Hitting your girlfriend., Has any guy ever done it? Options

[x____Broken_doll]

Well, heres what happened. Me and my boyfriend were arguing over something really reallys stupid, i don't even know why he started shouting at me - but it seriously p!ssed me off. He was saying all these things about our relationship and how i was "locking" him down, if he didn't wanna be in the relationship, he could just leave right? I slapped him in the face and he slapped me right back. I was too shocked to do anything else, so i walked out. It hurts me inside to know that he could even raise his hand to me, but to hurt me.. i think that was too far. I know i hit him first, but i never expected him to hit me back Right now, i don't know what to do... I know we need to speak, but i just can't.

[rockmyx]

Hey, how could he do that to you. he dont have the right to hurt you because he was piss off about your arguement. Why is he making a big fuss about that stupid things (like what you have said). Do you really lockng him up?
whatever the answer is, he stil dont have the right to hurt you.

right, you sould talk to him but not now coz he stil be mad at you, lets say talk to him after 2 days and ask him about your relationship, if you both want to go on or broke up. You two alone can solve this problem.

But if he want to continue your relationship with him, give him a chance and if he hurt you again. leave him! His not worth your love. there are lots of guys who can love you more that he can.

[MeanBastard]

You slapped him first. What doesn't give him the right to slap you back?

[Shattered_Hope]

if you're fighting with your b/f and you hit him..know that he will hit you back..no one can control their anger..especially when you hit him first........meh, I may be a girl but I'm not gonna just be sexist and say you're right without thinking about his situation...meh, you both need to apologize...his fault he started the argument and your fault you hit him first..

[inthemudhole]

Dude, it's basically your fault for hitting him.
Chances are that he probably wouldn't even hit you at all.
I don't exactly blame him for hitting you back.

[sadolakced acid]

well, i'll tell you my code of ethics about hitting girls.

1. hitting for no reason, if it isn't hard, is ok.
2. don't hit, poke (if possible)
3. if she hits you, you can hit her back equally hard.


so basically. you slapped him.

[Levy2k6]

a reason guy usually hits back because guys dont like to get hit.

its like a girl hit you and u did nothing about it, now u have a weakness or something people can make fun of u about it. there's other ways to work it without hitting them tho.

i dont like to get slapped but i wont do nothing about it, i'll just **** at them about it until they get annoyed and apologize.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

when someone is angry, u dont go slappin the person...odds are ur gonna recieve something in return...lol...

im sure he didnt intend to hurt u, but maybe u should just dump him

[rockmyx]

when someone is angry, u dont go slappin the person...odds are ur gonna recieve something in return...lol...

im sure he didnt intend to hurt u, but maybe u should just dump him

yeah dump him and find a new one who can love you better

[xj_liana_tx]

yeah it's wrong that you slapped him, but.. he should've been tolerant! he may turn violent, you need to watch out for that

[me1issaaaa]

well... hitting him wasn't exactly the way you should've gone, so i can kind of see why he did it, but that still doesn't give him the right to hit you back. he should have been the one to back off and just leave it at that, but he crossed the line.

DUMP HIM. if he's not afraid to hit you, there's no telling what else he might have the nerve to do. don't take that chance.

[silver-rain]

well, it was kinda your fault for hitting him first. but you should talk to him about it, and i agree- dump him if you think that he might do it again. ehh, i don't think its right to hit your girlfriend at all, luckily my boyfriend hasn't done it.

[lilJdawg]

OH GOODNESS, he hit you? Dump him if you think he'll ever do it again, even though you hit him first, he shouldn't have hitten you back. Talk to him in person, "Look we need to talk." yeah, that should work.

[teeners4]

if you slapped him, he is entitled the right to slap you back. if he punched you or anything, that would be wrong.

