Know anyone that needs help..? T^T;, its long. >.<; |
 Mar 24 2005, 09:25 AM
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okay.. uhm, a few days ago.. this girl a year older than me suddenly phoned me. it really surprised me.. i haven't talked to her for two to three years. ^^; i found out that she was raped by a guy four years older than her.. that she took drugs before.. that she loves alcohol.. that she is being abused by her parents.. that she smokes.. and that she hangs with the wrong crowd... T^T;
but she's happy... because she has a lot of friends. when she phoned me, i thought she was high. i mean like drunk. i dunno. >.<; she pretended to be happy, but i kept feeling like she was depressed in a way.. so i forced her to promise not to commit suicide.. oh ya.. sorry it's long.. she wants to get a job because her mom doesn't have enough money for her.. they are kinda.. poor. i'm thirteen.. she's fourteen.. how do.. i help her? she and i .. used to be really close friends.. until i switched schools... yah... |
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Mar 24 2005, 10:20 AM
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why don't you tell your mom about this? Maybe she can help where you can't..or just be there to talk to her and help her out since she's going through a troubled phase. Help her find a job if she wants one..
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Mar 24 2005, 11:48 AM
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 Another ditch in the road... you keep moving Group: Member Posts: 6,281 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,152 |
hmm... well... i guess you just have to call her back and talk it out when shes a littl e bit less high/drunk or whatever seh turns out ot have been.
get a clearer image and that |
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Mar 24 2005, 04:11 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
talk to her when shes less drunk...help her get a job..and maybe counseling?
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Mar 24 2005, 08:16 PM
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introduce her to group counseling or rehab. first things first. no one is gonna hire some junkie or some drunk teenager. she should set up goals for herself. and if she wants a job cause they're kinda poor, gee, why is she taking drugs and drinking beer? it's not like they're free. get her some help.
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Mar 24 2005, 08:50 PM
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Wow, that's a bad situation...
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Mar 24 2005, 08:52 PM
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Ehm. I have no clue. But I would talk to her. It's very .. good instinct (?) that you would feel that she is depressed underneath all her high-happiness. I think talk things out with her, and if she really wants to change, than it's up to her. But if things get dangerous, you need to talk to an adult.
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Mar 25 2005, 02:49 PM
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QUOTE(nekochan1018 @ Mar 24 2005, 5:11 PM) talk to her when shes less drunk...help her get a job..and maybe counseling?  ^^^...thats what I say too...but I also say what the fuk?!??!!...I mean help her out but be firm w/ her cuz obviously she has no boundary lines and you need to make some for her... 
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Mar 25 2005, 02:52 PM
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 I can't believe its not "Ryan" Group: Member Posts: 1,981 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,368 |
Find out when her next drug and alcohol part is going to be and call the police. They will help her from there, at least you know she won't kill herself!
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Mar 26 2005, 12:33 AM
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 i need an sn change. Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 |
QUOTE(Shattered_Hope @ Mar 24 2005, 10:20 AM) why don't you tell your mom about this? Maybe she can help where you can't..or just be there to talk to her and help her out since she's going through a troubled phase. Help her find a job if she wants one.. If i were you, dont tell her mom. Ur friend probably wants her to be the last person to know. The only thing you can do is just help her out and tell her to quit. |
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Mar 26 2005, 12:55 AM
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 This is all my luck, it's all I got. Group: Member Posts: 1,373 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,532 |
You should try to get her some help... Sorry about your friend.
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Mar 26 2005, 02:41 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
QUOTE(mishyerr @ Mar 24 2005, 6:52 PM) Ehm. I have no clue. But I would talk to her. It's very .. good instinct (?) that you would feel that she is depressed underneath all her high-happiness. I think talk things out with her, and if she really wants to change, than it's up to her. But if things get dangerous, you need to talk to an adult. agreed. try not to bring other people/adults into this too suddenly. this girl obviously trusts you and if she is making a cry for help, you need to be there for her. |
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Mar 26 2005, 04:33 PM
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drug free is the way to be :)
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Mar 26 2005, 08:32 PM
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life is so ironic... Group: Member Posts: 73 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 112,671 |
QUOTE(Shattered_Hope @ Mar 24 2005, 10:20 AM) why don't you tell your mom about this? Maybe she can help where you can't..or just be there to talk to her and help her out since she's going through a troubled phase. Help her find a job if she wants one.. NO! parents can worsen everything up so bad if ur parents talk to her parents then shes gonna think u backstabbed her. besides she came to you for a reason if she rele wanted an adults help she would have gotten one. Right now u gotta get her out of the crown bc she is who her friends are. Maybe she can chyll w. u and your friends Honestly, unless u got MAJOR connections lotta places dont hire 14 year olds i've been looking for a job since i was 14 now im 16 and still jobless if u rele wanna get her a job ur best bet is mcdonalds |
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Mar 26 2005, 08:59 PM
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 to be loved by someone you love is.. everything Group: Member Posts: 1,207 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,205 |
awWw, well help her out.. be her friend.. steer her away from being w/ the wrong crowd. Help her stop from drinking & smoking.
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Mar 26 2005, 10:41 PM
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I agree - get her some counseling of rehabilitation
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