Shyness..., ruins it |
 Jan 22 2005, 02:16 AM
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There's this guy I like in my class, and I'm pretty sure he 'likes' me 'cause he tries to talk to me, he plays with my hair etc. -when he normally acts like he doesn't care 'bout girls-like NOTHING.
I've told a couple of people that aren't in my school about this and they told me to get a mate and...ask him who he likes and sorta do the trick- get him ask me out, but I REALLY can't do this 'cause in my school it's just...almost like a crime to tell people who you like. It spreads to the whole school in less than a day and it's just embarassing...if I do that it'll probably be dead end 'cause he'll freak out- and I don't know if I can deal with all that pressure of people teasing and shyt. The problem though, is we're both shy...and I just hope he could...y'know ask me out or something. Sorry ithis sounds so confusing -but I really dunno wat to do 
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Jan 22 2005, 02:47 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
maybe you should write him a note...or call him. this is hard, cuz i'm not shy.
edit// 1000 post!! yay 
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Jan 22 2005, 02:51 AM
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 define our lives for us. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 11,656 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,293 |
^ congrats!!
Well, yeah. Write a note. Or talk to him on AIM? I'm shy, too. But when it comes to the guys I really REALLY like.. I flirt.. a lot. And basically he lets me bother him and draw on his stuff.
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Jan 22 2005, 02:53 AM
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 Apr 24 '05* 1000 posts! Group: Member Posts: 1,184 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 56,049 |
yeah, it goes around our school in less than a day too. so i never told
 .hehe.. u guys have really got to get over ur shyness. maybe yeah.. get a friend to ask him who he likes. but dont tell the friend that u like him, maybe ask ur friends if any of them knows? |
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Jan 22 2005, 04:09 AM
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 High Voltage!∞ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,728 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,157 |
QUOTE(x__forever @ Jan 21 2005, 11:47 PM) maybe you should write him a note...or call him. this is hard, cuz i'm not shy. edit// 1000 post!! yay  agreed. a note or poem would be cute stick it in his desk or locker 
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Jan 22 2005, 06:10 AM
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Is it really lame if I ask him out? I mean is there like a rule or anything that say it's embarassing for a girl to ask a guy out? *shudders*
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Jan 22 2005, 07:26 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
like the above said, write him a note. no it is not lame if a girl asks a guy out, it's perfectly normal, most guys prefer taht
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Jan 22 2005, 08:22 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 87,774 |
Thanks loads for the advice, guys. I'll try...to write him a note, buh what should I write on it? :satisfied:
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Jan 22 2005, 09:22 AM
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 Brown hand smash Group: Member Posts: 654 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,582 |
QUOTE(x__forever @ Jan 22 2005, 2:47 AM) maybe you should write him a note...or call him. agree!!! lf your shy, just give him a call. You can make sure that no will know about it, just the two of you. l feel uneasy if my crush was near |
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Jan 22 2005, 10:08 AM
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yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
no..girls asking guys out is NOT lame...ahhaah that's probably cuz i've asked guys out.
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Jan 22 2005, 10:14 AM
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call him or something..aim him..theres lots of stuff you can do
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Jan 22 2005, 03:40 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
QUOTE(x__forever @ Jan 21 2005, 9:47 PM) maybe you should write him a note...or call him. this is hard, cuz i'm not shy. edit// 1000 post!! yay i agree...well except for the shy part... |
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Jan 22 2005, 05:17 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
tell him...face to face..
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Jan 22 2005, 05:27 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
yeah, i'm really shy too. but when i'm with a guy i like, i flirt a lot. i agree- write a note or call, or tell him on AIM.
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Jan 22 2005, 05:50 PM
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 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
QUOTE(mistaken_identity @ Jan 22 2005, 9:22 AM) Thanks loads for the advice, guys. I'll try...to write him a note, buh what should I write on it? :satisfied: Write to him that you like him.. so what if the other people laugh; it's not like they're brave. |
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Jan 22 2005, 06:06 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,831 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,324 |
shyness really sucks, like you lose great opportunies and such and yeah it seems like girls always have to make the first move nowadays. but yeah a note is cool.
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Jan 22 2005, 07:12 PM
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Why don't you just ask him, or call him up? I hate boys that are really shy, then the girl would have to make all the moves.
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Jan 23 2005, 05:08 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 87,774 |
Thanks for y'all replies.
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Jan 23 2005, 11:31 AM
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 tower over me Group: Member Posts: 1,190 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,717 |
It's never lame to ask someone out. It just shows supreme courage :D
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Jan 23 2005, 12:46 PM
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I am shy too, but try to go over your shyness like have a moment that you two would just have a LOT of fun, and that is where you make your move
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Jan 23 2005, 02:55 PM
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yeah i used to be shy, but not so much anymore. if you really like him just try to call him or talk to him or something. just go for it
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Jan 25 2005, 09:21 AM
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I said I'd try what you guys said, hey. Thanks but I'm sorry I didn't...i'm just that pathetic you know. It's so hard 'cause after the holidays we had he seems..a little different to what he used to be. Not that I mean it in a bad way, but he seemed to act a little different around me.