[sexymixelix]

You slapped him first. What doesn't give him the right to slap you back?

i'm sorry but i'd have to agree. in this day and age women seem to be getting a lot more agressive in relationships and they are taking measures to their own hands. i don't think he has a right to hit you if you didn't do anything before to provoke him (ie : slap, hit, punch, whatever). now if you were both arguing and he hit you first then that's really F'ed up, buit since you slapped him first i'm sure the first thing that came to mind was to do the same thing right back. i'm sure he wasn't thinking. just be careful, and if this problem keeps going then i'd suggest you leave the relationship before it becomes an abusive one. also you might want to talk to him first and see if he's sorry for what happened and why he did it. like i said maybe it was just a reaction from heated argument.

[a smile is power]

if you're fighting with your b/f and you hit him..know that he will hit you back..no one can control their anger..especially when you hit him first........meh, I may be a girl but I'm not gonna just be sexist and say you're right without thinking about his situation...meh, you both need to apologize...his fault he started the argument and your fault you hit him first

I can control my anger.



but anyway, on topic. you shouldn't have hit him, that never solves anything. but a guy should never hit a girl, even if she hit him first. that makes him seem really low. its an unspoken rule of edicate: guys dont hit girls. ever heard that before? but as i said, you shouldnt have hit him either.

[sadolakced acid]

and why shouldn't guys hit girls, if they hit him first?

that's quite old fashioned...

yes, it's etiquette. it's old etiquette too.

[MeanBastard]

yeah it's wrong that you slapped him, but.. he should've been tolerant! he may turn violent, you need to watch out for that

I don't know about you. But most guys are not tolerant if they are slapped out of no where. I ain't going to stand around getting my ass beat.

[TrustU2HurtMe]

If I was a guy I would have hit you too. I kneed my boyfriend in the balls and he punched my tits. He was holding back, but he still feels horrible about it. He shouldn't though. He has the right to defend himself, or whatever.

[HongKongDong]

WHat does it matter if your a girl? You females want equal rights then being hit should be no problem.

Why should you be shocked? You slapped him, he retaliated. Thigns getting physical isn't the way to go though. Shouldn't of slapped him in the first place.

[shortiiex]

he probably wasn't thinking straight, it is just a reflex he has to do

[_sarcastic_]

you can't exactly blame him for hitting you, i mean you slapped him first.

[Cinnamoneyes]

wow I disagree with so many people on this. Yes you hit him.. but I dont think he should've hit you back. So many guys I know tell me they could never ever hit a girl. And they'd hate another guy if they knew they'd hit a girl. So I think it wasnt right for him to slap you back.

[sadolakced acid]

well; are guys just suppose to let girls beat on them?

[Mini]

as the third law of physics explains:
with every action, there is an opposite and equal reaction.


so expect to get hit back.. especially when both individuals are angered and pissed off.

[jaeman]

I don't hit anyone, male or female.

[MeanBastard]

I don't hit anyone, male or female.

What if you were being beaten by someone from a country who has waged war upon you?

[you suck]

wow. u shouldnt hit each other when ur mad and u shouldnt expect NOT to get slapped back but he shouldnt have slapped u he is an ass if he hits a girl.

[x____Broken_doll]

I agree, i did hit him first and i know it was wrong, but what he said to me was cold. I'm not gonna get into this right now because i don't wanna get mad, and i don't believe that because i slapped him he has the right to slap me back - who the hell made up that stupid rule? His hands are like 4 times bigger than mine, meaning the impact on my face in 4x stronger. I don't care, he shouldn't have hit me. I think the people who said i should break up with him are right - i think this relationship isn't working out, he's got an anger problem that he needs to sort out. Fast.

[sammi rules you]

if you know what you're going to do, why did you ask?

[mz anita xP]

hm...hes wrong to start the argument but every relationship gets that, and the problem is always over the most stupidest thing. you need to understand there must be something for him to argue wtih you. why didnt he jus leave? becaseu he still wanna be with you, he doesnt wanna end the relationship. relationship still needs space, dont be too insecure. well like you said, you did hit him first, he might not have tend to hit you back, but his anger might've normally made that move. i dunno i guess you guys really need to talk to each other. its hard for now, give a little bit more time, but seems like you still love him, should try talking and not get this to cause and end to your relationship

[mouse_3k]

I slapped him in the face and he slapped me right back.

u slapped him first, so he slapped you. honestly, i think you deserved it. you basically asked for it. heck, if I was a guy and a girl hit me, i would hit them right back. just because ur a girl dont mean you get special treatment.

