initiative.. or just wait? |
 Jan 14 2005, 08:58 PM
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I've been dating the same guy for 4 months now, and I love him to pieces. Thing is, we've never kissed, and that's something personally I'd like to do (yeah, something I haven't done yet and I've had 2 other relationships before this..
 ).. But should I take the initiative, or should I wait until he does something? I'm so lost..  Suggestions muuuuuch appriciated.. |
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Jan 14 2005, 09:04 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 42 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,148 |
If you're not 100% ready and comfortable with kissing him or getting physical in ANY way, then you should not do it. Don't even let him take the first initiative if you're having second thoughts. I understand that past issues/relationships can create some tension and caution - which is totally ok! Just wait! There's no rush in the snogging, lol. Take your time and make sure YOU want to do it.
And if he takes the first initiative? Again, only do it if you're comfortible. He'll understand. 
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Jan 14 2005, 09:09 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
if you really want to kiss him, then go ahead, it's been four months already
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Jan 14 2005, 09:23 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
If you feel that he's ready and that you're ready.. then, well, go ahead.
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Jan 14 2005, 09:25 PM
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 *dazzle Group: Member Posts: 357 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,071 |
well, unless youre sure that you want too kiss him and whatnot, then go right ahead. but if you're having second thoughts then dont do it. but honestly, four months.. really, it's nothing. personally i think relationship isnt all about kissing and hugging. its because of the way you feel towards him/her.
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Jan 14 2005, 09:32 PM
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 Apr 24 '05* 1000 posts! Group: Member Posts: 1,184 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 56,049 |
if u're sure he feels the same way, then go ahead. if not, then wait for him to make the move.
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Jan 14 2005, 09:42 PM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
You should wait! Because i dated this guy, and it was 6 months before we started kissing. And HE first initiated the kiss, and it was sooo much better. I was so glad that he kissed me first....same with holding hands. So just wait and be patient, i'm sure he'll kiss you!
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Jan 14 2005, 09:55 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
yeah, i would suggest you wait. but if you think you're ready, and you think he is too, then go ahead and take initiative. sometimes, guys like it when the girls make the first move.
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Jan 14 2005, 10:34 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
I think you should wait. Don't you think he would be kissing you if he was ready. Anyways, you should both be ready then you can kiss eachother.
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Jan 15 2005, 12:45 AM
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 07 isz coming Group: Member Posts: 333 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,490 |
if u think he wants 2 kiss u too, go for it ! ur nvr gonna know unless ya do something
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Jan 15 2005, 01:37 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,957 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,665 |
on the bright side, you guys are going out, be content with that.
just wait till the right opportunity, your bf is probably really self-conscious |
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Jan 15 2005, 01:45 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
just wait.
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Jan 15 2005, 02:19 PM
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I love you <33333 Group: Member Posts: 2,928 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,404 |
if you really want to kiss him, make the first move.
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Jan 15 2005, 06:49 PM
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 AeRoSwEeTiE4259 Group: Member Posts: 38 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,293 |
Well, if you're ready to take your guys relationship to the next level, you should be comfortable enough with him to be able to talk to him about it. Nothing wrong with asking how he feels about being affectonate in that way with you, so its no real biggy to see where he stands and if he wants to also. Hope for the best
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Jan 15 2005, 06:53 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
wait till the right moment(the romantic moment)..then you lean closer and then he'll know what to do
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Jan 15 2005, 07:11 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
hmm well... i'd usually think it's better for the guy to make the move (heh i'm just old fashioned) but if you really want to then go for it, if you two are really close
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Jan 15 2005, 07:55 PM
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 The Eurasian Concert Master Group: Member Posts: 484 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,826 |
I think it is time, just don't do it at a completly random time. Goodluck!
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Jan 15 2005, 07:56 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 179 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 82,420 |
QUOTE(chii @ Jan 14 2005, 8:09 PM) if you really want to kiss him, then go ahead, it's been four months already  ^ I totally agree. its 4 months. If you feel comfortable with him and you love him. Do what you think best. I'm sure you'll make the right desicion.
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Jan 15 2005, 09:54 PM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
smack him across the head and say, "its been 4 months dumbass, kiss me already!"
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Jan 16 2005, 01:18 AM
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 free hugs Group: Member Posts: 188 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 68,202 |
QUOTE smack him across the head and say, "its been 4 months dumbass, kiss me already!" word lol what is wrong with u???????  jk i thin k thats sweet but its about time |
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Jan 16 2005, 01:22 AM
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 kristin Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 |
well first it sort of takes steps...you know holding hands...being comfortable with eachother. i think you should if you ifnd the right 'moment'
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Jan 16 2005, 03:35 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,831 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,324 |
well if you love him and you would like to, find the right moment, and just do it.
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Jan 16 2005, 03:43 PM
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 ThePinkPanda Group: Member Posts: 760 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,168 |
Haha.. I felt the same way with my current boyfriend. Who, by the way, I've been with for four months.
He wouldn't kiss me.. and I got a little.. freaked out? Guys around here only get into relationships to make out and I thought maybe he didn't like me or something and only said yes out of pity. But that's beside the point. Our friend forced us to kiss once (now we wont stop) So just wait.. the time will come. Don't try to rush it. |
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Jan 16 2005, 11:49 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,075 |
if you want to, do it.
if you're not sure, don't. if you want to wait for him to take the move, probably he's shy or afraid. kiss him. |
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Jan 16 2005, 11:51 PM
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 team late night queen Group: Member Posts: 1,602 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,861 |
well. ive never been in this situation.. cuz ive only dated 2 guys. for a very short period of time. lol. umm. but.. maybe you should kinda. lead him into it? i dont know. good luck though. =]
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Jan 17 2005, 12:16 AM
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 Turn your lights down low... Group: Member Posts: 104 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 39,472 |
Its been 4 months! How can you take it any longer? Just kiss him if you want...it will definitely be worth it.
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Feb 11 2005, 02:29 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 14 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 80,871 |
some guyz think itz sexi when girlz take the initiative.
 itz a turn on.
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