bullies.., help. Options

[bad_girl]

long story.. but i need help.

ok.. so there's this girl. she used to be my bestfriend, until she accused me of stealing a song she had in her xanga. cos i, too, used the same song, and she said that i copied her. immature. but she hated me and such till now, she still does. and her hating me caused her friend (a girl in a grade higher) to hate me too. let's call her friend J. well J has hated me ever since and bullied me and such. so one day.. we were in the caf with my friends. she sat down next to a girl i didnt really talk to, *pointed at me* and said "is she ur friend?" that girl said "i dont know" and J said "well, good choice." that made me pissed at her and stuff.. but i pretended to ignore her. then another day.. a few days after i posted my new years resolutions on my xanga.. one that i made up *in the year 2005.. i hope to: have a sex change operation*. hey, it was a joke, it was supposed to be funny, right? well she didnt think it was a joke, and that day in the caf her *friends* brought one of my friends over to her table and told her that i needed a sex change operation. they were whispering and laughing very loudly. so when my friend came back, i asked her what they said. and she told me. so we spent the day discussing what a b*tch she was. and that night, i posted on my xanga saying that they were being very *superstitious* and *immature* and that she was the one who needed a sex change. then.. another day came. and it was around 10 PM, well J called me for some bloody reason, and she said that her friends were being stupid and posted on my xanga. i said i didnt care, hung up and checked my comments. well, there were about ten million comments on how J wasnt the one who needed a sex change but it was ME and that i was being stupid.. etc. all in swear words and stuff. then i couldnt take it anymore.. burst into tears and called another friend. let's call her N. well N told me that i should tell on J the next morning, and so i posted it up that they were going too far and stuff and that i couldn't take it anymore. well then J called me again, and asked if i was really going to tell on her and her friends (obviously she told them to comment then). the next day, i went with some of my other friends to the guidance council. the counciler (let's call her Mrs.C) was very patient, listened to our whole story and stuff.. and my friend also commented on how J was rude to her behind her back. Mrs.C said that we could go to her if J was teasing/bullying us in between that day, to the day after. then the story goes.. and we walk back into the caf again. well we were in the caf, J was there too. she was being very stupid and sarcastic and kept going: oh HIII, LAURIEE. so did u have FUN teling on us at GUIDANCEEE? and at that time, my friend also told me that J was the b*tchiest person on earth, ever seen. then we were eating our chips and drinking and stuff.. and suddenly J's friend came over with a CD. the CD had a label saying: "laurie's conversation evidence". i mean, who would ever do something so stupid? print out EVIDENCE? evidence of what? her bullying me?? i didnt want to have anything to do with it, so i didnt take it. gave it back to her friend who just came to school 2 days ago and happened to fit in so well like glue to paper. so i went back to Mrs.C and told her what they did, she asked if J was in the caf at that time.. i said yes. so Mrs.C said that she'd talk to J about it in the caf. then me n my friend hid in the other caf.. becos we didnt want them to tease us anymore. then we went in the lab for photos.. and when we came out, my accusing ex-best friend was there. she kept mocking me like this: "omg, im going to Mrs.C now to tell her that im being bullied!! i am SUCH a tattletaler, such a baby." and stuff.. i just ignored her. spent the whole way home *crying*. i know, i feel so stupid. so what should i do?? i mean.. i cant do anything. should i tell my parents that i do not like it in this school and request to switch schools? should i go to guidance again? should i even go to SCHOOL and continue being teased?? please help.. i have no idea what to do. sorry, if my grammar was weird.

oh, right. i forgot to tell u that afterwards this friend of J's came to me and said "u wont tell on me right? well lemme tell u, J told on u to Mrs.Mihaly." me: "wtever."

[Oreo_bro]

your ex best friend was a bitch.

Just ignore her and make a new xanga is th efirst thing you can do.

Second go tot he principle and have a word with them, and if you explain it clearly enough parents should be called and this J would be in big trouble. Best thing to do right now is ignore her, she will get mad at that and try harder but dont let her win. By letting it upset u she is winning. Cry at home if you need, but at school be the strong girl you are on the inside!


Good luck and dont be scared to ask for help from adults.