You hit him first, so you deserved to get ur assed kicked.

[wayne]

i play figh with girls/girlfreinds. but i never hit them to give them pain. hitting a girl to me seems like hitting a little child. its sometyhing u dont do.

[pinayprincess]

break up man!!!!

[iheartjohn]

My boyfriend used to beat me up really badly. He pushed me down a flight of stairs and even broke my arm. I decided to leave him, right then and there but it took a lot of strength because I thought I loved him.

If he continues to hit you, then leave him. But inyour situation it sounds that he did it out of instinct. It probably won't happen again.

[mouse_3k]

who the hell made up that stupid rule? His hands are like 4 times bigger than mine, meaning the impact on my face in 4x stronger. I don't care, he shouldn't have hit me

yah well u got nails, u could have scratched him. if u slapped him first, then honestly, u dont deserve a bf period. i say the bf should break up with YOU. YOU shouldnt have hit him, its your fault why he hit you back. stop complaining that he hit you cause you did it first, you basically asked for it.

yah and its possible to have a gf abuse a bf and what you did, it was abuse so maybe it was self defense on his part. oh well, i would have hit you back too if you hit me first even if I had bigger hands n stuff, i would have still hit you back


just be lucky that he only slapped you not punched the heck outta ya

he's got an anger problem that he needs to sort out. Fast.

no little lady, you the one with the anger problem. u shouldnt have slapped him in the first place and since you did and he hit you back, i applaud the guy. at least you know he aint gunna take any of your abuse and crap. *shrug* you had it coming.

[MrElsewhere]

^ agreed on the bf abuse.

dude has anger problems and so do you.

[mouse_3k]

I mean [f]eleeza's case seems more reasonable since she didnt start anything and didnt do anything and her guy continue to beat her. thats bf to gf abuse. (sorry [f]eleeza if im putting you on the spotlight but im proud that you got the strength to leave)

NE who, but for x____Broken_doll, eh, u hit him, he hits you, its equal now

[heyyfrankie]

You slapped him first. What doesn't give him the right to slap you back?

men shouldn't slap girls, ladies or women.

[to-devastate]

woww.
as everyone said that you should of suspected him to hit you back.. i totally disagree.
This guy needs to know what respect means. I mean. Slapping a girl is not right- even if you deserved it. It's just wrong. You guys need to break up if its obviously not working out.

[*[2]Nekked*]

just because someone hits you...that doesnt give you the right to hit them back. its not self defense or anything... its just payback...

and i think that it's different when a guy hits a girl... im all for feminism, but let's face it... men are just stronger than women. he handled it badly. maybe she was immature in hitting him first.. does that make him any more mature than her for hitting her back?

and i dont think shes trying to say that it isnt fair or anything.. i think what she's trying to say was that she's hurt that he even would... like yeah she hit him first, but she never thought he would have it in him to hit her back.

and also.. in any fight, really... if someone hits you... if you're really a man, you should think whether its worth it to fight back... if the person is like 4 times smaller than you... what do you think you'll accomplish by whooping their ass? nothing... you can defend yourself without hitting the other person back.. do you WANT to hurt the other person?

if her boyfriend cared about her, he wouldnt have hit her back, for whatever reason; even if she hit him first. he knows he could damage her 10 times more than she could damage him.

what does it mean when your boyfriend hits you? he WANTS to hurt you. in my opinion thats more dangerous than you wanting to hurt him; and that puts you in a bad position. break up with him.

[mouse_3k]

woww.
as everyone said that you should of suspected him to hit you back.. i totally disagree.
This guy needs to know what respect means. I mean. Slapping a girl is not right- even if you deserved it. It's just wrong. You guys need to break up if its obviously not working out.

well i say if a girl hits u, then u have the right to hit them back. man or women. if you hit, then u deserve to get hit.

