My Boyfriend has changed. |
 Feb 16 2005, 05:42 AM
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Yah, well i started going out with this guy sometime in Dec. It's been two months now, yes very long time. And just a week ago he tells about how much he loves me, but now he doesn't even give me hugs in the morning or anything. I mean, sometimes he does, but it's those kind .. the one's without heart just a movement. It's so wierd, it's so sudden, i've tried talking to him, but he just says ... i love you end of convo. I want to break up with him, but he was a great bf and everyone else said that... and I don't want to give him up to this girl that's been flirting with him. Please telle me what i shud do.
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Feb 16 2005, 07:50 AM
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You want to dump him. Because he used to be great, you don't want to. I say, dump him. He changed. He's not the same. He's a different person now. Everyone changes. It's sad. But, we must accept the truth. Anyways, 2 months is not long. 12 years is long. =) Good luck. And always remember, there is over a million guys out there. =x He's not the only great person there... =) Don't hold on to him, when he wants to run away.. like a mouse from a cat.. x.x" Just give him up and if he and the girl he's currently flirting with, gets together.. then let them. Be happy for him =)
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Feb 16 2005, 07:53 AM
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 kristin Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 |
well you need to talk to him about it...make sure he still feels the same...tell him you have to talk to him more..=/
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Feb 16 2005, 10:13 AM
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 I have no life Group: Member Posts: 1,119 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,675 |
If you keep on going out with him then you'll get hurt......Dump him now when the time is safe...
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Feb 16 2005, 11:27 AM
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 tower over me Group: Member Posts: 1,190 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,717 |
talk to him personally. don't just wonder why he's been acting different, ask him. then make decisions.
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Feb 16 2005, 12:22 PM
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 Another ditch in the road... you keep moving Group: Member Posts: 6,281 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,152 |
frankly, i say chuck him. i mean, if he's making you unhappy, then its stupid.
you may talk to him first tho, he might be havng issues, and it'll ge better. try and support him, bu tif he doesnt want you to, dont force yourself its degrading. as for staying with him so no one else can have him, grow up are you 13? sorry if you are, btw, i'll lmao |
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Feb 16 2005, 12:31 PM
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I love you <33333 Group: Member Posts: 2,928 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,404 |
Try talking to him, 1 on 1, no distractions. Tell him how your feeling, and then let him talk. If that doesnt help, tell him your having thoughs that maybe you just werent meant to be.
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| *stephinika* |
Feb 16 2005, 02:30 PM
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yeah don't stay with him if he makes you unhappy...but talk to him about it. you should be able to considering he is your bf even if you guys have perhaps grown apart...but end it if its being painful to you.
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Feb 16 2005, 02:33 PM
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 Holla if ya hate me Group: Member Posts: 2,386 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 80,819 |
Maybe he doesn't know how to express his love, or maybe he is scared to get into a serious relationship and is scared of not being able to handle it. Give him some time, talk to him, if things dont change soon, break up with him if you want
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Feb 16 2005, 03:11 PM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
maybe hes comfortable with you and thiks that he doesnt have to do all those things because u know he cares and he knows you care...
I was like that because i was comfortable with him. |
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Feb 16 2005, 03:30 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
you just need to grab and say we need to talk and you need to tell him how you are feeling.....then if ocntinues to act that way...dump him without caring b/c he had it coming
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Feb 16 2005, 03:46 PM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
always talk it out. maybe there's something bugging him. or maybe he's just too immature and got tired of u. whatever the reason may be, talk to him. and god, two months? thats long? how old are u?
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Feb 16 2005, 04:48 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 71 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 83,615 |
THanks guys .. i've tried talking to him several times. But it never gets anywhere ... like if i say ... you aren't around as much. .. he's like .. I'm sorry i will in the future . But nothing changes. And I'm 13 and he's 14.
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Feb 16 2005, 05:07 PM
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 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
Dump him while you still can.
Or get in his face and talk to him. And if he tries to run, shoot him down; tie him up and slap him hard. =) |
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Feb 16 2005, 06:07 PM
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 :hammer: Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,849 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,700 |
There's really no point in dragging on a relationship if you're planning to end it later. And plus, you don't want to break up with him because you're afraid to let another girl have him? That's lame.
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Feb 16 2005, 06:18 PM
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You guys need to communicate.
Take the time to talk to him, confront him with what you're feeling. Maybe he doesn't realize that you're getting hurt in this. andd if he doesn't think of anything, maybe just maybe he not the one for you Same situation for me, everyone loves my boyfriend and his personality but evetually you'll know the real him. |
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Feb 16 2005, 06:32 PM
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 can't believe I let people call me Lynne on here 5 yrs ago o Group: Member Posts: 243 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,591 |
well first - im sry if i sound really...ionno..lol but 2 months isnt that long but newayz - to the point
tell him that he changed and you want the old him back...or sumthin.... why are you afraid to break up with him cuz of another girl? that would mean u still like him a lot n u dont wanna let him go juss yet...so talk to him. it might take him a while though, so be patient. |
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Feb 16 2005, 09:12 PM
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That really sucks. I think you should dump him because he's already flirting & liking another girl or you can talk to him about it and whatnot.
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Feb 16 2005, 10:30 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
maybe something's happened to him? wait a bit, and see if he's better. or maybe he's just gotten bored of the relationship? just because he was a good bf before doesnt mean that you have a duty/owe him to still be with him. its your choice if you want to dump him or not though.
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Feb 16 2005, 11:16 PM
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 Smile Group: Member Posts: 141 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,271 |
i say dump him, like you said he changed. what other people say doesnt matter cuz its a relationship between you and him not you and the other people or him and the other people. or you could confront him and tell him that he changed or something.
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Feb 18 2005, 07:18 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 71 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 83,615 |
Thanks i don't know if this affects it but, my supposedly "best friend" (not too fond of her) is the most popular girl ... pretty/sporty you know things like that ... and she LOVES flirting with him. Do you think this might have affected him?
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Feb 18 2005, 07:29 AM
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Another ditch in the road... you keep moving Group: Member Posts: 6,281 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,152 |
^^
well for a best friend sh esure sounds like a real treat it depends. is she hotter tht you? ifo anythings possible. but if he does have the eye, gte out of it now. i mean it aint gonna go away |
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| *Programmer* |
Feb 18 2005, 10:06 AM
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sorry to hear that. i hope you feel better
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Feb 18 2005, 10:57 AM
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you MUST talk to him and ask him..
maybe he just has issues he's not telling you.. ask him, comfort him.. maybe he does like that other girl and he's jus confused.. ask him, threaten to break up with him if he still doesnt tell you.. u have to know why he's being this way, dont go on wondering why u know? u have to know or else regrets will be made :( |
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Feb 18 2005, 11:31 AM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
two months isn't really that long.
 --- you don't want to break up with him because you don't want to give him to up to some other girl? that sounds selfish! i mean, you want to stay miserable with him just so that you can hurt the other girl. 
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Feb 18 2005, 12:50 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 5,585 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 38,082 |
Err...two months isn't long at all. Anyway, if he's changed, he's changed. You can't do anything about it because it you continue to bother him about it, he's just going to get more annoyed and you'll lose him anyway. If it doesn't feel right anymore, just break up with him even though it means losing him to another girl...I don't know..I think you should break up with him even though it means losing him to someone else because you're just playing with your own heart.
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