Need Advice..., hurting..dunno what to do? |
 Jan 31 2005, 12:18 AM
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Senior Member  Group: Member Posts: 151 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,827  |
sry it didnt post when I went to post it....but here...
I know ive posted before about this but I just need some really good advice n help....My ex bf that im madly in love with we've been very lovey dovey n tellin eachother everyday that we love eachother and all of that, and this past week he has gotten a new gf and all the sudden he doesnt really talk to me. He is in RI im in PA I was talking to him over IM and he told me that he wants to be 100% honest with me that he loves me and wants to be with me and cant wait to come down then he said that since we cant be together with eachother now we can both go out with other ppl and that's then when he told me he has a new gf well I asked him if he did. The he said he didnt wanna hurt me and that he wants me to go get a bf so he wont feel bad. He's coming down im April n then coming back down here for college. Im scared cuz I dont wanna lose him cuz im soo inlove with him and. It's so hard I keep thinking about how this new gf he has he could fall inlove with her and that's what I dont want to happen. Now he doesnt really talk to me much or as much as we did before he got this gf we talked every single day n now it's just not the same. My heart is broken it really hurts. I just dunno what to do. I know people tell me to get over him or they say sumthing like he's not worth it, noone understands how inlove with him I am. Every single day he's on my mind 24/7 he's the first thing I think of when I wake up, and when I go to sleep. Ive never been this inlove with someone well I never really been with anyone..I need some great advice 
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Jan 31 2005, 03:32 AM
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i'm sorry but... isn't he your ex already? you guys already broke up, you should be over him by now.. okay okay. it's hard to get over someone.. i'm trying to too.. but it's not really quite working. =/ go hangout with your friends, and have some fun.. forget about him.. maybe he's pitying you.. not really loving you because well, he has a new girlfriend now doesn't he? =/ okay.. not the best advice.. i wouldn't call this advice at all either.. so sorries..
 edit: maybe you love him too much.. =/ or maybe you just need more time alone... or i think you should meet new people =) |
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Jan 31 2005, 05:58 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
yeah...isnt he your ex? go out have fun, meet new guys, get over it.
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Jan 31 2005, 06:23 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
like everyone else said, isn't he your ex? i think you should try and forget him, and move on, you cant just put your life on hold till he comes back for college.
meet new ppl. |
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Jan 31 2005, 09:18 AM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
live a little. "grab a spoon and dig in!" <--- from the show friends. there's always that period of time when it hurts and u miss them, but it'll pass. get out, chill with friends, and just enjoy ur single life for now.
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Jan 31 2005, 10:08 AM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
this is wrong...in my point of view, it seems like he's using you as his back up...if things don't work out with his new girlfriend he can easily sweet talk you into wanting him...besides, there is a reason why he's your ex boyfriend, he sounds like a complete idiot, if he really loved you, he wouldn't have a new girlfrind...
i know it's going to be really hard but get over him and forget him... 
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Jan 31 2005, 11:31 AM
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 Beer, helping ugly people have sex since 1862! Group: Member Posts: 429 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,574 |
thats damn good advice
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Jan 31 2005, 06:32 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 151 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,827 |
That is some good advice thanks..At times that's what i thought that he is using me as like a back up gurl cuz when things down work out with other chicks he comes back to me. probably cuz he know's im inlove with him and love him n would be with him in a heartbeat. Im tryin hard to move on but it is hard when you feel so strong for someone like I do for him.
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Jan 31 2005, 07:00 PM
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What chii said
but I disagree with everyone who said 'he's your ex, get over it' Just cause he's your ex, doesn't mean that your feelings for him have changed since yall have been dating. I totally understand how it feels to lose somoene to somebody else, but you need to fix your own heart. I can't say how, only you know. I'm sure you'll find someone much, much better than that guy though. Think about it, go party, meet some new guys, talk to your friends, cry, smile. Live for yourself, and try to get over him! |
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Jan 31 2005, 08:41 PM
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when he comes over ta visit you, talk to him. face to face, alone. don't go somewhere public, you needa confront him. if he's not lying then don't be afraid to tell him how much you really DO love him. tell him that if he really has moved on then all ya want him to be is happi. don't let your wants and emotions overwhelm you oki?
and ykno wat? if he really DOES care? he'll kno there is ALWAYZ gonna be a 100% chance you'll make it thru da relationship TOGETHER and STILL be IN LOVE. tell him dat he's hurting u even more bai telling you to move on. and tell him dat... u love... a lot. dats all i can really think of... but hey~ wateva u do. no regrets. |
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Jan 31 2005, 08:43 PM
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RaWr! Group: Member Posts: 603 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 90,404 |
Get rid of him. Long distance never/rarely works out. He's using you as a booty call when he comes to visit.
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Jan 31 2005, 08:48 PM
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 I scream at men with pink shirts. Group: Member Posts: 169 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 58,653 |
sometimes you just have to sit there and hurt for a while
heal yourself but at your own pace. he's not just your ex, he's someone you cared for. tale it slowly. everything works out at the end |
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Jan 31 2005, 08:57 PM
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RaWr! Group: Member Posts: 603 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 90,404 |
Just noticed you said this was your first releationship. Im curious how old are you if you dont mind me asking.
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Jan 31 2005, 09:11 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 151 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,827 |
I didnt say this is my first relationship. Just the first time ive been inlove with a guy ive gone out with. and im 16
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Jan 31 2005, 09:15 PM
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I love you <33333 Group: Member Posts: 2,928 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,404 |
tell him how you feel....like how he broke your heart and your in love with him. If he doesnt change his mind, then you'll just have to move on. Maybe it just want meant to be.
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Jan 31 2005, 09:19 PM
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RaWr! Group: Member Posts: 603 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 90,404 |
o. the way you said it sounded like that
 you're pretty young. Don't let him screw with your head. If he truly loves you then he would patiently wait till April to see you and not go out and get a girlfriend. Hes just using you.
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Jan 31 2005, 09:24 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 151 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,827 |
the gf he's with now he said he's with her cuz he cant be with me n that it's ok for us both to date other ppl till he comes back down here. he asked me if I was ok with that and I said yes even though I wasnt. I just dont want him to fall inlove with her. I made a comment to him about something like how his gf now ill go get a guy friend n then we can go on a double date n he said no he wouldnt do that cuz he would want to be with me. Im afraid that he will fall inlove with her then ill lose him forever. Were both still virgins and we've been talking about be eacothers first's were both ready now n we've been talking about it for along time and he said sumthin to me the other day that he dont want anyone else he wants me to be his first and that if his gf now wants to have sex with him he will try not 2 b/c of me. He said if I would get with someone else he would be upset about it n cry. I duuno that might sound confusing
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