[blackbow]

wow.. you slapped him? why? wasn't he angry? what were you expecting would happen after you slapped him? since when did hitting people fix anything?

he slapped you back? thats pretty dumb too, but he was angry and i think most people would want to fight back in some way if they were angry.

so many people have said that guys should never slap a girl, but they never said why. are you sayign that girls should be respected just because they are girls? dont girls want to be equal to guys?

to me it sounds like you consciously decided to slap him. and he only reacted to you slapping him.

WHAT IF YOU DIDN'T SLAP HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE? MAYBE YOU WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN SLAPPED BACK! and then maybe you wouldn't be thinking about breaking up right now.

slapping, ha, like that helps?

[picaso_smile]

A gentleman wouldn't hit a lady. . . But some people have difficulties. If you ask me he shouldn'e have touched you.

Psh. Jerk.

[edit] My opinion is --to answer why you don't hit a girl-- this:
Males have more upper body strength. They could hurt the girl. (not cool) Also, the guy should be treating the girl well, taking her out, showing affection, etc. Affection. NOT violence.

And did you really hurt the guy when you slapped him?

[jennyjenny]

Well you slapped him. So he slapped you. You should've slapped him back.

[captured_serenit...]

well, i'll tell you my code of ethics about hitting girls. 

1.  hitting for no reason, if it isn't hard, is ok.
2.  don't hit, poke (if possible)
3.  if she hits you, you can hit her back equally hard. 
so basically.  you slapped him.

for once, i really agree with this person! =o) it's true, that's how i see it too, so i think there is a problem but you shouldn't have slapped him...sorry

[PersonalJesus]

This really pisses me off because a women can hit a man all she wants and the second that he defends himself (pushes her away, un-knowingly slaps back) and he is in deep shit and in jail.

I think you brought it on yourself. But a guy should never hit a girl ever, but if she hits him first then I think he had the right.

Sorry if I sound rude.

The law these days is just messed up.

[MeanBastard]

Answer me this. Why shouldn't we be able to slep women when they slap us? Why should women be able to slap guys? Why cant we slap women?

[mouse_3k]

^ thts my question. even though im a girl, i think everything should be fair so i say the guy can hit us if we hit them first..

[Stupidxaimee]

hmm i guess him slapping you is wrong but in a way you slapping him is wrong too, but i guess wit was just like a sudden thing where u didnt have the time to think? ..yeah, well i think you should wait it litltle bit, let things cool down, then go talk to him

[MeanBastard]

[edit] My opinion is --to answer why you don't hit a girl-- this:
Males have more upper body strength. They could hurt the girl. (not cool)  Also, the guy should be treating the girl well, taking her out, showing affection, etc.      Affection. NOT violence.

A girl should treat the guy well to. Showing affection, taking her out. Etc. Affection. NOT violence.
Women can have equally as much or even more upper body strength if they wanted. They could hurt the guy. (not cool)

[sadolakced acid]

oh come on.

guys have to pay for all the dates, do all sorts of things, and girls get to hit them up a lot?

i mean; if the guy really hits the girl, like hard, then that's not right.

but if it wasn't really hard, then it should be ok... (if the girl hits first)

but if he really ment to hurt you, and if he didn't say sorry afterwards...

that's not good.

[bad_girl]

You slapped him first. What doesn't give him the right to slap you back?

yeah. ditto. besides, he's probably feeling bad right now, like u are. and afterall.. it is YOU who decided to slap him. u guys should just chill, then talk things over.

i don't believe that because i slapped him he has the right to slap me back - who the hell made up that stupid rule? His hands are like 4 times bigger than mine, meaning the impact on my face in 4x stronger. I don't care, he shouldn't have hit me.

who da hell made up the stupid rule that u have the right to slap him while he doesnt? it's not like he asked for bigger hands. u shouldn't have hit him either, in the first place. besides, none of us could help u if u dont tell us what he had said. i really, really dont get it. why isnt he allowed to slap u back, when u've slapped him first?? do u expect him to stand there cooly with a big red mark across his face doing nothing? that'd be really stupid.

