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 Mar 22 2005, 11:41 PM
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 HI IM aLLi =]  Group: Member Posts: 216 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,012  |
My bf and I have been going out for more than a month and we do all that couple stuff like hug, hold hands, kiss( well not a lot), and cuddle but i never heard him say that he loves me. what should i do? im confused
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Mar 22 2005, 11:53 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
You've only been going out for a month? Give it time- wait till he really means it...
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Mar 23 2005, 12:26 AM
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 sunshiine Group: Member Posts: 1,080 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,360 |
he probably does love you, just cuz he doesnt say it alot doesnt mean he doesnt ^-^
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Mar 23 2005, 12:30 AM
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 Entropic Group: Member Posts: 216 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,522 |
do you just want to hear it? if so, thats just wrong. are you sure he loves you, y'all have only been going out a month. Love is a powerful word.
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Mar 23 2005, 12:30 AM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
he probably loves u...just give him some time...
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Mar 23 2005, 12:39 AM
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 who ma bitch? you ma bitch, bitch. Group: Member Posts: 1,920 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 55,278 |
time hunny give it some time
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Mar 23 2005, 12:40 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 893 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 68,217 |
What they said...another possibility is that he might be afraid that by saying "I love you," he'll freak you out and he's afraid you'll think it's too early for that or something.
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Mar 23 2005, 01:07 AM
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 This is all my luck, it's all I got. Group: Member Posts: 1,373 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,532 |
One month! You should give him some time just like everyone else said.
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Mar 23 2005, 01:08 AM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
Give him time; guys are afraid of commitment and by saying "I love you", it signifies commitment. If you just want him to say it just because you want to hear it, then I'm sorry hon, but you've got the wrong idea in mind. Wait til he says it when he really means it.
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Mar 23 2005, 02:42 AM
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 147. Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,787 |
1 month's still too early to say i love u seriously.. i took about at least 4 months to feel that my gf's right and saying that...
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Mar 23 2005, 10:28 AM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
it's only a month...maybe he doesn't want to say it till he means it, give it time.
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Mar 23 2005, 10:46 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 90 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 110,867 |
Maybe he doesnt
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Mar 23 2005, 12:00 PM
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after one month there is no way "i love you" could be said and meant. sorry babe, but in reality, the true form of love is barely accomplished.
Historically, if you look up the hebrew forms of love, it follows along a christian basis where you dont have true LOVE until you're married and such. BUT in this world, the LOVE word shouldn't come out until you truly mean it, which takes months, even years.... |
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Mar 23 2005, 01:45 PM
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 Sharie. Group: Member Posts: 2,429 Joined: Dec 2003 Member No: 103 |
Did you ever tell him that you loved him?
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Mar 23 2005, 01:54 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,343 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,767 |
GREAT GOING, WHORE!
WHOA sorry wrong thread...... i'll reply to this as soon as i read it. |
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Mar 23 2005, 02:57 PM
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 michaelx3 Group: Member Posts: 26 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,600 |
you gotta give it time, would you rather him say it now and not mean it? or wait till he REAlLY means it..not saying that he dOesn't love you now but dont put too much pressure on that topic..as long as you guys are happy i think thats what matters
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Mar 23 2005, 05:22 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
give it time, it's only been a month. don't rush into things
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Mar 23 2005, 05:24 PM
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 i just want BANG BANG BANG Group: Member Posts: 252 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,855 |
be patient! one month isnt long
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Mar 23 2005, 05:25 PM
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 CB's Forum Troll Group: Member Posts: 926 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,142 |
:P i think he does and hes just a bit shy..thats how i was...
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Mar 23 2005, 05:27 PM
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it's one month. calm down.
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Mar 23 2005, 05:30 PM
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 to be loved by someone you love is.. everything Group: Member Posts: 1,207 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,205 |
only one month, and you're expecting him to say i love you? Some people think the 3 words are truly meaningful and some don't. He's probably the kind that you're going to have to take time on.
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Mar 23 2005, 07:44 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
Love isn't a word to be used lightly... you probably don't know each other that well enough for him to actually mean it. and it's good that he's not just saying it outright just because he's your bf. basically, give it time. and don't make him feel like he's obligated to say it soon
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Mar 23 2005, 07:57 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
QUOTE My bf and I have been going out for more than a month and we do all that couple stuff like hug, hold hands, kiss( well not a lot), and cuddle but i never heard him say that he loves me. what should i do? im confused wow ur so...UGH!!! you cant fall in love in a month. be patient damn. Dont just spit out love like its crap. honestly, u seem immature to me |
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Mar 23 2005, 08:04 PM
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gRaCiE Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 96,997 |
if he says it to early and doesnt mean it then it's not worth hearing from him. u have to wait till he means it. and plus me n my boyfriend started saying that we loved each other after a couple months. just wait...even if it takes a few more months.
