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 Jan 15 2005, 11:11 AM
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 can't believe I let people call me Lynne on here 5 yrs ago o  Group: Member Posts: 243 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,591  |
ok..if you and your bf/gf hav been in a serious relationship..and then all of a sudden they start cheating on you. like if you barely fight and everything's always ok but then it just suddenly happens..
why do you think they would do that? and do you think it's possible to actually 'love' 2 people at the same time? i dont really think it is but thats wut a lot of my friends said theyre bf/gf told them. and that they picked the other person over you - wut would you do? |
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Jan 15 2005, 12:31 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
Well to answer your first question, sometimes people may think when the relationship starts to get old, they may excitement like how it was when the couple first started dating.
People may think they love towo people, but often I think sometimes we give ourselves the illusion that we are in love with someone, but we just have to see for ourselves.... If someone chose another girl over me, I would probably be sad....depending on how much i had feelings for them...but it takes time to get over a relationship, and if he didn't like me as much as i thought, then he wasn't worth my heart anyways! 
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Jan 15 2005, 12:36 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
They are just asshats and they usually get too afraid to back out of the relationship before moving onto another person. Or like Nicole said, they may want some excitement.
If they cheated on me at ALL, I'd dump them. I don't care who they chose. |
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Jan 15 2005, 12:59 PM
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 Brown hand smash Group: Member Posts: 654 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,582 |
yeah that could happen in any relationship. Anyone can have a serious relationship but what if they dont love each other and just keeping that kind of relationship in other to have someone by their side when they need someone to lean on when the world starts to fall or maybe they dont want to be alone so they take their relationship for granted.
sometimes love just simply fade away or our love to that person suffocate them so they betrayed us in orther for them to freedom. loving two person can be complecated, you dont have two heart and it will just give you a head ache. we lose someone we love only when we are distined to find someone else who can love us even more we more than we can love ourselves. lf yoour boyfriend pick the other over you then let him go, it doesn't really matter who won or who lost, What important is you know when to hold on and when to let go! You know you really love someone when you want him to happy, even his happiness means your notbeing part of it. |
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Jan 15 2005, 01:01 PM
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 Word. Group: Member Posts: 3,004 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,673 |
im not sure why they would cheat but probaly because there is something wrong in the relationship.. it depends on how "they cheat" too, it could have meant nothing at all, just accidental and pleasure but yeah.
i dont think u can love two people at one time but it can happen. i think u can love someone and get pleasure get in the way with someother girl or something but yeah.. i'd stick to one person |
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Jan 15 2005, 01:40 PM
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it's possible... i mean, well, lust takes over for a lot of time
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Jan 15 2005, 01:45 PM
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can't believe I let people call me Lynne on here 5 yrs ago o Group: Member Posts: 243 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,591 |
QUOTE if he didn't like me as much as i thought, then he wasn't worth my heart anyways! haha thats true 
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Jan 15 2005, 02:07 PM
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 Day's Nearly Over Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,553 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,183 |
I love a lot of people. You think that's wrong? But there's a big difference with like and love, you know.
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Jan 15 2005, 03:01 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
First Question: They might cheat on you because the relationship is getting old, their sick of you, or they just went out with you because of a bet.
Second Question: Yeah, i believe it's possible to love 2 people at the same time. Actually i love like EVERYONE. difference between love & like. |
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Jan 15 2005, 08:36 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
one, its not loving two people at once, its loving and lusting.
and plus, they probably don't love you as much as you think if they are cheating you on. people cheat because they are a. bored with the relationship and want some excitement or b. because they want to see if they can get away with it. |
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Jan 16 2005, 12:45 AM
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 free hugs Group: Member Posts: 188 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 68,202 |
he probably got bored...i do too anyways i thibk u can love two ppl at once, but that doesnt really happen its more like love-lust
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Jan 16 2005, 08:26 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
QUOTE(goofipinay @ Jan 15 2005, 11:11 AM) ok..if you and your bf/gf hav been in a serious relationship..and then all of a sudden they start cheating on you. like if you barely fight and everything's always ok but then it just suddenly happens.. why do you think they would do that? and do you think it's possible to actually 'love' 2 people at the same time? i dont really think it is but thats wut a lot of my friends said theyre bf/gf told them. and that they picked the other person over you - wut would you do?  First question - they're just want more excitment in their life, thnking that cheating on their gf is thrilling becasue they're trying not to get caught. or the relationship is getting old and there isn't anymore spark between the both of them. Second question - you can't exactly love 2 ppl at the same time. more like loving one and wanting the other really badly (lusting). but you actually could love more than 1 person. like a friend love thing |
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Jan 16 2005, 03:25 PM
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'theres no chemistry?' lol
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Jan 16 2005, 03:54 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
maybe they are cheating on you because they are bored?
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Jan 16 2005, 07:48 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
I wouldnt think. I would go up to him and just start a riot. I would hurt him and this other girl (or boy.............) he be cheating me wit. I would just go ghetto on his butt. then I would end it..
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Jan 17 2005, 03:42 AM
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hate can mean love, u kno? if there's no argument, then the relationship would have no meaning. or maybe.. people cheat because they think they love someone.. but when they are actually with that person, they regret it and know that they made a mistake and it'll be too late to turn back??
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Jan 17 2005, 04:53 AM
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 i'm lala. girly girl. Group: Member Posts: 1,531 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 31,888 |
you can love 2 people at the same time, but they are different kinds of love, and if he says that he loves you he's bull-crapping you because it's not true if he's cheating....
cheating is the bad thing that happens to us good people... |
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