Is it bad to be in love with your best friend? |
 Feb 11 2005, 09:44 PM
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 And you kissed me like you meant it  Group: Member Posts: 15 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,796  |
i know this might make me sound really really stupid but is it really bad to be in love with your best friend? btw its a guy not a girl. I dont know if I should tell him I like him or what but I dont want to put myself out there and get hurt.
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| *mishyerr* |
Feb 11 2005, 09:50 PM
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Sometimes. It might destroy the bestfriendshipness you had before.
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Feb 11 2005, 09:54 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
I agree with Mishyerr, it can end up just ruining your friendship..It's better to be friends, than to be nothing at all, right? You can give it a shot, but just keep that in mind.
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Feb 11 2005, 09:55 PM
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And you kissed me like you meant it Group: Member Posts: 15 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,796 |
 thanks
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Feb 11 2005, 09:59 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Human Posts: 1,152 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,239 |
classic boy-girl-being-friends plot.
no, it's not bad, why should it be? but if you're going to tell him your feelings, be prepared on losing or gaining something, or nothing at all. think things through before telling him. |
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Feb 11 2005, 10:12 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
QUOTE(mishyerr @ Feb 11 2005, 4:50 PM) Sometimes. It might destroy the bestfriendshipness you had before.  i agree...or it might just stay the same... |
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Feb 11 2005, 11:59 PM
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 Clarinet King <3 Flute Prince Group: Member Posts: 28 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,914 |
sorry im intruding the girls room! but! i always fall for my best friend. either that. or i slam them against the wall in a fight. im a bi guy. actually. im known as being girls "girlfriends".. its kinda cool. we have all this girl talk..oops. well yeah. sidetracking. ... but yeah. its totally okay. u know them enough. but its just that. it could end the relationship you already have. life is short. do what you want
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Feb 12 2005, 12:06 AM
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 Oh babyy. :d Group: Member Posts: 616 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,708 |
I fell for my best guy friend... and now... we're just friends... not best friends anymore.. and we hardly talk...
So if you want to risk losing that, then it's your choice. |
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Feb 12 2005, 12:15 AM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
nah its not bad. i was in love with my bestfriend and now we're going out. but anyways u should tell him how u feel
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Feb 12 2005, 12:17 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,899 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,580 |
it mite destroy your friendsship or weeken it ALOT
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Feb 12 2005, 01:04 AM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
it might ruin it, or maybe he likes you back and that's good
 just try taking it slowly. like give small hints and go from there, and if he doesnt respond just let it go i guess  but hope it works out 
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Feb 12 2005, 01:04 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 5,585 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 38,082 |
It's okay, but telling him...Get to see if he likes you first or something and go from there. :] Good luck with it.
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Feb 12 2005, 01:20 AM
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 Bubble Group: Member Posts: 341 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,405 |
Nope... i fell in love with my best friend... and he told me that he didn't like me back.... a year and a half later... he told me that he liked me this whole time. He was just scared. Now we're going out... and i love him with all my heart
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Feb 12 2005, 02:30 AM
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dkjfdk . Group: Member Posts: 84 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,854 |
QUOTE(MusicalAngel @ Feb 12 2005, 1:20 AM) Nope... i fell in love with my best friend... and he told me that he didn't like me back.... a year and a half later... he told me that he liked me this whole time. He was just scared. Now we're going out... and i love him with all my heart Same here ! Except that my best friend liked me before I liked him ... but he didn`t tell me until I told him that I liked him. |
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| *stephinika* |
Feb 12 2005, 02:41 AM
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its really up to, because he could like you back and things could work but if things didn't, it could turn awkward and the friendship could possibly be lost. depends on what risks you're willing to take.
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Feb 12 2005, 11:49 AM
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And you kissed me like you meant it Group: Member Posts: 15 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,796 |
what happened was last year i liked him but hadn't like talked to him since 5th or 6th grade and he talked to me more when he found out and then i didnt like him for a while and told him and then we became best friends and i really dont want to lose that but i just really like him so much and i would want to know if there was even the slightest chance of us having something
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Feb 12 2005, 01:22 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 831 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,326 |
well does he like you back?
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Feb 12 2005, 02:06 PM
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 high on life Group: Member Posts: 72 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,497 |
that might kinda screw up your friendship, but i guess it's okay to tell him how you feel..
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Feb 12 2005, 02:25 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,075 |
if yall are best friends, they u can tell him almost anything.. if he's ur best friend.. he wouldn't mind. and yall would still be best friends.. or something a lil bit more..
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Feb 12 2005, 04:58 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
i think it's good and bad.
good- you can tell him anything. you're open to him bad- getting together may ruin your friendship. |
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Feb 12 2005, 05:01 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
*cough*relationshipforum*cough*
First you have to find out his feelings....so the pain will hurt less |
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Feb 12 2005, 06:24 PM
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I don't wanna start liking a best guy friend because it will destroy your bestfriendship and I would feel weird.
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Feb 12 2005, 08:54 PM
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i dont know.. maybe he likes you back.. but it really could ruin the friendship.. if i were you, i wouldn't risk it.
