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 Jan 26 2005, 04:12 PM
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 -:- Nothen But Dreams -:-  Group: Member Posts: 82 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,146  |
im in kind of a bind rite now..im not sure what i should do...ok like my gf lives kinda far from me and i dont see her that often...its been fine for 6months now but recently it feels like we're drifting apart. she has a bestfrend who livess near her and is in love with her..he's always there for her wen she needs it..and yst she told me that her aunt was telling her that the bestfrend was a better choice then me because i was too far away and it seems like he cares more...so i asked her and she sed that she does love him..i gess the time they spend together has grown into something...but she also said that she could never leave me, like theres a force inside her that will not let her leave me, even though she loves him she couldnt be with him, like she cant see herself doing that..its just the feeling of "love" that she has for him...so i told her that she has to choose since if she doesnt chose and keeps it the way it is now, its like she has 2 bfs, one official and one who really does the part, if she doesnt choose then we'll just run into a larger obstacle later on cuz we could continue to drift...i dunno
 i dont want to lose her, yet i cant see myself making her unhappy...honestly i see that he could be a better bf then me, but i cant let her go, and she wont let me go...she's really confused rite now and doesnt kno what to do....if we do stey together, i still wont be able tosee her frequently until im in college which is in another year..so yea...im so lost rite now
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| *Azarel* |
Jan 26 2005, 04:13 PM
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Think about it. Would you want to have her be with you but always have someone else on her mind? Sometimes letting go is the best thing to do, even if it is the hardest choice.
Reminds me of Boyz II Men - Water Runs Dry, indeed. |
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Jan 26 2005, 04:21 PM
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-:- Nothen But Dreams -:- Group: Member Posts: 82 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,146 |
well she loves him...but shes told me that she will not leave me..so i dunno...i just want to know whats going on in her mind
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Jan 26 2005, 04:23 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
you did pretty good telling her she had to choose. I mean if u left it for a while more...you know that you two would've had more problems...why dont you just take a break from the relationship and just continue it when you finally go there next year? I mean..sometimes couples take a break from each other to try and wonder if they're with the right person. But..I guess your way is nice too...though kinda err...harsh? I mean if someone is there for them..they will develope some type of feelings toward that one person...it could be that she loves that guy like a bro.
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| *Azarel* |
Jan 26 2005, 04:24 PM
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... okay, this is the exact reason I don't actually give out good advice on a regular basis in the relationships forum.
I read you frigging loud and clear the first time you said she loved her best friend and that she wouldn't leave you. I'm not nearly as daft as you are. You asked for advice, you got it. And just because you don't want to even accept or consider the advice I gave proves that you don't want any input except for people to tell you to work it out and stay together. You'll never know what's on her mind. |
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Jan 26 2005, 10:19 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
" if you love someone let them go, if they come back to you, it was forever yours. "
you made the right decion to let her choose who she wants to be with. i think you should let her go because long distance relationships doesn't work that well. since her bestfriends lives closer to her, then it's the best for her. |
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Jan 26 2005, 10:31 PM
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she has mind of someone else already. let her go and be w/ that person cuz long distance relationship doesnt work that often.
i agree w/ ledo_dorkette ... |
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Jan 26 2005, 10:37 PM
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 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
^agreed with top posts :]
You should break up with her. If she's in love with someone else too, oh that sick whore. Break up with her because even though you love her and she loves you, she's not worth a penny of your time. |
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Jan 27 2005, 12:09 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 104 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,040 |
QUOTE(LEDO_D0RKETTE @ Jan 26 2005, 10:19 PM) [font=Arial]" if you love someone let them go, if they come back to you, it was forever yours. " some believe that you let them go casue they hurted you and they dont wanna be with you... you should really talk to her becasue if she loves him, then why doesns eh want to be with you, does she still love you or just want to be with you, does she need someone, let her be with the one she is closest too and loves.. |
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Jan 27 2005, 09:05 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
if she already told you that she loved him...i think you guys should just break up.
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Jan 27 2005, 11:08 AM
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 dude i got gas Group: Member Posts: 38 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,119 |
Oh honey, dude! YOu need to get urself together. She lives soo far away and if you guys are drifting apart, JUST END IT. She loves another guy. If she can't leave you for another guy she loves, then you just end it with her. It's going to hurt, because when she kisses another guy, when she does stuff with another guy, when she has sex with that guy, YOU ARE GOING TO BE HURT SO BAD. You need to just stick at being friends.
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