Family Matters Options

[[Mediocre]Artist]

For understanding purposes let me explain that my sister and I switch off between kitchen and livingroom + laundry every week.

Both my sister and I are involved in theatre at our respective schools. Two weeks ago she had rehearsals every night to get ready for the big show at her school. I did my chores as usual, made dinner for my dad and uncle, and did laundry for my sister. Then of course there is homework. This last week I've had rehearsals pretty much every day and it will be the same for this week. Do I get help with my chores? Nope. I don't mind that. Its my responsibility to do my work. What bugs me is that my mom has been pressing me to do my sister's chores. My sister had a morning audition today and my mom wanted me to clean out the cat litter box (my sister's cats, I don't have pets) and wanted me to clean the kitchen. These are my sister's responsibilities and I really protest having to handle them for her. Why is it that I still have to do all my work even though I'm not home until 6:30 at night, but my sister can't handle her chores?

I'm really frustrated with all of it. I was just wondering if I really have a reason to be upset. Is it fair for my mom to practically force me to do my sister's work? What should I do?

[yeseulx3]

i think you have a right to be upset.
i'd confront my mom and my sister about it, and set another arrangement/schedule.
like, when she's away, you'd offer to do her chores, but you must get the same in return... you know?

[_sarcastic_]

^i agree.

talk to them about it, tell them that it's unfair that you'll have to do your sister's chores while she doesn't even have to do yours.

[--x who0ps]

erhh i think i have the same situation as you. but my parents always tell me "we`re family and does it really matter if one does more than the other ? you do your family duties & do some of hers on her busy days, and maybe she`ll do it back. [she never does] and if she doesnt, well jst think that your helping your family."

how unawesome is that.

so yes, you should be angry.
tell your sister that she should do your chores too. & if she doesnt, then tell her she should tell her mom that she "wants" to do her own chores.

[swe3ttemptasian]

I would be all #@&$#*%#*#&%**#$%$%*%**$ if I was dealing w/ that. && if I were you, I'd talk to your sister and be very blunt about it.

[Shattered_Hope]

You're right to be upset. Tell your sister and mother..and be honest and straight with the situation. Tell them you don't want to put up with this...

[xj_liana_tx]

it's not fair, you have just as much stress on you as to on your sister. you guys need to carry your responsibilities equally. your mom is being biased. confront her.

[[Mediocre]Artist]

Ugh. Well my mom and my sister took off with the cousins to sell Girl Scouts cookies or something and left me home with, "If this kitchen isn't cleaned by the time I get home you're not going to that birthday party!" So I caved. Mostly. Cleaned everything but the dishes. I mean CLEANED. The kitchen hasn't looked that good in years. I did try mentioning to my mom that it was unfair for me to have to do my sister's chores and she just said, "Oh your sister does things for you all the time." How about...not? The last thing my sister did for me was a sinkload of dishes for $5 the night before I had two major projects due. And she b1tched the entire time. Gah. Fighting a losing battle. I'm raising four kids. My parents, uncle, and sister. The house cannot function without me there to pick up all the loose ends. Seriously. I spent the night at a friend's once and came home. They hadn't done a single thing. Not even made dinner for themselves. They ordered takeout around 9pm. 3 full grown adults. Sheesh.

[Wishful_Dream]

^^that's harsh.

i think you should move out asap. seems like, your family depends on you. maybe too much.

i think you should probably go to a CLOSE friend's house.. and stay there for around a week? then suddenly, go back home and see if anything's clean.. if nobody cleaned up... then that's bad...

talk to them. that's all you can really do. tell them they should be RESPONSIBLE for themselves. you weren't born to do their dirty work.

if i were you, i would go right head on complaining, yelling and swearing. haha. yeah. that's me. i'm stressing out at home right now, because of my marks... x.x

i wish you good luck, if you can't stand it anymore... go against them. you don't have to put up with this. if your mom threatens to NOT let you go.. what can she truly do? if she abuses you, you must call the cops. if she locks you in your room or something, climb out a window. =p

[ficklenesswhatev...]

i think you have a right to be upset.
i'd confront my mom and my sister about it, and set another arrangement/schedule.
like, when she's away, you'd offer to do her chores, but you must get the same in return... you know?

I agree, you can't do someone's work when you have equally of busy schedual. It's not fair...tell your mom that if she's going to pressure you then she needs to pressure your sister too.

[*stephinika*]

yeah thats not fair...you are just as busy, she should try to do her work too and her mom shouldn't just pressure you to do it...i'd talk to them.