[The 1 and only J...]

it might have just been a reaction. cause i know when some one hits me i try to hit them back. it's just a reaction and like if some one touches my shoulder i puch them back. so yeah it might have been a reaction. but u did hit him first. but he still shouldn't of hit a girl thats just low.

[x____Broken_doll]

[edit]

Okay, i'm gonna talk to him when i go to his house this afternooon - we're gonna talk it over once and for all.

[xGlovex]

ID NEVER HIT A GIRL!

[x____Broken_doll]

ID NEVER HIT A GIRL!

Hm.. Nice to know

[pinayprincess]

man if my man did that to me...f*k we'd be over....nobody hits me like that..it normally tha girls who are allowed to hit not the men...

[whywasisostupid]

my ex did. after we broke up.

[sexymixelix]

man if my man did that to me...f*k we'd be over....nobody hits me like that..it normally tha girls who are allowed to hit not the men...

how can you say something like "girls are allowed to hit and not the men"? men have every right to do the same thing back if provoked. just because they are arguing doesn't mean she couldn't have settled it like adults with him and hear him out. she shouldn't have to slap him in the face just because he's telling her what she doesn't want to hear. when you say a stupid remark like "girls are allowed to hit and not the man" then what if some bitch starts pounding her bf just bc she did something that he doesn't appreciate. does that mean he should just sit there and take it? no way!

like i said earlier... if she didn't do anything and HE hit first, then that's definitely wrong. instead, she slapped him in the face first which she had no real right doing. people have arguments all the time and you don't see them slapping eachother around just because they can't hack it. seriously...

[MeanBastard]

Insolent little girls who think that men should be suborbindate(sp?) to females piss me off.

[cAnIhAvsUmrIcEpl...]

well, i'll tell you my code of ethics about hitting girls.

1. hitting for no reason, if it isn't hard, is ok.
2. don't hit, poke (if possible)
3. if she hits you, you can hit her back equally hard.


so basically. you slapped him.

Gotta agree...

[SSJ Kenshin]

Any guy that would hit a girl isn't a guy.

[anoniez]

wow I disagree with so many people on this. Yes you hit him.. but I dont think he should've hit you back. So many guys I know tell me they could never ever hit a girl. And they'd hate another guy if they knew they'd hit a girl. So I think it wasnt right for him to slap you back.

I completely agree. One reason guys shouldn't hit girls is that they're stronger, just naturally having more muscle, (most of them) etc- it's the way they're built. So doing the same thing back would result in hurting the girl a whole lot more than she had hurt the guy.
And hitting a girl is just low.

[Skyline Drive]

well... hitting him wasn't exactly the way you should've gone, so i can kind of see why he did it, but that still doesn't give him the right to hit you back. he should have been the one to back off and just leave it at that, but he crossed the line.

DUMP HIM. if he's not afraid to hit you, there's no telling what else he might have the nerve to do. don't take that chance.

Exactly.

[sadolakced acid]

well, i'll tell you my code of ethics about hitting girls.

1. hitting for no reason, if it isn't hard, is ok.
2. don't hit, poke (if possible)
3. if she hits you, you can hit her back equally hard.


so basically. you slapped him.

(that was from me)

i wanted to draw attention to a key phrase.

equally hard- which usually means not very.

[redroses85]

you slapped him... he slapped you back
Ever think that its an instant reaction?
Growing up i was abused, i never hit back, but then when i got older like jr. high and highschool if someone smacked me i'd instantly smack them back, it was just like a reflex. Anyways dont dump him... work it out. I'm sure if you talk and apologize for smacking him he will be equally sorry for smacking you, and say that he really didnt mean to. I dont think hes going to be abusive because of one moment, after all YOU hit HIM FIRST.

[Fatality]

He hit you.
He's not worth your time.
I've been ni many abusive relationships.
It's honestly not worth it.
dump him.
Leave him.
Or tell someone.
Do something..

