friends or more?, confused? Options

[runforfun529]

This isn't your regular friends or more sort of topic. Theres a lot more to it and it may get confusing, so be prepared.

So I used to like this kid Josh. He was also a friend of mine. He still is. My other friend Cassie was going out with JJ at this time. When she broke up with JJ she started liking Josh. He liked her too, so I couldn't really do anything, I just stopped liking Josh.

Well then I went out with this kid named Kevin. Josh and I became even closer because Josh and Kevin are friends. Sometimes Josh and I would spend 5 hours on the phone a day, just talking about Cassie and Kevin. By beginning of January, we were really close.

Cassie and Kevin began to get jealous and thought that we were cheating on them, although all it was, was a tight friendship. Josh actually listened to me. I could see their point though, so I just stopped talking to Josh as much. We saw each other at school, but only for about 2-3 minutes a day.

About 2 weeks ago, Kevin and I broke up. Cassie and Josh also were having "relationship problems" I guess you could call them. She was just getting really jealous and not letting him hang out with any friends. I helped them through this so that they were both really happy again.

Well anyway, on Friday, I was talking to Josh online. We hadn't been talking for about 10 minutes, but I still had the IM up. He IMs me and it says this "I think she likes em too, but I don't think she would ever admit it to me." I asked him what that was and he was like... "Whoops, I meant to say that to someone else, don't worry about it."

Well anyway, I began to wonder, so I asked one of my friends for advice on whether I should tell Cassie or not. She said "Tori, I think he likes you." I said "WHAT?!?!?!" She said "Just the way he talks to you and that one time he hugged you, it seems he likes you." She didn't tell me anything about whether to tell Cassie or not, so now I'm wondering whether or not to do so.

If I do tell her, she may end up dumping him because of it, or it could eventually cause them to break up. Then if it was me that he likes, he will probably ask me out, and I will probably go out with him because he is such a nice guy and hes kind of cute too. So therefore I will lose her as a friend. I also risk losing him as a friend, if it wasn't what he meant, cause notice that he said "I think she likes em.." He could have meant me or them. I don't know.

If I don't tell her, and she finds out that I knew or something, or that he likes me, she will be mad at me. She probably won't hate me, and Josh won't hate me either.

So weighing out both things it sounds like I shouldn't tell her, but that just doesn't seem like the right thing to do, moral wise...

What should I do?

[*mishyerr*]

Tell. It would be a lot worse if she found out on her own.

[yukichan]

wow..seems hard...lol..well i think u should tell ur friend about him....
i think theres a quote that said something like friends will be there no matter what...well im not saying that he wont be there..and theres another quote that said friends never date a friends ex...well its up to u...good luck on making the decision...

[runforfun529]

Tell. It would be a lot worse if she found out on her own.

But he doesn't even think that I know, so I could just pretend like I didn't. Again, though, it doesn't sound right.

wow..seems hard...lol..well i think u should tell ur friend about him....
i think theres a quote that said something like friends will be there no matter what...well im not saying that he wont be there..and theres another quote that said friends never date a friends ex...well its up to u...good luck on making the decision...

lol, I guess that doesn't apply here. One guy went out with 3 best friends. Not at the same time of course.

[jennyjenny]

That's a very hard situation...
but I would just wait for Cassie and Josh to break up, and if Josh breaks up with her first, and asks you, that would really be bad...

I think you shouldn't of helped them with their "relationship problems" because they probably had their reasons.

Or maybe he wasn't even talking about you at all...

[runforfun529]

That's a very hard situation...
but I would just wait for Cassie and Josh to break up, and if Josh breaks up with her first, and asks you, that would really be bad...

I think you shouldn't of helped them with their "relationship problems" because they probably had their reasons.

Or maybe he wasn't even talking about you at all...

I guess I'm just too nice for helping them, but when they both ask you for help, what do you do.

Yea, I don't even know if he was talking about me or himself, hence my confusion.

[topsyturvy]

You can't trust what other people say, especially when it comes to the topic of who's-currently-liking-who. I think you should wait until Cassie and Josh break up, and then let it fall into place naturally. If Josh really does like you, he'll have to get rid of Cassie somehow to be able to date you.

[Shattered_Hope]

You can't trust what other people say, especially when it comes to the topic of who's-currently-liking-who.  I think you should wait until Cassie and Josh break up, and then let it fall into place naturally.  If Josh really does like you, he'll have to get rid of Cassie somehow to be able to date you.

agreed.

[y0urelectrikk]

hmm.. Maybe you should just ask him if he really does like her? If you two are as close as you sound he will probably tell you the truth.

[my_sunshine]

you guys should trade boyfriends .. but i guess life isn`t that simple 0_o;;

well, first, you should assure your friend that there is nothing going on between you too except a close friendship.

but, you should also ask josh if he likes you, because, if he does, you should tell him that he should have a talk with cassie.

[Derek4jc]

I say that you shouldn't say anything... let it run its course.. if he likes you... you'll find out... but if you try to force it... it might all blow up in your face

[--x who0ps]

how close of a friend are you to cassie ? if very tight, then tell her. if not, then dont. jst make sure your mouth is kept shut and that your other friend that you told this to's mouth is shut too. cause you dont want anything leaking out

[whomps]

You can't trust what other people say, especially when it comes to the topic of who's-currently-liking-who.  I think you should wait until Cassie and Josh break up, and then let it fall into place naturally.  If Josh really does like you, he'll have to get rid of Cassie somehow to be able to date you.

That seems like a smart and somewhat cynical thing to do. Do it.

[runforfun529]

hmm.. Maybe you should just ask him if he really does like her?  If you two are as close as you sound he will probably tell you the truth.

I did that and at first he didn't give me a straight answer, he kept saying, why wouldn't I and stuff.

But at the end he said, yes he did. So now I'm even more confused.

[lilJdawg]

Bacck off 'til they break up. If he really asks you out then you should talk to your friend cassie about it. say like, "boys won't get into our friendship, promise?" & just have a talk with her.