Really, what is he trying to do? Options

[xj_liana_tx]

I have a really big crush on this guy, and he seems really honest (on relationship thing) to me, but today, i was just asking a friend if he flirts with this girl (who i think he might like because she is prettier, preppier, dresses much better than me, and she is much better at cheerleading, furthermore she is mixed, but she is dumber) in class, and she said that he sort of does because they talk in the beginning of class (He talks to her more than he talks to me, far more), and she also told me that she heard that he made out with some girls at homecoming (he is probably always wasted at dances). It gets me really jealous even if he wasn't really flirting, and i get into a really bad mood because it makes me wonder if he was just getting my hopes really high for fun

(refer back to this topic http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=62007 where it explains how he got my attention)


I really like this guy and i just feel really low right now because of these things my friend told me (it's not unbelievable)
What do you think he is trying to do?
I am really confused, and since our valentines' day dance is canceled, that's less chance for me to get to know his true feelings.
Please tell me what you think, i am feeling desperate because everything seems to be on the bad side right now.
Thanks.

[*Programmer*]

plenty of other guys out there....trust me you shouldn't feel depressed. no guy is worth you feeling low about.

and what you think you see in one guy you might find 10 times better in another

and if i can make you feel better. "will you be my valentine"

[xj_liana_tx]

^thanks, but really, i've NEVER met a guy like him, never a guy so close to perfection, and.. i've liked him ever since i moved here, i don't think i'll be able to get over him.

[mouse_3k]

furthermore she is mixed, but she is dumber

not all mixes are stupid

I say screw him. theres more. it dont matter, he obviously rather go for a girl thats a hoe. Now im sure you dont wanna be his hoe.

hopefully you dont wanna be a hoe at all so I say find someone that doesnt care about beauty i guess

[HongKongDong]

What's he trying to do? Be a "player"

=/

[sweetdreamsx3]

Yeah, I know exactly how you feel. The guy I currently really like flirts with some girls at school and he gives them piggy back rides and more. -.-

Anyway, who cares about the other girl? Have confidence in yourself and if he doesn't like you for that, there are plenty more guys you can get with. He's not the only one even though it feels that way. I have felt that way towards my ex before and he turned out to be a complete jerk.

[xj_liana_tx]

sorry steph, i am not saying all mixes are dumb, its just her, i get way better grades than she does is all i am trying to say.

i want to get over him, i tried and i tried so hard to distract myself with other guys, but i just can't, it has to happen spontaneously.

i know that confidence can be sexy, but.. with her there.. i just.. i try to fake my confidence so hard.

and steph, i think about 90% of the guys in school do care about beauty, it's just the way it is, and guys are really for the lust sometimes.

but the thing is.. i think it'll take too long for me to get over him.

[MeanBastard]

There are more fish in the sea! Chicken of the sea!

[*Programmer*]

your not in love. it's enphatuation..heh..i know it seems impossible to not think about him . But in about 2 months from now you be like w/e.

im about to be 20 so i've been threw alot of that....

[Shattered_Hope]

1.) there are MANY OTHER guys.
2.) Tell him to get his act straight.
3.) If a guy really likes you, he would look past your physical traits..he'd like you for your personality and nothing else.

[yukichan]

What's he trying to do? Be a "player"

=/

yup i agree..move on...it might be better...like someone said above, theres plenty of better guys...

[lilJdawg]

I think you should just talk to him about it. work things out.

[you suck]

i dont want to be the bitchy pessemistic one, but it doesnt sound like he really likes u. he mite have a minor crush but if he were really interested i think things would b different. dont worry just forget about him. he's just toying with your affection and thats just dumb. good luck with everything!

[xj_liana_tx]

^ i sort of feel the same way, i don't think he is "toying" with my emotions, i think he just never meant to make me think that way. I want to get over him and i tried to distract myself for so long, but in the end i just can't get my attention away from him. It's just impossible for me to forget about him (at least for now), plus all the things he did recently.

[whywasisostupid]

i agree with you suck. i mean he might have times when he might have liked you a 'little' but not like really.

just get over him. i doubt its love. there are others.

