being shy, uggh... |
 Mar 5 2005, 08:45 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find.  Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096  |
i HATE being shy! (and somewhat of a low self image)
there's this guy in my PE class. this past week we've been doing square dancing, and he actually asked to be my partner!  but the bad thing is that i was sooo flustered. i could hardly look at him! and i was blushing to badly... i think i may have given him a wrong impression...i was kind of trying to stand away from him for some reason. i'm really doubtful if he likes me because 1) he's cute, popular and outgoing. so not like me. and 2) is in 9th grade, and i'm in 8th. i know that most ppl say that popularity doesnt matter, but it always does! he's given me hints, but i'm never sure if i'm just misunderstanding them as just being friendly or his normal goofy self. i'm also worried about if he asks me out. what would i say? it would be a problem to be in different grades, have different friends, not being able to drive... lol. and i dont think i could live up to the "standards" of a girlfriend... *sigh* srry if this doesnt make sense... does anyone else have this problem? 
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Mar 5 2005, 09:28 PM
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 Spare me just, three last words; I love you is all she heard. Group: Member Posts: 36 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 59,499 |
I've never had that problem, on account of, I'm not prude. But, when you're shy.. guys don't really like to have shy girlfriends. Ya dig? So, just think of his as a guy friend at first.. act casual. Don't just agree with him on somthing if you think otherwise, but don't fight about it.
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Mar 5 2005, 09:30 PM
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 music lover Group: Member Posts: 469 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,999 |
oh man .. im one the shyest people in the world. Im soo shy in class, but after school when im hanging out with friends im so talkative. I like have a crush on a guy in my history class and the funny thing is that he's also on the shy side lol. i don't talk to him cause he's so much smarter then me lol.
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Mar 5 2005, 09:31 PM
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 boogie down yo` Group: Member Posts: 710 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,271 |
QUOTE(Liquid_Massacre @ Mar 5 2005, 6:28 PM) I've never had that problem, on account of, I'm not prude. But, when you're shy.. guys don't really like to have shy girlfriends. Ya dig? So, just think of his as a guy friend at first.. act casual. Don't just agree with him on somthing if you think otherwise, but don't fight about it.  exactly..im quite shy too..but i try to be friends with a guy first |
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Mar 5 2005, 09:34 PM
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leenie <3 Group: Member Posts: 318 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,816 |
I think if you like him you should go for it (; you dont have to be acting all "hot" and stuff you can just blush a little and be like "sure" and stuff like that ^^v even a little word can be a big step! It's okay if he's older by a year, and also make sure he isn't a playboY!!!! T.T you know a guy who just dates and dates girls |: <3
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Mar 5 2005, 09:35 PM
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 kristin Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 |
Moved to relationships, because more then just girls can add a response to this topic...=]
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Mar 5 2005, 09:46 PM
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 Virulence is my friend... Group: Member Posts: 11 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,630 |
i am so shy it's not even funny...my friends say i have the worst social skills in the world...
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Mar 5 2005, 09:54 PM
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You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
QUOTE(leeniex3 @ Mar 5 2005, 9:34 PM) I think if you like him you should go for it (; you dont have to be acting all "hot" and stuff you can just blush a little and be like "sure" and stuff like that ^^v even a little word can be a big step! It's okay if he's older by a year, and also make sure he isn't a playboY!!!! T.T you know a guy who just dates and dates girls |: <3 hmm i'm not sure if he's a player... what exactly would he get from dating me anyway?  and lol the thing is i'm too shy to say anything! of course there isn't really anytime to talk during square dancing... hehe... and how do you get over you shyness? i've developed more confidence over the years but not much... |
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Mar 5 2005, 10:18 PM
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 This is all my luck, it's all I got. Group: Member Posts: 1,373 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,532 |
I have the same problem. When ever the guy that i like looks at me in class i turn so read from the face! And to make maters worst thig guy that i know goes "OMG Celeste your face is so read so are your ears look!!!!!" Its so emberrassing! (sp?)
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Mar 5 2005, 11:44 PM
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 Yea Yea. Group: Member Posts: 837 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 79,366 |
Don't jump to conclusions. Spend more time with him. And... if you do go out you'd find a way to deal with all the problems you think you might have. Don't worry about so much. I'm not sure if he likes you or not, not to make you feel bad but since you like him a lot, you might just think he does. The guys I like sometimes I think like me back. It's a thing I guess. But if he really does like you, I am happy for you.
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Mar 5 2005, 11:46 PM
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 ^-^ Group: Member Posts: 1,676 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,668 |
well, I donno waht to do about your case but anwyay, jsut tohught I'd telly ou I'm really shy too....altohugh if I'm with ppl I know I'm fine, but in new places I'm real quiet
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Mar 6 2005, 01:16 AM
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You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
QUOTE(ilauqh @ Mar 5 2005, 11:44 PM) Don't jump to conclusions. Spend more time with him. And... if you do go out you'd find a way to deal with all the problems you think you might have. Don't worry about so much. I'm not sure if he likes you or not, not to make you feel bad but since you like him a lot, you might just think he does. The guys I like sometimes I think like me back. It's a thing I guess. But if he really does like you, I am happy for you. that's what i'm worried about... that i'm jumping to conclusions. but what if i'm not? but what if i am? so yea my reasoning keeps on going back and forth...  srry this post was kind of just for ranting purposes... |
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Mar 6 2005, 02:23 AM
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 iMmA reAl gUrL Group: Member Posts: 73 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 68,191 |
just scream and act wild that might be it im not shy im like a partying person all crazy..just show yourself get attention
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Mar 6 2005, 09:38 PM
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 Bonjour Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,449 |
ughh i have the same exact problem lol.I used to like this guy for a long time,like 2 years and we are both pretty shy, I think we both might have liked eachother at one point but I'll never know now because he has a girlfriend. So if he likes you then go for it after you know him for a while and really think he likes you dont be afraid to make the first move.
good luck
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Mar 7 2005, 02:34 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 65 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,337 |
I have a shy girlfriend and its fine to me. Just depends on him. He probably likes you for who you are atleast, because if he liked a popular girl, there cud be a chance he's just doing it for being popular. So when you get to kno him, and you decide he likes you, truely, then go for it, yeah!
