sex, my friend Options

[xBBYFRE5H]

my friend had sex with her boyfriend. and she is only 12 years old. her boyfriend just told me everything. they 69ed and then did unprotected sex. my friend ( the girl ) wont say anything about her and her boyfriend. i know that they slept together but i didnt know that they had sex. i'm realllly scared for my friend. what should i do?

[HoodieObsessed]

they had unprotected sex as in no condoms or anything?

well, uhhhh, if she hasn't had her period yet than I wouldn't worry too much about getting pregnant other than that, I don't know....I've never had sex...

[*salcha*]

geez. 12 year olds should be studying in school, not getting boyfriends.
anyways, maybe she should get tested..?

[Teesa]

^yes, definitely get tested..there are places out there that can help your friend or her bf that will remain totally anonymous.

[FoOd]

they had unprotected sex as in no condoms or anything?

well, uhhhh, if she hasn't had her period yet than I wouldn't worry too much about getting pregnant    other than that, I don't know....I've never had sex...

Whether or not you had your period, you still can get pregnant.

And yes, she should get tested....

[teeners4]

wow TWO 12 year olds doing it? geez it's almost as bad as imagining two OLD people doing it

but anywho, get a test!

[Rikkiismyname]

wow TWO 12 year olds doing it? geez it's almost as bad as imagining two OLD people doing it

Boy that brings a bad picture to mind.... Anyways. Bad descision on her part. She shouldn't even have a boyfriend untill at leats 14. Girls that young shoud be more focused on school and stuff than boys.

[*salcha*]

^ more like 16 if you really want a strong relationship :p

[RandomHero]

Girl you have a lot of problems...or should I say, "interesting" things going on in your life.
Kay well, she should get tested (which will be really embarassing because she's so freakin young) and then she should put a lock on her crotch like Robin Hood:Men In Tights.

[MeLoNiSyUmMy]

a 12 year old having unprotected sex is kinda..bad.

[jordanriane]

Whether or not you had your period, you still can get pregnant.

And yes, she should get tested....

I think she means her friend hasn't gone through puberty yet.
At least, that's what I got from it, not that she hasn't gotten her period for the month.



1. Talk to your friend. Let her know that her boyfriend told you this information.
2. Somehow, you and her need to find an older relative/friend/companion to help her out. Take her to a clinic to get tested (how old is her boyfriend anyway?)
3. Have her look at plannedparenhood.org so she can be more aware of her having unprotected sex. I'm sure she's naive on this, help her out, be there for her, even if you're clueless on the topic.
4. Convince her to talk to her mother, if she has understanding parents.

[*stephinika*]

^^
agreed. good advice...but yeah umm...interesting friend. wow. 12!? yeah go talk to her.

[dani41790]

wtf. daang. shes way too young. maybe u should find a way to get her to tell you and if/once you do, talk to her about it. hmm maybe her bf might be lying. you never know

[angelrevelation]

wow that's scary.... 12 years old??
i think you're supposed to go to a gynecologist (sp?) when you've started having sex... so tell her to do that. i'd really worry about her though

[mickybeans]

12 year olds and already doing those kinds of things.. -__- the best thing to do right now is to get tested. because it'll only be useless to be afraid of a false alarm. it was a bad decision on her part but i think, if everything does go wrong, she really needs a friend and hopefully you can help her makeit through.

[Shattered_Hope]

It's not good for twelve year olds to have sex...much less unprotected sex . Just talk to her about it and tell her to get tested. At this point, there's nothing you can do except tell her to get tested.

[starlette]

uhh...you might wanna talk to your friend...cuz guys have ego trips and like to brag..even about stuff that hasnt happened. so he could be making all that up. Just to start something maybe? Expecially if you friend hasnt said anything about. Cuz that is some extreme stuff for a 12 year old. so yeah...ask her, and make sure she knows what hes told you.

[secretXoshadow]

in my opinion ... i think she should have never had sex. she is only 12. how does she know that her boyfriend might of just wanted to do it to tell all his friends. this incident might spread a rumor around school for her now. why dont you call her and tell her how you feel and while your at it look up places to get tested and tell her about them. tell her you'll go with her if she feels uncomfortable. be there for her ... everyone makes mistakes .. even if this one was a big one .



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[sexybaby101]

isnt she soo young! damn. i want it n im still a virgin

[AngelTears]

For some reason, it doesnt really surprise me.

I still think its bad.

But as for shocking me no way.

