my friend.., wants to die. Options

[bad_girl]

let's see, i have this friend. she used to be mean to me and stuff in gr5 but i guess we're ok now. i hang out with her sometimes to play footie. anyway, she's been really down lately, her family fking pissed at her.. n teasing going on at school. i didnt realize that at first.. until she told me. she told me that she was tired of this and that she's really, really sad.. i pointed out that she seems to be always laughing and stuff, but she said that she just didnt want to show it. anyway, right now.. her msn name is: "I WILL COMMIT SUCIDE SOON. I SWEAR. I HATE EVERY1 H8 MA LIFE. EVRY1'S SO BITCHY. NOT GONNA LIVE NEMORE." and her auto-message is: "AutoMessage: i'm in the toilet, with a knife in one hand. wut will i do? take a guess." omg.. im afraid she'll really go kill herself. her sister just called her a porkchop and insulted her in her xanga.. a lot. it's sad.. hearing it from ur own sister that u're a porkchop. i tried to tell her all the good things about her and how she couldn't die because she'd miss my bday and all.. and she was all ,"sorry. i'll have to miss ur bday. im sorry. but i'll remember u, forever." and im like "noooooooooooooooooooooo!". i really dont want her to die over something stupid like this.. and that knife in her hand ... ugh.

i dont want her to end her life.. what should i say that wouldn't offend her and would help her want to live instead??? ...im so confused.. n scared. she just told me that she made a bloody mess.. let's hope it's not what im thinking.

[[[trOpIcaL]] kiS...]

wow, my friend's like that too! She always wants to run away and make herself fall down this huge hill with trees and stuff to kill urself on, and if you live, you can drown urself in a creek at the bottom. Anywayz, back to your problem, did you try talking to her about how like, "if you left, who would I have to tell my secrets with", sumtin like that. That usually haleps me, maybe it'll help yew <33

[shortiiex]

you really need to take her to a consuler, therpy..etc

[sunissed14127]

Well it sorta sounds like she's doing it for attention.....because any person that a relly, truly going to commit suicide, probably wouldnt tell anyone about it. If your really worried about her, tell a councelor/parent.

[Shattered_Hope]

she's probably going through those stages....talk to her and tell her that things will get better soon...and give her hope. If you think that this is getting out of your control, just...tell someone else...like your mom, dad, sister, brother, w/e....or even guidance from a counselor.

[alienchik]

my friend has some problems like that. I would talk to her or something. Get some help. I wanted to die before but I dont now because I have a great boyfriend and life is good now. Get some help for her

[xj_liana_tx]

she is really depressed, be as much of a friend as you can, care about her, that's what she needs.

[DanielleMaria05]

O my!
I guess just talk to her..... Don't be like, dont kill youself thats stupid, b/c she'll just actually do it, but let her know shes loved, and you don't want her to do it, Don't come out and say it, but, show her. Talk.

[LeSLiE]

It seems like a big cry for attention. I mean, if I was going to commit suicide, I sure as hell wouldn't tell anyone. That's just my opinion, though.

[*stephinika*]

^^
hmm that could be true but you can't tell...i'd rather be safe than sorry (sorry for the cliche). talk to her and try to get her help?





hey...5000 posts. lol

[xXirockhardXx]

Omg im sorry to hear this about your friend. You should really tell someone that you trust and that wont make your friend feel uncomftrable(sp?) Just look for someone that could help your friend. I hope everything works out

[aznhunnie6o1]

ATTENTION WHORE!! OMFG.. who the heck tells a friend they made a "bloody mess"?? You can totally tell she's doing it for attention. If she really wanted to do it, she should have done it by now. Correct? Instead of going "LyKe OmGsh!! I lYke ToTaLlY kaNt StaNd LiVing RigHt Now SO LyKe im GunnA go Kill My SeLf!!" or saying things like "Im iN tHe BatHRooM wiTh a KNife.. ect ect."

Everybody has one of those stages where they arnt going through the greatest of times... but it will pass... There are so many people out in the world that have gone through worser than her... I know some people that ACCUALLY have been through way worser situations than her.

If it's really something she wants to do, than it's her choice.

[sammehmyst]

^Yeah.. those situations can be possible. Some girl last year pretended to get raped and told everyone for attention...
k. on the other hand:
you should really get her help from a counselor or therapist of something... even if she is trying to get attention, she needs the help.

