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 Mar 7 2005, 09:44 PM
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 ::.im an attractive little jelly bean.::  Group: Member Posts: 58 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 84,101  |
hey ... i need some help. :.sigh.:
There's this guy I've been talking to for a long time. And he always tells me everything. Just the other day, about how he had to break up with his girlfriend because he just needs time. But he is afraid to be alone. And I`ve come to realize that i really think i`m falling in love with him. I don't know why...i just can`t help it. I just love the way I can act around him. sO cOuld you guys please help ... as to let me know what i should do ... should i just back off ... or tell him how i feel ... ? i`m real scared ... |
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Mar 7 2005, 09:48 PM
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Tu es laid. Group: Official Member Posts: 3,913 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 106,675 |
you should definetely tell him how you feel cuz you gonna regret and think all your life wut would of happened if you actualy did tell him how you felt and you never know he might be falling in love with you...
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Mar 7 2005, 10:22 PM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
he broke up with his gf cause he just needs time. but he's afraid to be alone. sounds like a crap reason to me..
anywho, don't go for it. ur just gonna fill his void of needing someone, then he'll want to get back with his gf, and then dump u like ur worthless. and then ur going to come back and write a topic about how sad u are and that ur going to commit suicide. and then i'll get to say, "i told u so." and besides, u might hurt ur relationship as a friend with him. i'd say stave it off for now. wait a while. and then, if ur still feeling the same or stronger, gopher it. heh. gopher it. |
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Mar 7 2005, 10:34 PM
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 to be loved by someone you love is.. everything Group: Member Posts: 1,207 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,205 |
tell how you feel. and if you're friends w/ the girlfirend.... ehh... might be a catfight *rawr*
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Mar 7 2005, 11:08 PM
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 ilikeyouSofreakingmuch. Group: Member Posts: 2,014 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 643 |
i think you should wait awhile before telling him you like him or anything, js in case he goes back to his gf.
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Mar 7 2005, 11:56 PM
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 who ma bitch? you ma bitch, bitch. Group: Member Posts: 1,920 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 55,278 |
QUOTE(ichiban @ Mar 7 2005, 8:08 PM) i think you should wait awhile before telling him you like him or anything, js in case he goes back to his gf.  ditto
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Mar 8 2005, 12:34 AM
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 rwar (; Group: Member Posts: 590 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,308 |
he needs time. wait for awhile, but be there for him.
talk to him excessivly, always keep him company. then after like a month tell him how you feel (: |
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Mar 8 2005, 12:37 AM
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 deleted Group: Member Posts: 3,168 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,276 |
omg. u just ripped a page out of my autobiography.
been there. gosh i don't think i made the right decision though becuz we both acted on an impulse and dated and then ended up breaking up and nevr rly spoke o eac h other agian. it was rly painful for me becuz he was my best friend. |
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Mar 8 2005, 12:41 AM
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 Apr 24 '05* 1000 posts! Group: Member Posts: 1,184 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 56,049 |
u should definitley tell him how u feel bcos otherwise, u guys are going nowhere.
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Mar 8 2005, 02:37 AM
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 i <3 giraffes & hamsters Group: Member Posts: 69 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 104,830 |
wait awhile, then when everything is calm again, tell him
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Mar 8 2005, 03:26 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
QUOTE(dahding @ Mar 8 2005, 11:22 AM) he broke up with his gf cause he just needs time. but he's afraid to be alone. sounds like a crap reason to me.. I agree with every word. anywho, don't go for it. ur just gonna fill his void of needing someone, then he'll want to get back with his gf, and then dump u like ur worthless. and then ur going to come back and write a topic about how sad u are and that ur going to commit suicide. and then i'll get to say, "i told u so." and besides, u might hurt ur relationship as a friend with him. i'd say stave it off for now. wait a while. and then, if ur still feeling the same or stronger, gopher it. heh. gopher it.
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Mar 8 2005, 06:21 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i agree with dahding. he might not have feelings for you since you know he just broke it off with his gf. then if he rejects you, you'll be all upset and might not even want to talk to him again. give it time
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Mar 8 2005, 08:18 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 73 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,896 |
Glory is fleeting, but obscruity is forever.
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Mar 8 2005, 12:36 PM
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 it's just me Group: Member Posts: 74 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 110,630 |
I think right now you need to give him his space, he just broke up with his girlfriend and he's on the rebound. Most rebound relationships don't work out and if you really and truly like and care about him, then you'll wait. But don't wait too long, because someone might snatch him up. Tell him how you feel in a few weeks and let him decide what he wants. You don't want to get hurt, so don't get too involved right away because of that small chance he might not want to be with you. Good luck!
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Mar 8 2005, 12:44 PM
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 a_walk_thru_hell* Group: Member Posts: 66 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,999 |
I have a very similar situation going on right now. But the guy's girl friend is one of my best friends so it's a very difficult situation. but I think that if you feel like the time is right you should deffinitly go for it and just tell him exactly how you feel. He may feel the same way for you too, but if your friends with the girl friend myabe just wait a little while for them both to get over each other and then ask her if she'd be ok with it. well thats what i'd do anyway. but just follow your heart, you never know where it may take you.
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Mar 8 2005, 03:10 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
don't tell him....yet....he needs to figure out his feeling now, and you need to figure out if you really love him
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Mar 8 2005, 05:37 PM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
tell him NOW that he doesnt have a girl--
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Mar 8 2005, 08:38 PM
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 free hugs Group: Member Posts: 188 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 68,202 |
k tell him how u feel !!!!!!!!! DONT MENTION THE WORD LOVE....cuz chances r u really dont love him. u mite iono but....dont scare him lol
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Mar 8 2005, 10:31 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
hmm... well he might go out with you just for the sake of "not being alone"... so that's not a good reason
 give it some time, and since you're good friends maybe he'll see you in a different light afterwards then you can tell him
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Mar 8 2005, 10:56 PM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
Find a right time to tell him how you feel about him, just so its in the open . And when hes ready he'll come to u and tell u how he feels and what he wants to do :]
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Mar 13 2005, 06:47 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
I think you should tell him....just not right now..because you should tell him when nothing's wrong in his life..and this is not a good time because he just broke up with his g/f and if you were to tell him now..and anything happens...you'll never know if you two were together because he loved you and felt the same or that you told him when he needed someone.
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Mar 13 2005, 10:15 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
i think you are in love with the idea of being in love.
but, it is better to tell him instead of hiding it. |
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Mar 14 2005, 04:51 AM
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 boo Group: Member Posts: 5,512 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,765 |
Just talk to him.
You've talked to him a lot, he probably feels the same way too. ;) |
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Mar 14 2005, 08:32 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
he just broke up. back off a bit. wait a while and then do what xxcrazyjewxx says.
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Mar 18 2005, 06:28 PM
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 THE EVERGLOW Group: Member Posts: 95 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 114,409 |
definitely tell him how you feel. since you guys talk all the time, you should be pretty comfortable with each other, hopefully. the way he's acting by saying he's scared to be alone, yet he broke up with his girlfriend, and he's telling you all this, it somehow sounds like he wants to be with you. so, i suggest make a move!!
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Mar 18 2005, 06:44 PM
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 crushed. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,432 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,026 |
give him some breathing room, but still talk to him as friends. then tell him how you feel when you think that he is ready, because he is probably feeling vulnerable now.
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