Girls are waaay to focused on guys and how they seem them and being liked and having a boyfriend at that age.. it seems like its an easy thing to not focus on. But I mean, in my own experense every single one of my friends has had a boyfriend before.. not me though, it makes you feel like your weird.

Maybe he threatened to breakup with her if she didnt? Maybe not. But whatever it was, she still made a bad choice.

Its really sad soo many girls focus is on having a boyfriend. I know people who dont care if they even like the boy they just want to have the status of being taken.

And I agree with everyone, she needs to get tested!

[HUNNNAY]

oh wow.. you've horny friends

[EmmalieV]

unless she had sex without a condom , dont be worried.

[shortiiex]

^ she said tehy had unprotected sex...so yeah she should be worried


if she does not have her period....then you shouldn't worry

[yeseulx3]

i hope she gets std.

[_sarcastic_]

that is just wrong, 12 years old? get her to the clinic asap

[roxybabe]

make sure shes ok first then mayb tell her mom

[gnawxela]

umm... check that she DID have sex first... and how old is her boyfriend exactly? cuz yeah, he could've lied... and get her to a clinic to get tested.. just b/c you dont get pregnant doesnt mean you cant get stds

[tinababy143]

wow..12 yrs old..thats mad crazy..but honestly..i wouldnt be worried for her until she says something about it or maybe you can talk to her bf and convince him to talk to her about it and take a test or get checked or whatever..i would say just drive over to planned parethood and have them check her out..buuuut..you guys cant drive and im shure your parents wouldnt take you haha..

[Brneydgrl]

12?!

where is this girls parents?


tell your friend to get tested, then smack her upside the head, then smack her parents upside the head for not teaching her better

[kcgirl91]

are u positive this happened? mayb they were jus makin out or sumthin. im not sayin itz completely impossible but....i find it very hard to believe...

once u r sure that she did have sex, then you should get her tested (if she has had her period) but even if she hasn't you need to talk to her about her boyfriend and stuff...

lil.miss.sinny

[*Weird addiction*]

You know that they slept together but u didnt know they had sex?

[*mzkandi*]

Damn only 12 yrs old. damn. Oh i was speechless for a moment. But it would be wise to get her to a clinic if she hasnt been already and advise to use a condoms if she insist on continuing to have sex

[Nerve_Agents!]

dude thts realy not good !
1. she is having sex under age so both her and her b/f could get in trubble!
2. unprotected sex= acsident waiting to happen!
3. her b/f shouldnt b telling people having sex is between the people in the realtionship!

IF SHE IS HAVING SEX UNPROTECTED ITS OVIOUS THT SHE IS NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO BE HAVING SEX IN THE 1ST PLACE!!!!!!!!!

TELL HER 2 GO 2 THE WALK IN CENTER FOR FREE CONDOMS AND STUFF THER ARE REALY GOOD AND ITS KEPT FROM UR PERENTS NO MATTER WAT UR AGE!

WWW.RUTHINKING.CO.UK GOOD WEB SITE!

get her sorted out and quick or she will have a bun in the oven b 4 2 long !!!!!!

[love-issosweet]

geez. 12 year olds should be studying in school, not getting boyfriends.
anyways, maybe she should get tested..?

^ yeah...tell her to get tested

...gosh, 12 years old?! wonder what it'll be like in the future. maybe 7 years old having sex?! what has the world come to?

[illuminessence]

I'm almost 18 and I'm still a virgin. I've known friends who lost their virginity maybe at 15, 16, but 12!?!?!? She's not even a teenager yet. That's just really disturbing that kids think that's an okay thing. That's really scary and she should get tested and should simply STOP HAVING SEX! Imagine wut would happen if she DID get pregnant. This has 'disaster' written all over it.

[5ayuri]

did she get her period yet? if she hasnt gotten her period then dont worry about her being pregnant.
12 is REALLY young.

[aznxdreamer]

and your sharing this..why? if shes really your friend then you wouldnt be blurting it out to the world..im sure she wouldnt like it.

[AznVi3tGrl]

talk to her and find out what really happen and if they did then go get tested just tell her how much you care for her and don't want her to get hurt in anyway or anything bad to happen for her that's why you wanna know and things

[whywasisostupid]

12 years old? wow. a bit young there eh?

[somekhmergirl]

whoa thats kinda crazy.i mean 12 year old!definately have her get tested!and unprotected too.where was her parents or his parents?lol

[kcgirl91]

and your sharing this..why? if shes really your friend then you wouldnt be blurting it out to the world..im sure she wouldnt like it.

the gurl doesnt know what to do! that's like saying,"I'm not gonna tell anyone that my friend got raped cuz she wouldnt like it"

[xXgWenZilLaXx]

woah. shes only 12. man, im 14 and i havent even had a boyfriend yet. and the guy is prolly lying...cuz i read somewhere that boys like to brag about these things

[yskulmate]

12 years old??? omg.. thats way ToO crazy..