Today he talked, flirted a little with me, and for the 3rd time I've known him he's told me my hair is beautiful. I mean, who the hell would say things like that to a girl? I dunno if I'm taking this personally but I just don't know if i should let go or not... It seems like he's more in love with my hair than actually liking me myself.
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Jan 30 2005, 08:04 PM
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 brandon demarin Group: Member Posts: 287 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,512 |
well maybe he really likes u but he duznt really no what to say cuz hes getting nervous so he compliments u about ur hair ya know? :)
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Jan 30 2005, 08:06 PM
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brandon demarin Group: Member Posts: 287 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,512 |
QUOTE me u!
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Jan 30 2005, 09:19 PM
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 its jonny the homicidal maniac!! Group: Member Posts: 84 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,235 |
QUOTE(xSWEETxCANDiix @ Jan 22 2005, 4:09 AM) agreed. a note or poem would be cute stick it in his desk or locker yep i agree too |
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Jan 30 2005, 10:25 PM
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 NO. I'm not 13. or 14. or 15. or 16. Group: Member Posts: 4,616 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,577 |
if the guy seems clueless about girls usually, then write a note or something =]
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Jan 30 2005, 11:05 PM
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ya there's this guy i like at the school im at. i just moved down here about 3 months ago and i had a class w/ him last sem and he sat next to me. he was funny and really nice n stuff. and i think if i wasnt so shy i couldve been friends w/ him by now
. but um anyways, he'll walk by in the halls and he'll glance at me usually...it's sort of wierd. but we're too shy to say hey or anything. and i dont know if hed want to be friends with me or not so im scared on what to do and that my chance is almost gone...got any ideas?
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Jan 31 2005, 08:40 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 87,774 |
Wow thanks for all replies. =D
They were great, seriously, and now I've gotten to know this guy a lot better I think he really does like me. It's getting a step further and hopefully he'll ask me out........ |
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Jan 31 2005, 08:43 PM
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awz.. dun be afraid to ask him PERSONALLY... dun ask his friends if ur really afraid its gonna spread but go ask him if u can... or else... give him lyk... HINTS haha lyk spending some hang out tym with him (with ur friends or with his) =]
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Jan 31 2005, 09:34 PM
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I love you <33333 Group: Member Posts: 2,928 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,404 |
QUOTE(x__forever @ Jan 22 2005, 1:47 AM) maybe you should write him a note...or call him. this is hard, cuz i'm not shy. edit// 1000 post!! yay ditto. |
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Feb 2 2005, 06:43 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 87,774 |
OMFG guys...he just went online (once and only time) and he asked me who I like. I told him I like him. I dunno what happened but I asked him who he likes and he said "actually nobody". I feel SO bad, sooo lame. I am dying :( And after that he said bye.
That's all I got. I think he hates me now. :( |
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Feb 2 2005, 07:56 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 87,774 |
PLEASE someone please help me =(
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Mar 1 2005, 07:03 PM
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You guys must be in grade school still, sounds really immature
but yah, I'm really really shy, and if a guy liked me I wish he'd just tlk to me, because if you talk I will answer but I won't talk to a person about senitive subjects, i'm too scared..
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Mar 1 2005, 10:49 PM
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When it comes to these mushy stuff, I'm pathetic
Bad thing is that once a guy becomes my friend, I will never like him more than just a friend. So consquently, I always have crushes for guys I don't know. Not good either, especially from someone who's way too shy to go up to a guy and talk to him. I swear, I'm one of the most shyest person you will ever come across. - Let's just say that once back in grade 7, people made me try to dance with this guy I liked (he knew and he liked me back. but i found out he was a player later). I wouldn't, so this big guy I knew, he dragged me across the gym. But I fell, and he still dragged me by the legs, but I still wouldn't dance. Fortunately (?), a teacher saw and told him off for pulling me. |
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Mar 1 2005, 10:52 PM
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QUOTE(mistaken_identity @ Feb 2 2005, 6:43 AM) OMFG guys...he just went online (once and only time) and he asked me who I like. I told him I like him. I dunno what happened but I asked him who he likes and he said "actually nobody". I feel SO bad, sooo lame. I am dying :( And after that he said bye. That's all I got. I think he hates me now. :( Referring to my previous reply, that's why I try not to like guys I know already. Since whenever that happened, it never worked out. Then again, I always try to get to know them through MSN or something first. So yea. But it always ruin our friendship I seriously don't have a clue about guys.My friends are ALWAYS coming me for advice about relationships, & usually whatever I say, it turns out for the better. But for me, I'm clueless in this area and have never been in a relationship whatsoever before 
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