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[x_NeverLetGo]

Yah, some people may have seen me post about friend-ish problems. And its really troubling me. I hang out with these popular people and the only reason i do is because the unpopular people are just .. annoying ... no offesne. but the people i hang around with, they always say we are best friends. bullcrap. i hate them. everytime i try to say my problems they get mad because they think i worry too much. I`m always so tense about it, but sometimes they can be great friends, always there. but everyday i see them exchange hugs and i just sit there and watch. although i hang out with them i don`t feel like i`m not in the "group". i don`t want to hang out with them, but i don`t have a choice. although i don`t like them, i hate the others more, people in this school are just hopeless. please help

[cewinee]

holy shit i went through the exact same thing 2years ago when i moved n went to a new school.. i know wat its like hehe =) i felt like THEY were the odd ones out of my world hahah cant explain.. anyway.. is ur school all full of groups? try to jus find one person that u can related to. surely there must be one or even two ppl who are *normal* hehe =) thats wat i ended up doin.. i personaly hate hanging out in *groups*.. they get so sterotypical.. anyway if my adviced sucked lemme know.. haha =) gluck..

[Outloved]

Aww hun, my friend is going through that kind of pressure too, just not the same situation. I suggest that you go and talk to them about it, if they don't understand you, their not really friends. Real friends will accept you for who you are and will not leave you out. Not all unpopular people are 'annoying.' I actually think, people who are not so popular is more humanish than popular people. You'll make so much more friends if you start talking to others, they don't bite.

-Keish

[x_NeverLetGo]

Thanks you guys really made me feel better. But the thing is i go to a small international scool with only 30 people in my grade and most of the popular people i have tried to hang out with and it was just .. a pain, i would love to find that one or two people that i could trust, but they are all taken you know? they have their own partners in class and stuff. Thanks loads!

[lulu424]

[Nicolatofu]

uh, don't spam please and thanks!
Well if you are still reading this topic, I just want you to know I kinda went through the same thing last year. But you never know, when someone might come along, or if you have misjudged someone. So try to keep an open mind when it comes to making new friends. But don't just hang out with people you dislike so that you aren't alone!

[Shattered_Hope]

what can I say? Nothing you can do if you dont try and make an effort...or just find some other outcast...[no offense] but that's what you are...if you cant find anyone..you will be considered an outcast..

[Xprezsion]

Hey, I'm going through a similar problem. All I ever hear out of a hand full of my friends is "cut you hair, it looks really bad", "Stop trying, he will never like you", "You're beast/fat", "Can I copy your homework", "Come with me *insert place* I don't wanna go by myself. I mean What the hell is the freaking boogi man gonna come out of the bathroom or is the freaking teacher gonna murder you if your alone, I mean come on learn to be independent. I'm trying to slowly break away from these types of people, maybe you could try to be extra friendly and make friends with some new, nicer people, although that might be hard if there are only 30 people in your grade, there are like 120 in mine. Goodluck .

[*wind&fire*]

well then change groups... problem solved...

[lilJdawg]

tell them that you don't want to be friends with them before. i think you should concentrate on your school work, you don't really need friends. try to make friends with the non-popular, some of them aren't Annoyingg.

[lovescream]

I went through that before. Move on. Annoying people turn out to be cool once you know them as a best friend. ;]
Like me.
I'm annoying. But my best friend and I are close as hell.

[sammehmyst]

sucks for you.
sorry, but i can't help. that's your fault for picking popularity over good friends.

[to-devastate]

i'm going through the same thing.
but; i do have other friends.. so its good =)
ditch them; find another friend because if they're making you unhappy, they aren't worth your being friends.

[pinayprincess]

thats like a whole circle...i dont think you can do anything UNLESS you just want to hang by urself...

[bad_girl]

omg same thing happened to me! this september.. we drew the line. haha cos she got mad at me for that stupid song (as seen in my post). they were like the more *popular* people. but now i hang out with some of the *not-so-popular* people that i want to be with. actualy, i hang out with everyone. it's better to be urself and not popular than to be someone u r not. *damnn im so unpopular this month cos everyone hates me =[* lol. lucky for me.. there are 2 groups of popular people and only 1 person hates me in the popular group. just be urself, u'd be happier that way, even if that makes u a loner.

[lilxroxy]

i go to a small international scool with only 30 people in my grade

oman. are yu serious?

[sheddingtears]

i'm kind of going through the same thing. i have best friends that hang out with the more "social" type of people, so wherever they are, i usually follow, & sometimes i feel as if i don't always belong there. but i really don't have any choice because hanging out with the "less social" people doesn't make me feel right anyway.

[misoshiru]

sucks for you.
sorry, but i can't help. that's your fault for picking popularity over good friends.

sorry, but i agree.

[imenlightened]

i think what u have to do is to gravitate towards other ppl, so that they get concerned and stuff... if they think ur leaving them, they'll be somewhat nicer to u... hop i helped!!

[*stephinika*]

sucks for you.
sorry, but i can't help. that's your fault for picking popularity over good friends.

sorry but she's got a point...just try to talk to other people.

[x_NeverLetGo]

Thanks ^_^ but its not like i choose popularity over friends, its just like, as i said we have few people in our grade so you either hang out with one group our another and ... i tried hanging with the others and it was ... just ... not my type so i really dont know what to do.

[Wishful Thinking]

Thanks ^_^ but its not like i choose popularity over friends, its just like, as i said we have few people in our grade so you either hang out with one group our another and ... i tried hanging with the others and it was ... just ... not my type so i really dont know what to do.

I know how it feels haha... ><" Except, I'm in a new school and everyone is in groups. Even if you know one person, there is another person that might dislike you.. so if you try to join, they might be really mean ya'know? but it's alright.. you don't have to hangout with them.. you can be well, a loner. hang by yourself. it's not that bad. ><" I only hang with one person.. but its kinda like a group since many other people come in and join.. from really smart people to really nice people. =o This guy called me a loner in school, I kinda uhmm punched him.. but he deserved it.
anywaysss, if i were still in your situation. i wouldn't care about popularity. popularity isn't THAT important. =/ yeah, sometimes the popular people are less annoying than the unpopular... but that's not the point. some people that are popular are REALLY extremely nice. you just have to find the right people.

[xj_liana_tx]

i sometimes feel left out too, just keep your mind open, think about what these people are going to become in the future, and think if it's really worth it being friends with people.

[ilauqh]

maybe u can talk to one person in ur 'group' alone one day and somehow mention what he/she thinks of ur 'group' he/she might feel lyke they are left out like you... and maybe there are 1 to 2 otha ppl that even feel the same way. then u can actually start ur own group and have real friends... OR... find ppl who aren't unpopular or popular.. there are ppl in the middle, at least at my school... bc i am.

[istolearock]

wow i had that problem b4 too but minus the popular part. sometimes friends don't understand where you are coming from. no you don't need to go and get yourself new friends. all you have to do it talk to them about it and try to explain yourself. if that doens't work then maybe you need to find a person who is willing to let you vent... if not, then make a xanga online that no one knows about and write exactly what you are feeling. i know it sounds really pathetic but it has really helped me in my situations of need.