[lilnatcat]

12 yrs old + sex?!?!?!?!?!??!

When I was 12, I watched movies with my frds and went to each others houses to hang out and pig out on food!!

[Nicole0402]

Tell her that your concerned. Does she know about all the diseases that are floating around out there?? Yes some are cureable, but not all of them. Has she even started puberty yet??? she's a baby. I think that sex at 12 is very....disgusting and wrong. I agree with lil_nat_cat....when I was 12 I was with my friends. I never thought about sex...and I still don't and I'm 15. Tell her to slow down.

[browniebabe121a]

what does 69ed mean?

[BELLA_RAGAZZA]

OMG, 12 years old!?! what is this world coming to!? that's INSANE. i think you should save sex for marriage.. none of this 12 year olds thinking they know what "love" is. she should get tested. i can just picture the peoples face seeing a 12 year old come in.

[loveisick]

eugh...thats gross..fo a 12 year old i mean..other then that..they should have protected themselves..

[*not_your_average*]

what does 69ed mean?

^agreed. Try urbandictionary.com.

But I agree. She should get tested. What state do you live in? Depending on your laws, maybe she can get it done without her parents knowing.

[smrkangl]

seriously? -_-

12 years old?! that's frikken tooooo young. i don't know, maybe it's just me? but that's way too young for me.

You should try and talk it out with her and tell her she needs to find out if she's pregnant or something. fast.

[Angel_Cece]

geez. 12 year olds should be studying in school, not getting boyfriends.
anyways, maybe she should get tested..?

agreed. its real sad...

[Laotian_Doll]

holy crap?! your friend is only one year younger than me and she's already had sex?! Well, first off...find out if she's actually pregnant...I dunno how, get her tested or make her take a pregnancy test! Hopefully, if she doesnt get pregnant she will learn to be alil bit more CAREFUL and if she does get pregnant than i hope that she's learn a lesson in all this.

[IamRad]

i hope something goes wrong with her :-)

people like that deserve it. im sorry

if u have sex at a realllllly young age and not take precautions.. u deserve to get pregnant or get an std

[O x LiseE x O]

Are you gonna believe him over her? Most guys DREAM of the oppurtinity to do that, they know it won't happen so make it up. I wouldn't take his word for grant. Let your friend know your their for her after you lecture her. That's what I do with my friends. It's a little different, but my friend peirced her stomach with a safety pen which isn't even steril. The reason she did it was to impress a boy...I yelled at her, then told her I cared about her, and not to do that because it could get an infection and etc. Then she listened and yeah... so just talk to her so she'll have a shoulder to lean on.

[xBEBE]

wtf? is she like desperate or something? sex is already bad enough for a teen. but UNPROTECTED sex at the age of 12?! that's just ... wow

[aznxdreamer]

the gurl doesnt know what to do!  that's like saying,"I'm not gonna tell anyone that my friend got raped cuz she wouldnt like it"

her friend should still have the right to have some privacy.

[yellowgurl]

hope she never got her period yet.. ask her.. talk to her about.. maybe consult her mom/ parents....

they 69ed and then did unprotected sex

whts 69ed? .... at 12.. yikes.. that really really young.

i hope something goes wrong with her :-)

people like that deserve it. im sorry

if u have sex at a realllllly young age and not take precautions.. u deserve to get pregnant or get an std

thats evill... but anyways.. maybe she'll learn to think twice now.

[baibee_boo]

she is too young to b having sex.. if she doesn't have her period then it should be okay.. you should talk to her about it though~
mayb her b/f's just full of shit n is jus feeding his ego telling u this*

[layDeeW]

why do kids haf sex such young age my gosh aneways even if yu r scared for her you really cant do much...it was her decision to do this. if she does get pregnet its really not stoppable even if yu tell someone

[angelshortipnai]

wow TWO 12 year olds doing it? geez it's almost as bad as imagining two OLD people doing it 

but anywho, get a test!

LOL haha that's funny. newaiz, like every1 said, tell her to get a test

[gossipgirl]

sex without a condom or something? thats dangerous and besides, she too young for it

[Joss-eh-lime]

wow TWO 12 year olds doing it? geez it's almost as bad as imagining two OLD people doing it 

but anywho, get a test!