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Mar 24 2005, 09:40 AM
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 .:gossipgirl:. Group: Member Posts: 156 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,300 |
he doesnt say that.
but it doent mean he doesnt love u. give time. you're confused if her really loves u. dont worry, i think he does. |
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Mar 24 2005, 12:21 PM
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 Tum diddle-oo whee blah xD. Group: Member Posts: 81 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 114,163 |
QUOTE(SimplicityGirl @ Mar 22 2005, 10:08 PM) Give him time; guys are afraid of commitment and by saying "I love you", it signifies commitment. If you just want him to say it just because you want to hear it, then I'm sorry hon, but you've got the wrong idea in mind. Wait til he says it when he really means it.  *Note the bolded text. Such a stereotype. Give it time, it's only been one month. If he says it to you sometime, he'll mean it. And in another couple of months or so if he hasn't said it, he is either going out with you just to have a girlfriend, or he's using you. |
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Mar 24 2005, 01:08 PM
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 dripping destruction Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,282 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,929 |
or he actually doens't love you.
depending on how old he is, he may not believe he can 'love' yet. i never told my girlfriend i loved her. she never told me that either. it was understood that we both didn't believe that at 14, we knew what love was. never say 'i love you' to someone unless 1. they know your joking. 2. you really do mean it. |
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Mar 24 2005, 03:39 PM
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cant rush him lol
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Mar 24 2005, 04:53 PM
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HI IM aLLi =] Group: Member Posts: 216 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,012 |
ttrhnx fer hlepoing u guys and for those who were being rude i was just confused
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Mar 25 2005, 03:00 PM
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Maybe I love you to him actually means something...at least their are some guys who put value in those three words...
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Mar 25 2005, 03:21 PM
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Guys often think their too masqulin (spelled that wrong) to say wat they feel. He may not hav said it yet cuz hes too "masqulin"
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Mar 25 2005, 03:54 PM
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 do u luv me? Group: Member Posts: 24 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,884 |
he's probably shy, and just like everyone else says, give it time and don't rush things
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Mar 25 2005, 04:52 PM
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same thing w/ me..well b4
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Mar 25 2005, 05:07 PM
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 cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
It could be just like a physical relationship...
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Mar 26 2005, 07:44 AM
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confused about one month???
i guess you believe in love at first sight? thats cute how old are you? |
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Mar 26 2005, 09:42 PM
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life is so ironic... Group: Member Posts: 73 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 112,671 |
yea like everyone says give hime time does he atleat proves his actions that he love you like he dun wan tu to get in trouble by ur parents or maybe wen u guy sare out he asks if ur cold or jus gives u his jacket w.o even asking?
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Mar 26 2005, 09:46 PM
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it is only one month...saying i love you is a BIG thing
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Mar 26 2005, 10:45 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326 |
a month right? thats not THAT long...mabye you should give him more time...
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Mar 27 2005, 03:10 AM
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QUOTE(tainted_faerie @ Mar 23 2005, 6:30 AM) do you just want to hear it? if so, thats just wrong. are you sure he loves you, y'all have only been going out a month. Love is a powerful word. agreed.. jus cuz ur dating someone doesnt automatically mean u guys are in love -.- takes time n alot of other complicated things to even use the word 'love'.. sigh. |
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Mar 27 2005, 03:13 AM
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There are people like me who doesnt express feeling, i think you just need the patient and you dont need to rush. Calm down and everything will be good UNLESSS YOU HAVE DA PATIENT TO WAIT. enjoy !
QUOTE agreed.. jus cuz ur dating someone doesnt automatically mean u guys are in love -.- takes time n alot of other complicated things to even use the word 'love'.. sigh. no its not, it depends how you use it. Love has different meaning and it is used differently. |
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Mar 28 2005, 12:36 AM
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just like EVERYONE ELSE SAID... give it some more time
okok if *I* were like u....then i'd be suiciding right now..seriously. i've been with my bf for almost a month. and we haven't hugged..or held hands... seriously. hey. im not worryin =). |
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Mar 28 2005, 09:44 AM
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I think your better off to wait till he means it. Maybe he is confused at what love is..and your teaching him. Its a scarey feeling. I didnt know how to say i love you with me meaning it till i ment my last bf.
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Mar 28 2005, 04:46 PM
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tell him you love him and see what he says back.
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Mar 28 2005, 05:01 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
god you're stupid.
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Mar 28 2005, 05:07 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
how can you possibly confused after just ONE month? wow..you must really love commitment...but maybe you should umm wait it out? sheesh...you cant possibly "love" him after a month? are you even sure of your feelings? love plys funnie tricks you know...cant just go about like that...
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Mar 28 2005, 10:04 PM
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 j'adore =) Group: Member Posts: 723 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 107,848 |
wow calm down. its only been a month. give it time
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Mar 28 2005, 11:09 PM
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HI IM aLLi =] Group: Member Posts: 216 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,012 |
hey can the mods close this plz?
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Mar 29 2005, 02:41 AM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
its only been a month so give it time. he might not love you yet so he might be waiting till he does.
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