[Xprezsion]

Hey, I know exactly what you are going through. I like this guy and he is a year older than me. I met him last year and we said hi and made small talk and he hugged me and defended me against these guys that were bothering me, so I thought he really liked me. But he is the hot type that is really popular and flirts with every hot girl in the school. So my friend over heard him ask this other girl who is in his grade and is more popular and prettier that me to be his valentine and I was really crushed. Since then for about a week I haven't spoken to him even when it is obvious we made eye contact. It pains me to see him, because of how hurt I feel, I'm trying to get over him because I know nothing will ever be, I don't even think we are friends anymore. On valentine's day I was going to give him a box of chocolate and tell him how I feel, but now I decided that would be a bad idea in my situation. If it is possible, you could try that if the time is right, otherwise try to move on and forget about him. Sorry I wrote like an essay, goodluck with everything!

[xj_liana_tx]

Hey, I know exactly what you are going through.  I like this guy and he is a year older than me.  I met him last year and we said hi and made small talk and he hugged me and defended me against these guys that were bothering me, so I thought he really liked me.  But he is the hot type that is really popular and flirts with every hot girl in the school.  So my friend over heard him ask this other girl who is in his grade and is more popular and prettier that me to be his valentine and I was really crushed.  Since then for about a week I haven't spoken to him even when it is obvious we made eye contact.  It pains me to see him, because of how hurt I feel, I'm trying to get over him because I know nothing will ever be, I don't even think we are friends anymore.  On valentine's day I was going to give him a box of chocolate and tell him how I feel, but now I decided that would be a bad idea in my situation.  If it is possible, you could try that if the time is right, otherwise try to move on and forget about him.  Sorry I wrote like an essay, goodluck with everything!

that's exactly how i feel, i am trying to find the right opportunity, but... it seems like forever. It hurts me so much whenever he is talking to some other girls..

[racoons > you]

90% of guys do care about beauty, but once u've caught them, u can make them care about more important stuff... it'll all be allrigh, just take a deep breath, and ask! the worst he can say is no, you'll feel terrible for a few days, tehn you'll realize hes a complete jerk-off for not wanting you before

[xj_liana_tx]

all be allrigh, just take a deep breath, and ask! the worst he can say is no, you'll feel terrible for a few days, tehn you'll realize hes a complete jerk-off for not wanting you before

i don't think i'll get over it if he rejects me.
for instance, a while back, a guy really liked me and he shows it too, and he asked me out, but i never liked him and i just ignored him completely, he never gives up and so do i, so yeah...

[demolished]

I think he might still like you but he doesnt have the patient to wait for you to express your feeling w/ you or he is too shy to express his feeling w/ you. He probably want you to make your first move but he cant wait long enough until one of you guys express your feeling. Also, maybe he doesnt feel like he is not making you happy enough or get you to like him. He is probably tired of making you happy when both of you guys are not together. He might kind of lost interest in you or something, i'm exactly not sure.

i dont know why he want to be with someone is very pretty.


I'll edit this later .

[xj_liana_tx]

I think he might still like you but he doesnt have the patient to wait for you to express your feeling w/ you or he is too shy to express his feeling w/ you. He probably want you to make your first move but he cant wait long enough until one of you guys express your feeling. Also, maybe he doesnt feel like he is not making you happy enough or get you to like him. He is probably tired of making you happy when both of you guys are not together. He might kind of lost interest in you or something, i'm exactly not sure.

i dont know why he want to be with someone is very pretty.
I'll edit this later .

the thing is.. he's sort of been like this with the other girl who is better than me from the beginning of the year (we were both new, and she is just better than me)

[HongKongDong]

It doesn't matter if shes "better" then you. If he can't like you for you then he's not for you =]

[x shootingstar x]

talk to him more and keep in mind what those guys up tehre said =) i agree.. just ask him or i mean.. just let him know.

[MuNKeY]

Just because he flirts alot... doesnt mean he likes a person more. Personally, I flirt ALL the time, even with girls i hate... its just how i talk... hell, i probably even do it with guys (im straight). I'm not too sure about the other stuff though... thats your opinion

[espionage]

as baller says.. it's infatuation. get over him. -_-

[TrueMex3]

hes probably playing around wif u this whole time. he seems like a player to me. anyways... u should get over him. there is nothing about him that u should be jealous about now.