cud he have said that just to be nice???, ...or am i just thinkng too much..o.0 Options

[LittleLulu]

.......if n e 1 who reads this knows me in real life... u probably know abt me n him.. but please dont say n e thing to him .

so here goes...i like this guy at my schooll...n i got a friend to tell him that i like him. that day online... he didn't give me a clear answer.. but smthn like "i always say no when ppl ask me if i like a girl"....i was all sad for like a day...n kept on saying "on nthn, just HEARTBROKEN" . when he asked me "sup"..n all.*thursday*

the next day online i was still like that.n during this whole time he told me to "dont wurry about it"...n "y r u still depressed??"...."ur still heartbroken for no reason"....but he never said he DID like me , loud n clear, till that day.*friday*...n i was soo happy.......

next dday i sent him 10 text messeges..n he replied all of them.. even tho it costed him 2 bux...........n they made u wanna go "awwwww"......n he's put lil hearts in his posts on his xanga........

but lately.......no more mentioning of me in his posts............no mushy texts....n i think he didn't want his friends to know about us.......i asked him if he'd tell me he liked me just so i wud be happy...n he said he wudn't...but he could be saying THAT to be nice tooo................

its only been a week,.......................and............slowly... im starting to wonder...weather or not he really DOES like me........ ...he said he waas reli sad that all this weekends were busy for the month......that meant we cudn't hang out on weekends..for a MONTH!!...i wondered if that was an excuse to egnore me????

but then.............once after school.. i was busy with stuff n he was gona go with alot of ppl to dairy queen...he stayed n talked to me till his friends kept calling him...n before he left he asked me IF I WANTED N E THING FROME DQ...n i told him i cudn't cuz of my throat blah blah blah--....n we still talk


he has YET to ask me out or n e thing......r we together? i guess u DONT need to have to have a questions n an answer to be considored "together"./..its sorta set that we agreed to be "together" ...n e ways........

yea question is in the topic.

[Shattered_Hope]

It's a possibility he said that to just be nice...It's also a possibility that he said it because he meant it..Talk to him about it.....ask him if you two are official or anything....then he'll give you a straight answer and you'll know....and you can always tell if he means it by his actions to you...what he does and says.

[misoshiru]

i dont think you guys were ever together. and yes, he could've said that just to be nice. ask him yourself in person.

[LittleLulu]

its soo akward....

i've asked him once. n he said reli clear that he WOULDN"T right?...but its just the little things that bother me.

yet its also the little things that comfort me...him waiting for me after class even though theres no break in between...little "hi"'s n "sup" 's in the hallways.. little talks before the teacher comes in for PE...with 6 of my friends starring at uss.... text messeges....n phone calls...yadda yadda...

im just still worried. n need some opinions.....and i dont want to seem like im soo clingy n all that...

[--x who0ps]

whoaa your post was really long & confusing o_o?
anyways, i dont think you guys are together..
& the person you like has some serious mood swings

[LittleLulu]

whoaa your post was really long & confusing o_o?
anyways, i dont think you guys are together..
& the person you like has some serious mood swings 

sry it was that long n confusing

n y r u guys saying " u guys never *WERE* together"...its not like its all ended

n umm he's actually a reli nice guy. im jus a bit doubtfull it what he's thinking

[cool_twin]

Wow........... it 'is' a long story........ i really dont know tho....... I mean I dont think it is considered together... it might be even if he didnt ask if u guys actually had a date or hung out together but there doesnt seem to be any of that.......... maybe u should officially ask him out?

[_sarcastic_]

he might be saying that just to be nice or he does really like you and want to take it slowly. ask him what he really wants, and you don't like to be kept 'hanging' like this

[EmmalieV]

i mean maybe hes confused but ignore him come on hes not giving you clear answers.

[dahding]

ask him for a clear answer. none of that wishy washy shtuff.

i think the problem between u two is bad communication skills. u two need to establish exactly what ur relationship is. or else, someone might get hurt.

[jennyjenny]

Actually sit down and talk and maybe be like, " it seems like we're together, but I'm not really sure if we are. You never gave me a clear answer. I'd really like us to be together, and if we're friends, I hope we can be better friends"

Or something...

or maybe he just wants to be friends?

[xSTEPH]

I think that he just wanted to be friends but let you down gently.

[lilshelil]

I think you should just let him go. i mean if he likes you at all, he will do the work of letting you know that he likes you. Plus the fact that if he likes you, why would he not want his friends to know? About those text msgs, maybe he's jus a flirt. If he was into you at all he should really do some focusing on you. So why are u even going to waste your time thinking about him?

In my opinion, i dont think you should even talk to him to "know what between us" at all cuz it might look kinda desperate. If he likes you he'll call u, come up to you and do what ever it takes for you to notice him. agian.