[racoons > you]

use your judgement?

attention or problem?

if its a, ignroe it she'll grow up

if b, then call therapy/councellor and be a godo friends. and maybe hide her scissprs, yeah?

[angelrevelation]

tell her how much you (and everyone else... friends... not family i guess...) care about her, and that she has so much to live for, etc. get her support, and maybe go with her to the school councilor. and send her nice messages everyday (IM, xanga, at school...)

btw what's a porkchop supposed to be?

[yukichan]

you really need to take her to a consuler, therpy..etc

ya i agree..i used to feel like that..my brother used to say the same stuff to me so i kinda know what its like..well be there for her and try and get her to see a counselor or therapist....

[whatiismae]

uh yeah, i dont think she's gonna do it. anyone who's really into it and seriously meant it would not talk about it so easily like that. and they would not flaunt that around. so.. tell her that you will never forgive her if she ever did something like that and you will just cease to even think about her because basically, she's leaving you and ditching you and by saying that no one loves her, she's saying you dont count as a person. so tell her that you want her to stay alive and if she ever did that, you would hate her forever.
hey, tough love works.

[Teesa]

talk to her as much as possible and try to be with her as much as possible. definitely talk to a counselor.

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

u need to tell her that first of all she has all these pple in her life who really care for her n she cant do that to herself cuz if she does then it will effect all of them. one person's death effect alot of pple. she's selfish to even think that. selfish cuz hurting urself means that u dont think highly of urself. she needs a boost of self confidence n also because there will b people who love her n care for her.

rite now it may seem like her life is a living hell n that's understandable becuase i do to. life is a bitch. thats a fact. its full of ups n downs but it always seems like its always full of downs but things always get better. she has her whole life ahead of her n she's willing to kill herself over something so small as that "family problems"? or watever it is.

n u need to talk to her about watever it is she is having problems with. she needs someone to talk to n needs someone to help her out. be that person.

[FireArrow]

Since this was a month ago, she probably died already if she DID actually suicide... which i doubt

[topsyturvy]

Well it sorta sounds like she's doing it for attention.....because any person that a relly, truly going to commit suicide, probably wouldnt tell anyone about it.

It seems like a big cry for attention. I mean, if I was going to commit suicide, I sure as hell wouldn't tell anyone.

ATTENTION WHORE!! OMFG.. who the heck tells a friend they made a "bloody mess"?? You can totally tell she's doing it for attention. If she really wanted to do it, she should have done it by now. Correct? Instead of going "LyKe OmGsh!! I lYke ToTaLlY kaNt StaNd LiVing RigHt Now SO LyKe im GunnA go Kill My SeLf!!" or saying things like "Im iN tHe BatHRooM wiTh a KNife.. ect ect."   

Everybody has one of those stages where they arnt going through the greatest of times... but it will pass... There are so many people out in the world that have gone through worser than her... I know some people that ACCUALLY have been through way worser situations than her.

If it's really something she wants to do, than it's her choice.

uh yeah, i dont think she's gonna do it. anyone who's really into it and seriously meant it would not talk about it so easily like that. and they would not flaunt that around. so.. tell her that you will never forgive her if she ever did something like that and you will just cease to even think about her because basically, she's leaving you and ditching you and by saying that no one loves her, she's saying you dont count as a person. so tell her that you want her to stay alive and if she ever did that, you would hate her forever.
hey, tough love works.

Since this was a month ago, she probably died already if she DID actually suicide... which i doubt

Agree with all of the above.. especially aznhunnie6o1.

btw what's a porkchop supposed to be? 

It's a saying we use in HK.. describes someone who's either fat, stupid, dumb-looking, or lame.. or all.

[Stupidxaimee]

wow i use to be like that, it was because after my bf dumped meeh, i thought there was no point of living. and i always blame people for things and i would make the worse of everything. But now i am over that because i relize there are ones who care for meeh in this world and if i do something stupid i would just hurt them. What you need to do is talk to your friend and find out wats really bothering herr and shows her that she is no love. Try to take her palces and make her anjoy life. Probably another thing u can do is talk to like the family of hers and tell them to stop whatever they are doing.Hmmm hope thta helps

[inthemudhole]

Attention whore.
Sorry, but that is how she sounds.