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Feb 12 2005, 09:24 PM
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Yes & no.
Bad: falling in love with your best friend might ruin you guys` friendship. Good: if your willing to take that risk then yeah go for it. |
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Feb 25 2005, 02:43 PM
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omg.. i sooo know how you feel...
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Feb 25 2005, 03:34 PM
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I liked my bestfriend... we dated and now we've broken up. but we're better friends then ever. So in your case maybe its the same. I would wait to tell him though.
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Feb 25 2005, 03:39 PM
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 I do it so good, I don't need nobody else! Group: Member Posts: 644 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 39,752 |
i think its great..i mean you guys ARE bestfriends? right? yeah..
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Feb 25 2005, 03:43 PM
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 hi Group: Member Posts: 1,478 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,897 |
it's bad if you hookup and it doesn't work out, then it's just awkward and weird.
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Feb 25 2005, 03:46 PM
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 aNNa BaNaNa >.< Group: Member Posts: 102 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 104,244 |
hmm... thats tough. I think that if you know that it would absolutely work out... take the risk... there are consequenses since you could lose a friend... but in the end it comes down to the question: "is it worth the risk?"
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Feb 25 2005, 03:50 PM
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Well from my perspective (and i am guy)... its bad.... cus when I go out with best friends and it doesn't end well our friendship is basically over....or struggling....
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Feb 25 2005, 03:51 PM
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It's okay as long as you know it won't wreck what you guys had before. But if you don't ask, nothing will happen, good or bad. It's good to take risks.
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Feb 25 2005, 03:53 PM
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 j'adore dior Group: Member Posts: 289 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,477 |
i dont have any best guy friends
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Feb 25 2005, 06:16 PM
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it hurts sometimes.......i fell in love with my best friend once and i think somehow i'm still in love with him, but he likes my friend and no matter what it won't ever happen because he only sees me as his best friend and nothing more...and i think i only see him as a best friend and i could only dream of being anything more
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Feb 25 2005, 10:00 PM
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i have the same problem
we were so close..then we made out nd went out twice..now we hardly ever talk..his friends say its cuz hes shy 2 talk 2 me now nd stuff like that..but i think we arent even friends anymore
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Feb 25 2005, 10:01 PM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
well start by hinting it out.
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Feb 25 2005, 10:07 PM
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 TOISU!! Group: Member Posts: 1,996 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,516 |
Uh...yeah it would probably ruin your relationship with him friend wise but hey...he might like you too!...But I don't think it's bad..
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Feb 26 2005, 05:07 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 35 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 104,752 |
well last year i went out with my bestestest friend in the whole entire world... we told each other everythinhg....we went out off and on and he ended up breaking my heart terribly....i begged him to come back so he did...and thenhe cheated on me.... now i dont think that he is such a friend at all anymore....he doesnt even talk to me...but now i am going out with this other guy and he is my best friend now...
i believe that you should be friends with someone and then go out with them and become best friends that way....so even if you break up, you will still be friends. |
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Feb 26 2005, 08:40 AM
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I am Sandy. Hear me roar. Group: Member Posts: 1,152 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,896 |
QUOTE(LEDO_D0RKETTE @ Feb 12 2005, 9:24 PM) Yes & no. Bad: falling in love with your best friend might ruin you guys` friendship. Good: if your willing to take that risk then yeah go for it. exactly. I like my best guy friend.. He knows but we're still good friends
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Mar 12 2005, 04:41 PM
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 kriz Group: Member Posts: 24 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 82,105 |
well it depends how long u have been friends?...i mean if it's been years n u guys are very comfrotable wit eachother..it be shouldn't be a problem..if ur still scared u can get either drunk or high n kiss him n tell him u care about him n see if he responds...if he doesn't kiss u back n asks da next day say u were realli drunk n u can't remember anything at all..it should work if u do it right
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Mar 12 2005, 06:28 PM
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 theres no i in slut...but there is a u Group: Member Posts: 208 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 86,257 |
no its not bad....just try and be kool with it...i mean...i like my bestfriend to...(guy not girl) and i think he knows but than again im not sure...i havnt really told him cuz well idk...just write him a little note asking him how you feel...(or have a friend do it....but than again it might be werid.....ive had to do that for a friend) but just keep it on the DL...if you to are really close he will so understand
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Mar 12 2005, 06:46 PM
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 to be loved by someone you love is.. everything Group: Member Posts: 1,207 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,205 |
I'm in love w/ my best friend. But now we're more than just best friends =]
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Mar 12 2005, 06:59 PM
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 Ooh, Miranda. Group: Member Posts: 234 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 105,609 |
i don't think its bad at all! except like everybody else said..it might end up destroying the friendship or making it awkward..so yeah..but then you can always take a chance. he might like you back and things might like you and everything..
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Mar 13 2005, 01:49 AM
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 i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
Bad: You might ruin your friendship with him. Or he might get very uncomfortable around, but feeling special at the same time.
Good: You know him well, so you know what he does and like. It would be a perfect match. |
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