[MeanBastard]

He hit you.
He's not worth your time.
I've been ni many abusive relationships.

This isn't abusive. She hit him first. If anything shes abusing her boyfriend.[

[mouse_3k]

This isn't abusive. She hit him first. If anything shes abusing her boyfriend

thats what I said above but eventually, the *girl* has more rights i guess which i think is absolute bullshiz..even though im a girl, i hate seeing other girls beating on guys and overdoing their *rights*

[Comptine]

That's arrogant to say a girl has every right to slap her boyfriend.

In a relationship, you're supposed to respect each other. It goes for guys and girls.

Yes, guys can be stronger. But girls can equally be strong.

Psh. Isn't it a little sexist to think that a guy can't hit back? He was provoked. You can't say he should have had a better hold on his temper. She was the one who started it. Why couldn't she get a better hold of her temper?

Two way street people.

[177emories]

just DUMP him and see what happens... but when you hit someone when tehir angry your gonna get hit!

[captured_serenit...]

if you know what you're going to do, why did you ask?

i agree with her, that's so true

[cewinee]

ok it sucks to sound sexist but in reality.. guys aren't supposed to hit girls.. no matter wat.. unless the girl's gona kill him or sth haha.. but seriously.. hope ur still not with him.. cuz if he does it once.. he'll do it more and more painfully in the future. i know from experience. hope your ok!

[cewinee]

oh yeah i forgot to add.. bout u slapping him.. you shouldnt have done it, but if any of us were in ur position im sure we woulda done the same. no ones f**king perfect -_-

[cmgchica717]

You hit him first. Its just as NOT right for you to hit him. Violence doesnt solve anything!

[MeanBastard]

You hit him first.  Its just as NOT right for you to hit him.  Violence doesnt solve anything!

Except having formed the USA.

[toodlepops.]

what a loser your b/f is.

yea, you hit him, he hits you. you started it.

[*wind&fire*]

get a azn gang to beat the shit outta him

[inthemudhole]

get a azn gang to beat the shit outta him

Eh. I don't really think that comment was necessary..

[mouse_3k]

guys chills. if you continue to make offensive comments to each other, we are going to have to close this topic down. everyone, just chill..

[Spirited Away]

get a azn gang to beat the shit outta him

Does this comment has anything to do with your dare in the forum games?

cewinee, please press the "edit" button next time and not double post.

About the topic, it's not okay to hit each other, but if you hit him first, you should expect some kind of offense from him.

[travnewmatic]

im facing a similar problem. my girlfriend is playfully abusive, but it gets really annoying. the bad thing is that defending yourself, either blocking or actually fighting back, is borderline reflex. i HATE the thought of physically hurting my girlfriend, but when she hits me and i instictively block or grab her arm or something (not with the intent of hurting her) and i accidently hurt her, i cant say that im entirely sorry for what happened. i told her a long time ago that i would never raise my hand against her. even playfully i hate it, but she does that sort of thing to me all the time and me, not seeing as it being that big of a deal, continue to endure. it just annoys the crap out of me that i could make a habit of even playfully fighting back when she hits me. okay fine, so i say retarded things. i know that when she hits me thats her way of saying, travis, youre a dork. shes not (most of the time) angry with me, shes just joking, but a punch is a punch and a hit is a hit. it doesnt hurt or annoy me any less. i say you had it coming for you when you hit him in the first place. i dont think it really means anything. it was a not very well thought out act of retalliation on his part, not necesarily the beginning of an abusive relationship. dont worry. youre fine. hes fine. move on.

[Nugget]

ok heres wut i think about this:

-dump him
-he shouldnt have hit u back although you did hit him
-u shouldve expected that if u knew he was that angry and couldve blocked or something =\
-well b4 the dumping think about ur feelings about him..do u love him?? did u guys have great times b4 the fight? is he worth ur love?
-tlk about it w/ him..apologize and maybe he'll understand and apologize too
-and if u think u can get someone better than that then go for it..

[blah1234567]

mabye you should go up to him and tell him you are sorry and ask him to forgive you i guess...