losing grip, distance between friends Options

[*islandgirl4eva*]

I'm a little bit afraid right now. I'm at the point where I feel distance between myself and...well...everyone. I feel there's even a strain between my best friend and I, and I really don't know what to do about it. It frustrates me to the point where I want to pull out my hair, scream, cry, break something...I'm losing grips on myself and who I am. It feels like I've been sucked into a place where I depend on another person to be happy, and I hate that.

I mean, I love my best friend...but I need some "me" time. The thing about that is when I'm without her for too long, I feel even worse.

If you even read this, thank you so much, I know there was a lot to read and I'm sorry about that. Sometimes it just feels good to vent and know that someone out there sees what you're saying.

Naomi

This post has been edited by islandgirl4eva: Feb 7 2005, 11:41 PM

[*mishyerr*]

I think first, you should find what is causing this isolation. It could be the depression caused by yourself, or an unconscious enviromental problem. You need to talk it out with someone.. There's not much we can do for you online.

And also, I do not understand your question, but I will try to help you. ^^ If you really wanna talk or something, pm me. =)

[*islandgirl4eva*]

Hmmm, I know what you mean. I guess I shouldn't really be asking what I should do. That's not what the point of this was. I really just wanted to vent. Thank you for listening (or reading) though. I really appreciate it.

[*mishyerr*]

No problem. =) Though venting online isn't as great as screaming and crying into a pillow while someone you trust is next to ya ;D;D lol.

[LittleLulu]

well i was never in ur situation before... maybe you;d want to talk to ur parents??? or a counceler?

[yukichan]

i kinda was in ur situation before...well i would say talk to someone u trust and tell them ur problems..well i used to only see the bad side of things..well that was my problem..so i would say talk to someone and try to find out whats bothering u..and then try to change that..well good luck..

[KissMe2408]

I was in that situation before. It's ok to just take a lil "me" time or whatever. Tell your friend whats up...if she's really ur best friend or whatever she'll understand. When this happened i went a few months not talking to my best friend lauren. And i mean i felt so much better, but yah of course i missed her. But the thing is when we did start talking again i realized that she wasn't the kinda person i would want to be friends with. And it turned out i was right. So i suggest you choose your friends wisely. If you're feeling like this then just be careful girl consider me an air conditioner, vent all ya want lol i know that was corny but ok

[Shattered_Hope]

everyone goes through this...you need to talk to someone, maybe your best friend? In other words...you need to vent your thoughts and feelings. After a while, it will eventually go away becuz you've met someone, you've gotten more happy and positive about life..or anything else that causes one to change.

[*stephinika*]

yeah i've been through that before so try not to worry. and yeah...venting works. but otherwise, if you really want, keep to yourself for awhile. if your best friend is truly your best friend, she'll understand you're just taking some time for yourself.

[xj_liana_tx]

i can relate, just act like nothing is wrong and keep bonding with your friends, i feel so desperate sometimes because i feel that i am actually not close to anyone and no one cares about me, but i just try to forget about it and move on.

[supahstah_luv]

Hey, it's nothing we all haven't gone through.. but we all get trhough it more or less intact and just fine..
schedule some time for you and your best friend to just hang out and do whatever.. maybe that'll help?

[DaTru KataLYST]

hey im in that situation right now! we can be isolatees together! =]