[bad_girl]

thanks.

[Oreo_bro]

thanks.

hey email me if u need any thing ok? i really do hope things get better for you

[Wishful Thinking]

in a way i'm being bullied.. stupid people pick on me =.=" but it's more of a joke and friend's way really... >.> i still hate them =D -cough- (if your one of the people that knows me.. you will HAVE to know.. that i'm kidding okay? okay! ) yaa i get polked at school a lot.. even by strangers i barely know.. >.> except the strangers i kinda.. am really rude to them afterwards.. ><" i dont want strangers poking me alrights? ><" so yeah.. uhm i think you should erase everything on your old xanga and write something reallllllly plain like, "today i had a great day. i went to the mall with my friends and we went shopping" or something i dunno. then leave it at that and make a new xanga. =o and only tell a few close friends.. that you are SURE that won't tell that "J" girl.. overall just ask that "J" girl to leave you alone... and ignoring doesn't always help ><"

[lyin_in_wait]

over a freakin song?! wow people have issues, well get some dirty connections back J into a corner and knock the sh*t out of her (im kidding) well good job on telling someone your problems and not solving them on your own (no thats not sarcasm) because she needed to be set straight but if it comes down to it tell your parents about it, and maybe a school change isnt such a bad idea i mean youve tried everything else right? good luck

[misoshiru]

your ex best friend was a bitch.

Just ignore her and make a new xanga is th efirst thing you can do.

Second go tot he principle and have a word with them, and if you explain it clearly enough parents should be called and this J would be in big trouble. Best thing to do right now is ignore her, she will get mad at that and try harder but dont let her win. By letting it upset u she is winning. Cry at home if you need, but at school be the strong girl you are on the inside!
Good luck and dont be scared to ask for help from adults.

i completely agree. your ex-bestfriend is messed up. getting pissed off over a song? also, you could have your parents get tell the school, your school will probably act faster that way.

[177emories]

okay i read ALL that... your still young that wont effect you much, you know what? if some girl did this to me! i could kick their ass hard! i would hunt them down and beat the fcuk outta them, i don't take this bullshit from anyone. anyways in your case you seem hurt by them which you shouldn't since you still have your otehr friends with you, don't start anything with them, and it it doesn't slow down then they really have NO life. don't move to another shcool because of them, don't not go to shcool because of them. don't get effected with exams and all, you'll do better wiuthout that bitchy ex-friend of yours.?

hey tell me the xanga of that friend of yours/

[travnewmatic]

call the admin on her ass. and avoid people that ooze of drama. its a wast of brain cells and energy. thats another story. but yeah, get the school officials on her case and shell back off. theres no reason for you to have to put up with that.

[cewinee]

-_- f**king pathetic idiots.. how old are they? like 9yrs old? to me u seem like ur 18 or sth cuz ur acting like it.. i posted comments on ur old xanga =) hope things are alittle better. i used to go thru the same problem.. i just TOTALLY ignore them n not even BOTHER to talk shit behind their back n jus have fun u know.. i survived for 2years =) n the pathetic thing was that every week ppl would run to me tellin me wat my ex friend would STILL be saying about me behind my back hahah n id jus laugh saying its pathetic n sad. THEY should get over it lol. if u bitch as well the more reason n fun they have bitchin bout you.. make them jeallous or sth.. write fun stuff on ur xanga =) look hyper happy ^_^ dont say anything bout them.. seriously it doesnt work.. write it in a diary but not public for them to see n get angry enough to get back at u even harder.. get me? =)

luv celine

[Shattered_Hope]

That was simply the dumbest reason ever to stop being best friends...your friend seems really selfish.. I'm just wondering why you would ever be a friend much less a best friend with her ...but hmm...why didnt you shut down your xanga in the first place when you saw the offensive comments?
Too late now... ..just go to a staff member of your school and tell them the situation...your ex--friend's friend...should at least get ISS.. but yea..you shouldn't stop going to the school or transfer just becuz of some girl. Just hang in there..it'll be OK..[at least I hope]

[Spirited Away]

Why would a best friend get on you for using the same song? I think, there may be another reason to it and she's just using the song as an excuse to be a bitch to you. So, there may be more to it than just the song.

