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Stuck in The Middle, ugh. im caught in between 2 friends
Eternally_Yours
post Mar 14 2005, 09:17 PM
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Ugh. I hate drama, but it always seems to find a way to me. But anyway, I have two friends Ashley and Naomi. They just arent getting along at all right now. Before, they were perfectly fine with eachother. In fact, they were pretty close. But Ashley just never trusted Naomi. Something happended on Saturday, and Ashley is pretty much just taking it out on Naomi. I mean, Naomi didnt do anything AT ALL to hurt Ashley and she's just been avoiding her at school and church. I cant even hang out with the both of them at the same time anymore.
Today I called Ashley to see what was bothering her. She told me that Naomi just wasnt a good person and that she just couldnt trust her based on what people had been telling her. I mean, I admit Naomi is a hard person to trust, especially if you start off on her bad side, but I mean, it's not like Naomi did anything to Ashley. Now Ashley is just talking a whole bunch of smack to everyone about Naomi and Naomi is just clueless as to why Ashley is mad at her. Gosh they just keep talking about eachother with me, and I hate being in the middle. Yea, I know it's all a VERY confusing story because I left out a lot of details, but please try to help me if you understand. Thanks.
 
 
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post Mar 14 2005, 09:21 PM
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Wow. I kind of was in the middle of one of those situations before.
I think you should get them to sit together and just talk. Don't let them run away from their problems- running away isn't going to push the problem away. Somehow, get them to have a conversation- maybe in a room or something? And if all things go well, they should know how eachother feels and maybe fix some misunderstandings.
 
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post Mar 14 2005, 09:21 PM
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that is a tough problem...
-you could wait and see what happens
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-do something...force them to talk...ask Ashley why is she blaming Naomi w/ her issues
 
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post Mar 14 2005, 09:21 PM
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Try to explain the situation to Naomi, and try to defuse Ashley.. tell her things about the "good" side of Naomi. I don't know. Work at it.
 
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post Mar 14 2005, 09:22 PM
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jst go uh huh, uh huh, when they talk to you.
but dont say anything. zip.
if you get into this fight, you might lose both of your friends.
jst let them work it out. theres no way to help them.
best way is to jst mind your own business.
 
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post Mar 14 2005, 09:22 PM
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Tell ashley she cant judge noami by what other people tell her. I've been stuck in the middle before i couldnt really do anything so i just let everything play its self out. for now all you can do it wait and see what happends. Either that or you can take some action!

Editt // 5 Replies in less than 2 minutes thats just amazing.
 
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post Mar 14 2005, 09:57 PM
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Tie them down and force them to talk it out. Make sure they understand that they are also hurting YOU by making you the "middle" person.
 
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post Mar 15 2005, 03:54 AM
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QUOTE(--x who0ps @ Mar 15 2005, 10:22 AM)
jst go uh huh, uh huh, when they talk to you.
but dont say anything. zip.
if you get into this fight, you might lose both of your friends.
jst let them work it out. theres no way to help them.
best way is to jst mind your own business.
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^ I agree. Be careful when you're stuck in the middle in these situations.


QUOTE(WrathOfOnigo @ Mar 15 2005, 10:57 AM)
Tie them down and force them to talk it out.  Make sure they understand that they are also hurting YOU by making you the "middle" person.
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^ True. I don't think Ashley and Naomi understand how this is affecting you. Tell them. And make sure Naomi knows that Ashley isn't mad at her for any particular reason. Don't take sides, though, or they might team up on you and you'll lose them both.
 
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post Mar 15 2005, 02:42 PM
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Get them to talk to each other.
 
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post Mar 15 2005, 09:54 PM
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O YAY! I'm so happy. I guess having a talk with Ashley yesterday got a lot off her chest and she's starting to talk to Naomi again. They don't talk and act like they used to around eachother anymore, but I'm just glad that theyre talking again. I can tell that Ashley is STILL a bit cautious around Naomi though, but I think things will be the same again sooner or later. JOY JOY JOY happy.gif Thanks for the advice people
 
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post Mar 15 2005, 09:55 PM
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uhhh thats tough _dry.gif
 
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post Mar 16 2005, 04:31 AM
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QUOTE(Eternally_Yours @ Mar 16 2005, 10:54 AM)
O YAY! I'm so happy. I guess having a talk with Ashley yesterday got a lot off her chest and she's starting to talk to Naomi again. They don't talk and act like they used to around eachother anymore, but I'm just glad that theyre talking again. I can tell that Ashley is STILL a bit cautious around Naomi though, but I think things will be the same again sooner or later. JOY JOY JOY  happy.gif  Thanks for the advice people
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Congrats!! flowers.gif
 
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post Mar 16 2005, 03:05 PM
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lol! i been in that situation. u've been doing all that u can to get them to talk to each other again. im glad they're talking again. u did a good job.
 
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post Mar 16 2005, 03:17 PM
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i've been stuck between by two best friends for the longest. its soo weird its like whenever u try to hangout with one of them the other gets soo mad. its annoying =( and hard.
 
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post Mar 17 2005, 12:56 AM
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I'm in that situation right now. It sucks because when I hang out with either friends, they start talking crap about each other, and I hate it because it makes me feel like the bad person. Like you don't wanna lie to anyone about who's saying what. And it really really sucks being stuck in the middle.
 
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post Mar 19 2005, 04:48 PM
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talk to each one-on-one about whats happening, and try to patch things up. or set them up to meet somewhere where they can talk about it. or you can just tell each one that you dont want to talk about the other.
 
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post Mar 22 2005, 03:56 PM
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get them both to sit down and talk
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you could just wait...and see what happens.
 
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