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Mar 7 2005, 02:31 PM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
one year diffrence doesnt matter!!!! my ex was 2 yrs older than me and be confident !
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Mar 7 2005, 02:36 PM
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insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
one year diffrence doesnt matter!!!! my ex was 2 yrs older than me and be confident !
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Mar 7 2005, 04:03 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
i am not that shy and usually ppl have problems saying no to people who ask them out....i have a problem saying yes
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Mar 7 2005, 05:24 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 558 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,872 |
I'm Like so shy.. i hate it!! I wish i was more outgoing but i just cant be no matter how hard I try.
Thats why I like to have a boyfriend that is outgoing. Cause then he'll be the one to make the first move.. If you know what I mean 
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Mar 8 2005, 02:48 AM
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 i <3 giraffes & hamsters Group: Member Posts: 69 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 104,830 |
wow, 8th gracde and 9th grade in one school?!
anyways, for now, don`t worrying about him asking you out. you should be worrying more about staying friends with him. i suggest you try to overcome your fear for at least ONE DAY and see what happens :] |
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Mar 8 2005, 08:33 PM
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 who ma bitch? you ma bitch, bitch. Group: Member Posts: 1,920 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 55,278 |
QUOTE(njgurl412 @ Mar 5 2005, 6:30 PM) oh man .. im one the shyest people in the world. Im soo shy in class, but after school when im hanging out with friends im so talkative. I like have a crush on a guy in my history class and the funny thing is that he's also on the shy side lol. i don't talk to him cause he's so much smarter then me lol. same here 
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Mar 8 2005, 10:07 PM
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 iuvenesco Group: Member Posts: 427 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,221 |
well, its good if one of you is outgoing at least. the age difference doesnt really matter. and you can work things out if you guys really like each other. but for now, if you're not sure, just be friendly with him for now. act as if he were your regular guy friend or something. that way you'll open up more to him, and you'll both be more comfortable with each other.
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Mar 8 2005, 10:13 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 628 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,376 |
if he does ask you, just say "i'll think about it and tell you later" or something like that...
good luck and have a nice day 
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Mar 8 2005, 10:28 PM
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You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
QUOTE(my_sunshine @ Mar 8 2005, 2:48 AM) wow, 8th gracde and 9th grade in one school?! anyways, for now, don`t worrying about him asking you out. you should be worrying more about staying friends with him. i suggest you try to overcome your fear for at least ONE DAY and see what happens :] yup our school goes from 7th-9th grade, and my PE class is a split class of 8 and 9 and overcoming my shyness for even an hour... thats gonna be hard... lol 
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Mar 8 2005, 10:59 PM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
Who you date should not depend on who your friends are, what grade your in, or popularity status.
If he lieks you, you like him, why wouldn't you say yes? Its just simple dating. He wont have a car either so you wont be able to do much haha... Holding hands..kissing in the corner..... lower classmen stuff =] haha...but its fun while it last .... i guess. If your not sure, dont throw yourself at him or you will look like a full if your wrong, just try to pick up on somemore signals and let things happen . |
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Mar 8 2005, 11:22 PM
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Heart | broken -Once again. Group: Member Posts: 260 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,092 |
well you have to know the guy personally first before you like him like that, and girl go ahead if he ask u to be his partner;; just ask him like q's when u guys are square dancing--it wont hurt!
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Mar 9 2005, 06:38 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326 |
if i were you and if a guy like that asked me out i would say yes because i would be even more popular. if he has given you hints mabye he likes you. when you were blushing i think that he was thinking that you were giving him hints and now hes trying to give you hints because he is interested in you and he thinks that you are interested it him...i bet you did not understand a word i jsut said... -_-
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Mar 9 2005, 07:21 PM
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 ha ha ha. you're not funny. Group: Member Posts: 95 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,890 |
oh man oh man ..haha i'm exactly the same. except, i'm shy 24/7! blehh ..it really sucks, i tell ya. one time, i was meeting with this guy, 'cause we were just gonna hang out you know? and i invited my friends with me cause i was too shy to be by myself. then when he came, i was completely silenced. i did not say a word, at all! -_- then, he went home. but then i invited him to come to hang with us again and said i would try to be less shy and talk to him more but then when he came, i was completely silenced.. arrghh ..i wanted to slap myself silly so bad! i try to be more outgoing but ..it's who i am. some people just happen to be borned talkative while i just happen to be a very shy person.
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Mar 9 2005, 07:22 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
sometimes. but i usually get over it in a short while! thank goodness! i hate blushing!
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Mar 13 2005, 08:28 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 228 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,294 |
He likes you, and you like him, there is no need to be shy anymore
I myself am PAINFULLY shy but I know when I can be comfortable around people, don't be afraid of being yourself because if he doesn't like who you really are then he doesn't really like you |
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Mar 13 2005, 05:33 PM
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 it's just me Group: Member Posts: 74 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 110,630 |
Just start off by being friends with him. Think of him as a friend and not a guy who could possibly date in the near-future. Don't worry, things will work out. Talk more to him, don't be so shy. There's nothing to be afraid of.. now anyways!! lol jk =)
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