As for J. Hahahahahaha, can your ex bestfriend NOT fight her own battles? Why does J has to get into it? Is your bestfriend that weak and needs J's protection? To me, J is like a lapdog. If she had her own mind, she would try to look at the situation from both sides and see where the fault lies (and if it's worth her time) before beefing it out with you. I know the concept of loyalty among friends, but I would not want loyal friends who are blinded by their faith in me. I want loyal friends who would be able to stop me when I'm being silly instead of pushing me into something completely pointless.

To deal with people like J is as simple as peeing: ignore. Yes, it is hard, but laugh it off. Think about how brainless J is for following your ex bestfriend's order. Why would you want to even deal with someone with a brain capacity of a 6 year old?

However, if the situation is different. As in you have hurt them or insulted them in some way, then it's your own fault. You can still get out of it by telling your Principle of the harrassment AND what you want to be done about it in a NICE/CALM manner.

[lilJdawg]

goshh, your stupid jerky friend gets mad at your for the song in your xanga?! it's a free place & you can do whatever you want. tell her to stop bothering you or you'll get your friends to jump her. i don't think your parent's will allow you to move schools because you'll have to face your problems sooner or later. tell the guidence teacher again, maybe she can work out a way for you guys to be cool, besides that. FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT.

[whywasisostupid]

u stole a song from her xanga and she hates you for life? pfft.
kil her now.

[xj_liana_tx]

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING!!! well i think your counselor wasn't the best, she was too nice. next time if nothing is getting better and if the teachers don't care, just yell at her and do whatever you want with her, because then, it's your right to protect yourself

[shortiiex]

what a f*ckin bitch
they are immature for calling you "baby names"...just tell the princepal or her parents(they will be so dead after that)

[bad_girl]

u stole a song from her xanga and she hates you for life? pfft.
kil her now.

no.. i didnt steal the song! i just happened to have the same song.. never heard it in her xanga anyway. and she said i took it!!

[HelloSunshine]

no.. i didnt steal the song! i just happened to have the same song.. never heard it in her xanga anyway. and she said i took it!!

It's stupid to hate someone over a song on xanga but anyhoo friend and and your ex-bestfriend sound like biaytches..get a new xanga, and make sure they don't find it, or just simply block them. As for school, if you leave they might make fun of you even more so..just ignore them and act like you don't give a wink, after seeing you don't care and you're not being bothered, they should back off. good luck

[sheddingtears]

ohmygod. she needs to grow up.

[mouse_3k]

well if u are being bullies *to lazy to read the whole post* then go and bully them back. get sum ghetto backup and shove a knife in her face to frighten that little girl.

spit in her face and run or somethin.

[yukichan]

your ex best friend was a bitch.

Just ignore her and make a new xanga is th efirst thing you can do.

Second go tot he principle and have a word with them, and if you explain it clearly enough parents should be called and this J would be in big trouble. Best thing to do right now is ignore her, she will get mad at that and try harder but dont let her win. By letting it upset u she is winning. Cry at home if you need, but at school be the strong girl you are on the inside!
Good luck and dont be scared to ask for help from adults.

ya i agree...good luck...and try not to show ur emotions that much..if they find it that u have no reaction to what they do, they probably will stop...

[vickiwang123]

You know what? Your not gonna let them take over your life. This is what you gotta say" You know what? f*ck you guyz. Shut the f*ck up and leave me alone you lil c*nt, and you, my ex best friend, juss cause i used the same damn song as you for your xanga doesnt mean i stole it, sucka. u wanna be my friend now? TTOOOO LATE. If you, wanna fight wit me? GO AHEAD....you'll ahve to deal wit me first!" Crying and ignoring doesnt work now, the only thing dat will work now is courage and revenge!

[istolearock]

over a freakin song?! wow people have issues, well get some dirty connections back J into a corner and knock the sh*t out of her (im kidding) well good job on telling someone your problems and not solving them on your own (no thats not sarcasm) because she needed to be set straight but if it comes down to it tell your parents about it, and maybe a school change isnt such a bad idea i mean youve tried everything else right?    good luck

ahahah. me say ay to that