Wow, that really is a horrifying image... thats really bad, and shes gonna feel all the guilt, and whatnot from doin it so early! ew ew ew--two 12 year olds!!!!

[gurly_byebye]

well I think she can be test. But If her mom knows it her mom would kill her or sumthing lol.But I think she should be test!! Bcuz I think shes wrong and of course I knw you are so worried about it..And how come a 12 yr old girl would let him have sex with her.Thats weird.I have a boyfriend but we are just like bestfriends But i never had sex or sexual contact with him.well I just cnt believe she would do tht I think you better tell her mom about this.Because its so serious.Or talk to her boyfriend if his ***** has split! *eewwww* well I have no problem of my life with my boyfriend we always hang out like bestfriends and never had a first kiss!! We play baseball and stuffs (WE HAVE NO SEXUAL CONTACT!) thats all okhay..WEIRD!

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[ItzOnlySydney]

stop befriending whores

[kcgirl91]

her friend should still have the right to have some privacy.

Iim not saying the friend should not have anty privacy. im saying that the gurl's friend should not just stand by and let this happen. She should try and help her friend or else she's not being a good friend at all.

lil.miss.sinny

[lilphoenix]

they both have to be at least 18 to be legal.

tell her to go get a test... and some common sense.


any problems that arise is her problem.

[xlaydee_v]

get her tested..

[ichigofan]

well, uhhhh, if she hasn't had her period yet than I wouldn't worry too much about getting pregnant   

^^ ok thats sort of a myth, just because you havent had your period doesnt mean that your not capable of getting pregnant because the eggs are still released in the filopian tube its just that the hormones which produce the blood vessels in the uterus are not released cuz u havent reached puberty yet.. so it is possible to get pregnant especially since shes 12 yrs old and probably starting puberty

Have you ever thought about that your friends boyfriend is lying, my friend had a boyfriend who would just lie and say that they were shagging all the time meanwhile they both were virgins, Dont take his word for it just ask her [dont confront her] about it and see both versions of the story

[literemix24]

SHES 12? Girl, you better get your friend to the clinic, if its unprotected sex, its dangerous. Who knows what could be passed down?

[dragyn]

Convince her boyfriend to talk to her about it. If she won't tell you about it, chances are she wont take advice from you either. She should go to a clinic and get tested.

[[x]Mari[x]]

I'm 13 and I haven't had sex. And I don't plan to. XD Until waaaaaay later.

Yeah, it is bad, though, they're people in our school district having sex in the bathrooms. X__x

You might wanna make sure she's not pregnant or something. Have either of them had sex before?

[loljuliana]

it's her choice. she'll be lucky if she hasnt gotten her period yet

[mouse_3k]

thats her mistake, make her live with the consequences. You can still get pregnant even if you havent had ur period yet...

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Where were this girl's parents at the time. I think she should get tested.

[BrokenDream]

-_- I was afraid this would become a post one day. But anyways, I'd say go to the clinc right away. But if she haven't had her period yet, I'm not so sure. Wow, I actually am turning 13, and that's like my age! That's scary....

But seriously. Where in the heck where her parents??

[hott_n_luvin_it]

girl, you need to tell her what's up with have a child. if they can't afford an abortion, then your friend is screwed. her boyfriend might leave her she would be stuck with this baby.

talk to her about this. that's a big problem already brewing!

[kitty1982]

talk to her about it.. suggest she use condoms.. but more than anything, make sure she knows you care about her and are only there to help.. tell her you are not trying to interfere, just that you want to help!

[CallMeJealousy]

Again, BabyNames.com
-_- What the hell is up with kids these days
12 PLUS unprotected sex?
Thats like killing two birds with one bad moral.

Oh and to your question..
Hmm
Talk to her about it I spose.
Tell her how big of an issue it really is
Tell her the consiquences

[megan_x3]

.... i thought that if you don't have your period, you can't get prengnant. hmm.. thats weird . maybe you should talk to your friend about it and see if she wants to talk about what happened. =/ you should really talk to her. she may get pregnant at such a young age.. 6th grade ! holy smokes.

[missknowitall141...]

wooooooooooooah 12? wow. wow. thats young. well i would get tested for stds, and other things.

[MeLoNiSyUmMy]

12 year olds shouldnt be doing anything..

[eli5e]

ummm 12 years old!?? ..wow... seemed like theyr really wanted to experiment..

i say it's her life.. her wrong choice... she's the one that was being stupid.

[shushh]

12 year old having sex. that's sickening. get her tested and then give her a freaking chastity belt