it will never be more, maybe close but never more. i belive you can have two lovers but it won't be the same, not like your true love. true lovers don't always get to be together though, life is complicated.

[Ballpointpencil]

Of course teenagers are capable of real love, they just usually don't and get confused (thinking that lust, puppy 'love', ect. is actual, true love). My parents got married at 18 and 19 (respective ages), and they were very much in love. and still are 27 years later.

[J-sin]

Oh yes. Absolutely. Being a teen myself, I DO think we are capable of falling in love. But sometimes, I believe it's just pure LUST. It would be great if most teens were able to differentiate what is actually love and what is just lust. Most of the time, we (teens) tend to mix those two up and fancy ourselves as being in love.

As of a year ago when I first began to persue writing there were emotions that I could not put into words. One of them was loss.( But that's not the subject here, so we'll leave that for the time being.)

The other emotion I had problems with was love. If you have never felt it how can you even begin to describe it? Eight months ago I realized that I myself was in love. It is one of the most abstract emotions in the world. So even if a thousand different people were to post on this you may never come across your own definition. Do you see what I am getting at? Every one has and is entitled to their own idea of love. For some it may just be a knowledge that came of its own. For others it is an uncontrolable urge to be with the person of their affection.

[xRocMaJox]

Well,
Teens are capable pf being in love.Reason being there`s no age set for anyone to fall in love.Or Realize you really like that person.But Someone who barely know`s anything about you tells you they love then your dealing with Mature love an just love meaning

Love = I need you cause I love you
Mature Love = I love you because I need you.

But despite that Teens are capable of falling in love letting someone become everything to them.

[pinkd0tcom]

I, being a Christian, believe that God has only one person for each person, and the moment you meet them, you'll realize that they are the one you love. I don't think that you have to date or have "trial and error" to know what love is.. you'll just know. I agree that most of the time it's raging hormones and lust that is making teenagers think they are in love.. but you can like someone to the extent that if there was a breakup, you could be heart broken. Think about it, if you've been that close with someone, you're almost attatched to them..

[gothicdork]

I think teenagers are capable of falling in love or atleast feeling love. I mean if you think about they do feel love, because of growing up with parents who love them. If they can't love....then they can't say I love you to their parents because then it wouldn't be true now would it?..... Yeah I know that sometimes as teenagers we say we hate our parnets but how many of us really mean it?????

So yes I would say it is freaking possible for a teenage boy/girl to be in love with someone. Feelings are just often mixed up. And yes I am dating someone, but whether I love him or not is none of ya'lls business.......


~*~*~DeCePT10N -ness~*~*~

[gOODpIRATE]

i cant really answer this question, but i am a teenager...but i have never been/felt like i was in love. i think that teens are capable of it...but couples that experience TRUE love like that are like...one in a millon.

i think romeo and juliet were turely in love, expecially since what happened in the end (i'm not going to say because their may be a few of you don't know yet, and i'm not going to ruin it). but i think teens WAY WAY WAY back then married early, and really saw love for what it was.

...but then again, i've never really been in love before, so don't take my word for it.

[gOODpIRATE]

ah...sorry, my computer is stupid...double post.

[nothingless]

well i had a bad.. and i mean horrible childhood and i had no one who truly loved me or ever said, "i love you" to me. when my first boyfriend said "i love you." i was in shock. of course i said i love you too, i was just surprised how fast he said it. probably a week into the relationship, but we were practically best friends before going out.
he is the only person in the world i love. i live with my father.. i don't love him like i love my boyfriend. and this is not a childhood crush. we are both ending highschool soon and college is creeping up. it is just so odd when out of the blue he hugs me so tight and said, "i love you i love you i love you." it is still hard for me to believe that someone actually loves me.

[babierain]

They are capable of it. They just get it confused with infatuation.

[technicolour]

honestly to me, and i'm not normally a peccimist (sp??)...but i really don't think most teenagers are capable of it. i know the following sounds like someone's mom, but seriously, i think it's true. I think that their hormones or "sex drive" will cause people to "think" that they're in love..when really..it's just something else...but thats just me, i know that there are exceptions....which is why i said "most"

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Eh, teenagers probably don't know what love is really, they either replace it with the word "strongly-like" because it sounds better.