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 Feb 18 2005, 05:56 PM
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 SCHGEB!SCHGEB!  Group: Member Posts: 1,786 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,217  |
well okay, ive been liking my best friend for almost three years now. and he knows. first.. i wanna get over him but it seems so impossible right now. second.. i try to pick the worst qualities in him and try to get mad at him because trust me.. there are things to get pissed about.. he always talks about this one girl in particular and i really dont like her at all. it takes alot for me to either get mad or dislike someone. anyway... in the past and present he has said hurtful things but somehow as soon as he trys to say sorry or something. i fall for it and it all becomes better.. for example.. yesterday he was like yeahh no one is online so im talking to u. to me that was hurtful. so i tell him im his backup bitch and he found that funny HAHA no. it was meant to tell him not to freaking use me and then throw me away once someone better comes along. ive tried for so long to sit down and talk to him.. either in person or online. but nothing comes out. so i end upp spilling it out to my best friend, she gets mad.. and then wants to slap him across the head. any ideas on how to make a guy realize that hes doing something wrong, and if he doesnt stop it could really hurt one of his best friends.. well tahts wat he said... that we're "best friends" but to see how im treated by him sometimes, it just makes me feel worse and worse
sooo sorry for being so long.. hope u can help somehow. and hopefully this is in the right place... 
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Feb 18 2005, 06:42 PM
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hmm..i've kinda been there before with my best friend
so you say this guy is your best friend? so i guess you are important to him! when he said that there wasn't anybody else online i don't think he meant it as you were a last resort...try not to read too much into it. i think when you said you were his back up bitch wasn't this best way to try and tell him to stop using you like that because it does seem like a joke kinda thing so don't be mad at him for laughing it's probably just a misunderstanding I suggest you get one of your friends to talk to him and see what's going on inside his head and how he feels about you and stuff and have someone tell him to stop being such a user type guy... hope i helped good luck! 
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Feb 18 2005, 07:25 PM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
^ I agree, if he said that you were his best friend, then maybe you DO mean something to him..
But at the same time, he might be just saying that in order ot keep you interested in him. The fact that he doesn't share mutual feelings, probably means that he isn't interested, but wants to use you to his advantage. You should try to talk to him. Tell him that how he's treating you, hurts you. But remember that he DOESN'T like you back.. meaning that you should get over him eventually... It is hard to get over someone you liked for so long. What kind of friend is he, though? I mean, truly.. is he a best friend to you? Perhaps you should let your best friend (who is a girl) smack him lol. Anyway, if he's one of your best friends, maybe he's just joking with you... There could be plenty of ways to look at this issue.. You should try to talk to him. Practice in front of a mirror about what you would say to him. Tell him you don't feel comfortable with how he's treating you. |
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Feb 18 2005, 10:58 PM
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SCHGEB!SCHGEB! Group: Member Posts: 1,786 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,217 |
^^ yeahh i have practiced in a mirror plenty of times.. but when it comes time to actually do it i just chicken out. and i talked to him earlier.. and i told him it was a stupid stupid reason to get mad at him for that reason.. and he said it was okay and that he didnt kno i was being serious and he would never take advantage of me. taht really made me feel a bit better. anyway u guys have helped me. its become a bit clearer now.. thanks =)
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Feb 18 2005, 11:25 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 23 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 93,973 |
QUOTE(IamRad @ Feb 18 2005, 10:58 PM) taht really made me feel a bit better. anyway u guys have helped me. its become a bit clearer now.. thanks =)  yay!! that's awesome! 
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Feb 19 2005, 05:04 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
wow that's what happened to me... now we havent talked in like months...
 i hope that doesnt happen to you (seems like the ppl above helped ^) 
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Feb 19 2005, 05:57 PM
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SCHGEB!SCHGEB! Group: Member Posts: 1,786 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,217 |
^^^ omg.. this is off topic lol but i was just checking back.. and that pic u got with the camera and it says Fake a smile.. I got that camera!!!! it looks JUST like that!! hehe
anyway.. i really hope i dont stop talking to him either.. for some reason i LOVE to talk to him.. |
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Feb 19 2005, 07:55 PM
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 Class of 2005!!! Group: Member Posts: 1,132 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,080 |
Yeah, I know what you mean. I have a friend, who, I'm in love with, however, everyone else says he treats me like crap, and yeah, I have to admit that sometime he does make me feel that way, but, for some reason I still love to talk to him...
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Feb 19 2005, 08:49 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
QUOTE(Just_Dream @ Feb 18 2005, 2:25 PM) ^ I agree, if he said that you were his best friend, then maybe you DO mean something to him.. But at the same time, he might be just saying that in order ot keep you interested in him. The fact that he doesn't share mutual feelings, probably means that he isn't interested, but wants to use you to his advantage. You should try to talk to him. Tell him that how he's treating you, hurts you. But remember that he DOESN'T like you back.. meaning that you should get over him eventually... It is hard to get over someone you liked for so long. What kind of friend is he, though? I mean, truly.. is he a best friend to you? Perhaps you should let your best friend (who is a girl) smack him lol. Anyway, if he's one of your best friends, maybe he's just joking with you... There could be plenty of ways to look at this issue.. You should try to talk to him. Practice in front of a mirror about what you would say to him. Tell him you don't feel comfortable with how he's treating you. i agree...and talk to him even if he doesnt want to...if he really is a friend he would talk to u..good luck... |
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Feb 19 2005, 11:06 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
that's what best friends really do...they try to piss off each other, gossip, talk A LOT, he sees you as JUST a friend
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