He's making me..., so confused |
 Jan 27 2005, 09:07 AM
Post
#1
|
|
 Senior Member  Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 87,774  |
Look sorry guys I have posted this problem here before, but I really need you guy's help when it comes to things like this because..
There's this guy I like. And for like 2 months or so I've been feeling so confused, so depressed 'cause he's giving me no MAJOR signs that he likes me or whatsoever. It's not like he doesn't know I exist. We have a lot of eye contact (I mean, a lot, he never looks away), talk a bit and he basically does most of the things people say when a guy like you. It's okay when I know the guy doesn't like me, or doesn't even know I exist. If that's the case I would've given up. But THIS is different. It's not like he hates me or anything.... I don't know...argh I always feel depressed about this 'cause I'm like caught in the middle of something I don't know if it's worth waiting for or not. 
|
|
|
|
 |
Replies
(1 - 15)
|
Jan 27 2005, 09:17 AM
Post
#2
|
|
 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
hm..maybe you should get to know him better, then try finding out?
|
|
|
|
|
Jan 27 2005, 09:20 AM
Post
#3
|
|
 i'm lala. girly girl. Group: Member Posts: 1,531 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 31,888 |
just make the first move...
|
|
|
|
|
Jan 27 2005, 04:07 PM
Post
#4
|
|
 Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
All I have to say about this....
..communication is the number 1 way to know. Non verbal communication like eye contact can be nice, however you wouldn't know his heart. To know his heart, please talk to him... I regret not making the first move on my high school sweetheart. That eventually turned out to be my best friend in the end. That was my fault. I was too shy to admit my heart to her....but I found someone new...a lot later though... ..we all learn from our mistakes. Communicate to him. Open up to him. Find out his marital status...have a nice lunch with him =) Making good eye contact IS A GREAT START! Now all you need to do is escalate it...if you find out eventually he doesn't like you... ...at least you found out yourself and you can put your restless soul to peace =) Good luck! -Kevyn |
|
|
|
|
Jan 27 2005, 04:09 PM
Post
#5
|
|
 I have no life Group: Member Posts: 1,119 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,675 |
QUOTE(x__forever @ Jan 27 2005, 9:17 AM) hm..maybe you should get to know him better, then try finding out?  What She Said... 
|
|
|
|
|
Jan 27 2005, 04:11 PM
Post
#6
|
|
 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
QUOTE(captured_serenity @ Jan 27 2005, 9:20 AM) just make the first move... yup 
|
|
|
|
|
Jan 27 2005, 04:20 PM
Post
#7
|
|
 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Just becuz you make eye contact doesnt mean anything...eyes can wander you know...but the thing is...just talk to him...make the first move if you have to. Or..just not care..if he does like you..or have some intention towards you then he'd do something about it...but if he doesnt...then you'll know..
|
|
|
|
|
Jan 27 2005, 06:21 PM
Post
#8
|
|
 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
make the first move then. if he's too much of a chicken to do anything, make the first move. the worst that'll happen is that u'll get rejected. big whoop. there are always more guys.
|
|
|
|
|
Jan 27 2005, 07:03 PM
Post
#9
|
|
 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
Every guy is confusing.
If he doesn't show any major signs that he likes you; then maybe he doesn't. Get to know him a little better. He could be maybe just shy. If he continues to show you no sign whatesover, he's not worth waiting for then. |
|
|
|
|
Jan 27 2005, 08:41 PM
Post
#10
|
|
|
Newbie Group: Member Posts: 3 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 56,536 |
sometimes it's not that great to make the first move. lets say that you confessed to him. he could not feel the same for you or just totally like give you an impression that it totally didn't matter to him. i confessed to my really close friend like 2 weeks ago before he got together with his girlfriend. the result of that, he didn't give me any answer... instead, we sorta just left things like that and things are just not the same anymore. what's worse is that his girlfriend is a friend of mine. i have to watch them being closed together and i can't do anything. and it hurts to watch them together. it hurts a lot...
