relationship, end or another chance? Options

[espressive]

Things are complicated between my boyfriend and I...if I can even call him one. I've liked him for a year and a half now, I've never felt like this toward somebody. Perhaps you could call it love at some point in the relationship, but definitely not now. After 3/4 of a year obsessing over him, he told me that he liked me one night while I was at his house. Of course, I was extremely happy and the rest of the night was great. We laid on his bed and talked about stuffs, it sounds so simple, but I loved every second of it. Heck, I even got my first real kiss that night!

Then, it seemed as if everything went downhill from there. I met him at church, so I only get to see him once a week. He's 3 years older than me, it's not that big of a difference, but it is when you're 13. All my friends from church were already teasing us, but they never really thought we actually really did like eachother...the thought 'disturbed' them. It was weird from the age difference and some other stuffs, so our whole entire relationship was kept quiet betweent the two of us. Yes, it is strange, I figured it was strange. 2 months after we hooked up, I having 'the talk' as to where we were going with this online. Take this advice, NEVER EVER do ANYTHING online, because he got the idea that I was calling it off when I really wasn't! Then I figured that it might actually be a good idea, as much as it would hurt me to let him go

We hooked up again after 3 months separation and have been together til now. When we got back together, there was something different about him. He wasn't the guy I use to know...just somehow...different. But I refused to believe it, I thought he needed space or something. I think he really needed some physical action. No, we're not having sex, but we're so close that it scares me. I'm pretty sure neither of us are planning to have it anytime soon, and that's about the only thing I trust about him. It's not just every now and then, it's everytime he sees me!

Recently, he's been distant. We don't talk online, phone, or in person. It's as if I don't exist. Actually, that's been going on for a while now. *sighs* I liked it better when we were just flirting with eachother and before all this crap started. From what's I've collected, he's either avoiding me or is very angry or perhaps both. What is he angry at? I dunno, probably something relating to me considering I'm the person he's not talking to.

So for any of you people who actually read through the whole thing, what do you suggest? I'm 90% sure on ending this (if it hasn't already ended) and I doubt on giving him another chance. But I tried following my heart before, and look where it's gotten me.

[Winter]

I wish I could help but I'm kinda having the same problem too... I wanna break up with him but at the same time, I don't wanna. Argh relationships really mess me up.

[starling]

Well. It could be that when you guys ended things before, he was really hurt, and he doesn't want that to happen again, so he might be trying to to get so attached, in case it does happen again.

It's kind of funny that you two don't talk at all... especially if you two are 'fooling around' or whatever (btw, major props to you for not having sex with him, a lot of couples rush into that.) It could be that your relationship has just evolved to the point where it's just physical attraction. I hope that's not the case tho, for your sake. It sounds like you really really like him. Or used to, anyway.

I think your best bet would be to try and talk to him before you end things. Something else might be bothering him to make him act so distant, boys are weird like that sometimes. My boyfriend gets all quiet and stuff, sometimes for a week or two, but he assures me that it's not my, it's either his family or school or work. They just deal with it differently or something.

So talk to him, see what happens. Maybe it's just all part of being a boy, I dunno. Boys are so weird sometimes.

Hope it works out for ya! Let us know!

[conster]

welll if u two dont talk, then u jus gonna be feeling this way till either one of u opens up.. so i suggest u to do the first move! talk things out with him and if u know u guys arent gonna be together.. then at least be friends rite? better to havea friend than enemy..

[*CJ1*]

I bet he's feeling the same way you do... He probably thinks you're angry or something, just like what you think... Just talk to him and stuff and figure it out... Like conster said, be friends...

And don't give me that, I tried following my heart before, and look where it's gotten me crap... Everything happens for a reason...

[espressive]

Thanks for the advice, I'll try talking to him. But it's just hard sometimes, ya know? I don't like having 'the talk' and stuffs, but I'll try for the sake of this relationship

[CJ1]Everything happens for a reason...hmph, maybe...