Tell me is this fair?, ....? |
| *Programmer* |
 Feb 7 2005, 10:58 AM
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 man somtimes i think i get the short end of the straw all the time....yesterday i was chilling with my gf.....right......now she is very protective....about other girls being around me....yeah.....so today i see her hugging another guy..who happens to be one of her best friend's who i have no problem with..i mean i really don't care. i trust my girl friend. sure it makes me a little jealous but nothing to flip out over..(yes im a guy who actually admits i get jealous)..well yeah later that day i run into an old friend of mine back from middleschool....she runs up and hugs me... my gf walks out of her work and see's the hug..(i was at her work waiting to pick her up).. after putting on a false impression to my old friend that "we" needed to get going...that she had to get home and we had to go..once in the car....she chews me out...for letting her hug me.....i mean i like my gf ALOT........but somtimes i just feel like.... im not being treated fairly.. and i don't get the same amount of trust that i give her...  . i mean in her past relationships she has been cheated on...but then again so have i....why should i have to get the bad end of that trust bracket. why should i be judged by what others have done to her before me. im not them....  i think this relationship is taking a turn for the worst.....cause im starting to get annoyed by it. Alot of my ex's are still good friends of mine....and this "gf" of mine is really starting to interfere with my relationships with my friends....please tell me what you think of this 
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| *instantmusic* |
Feb 7 2005, 12:59 PM
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is the juice worth the squeeze. figure that she doesnt trust you at all cause she knows you have the potential to be with whoever.
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Feb 7 2005, 01:15 PM
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 +Princess+  Group: Member Posts: 134 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,131 |
i brokee up with mah boii two days ago cus he didnt trust meeE...
1. have a talk with her... 2. ignore it this time but if she accuses you again thenn yeaa.. she reallii has her doubts 3. break up with her... up to you son.. |
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Feb 7 2005, 04:34 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i think you should talk to her bout it, tell her what you just told us or just break up with her
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Feb 7 2005, 05:05 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
no I dont think this is fair.
--Tell her the situation; that if she gets to hug her guy friends you get to hug your girl --friends... --you give her your trust and you expect her to return it --the fact that it's unfair that you get the consequences for some guy cheating on her... --But...just to let you know...it's very hard to change who you are...if someone is like a certain way then it will take them A LONG TIME to change. 
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Feb 7 2005, 05:21 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 5,585 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 38,082 |
Of course this isn't fair. Talk to her about this. How you let other guys hug her, but you trust her so you let her hug him. It's the same thing with you and another girl. You're just friends.
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Feb 7 2005, 05:33 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Wow, that is the exact same situation that my boyfriend and I are in, except I'm like your girlfriend. I agree- it's not fair, and my boyfriend pointed that out to me today, so I'm gonna try to be more open and let him hang with his female friends, even though I'm not too comfortable with it. Eh, I trust my boyfriend, but I just get really jealous, protective, possessive and whatnot. And, same as you, he's good friends with most of his ex's, and that makes me uncomfortable.
Well, I suggest you have a talk with her, tell her how is it hypocritical of her to yell at you for hugging girls, yet she can hug her guy friends. Show her how much you care for her, let her understand that it's bothering you. If you really do care for her a lot, then don't break up with her, try to work it out. My boyfriend and I have that talk a lot, and everytime we talk about it, we get closer to an understanding, and it's useful. Maybe it's not that she doesn't trust you, but she doesn't trust the girls... But yeah, that is exactly what my boyfriend is going through... |
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Feb 7 2005, 07:21 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,172 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,045 |
you really should talk to her . relationships require a lot of communication.
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Feb 7 2005, 07:29 PM
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 RiKACHANtEL Group: Member Posts: 3,876 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,230 |
aww thats really too bad. she needs to understand that yea she has a right to be jealous but that she doesnt have to worry. let her know how u feel about this whole situation and that she needs to slow her roll cause homegirl is straight up trippin'. tell her that u dont make a deal out of her hugging other people so she shouldnt do the same
if she still doesnt chill out u can always come holla at me..j/k |
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| *Programmer* |
Feb 7 2005, 08:02 PM
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the communication is there..
 .she just don't trust me based on her past experinces... not much i can do about it....it's really starting to annoy me...cause i told her a million times i don't cheat.... i dunno anymore it's just getting tiresome......lol reekah....you don't want me im ugly 
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Feb 7 2005, 09:08 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
i dont think thats fair...hmmm maybe u should talk to her about how u see it...well if she doesnt trust u then its no good...well anyways talk to her and explain how u r seeing it...
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| *stephinika* |
Feb 7 2005, 09:13 PM
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QUOTE(Shattered_Hope @ Feb 7 2005, 2:05 PM) no I dont think this is fair. --Tell her the situation; that if she gets to hug her guy friends you get to hug your girl --friends... --you give her your trust and you expect her to return it --the fact that it's unfair that you get the consequences for some guy cheating on her... --But...just to let you know...it's very hard to change who you are...if someone is like a certain way then it will take them A LONG TIME to change.  well said. i agree.  good luck.
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Feb 7 2005, 10:32 PM
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 baker o.O Group: Member Posts: 446 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 97,190 |
Trust and comnunication are 2 key parts in a relationship...
and i dont know how to finish this haha uhhh
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| *Azarel* |
Feb 7 2005, 10:42 PM
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Nothing in life is ever truly fair.
Suck it up or break up with her. |
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Feb 8 2005, 01:01 AM
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 KUH - rasy . Group: Member Posts: 20 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 83,456 |
i agree, it`s very unfair
tell her how you feel. if she doesnt believe you or wtevr then too bad for her cause a relationship is built on trust. jst tell her that you`re not her ex`s and she`s gotta start letting go of the past cause you cant go anywhere if you keep holding on 
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Feb 8 2005, 01:14 AM
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 cameraman swing the focus! Group: Member Posts: 1,880 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,328 |
no it isn't fair, tell her how you feel about it and hopefully she can understand
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Feb 8 2005, 01:14 PM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
You really need to talk to her about this. And don't get too jealous about her hugging her best friend that is a guy. I mean, c'mon it's her best friend. And i mean i guess when she saw you hugging some "random" girl from your past she got a lil jealous. I mean that's understandable. But really you need to talk to each other about this. But remember she probably is just scared to lose you because of what happened with her other bf's or whatever, so don't freak out about it too much, this happens in relationships most of the time. Be a man about it.
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Feb 8 2005, 03:23 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
tell her then. if she continues, then leave her. she aint worth it
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