|
|
|
|
|
Jan 27 2005, 09:15 PM
Post
#11
|
|
 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
QUOTE(Kneuklid Romance @ Jan 27 2005, 11:07 AM) All I have to say about this.... ..communication is the number 1 way to know. Non verbal communication like eye contact can be nice, however you wouldn't know his heart. To know his heart, please talk to him... I regret not making the first move on my high school sweetheart. That eventually turned out to be my best friend in the end. That was my fault. I was too shy to admit my heart to her....but I found someone new...a lot later though... ..we all learn from our mistakes. Communicate to him. Open up to him. Find out his marital status...have a nice lunch with him =) Making good eye contact IS A GREAT START! Now all you need to do is escalate it...if you find out eventually he doesn't like you... ...at least you found out yourself and you can put your restless soul to peace =) Good luck! -Kevyn yup i agree...good luck... |
|
|
|
|
Jan 27 2005, 09:26 PM
Post
#12
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 60 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 89,632 |
yeah i'm sort of in the same situation. there's this guy in my school that was in my english class last semester. we'd talk n stuff but we were always too shy to talk outside of class. but once a few days ago in the new semester, i was walking outside not looking at anyone, and i heard someone go 'hey!' i looked back and so did he and he had a cute smile on his face. and he's been really nice. but today i tried sitting near where he does in lunch with his friends, and of course the one time i glanced over at him he was looking at me. but i couldn't tell if he was mad or he just happened to notice me. and then 3 minutes before the bell rang he got up and walked towards the direction his class was as though he didn't want me to say anything or maybe he just felt like getting up? and he usually glances at me when i walk by going to third. but we don't say much cuz first of all i don't know him well and i'm really shy. plus i only moved here about 3 months ago. but now i'm scared he's gonna like be mad at me or think i'm stalking him when i really just want to ask to sit with him at lunch but don't got the courage to do it. should i ask going to 3rd when he walks by if i have enough courage? it would be great if i could get your guys' opinions
|
|
|
|
| *stephinika* |
Jan 27 2005, 10:15 PM
Post
#13
|
|
Guest |
QUOTE(Kneuklid Romance @ Jan 27 2005, 1:07 PM) All I have to say about this.... ..communication is the number 1 way to know. Non verbal communication like eye contact can be nice, however you wouldn't know his heart. To know his heart, please talk to him... I regret not making the first move on my high school sweetheart. That eventually turned out to be my best friend in the end. That was my fault. I was too shy to admit my heart to her....but I found someone new...a lot later though... ..we all learn from our mistakes. Communicate to him. Open up to him. Find out his marital status...have a nice lunch with him =) Making good eye contact IS A GREAT START! Now all you need to do is escalate it...if you find out eventually he doesn't like you... ...at least you found out yourself and you can put your restless soul to peace =) Good luck! -Kevyn great advice and i fully agree.
|
|
|
|
|
Jan 27 2005, 11:26 PM
Post
#14
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
QUOTE(x__forever @ Jan 27 2005, 9:17 AM) hm..maybe you should get to know him better, then try finding out? yehh get to kno him better |
|
|
|
|
Jan 28 2005, 12:45 AM
Post
#15
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 63 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 90,611 |
no major signals? chances are he might only see you as a friend. but yea, talk to him more. let him get to know you and vice versa. things arent going to come to you if you sit there, you have to go after the things you want.
|
|
|
|
|
Jan 28 2005, 04:15 AM
Post
#16
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 87,774 |
Thanks so much guys. I liked your advices.
I've been trying to know him better and today...I saw this girl flirting horribly with him and at one point she was trying to touch him and he got so uncomfortable with it. So I looked at him...and said 'so now you're having fun with HER' he looked at me and seemed a little...hurt. After that I ignored him a bit and he tried to talk to me. Does that show anything, any chance he'll like me?? |
|
|
|
 |
1 User(s) are reading this topic (1 Guests and 0 Anonymous Users)
0 Members: