How do I, change? Options

[pikimoo]

I love my boyfriend. Well, he used to be my boyfriend up until a couple of days ago when he just randomly decided that he wanted to just be my friend. He wouldn't give me a reason either...

So yeah, I was really hurt by that. Really really hurt.

I always told myself(and others) that I was going to wait until marriage to have sex.. or at least wait until I found the person I wanna be with forever.

And I did find him. And we did, I admit, have sex.

So.. I was with this guy who I wanted to be with forever and I thought he felt the same about me.. as he told me he did quite often..

And he dumped me..

I called him today. He seems to be doing fine. However, he is not the type to show any emotions at all. So he may not be.

He told me he still loves me, but he just can't be with me right now because he hurts me too much.
Which he doesn't. And now that he dumped me I just feel like there's no reason to live.. and every time I see him.. I end up hurting some random passerby physically. And I don't like it.. But I can't avoid him because we go to the same school.
It just hurts so much seeing him...

But.. he also said that if I want him back.. I have to change.. He didn't tell me what I need to change.. But I do need to.. And I really want him back.. So much...

The problem is.. I don't know how..

[HawaiiGirlie1212]

I know how you feel. But ask him why he broke up with you is just giving him another chance to reject you and hurt you again. my ex told me the same thing when he dumped me. And I believed him. But I soon find out it was a lie, and I was hurt more. Don't change for him. He is not worth it. I can understand how hard it is to just let go of someone you love so much. But trust me, sooner or later, he'll show you who he really is and how he truly feels about you. I suggest you don't do anything now. K uh here is what happened to me, my ex dumped me, and he said that he still love me but he just can't be with me cause his dad blah blah blah (just like your ex told you) and then a month later, he just started to act like an a-hole, trying to hook me up with this dude I don't even like, told me to get out his life, etc. So I think you should wait, don't do anything now. See who he really is. You might think he is not that kind of person. That's what I thought, too. But it turned out to be WRONG.
But If you really really want him back, go talk to him and ask him what is wrong? what do u need to change, or ask his friends or something.

[*stephinika*]

ask him what he says you supposedly need to change.

[HongKongDong]

^^Agreed

Ask him what he thinks need be change. Maybe something about your attitude or something... =/

[Wishful_Dream]

Okay. I know you really really REALLY want him back. But, I don't think he deserves you. Nope. I don't think he does at all. x_x If he dumped you in the first place, I don't think he would take you back.. if I were you, I wouldn't take him back instead. But anyways that's just me.. ><" follow with everyone elses' advices.. i think theirs' are better =)

[pikimoo]

Okay, so I asked him what I need to change.

He says I need to figure it out on my own..

I'm not willing to give him up. He is worth changing for..

[xj_liana_tx]

that seems really (what the guy told you).. lame, ask him again, but don't sound desperate

[sunissed14127]

Ask him what you need to change. If it's something like appearance, just try to get over him. But if its something like communication, try to fix it.

[sweetdreamsx3]

Sorry about the breakup....but iono, Maybe it's just me, but I wouldn't change for anybody. But if you want to, then go ahead.

Maybe you can get your friends to ask his friends what should be changed..because you know how guys talk, so maybe his friends would know.

[lilJdawg]

Just ask him. you won't know 'til you ask him. & you won't know because he won't tell you. that's pathetic.

[LittleLulu]

no offense or n e thing, but i think he's just playing you.

i understand if ur hurting...and i know its soo hard to let go, especially when u had such a commitment....but dont you think you would be happier if he was out of your life? find another guy.

[bad_girl]

if he gave u no reason at all, then he's being a real jerk . u HAVE to ask him what's wrong. u cant just get dumped for no reason at all, there has to be something..

[shortiiex]

tell him to look straight in your eye and tell you THE TRUTH

[Shattered_Hope]

I think he just wanted sex from what you're telling me...But I guess there's maybe one percent where I'm wrong..well think about this...you two do it and then he breaks up with you for no reason....uhh...there is but he just doesnt want to be the bad guy or w/e...I think you should forget about him...

[sammehmyst]

i wouldn't ask other people, this is your heart's decision. ask your heart what's best for you.

[yukichan]

ask him what he says you supposedly need to change.

i agree...u wont know what to change unless he tells u...and if doesnt tell u, he probably made a reason up to dump u...sorry to hear about it...hope u feel better..