so called, friend Options

[lilxroxy]

well. i have this "friend" who`s name is stephanie. and well. i don`t consider her as a friend jst that our mothers are friends.

ahnywais. so stef got a boyfriend in another school and her bf smokes. so on friday. her bf came to our school for an activity. and he started to smoke the minute he got off campus. so i asked him if i can have a word with him. he said yes.

so i talked with him abt the prob abt smoking. and if he

truly trulyloves stef.

he shud stop smoking for her sake. bcz she`s breathing second hand smoke. he jst laffed it off and thinks i am being a wuss.

well, i got kinda pissed off with his attitude. so i aske dhim if he wanted to die. he said yeah. so i told him to jump into the street. and he said he wanted to die slowly. -___-;;

ohkay. and he told stef that i yelled at him to die. and stef thinks i`m a whore and she wants me to die. and she has been emailing me nasty letters since then.

what the asdf. has this ever happened to you?

[edeet]
he said he smoked for 5 years already
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[whywasisostupid]

Did stef ask you to talk to him about smoking?

and if she didnt, just tell her the real story about what happened.

No this has never happened to me

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

honestly...pple who smoke isnt a big deal. i know how u feel but...pple just dont care n e more n i can see y he thought u were a wuss. ppl are like that. honestly i dont see u told him to jump into the street n die over that. that was just foolish n stupid n wrong. i wouldnt have gotten as mad as ur friend but i would have been mad at my friends if they said that to my boyfriend. u just need to let him smoke n hopefully he realizes the full truth that he needs to stop smoking to stay healthy n not die sooner. sometimes and a lot of times its just a phase pple go through in highschool n college. u just need to let him do wat he wants...n as for ur friend...just talk things out with her n tell her ur sorry about wat u said about telling him to die. tell her u told him to stop smoking cuz u were just looking out for u cuz u actually cared about her future. but apologize profusely about the whole dying thing. that was just wrong...

[*stephinika*]

hmm yeah i agree with you that it sucks, but as horrible as it its not really any of your business so you can try to help, but you're kind of digging yourself deeper...

[_sarcastic_]

you should actually tell her your side (the truth) to her. anyways, you shouldn't have talked to him in the first place, it isn't really you're business

[Chii]

honestly...pple who smoke isnt a big deal. i know how u feel but...pple just dont care n e more n i can see y he thought u were a wuss. ppl are like that. honestly i dont see u told him to jump into the street n die over that. that was just foolish n stupid n wrong. i wouldnt have gotten as mad as ur friend but i would have been mad at my friends if they said that to my boyfriend. u just need to let him smoke n hopefully he realizes the full truth that he needs to stop smoking to stay healthy n not die sooner. sometimes and a lot of times its just a phase pple go through in highschool n college. u just need to let him do wat he wants...n as for ur friend...just talk things out with her n tell her ur sorry about wat u said about telling him to die. tell her u told him to stop smoking cuz u were just looking out for u cuz u actually cared about her future. but apologize profusely about the whole dying thing. that was just wrong...

my dear, why should she apologize for the dying thing? it is true, he will die because of the smoking and it seems like he was trying to shrug her off when she was talking about it. since she seemed to annoy him he wanted to get back at her by telling miss stephanie about it, what a jerk plus, smoking is a big deal, when people continue smoking for a long time they'll most likely never stop, especially if they start as teens.

you know what? if stephanie is going to be a b*tch about all of this then let her, but first tell her your side of the story, if she doesn't care then f*ck her, you were just trying to help. if she can't appreciate you looking out for her, then she can go ahead and die an early death with that idiot boyfriend.

[toodlepops.]

Nothing like that has ever happened to me before. <___<
But does Stef know that her bf smokes?

[lilxroxy]

thanks girls ( : and stef does knw. and she also knws the fact that mike won`t stop smoking for her.

thanks chii. you made me feel a lot better, and i see your point

thanks stephinika and blowpops and chunsa and sarcastic and samiera

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i told her. with her best guy friend`s [who`s also my friend] help. and she sees that ionly meant for the best.

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oh god. now she`s mad at me even more bcz her best guy friends are on my side o__o

they think she`s being immature. she thinks i`m being a b!tch...

but i think the only reason the guys are on my side is bcz they care abt her..i wish she can see that.but she`s too blind by hatred..

[misoshiru]

smoking's not that big of a deal. next time, talk to her first about it before taking it all out on her bf.

[EmmalieV]

Well it wasnt your place to tell him to stop smoking wtf. My bf smokes it doesnt bother me tht much because he really doesnt smoke that much around me but yeah I would be mad at you too.

[ghjgfkgfk]

you're stupid. really.
WHO CARES?
your friend is going to die sometime.
and so are you.

this isnt any of your business.
deaaaaaaaaaaal.

[Individualityy]

^I'd have to disagree.

You were only doing it out of concern for your friend. Just write a letter to her telling her what really happened, and tell her that since you've been friends with her for so long, she should believe you instead of him.

Smoking is horrible. I'm glad you stood up to him. You go, girl.

[urbanychic]

my dear, why should she apologize for the dying thing?  it is true, he will die because of the smoking and it seems like he was trying to shrug her off when she was talking about it.  since she seemed to annoy him he wanted to get back at her by telling miss stephanie about it, what a jerk plus, smoking is a big deal, when people continue smoking for a long time they'll most likely never stop, especially if they start as teens.

you know what? if stephanie is going to be a b*tch about all of this then let her, but first tell her your side of the story, if she doesn't care then f*ck her, you were just trying to help.  if she can't appreciate you looking out for her, then she can go ahead and die an early death with that idiot boyfriend.

First of all, you can die from everything, and i do mean everything. ironically, you can smoke cigarettes for your whole life and never die from a probable cause, oh the horrors! Secondly, what right do you have telling him he should stop? If you are concerned about your friends health, tell your friend not her boyfriend. You don't know him to step in and tell him what he should and shouldn't do. It's really none of your business.

[whatiismae]

first tell her what really happened. and steph is being weird about calling you a whore. that doesnt make any sense. and also, if she wants to go out with a smoker, let her. you shouldnt have interfered without talking to steph first and telling her how you felt about him.

[lilxroxy]

^I'd have to disagree.

You were only doing it out of concern for your friend. Just write a letter to her telling her what really happened, and tell her that since you've been friends with her for so long, she should believe you instead of him.

Smoking is horrible. I'm glad you stood up to him. You go, girl.

thanks

[lilxroxy]

First of all, you can die from everything, and i do mean everything. ironically, you can smoke cigarettes for your whole life and never die from a probable cause

uh..and why wud you wnna risk that?

[Shattered_Hope]

Tell her the truth and that you were just looking out for her.
No, I've never been in this situation.

[yukichan]

maybe u shouldnt have said anything..idk...well next time u should talk to her first before u say anything to her bf...and no i havent been in this kind of situation before...