my friend was basicly raped |
 Mar 13 2005, 03:56 AM
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 my pet rock doesn't like you  Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,866  |
What do if your friend has basicly been raped? [he hasn't gone inside her - but he forced her to do alot of other stuff; ex: oral].
I'm worried for her because she was shaking & scared to death when she was telling me all the details of it. I was sworn to secrecy but I feel like i need to tell an adult so i can get her some help. what should i do? [edit] thanks guys - I talked to a older student also. She told me to first tell her parents, then accompany her to the hospital or a doctor to have her checked [they didn't have a condom!], then go and tell the police. This is really sad because the guy is a really close friend to her family - especially her brother. In fact, she had a crush on him before she knew what he was about. I warned her that he was way to old for her (shes 14 and hes 20) and that she should be careful expressing her feelings around him, but i guess she didn't take my advice. She also recently cut herself really deep just yesterday, and she might have really hurt herself because she lost alot of blood. Sheesh..this world is so messed up. |
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Mar 13 2005, 04:13 AM
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I'd tell her that she should really consider telling someone. I wouldn't go completely behind her back, but remember this is your friend.. you don't want her to suffer throught that do you? it's better to get an adult so she doesn't have to put herself through that.
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Mar 13 2005, 04:16 AM
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 i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
Hm go and call the police. So it can be settled. Wouldn't that be better? That still call a rape when he/she force you to do things that you don't want to do. She really needs to call 911 about that. So it doesn't happen again to other girls. He can't be released like that all to himself.
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Mar 13 2005, 07:00 AM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
i think you really should tell an adult. he might end up really raping her if you dont
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Mar 13 2005, 07:27 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
you should ask her to tell an adult. not go behind her back.
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Mar 13 2005, 07:36 AM
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 boo Group: Member Posts: 5,512 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,765 |
You shouldn't hide something as serious as this from an adult.
Tell her it's okay to tell an adult, they can help her. |
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Mar 13 2005, 07:39 AM
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 go go power rangers<3 Group: Member Posts: 321 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,457 |
I have been raped. I can't speak for this girl, but I can say what I wish I would have done. I really wish that I would have told an adult. It happened almost 6 years ago, and the only adult that knows is my therapist. My friends didn't know until 2-3 years after it happened. I was so ashamed, but it wasn't someone I knew that did this to me (it kind of sounds like it is for your friend, like you're scared that it will happen again). It was too late for my friends to do anything but be there to talk. I think that you should be there to talk, but tell her that if she won't tell an adult, you will. Let her know that it is all for her. You're not trying to get her into any trouble. She may not be happy with you now, but she WILL thank you someday.
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Mar 13 2005, 08:06 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
^ aw..i'm sorry
 you should tell someone, maybe an adult close to her. |
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Mar 13 2005, 02:17 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
you could ask her permission before you tell an adult.
but then again...she is your friend..and maybe you should do what she is afraid to do... it's up to you...basically.. |
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Mar 13 2005, 02:18 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 499 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,961 |
QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Mar 13 2005, 8:27 AM) you should ask her to tell an adult. not go behind her back.  I think you shoudl do that cause your friend might feel betraye if you went behind her back and she prolly thought since she is your best friend that wouldn't tell anyone...this one is a hard one... 
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Mar 13 2005, 02:20 PM
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 you kissed my bliss away Group: Member Posts: 37 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 106,695 |
QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Mar 13 2005, 7:27 AM) you should ask her to tell an adult. not go behind her back. very tru..she should tell some1 in her way that she feels comfterable~ |
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Mar 13 2005, 03:34 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
QUOTE(angel-roh @ Mar 12 2005, 11:16 PM) Hm go and call the police. So it can be settled. Wouldn't that be better? That still call a rape when he/she force you to do things that you don't want to do. She really needs to call 911 about that. So it doesn't happen again to other girls. He can't be released like that all to himself. i agree..she should get some help...talk to her and try to get her to get help...but dont go behind her back and tell... |
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Mar 13 2005, 03:36 PM
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 to be loved by someone you love is.. everything Group: Member Posts: 1,207 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,205 |
talk to her about it. Tell her its important that she needs to report it to someone
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Mar 13 2005, 04:32 PM
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 It feels like electricity; Group: Member Posts: 493 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,331 |
take a cue from degrassi and send her to a doctor to see if she got any stds. if he was forceful, this may have not been his first time. also, go with her to talk to a school counseler. if he goes to your school he can get in [i]so[/ i]much trouble.
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Mar 13 2005, 06:11 PM
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 LiLaZnGurL Group: Member Posts: 969 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,072 |
QUOTE(Shattered_Hope @ Mar 13 2005, 2:17 PM) you could ask her permission before you tell an adult. but then again...she is your friend..and maybe you should do what she is afraid to do... it's up to you...basically.. yea i think u should do that instead of going behind her back she might get mad.. aww mann da guy is so wrong but u should go talk to her about telling sum 1 like a paernt |
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Mar 13 2005, 06:14 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 4,357 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,115 |
Rape is a crime. Go tell the police, before the man rapes some other innocent girl.
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Mar 16 2005, 03:17 PM
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 shake it Group: Member Posts: 245 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 70,171 |
She NEEDS to tell her parents, not just an ordinary adult, because an adult might freak out..but if she sits down with her mom or dad (its probably more comfortable to talk with her mom) then they will know what to do based upon the situation
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Mar 16 2005, 03:44 PM
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 when we speak, we breathe Group: Member Posts: 1,635 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,760 |
xo_rock, read the edit on her entry; she's updated us on it..
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