[justalanna]

You should just ask him, it's the easiest way to find out. I know you don't want to because you don't want to get rejected, but if you don't then you might never know until he flat out tells you in front of his friends and you get hurt. Trust me, been through that and it's not fun. Good luck. =)

[LittleLulu]

hmmm... i see ya'lll pointsss....maybe the way i put things made yall think he was this playa n all... here are some fact though.... wel hes never HAD a girlfriend before , he never dated or n e thing like that...n he COULD be just shy, n timid.

yesterday he called for the first time. for no apparent reason. jus to talk n stuff..i've called him twice before for the same reason...at school he'd stay after class n wait for me..n he'd talk to me in between classes even though the warning bell already rang n if he left any later he'd be late for HIS class...and..even if he doesn't want his friends to knoe.. it doesn't exactly mean he doesn't like me...n besides.. his friends already found out. they teased him abt it...for like a day then they just got bored of it n stopped.

its not that i dont want to ask him because of fear of rejection.. but i dont want him to get annoyed with me. his personality n mine r soo much alike.. i can pretty much predict his reactions. i just imagine it was me. n see how i would feel abt it. nhis reaction wud be pretty close.............n abt us being "together"..heres some text messeges...that can probbably help.

there was some infront but i'll just get to the point
him- lol this is soo nerdy, talking on msn is wway faster. is this costing u money? we're not like together................r we?

me- r we....?

him- im confused again..
me- well, i'd like us to be. but its up to you.
him- well if ur fine with it then im good. so..sure.?

does that help ??

[Rachel]

just ask him, straight up YOU ASKING, if he likes you. don't do it over text messages/IMs/phone. face-to-face works best.

[LittleLulu]

"hey, if ur not goin to disneyland or sumthin..wanna go to rc?"

"rc" is a mall. it stand for Richmond Centre...yea he jus asked me that..like a min ago......=).my family was planning on going to disneyland for spring break.....but tis not a sure thing yet.. but even if i dont get to go to DL, going to the mall with him would totaly make up for it .<3..

wudn't this have been considored askin sm1 out??? o.0

[topsyturvy]

^ Yes, it's considered asking someone out.

"He did this, he did that, does he like me?"
"I like him, he doesn't like me, what do I do??"
OH HELP, I WISH PEOPLE WOULD STOP ASKING QUESTIONS LIKE THESE.

The dude sounds like he's been liking you "on-and-off". Right now, it's on.

Btw, you're thinking way too much.

[misoshiru]

why i said you guys were never together - because in your long posts you never talked about going out with him.

and his "asking you out" is considered asking you out, but it doesnt necessarily mean anything.

and, as xxcrazyjewxx said, don't do things over IMs/textmessages you have to talk to him in person.

last of all, please type clearly with the correct grammar and spelling. it's very hard to read.

[LittleLulu]

hah lol okay then
its all that msn stuff that's got into my typing habits!!...well u know at least i dont go ""yaaa kaka >.<" cuz me wowwied dat```pplz dun like me??! T^T"...n all that poop.

anyways...we DO talk. in fact. for the past 2 days..he ditched his friends at lunch n came to hang out with my n my friends! all my friends including myself thought that was really nice of him. ..we basically talk every chance we get. and he stayed with me afterschooll... even though he was suppossed to leave.

..when people saw me n him walking together down a hall.. this girl who i knew..not reli a close friend was like "OMG ur with hIM? eww..."...and i thought that was just mean n shallow!.

i like this guy because he is really nice, really funny, and a very hard worker... ok AND he's tall but nothing more. hes not one of those stuck up cocky guys who think they're soo hot, even if they ARE.................i just dont like that.

i'd wish those girls who say "eww" when they dont even know him would just back off and get a life.

[Litt0_TeeZy]

hmm..i don't wanna sound rude or anything, but the way i see it...why don't you ask HIM out....girls need to get off their booties and do it too...a lot of guys are shy...emotionally challanged...stuff like that. honestly..most of my close friends are guys and they always ask me "should i ask her out?" "does she like me?" etc. the thing about people these days is we're too freaking shy.. >.< i don't think you guys are going out...that is asking someone out to hang out, but he may not mean it as dating...maybe you should get to know him (if you don't already) then ask him straight up. be like "tell me yes or no"...i dunno. that's my opinion. sorry if i sound mean >.<

[LittleLulu]

hmm..i don't wanna sound rude or anything, but the way i see it...why don't you ask HIM out....girls need to get off their booties and do it too...a lot of guys are shy...emotionally challanged...stuff like that. honestly..most of my close friends are guys and they always ask me "should i ask her out?" "does she like me?" etc. the thing about people these days is we're too freaking shy.. >.< i don't think you guys are going out...that is asking someone out to hang out, but he may not mean it as dating...maybe you should get to know him (if you don't already) then ask him straight up. be like "tell me yes or no"...i dunno. that's my opinion. sorry if i sound mean >.<

lol. well...he treats me differently from other girls. thats all that i want right now ....in a good way of course. thinks are starting off slow. but ...i have faith.

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

he might have been saying htat to be nice..or he was interested in u for like a week or two or however long and is now losing interest. sounds like he kinda likes u tho with all the texts n phone calls. if a guy doesnt like a girl like that he doesnt reply to all the texts. so i think he was AT LEAST interested in u during that time. u never know tho...he might still be interested. it doesnt have to be HIM who asks u out u know? n if he does treat u different from other girls then yea i think he likes u. but he might also just want a girl to flirt with n not be with u know? guys are like htat...girls are like that too.