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 Jan 12 2005, 01:35 AM
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 je suis une noix de coco <33  Group: Member Posts: 1,242 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 62,768  |
I just started dating a senior and i learned that he isn't a virgin... i like him, but ever since i was told this... i'm not sure anymore....
should i trust that he won't take advantage? can he be trusted? what do i do? |
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Jan 12 2005, 01:39 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,541 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,332 |
Does he respect you? If he does respect you, he'll know his limits and won't try to do anything to you. If so, he can be trusted.
Good luck! |
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Jan 12 2005, 02:18 AM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Eh. Just tell him you don't want to go that far.
If he gets aggressive, dump his arse. |
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Jan 12 2005, 02:45 AM
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 Apr 24 '05* 1000 posts! Group: Member Posts: 1,184 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 56,049 |
so what if he's not a virgin????
maybe he was raped? |
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Jan 12 2005, 03:08 AM
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 hello : ) Group: Official Member Posts: 4,227 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,139 |
well personally i don't think you should be dating someone if you don't trust them in the first place.
anyways, i think that if he respects you and if you let him know in the beginning that you have no intentions of ever going that far, then he won't pursue to go further. if he does, then break up with him. |
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Jan 12 2005, 03:11 AM
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 wannabe an official member! Group: Member Posts: 266 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 751 |
just cause he had sex before doesn't mean he'll take advantage of you, not all guys are like that
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Jan 12 2005, 06:56 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
Just because he's a virging shouldn't make you concerned. When he takes actions that you're not ready, well that's when you should be worried. I don't know if you're a freshman?? but remember he's probably more mature and may want to do stuff like that, so remember if you're not ready, tell him.
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Jan 12 2005, 07:10 AM
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 Ah, mon Dieu ! Group: Member Posts: 2,274 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,587 |
ooo! ooo!
... abstinence is key. |
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Jan 12 2005, 10:23 AM
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je suis une noix de coco <33 Group: Member Posts: 1,242 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 62,768 |
thxz all... i was just alittle nervous because i had just heard this... and well he said that the girl he did it with was a friend so i was in awe... I'lll just get over the fact.. i think i can trust him enough.. he noes i'm waiting until i'm married
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Jan 12 2005, 11:49 AM
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I love you <33333 Group: Member Posts: 2,928 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,404 |
well, if he is pressuring you to have sex and you dont want to, then he might not be the best. but if he respects your decision on staying a virgin for now, he's probably a great guy. dont give into him if he pressures you though.
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Jan 12 2005, 11:57 AM
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 [*]i AM your star!![*] Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,520 |
I have to agree with everyone! If he respects you and your morals he will not try to push you to do anything that you do not
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Jan 12 2005, 03:18 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(M1SSxCHR1SSY @ Jan 12 2005, 3:08 AM) well personally i don't think you should be dating someone if you don't trust them in the first place.  well, it's not like you can trust people automatically, people need to gain your trust i've dated a guy 5 years older than me (he was 21) he never pressured me into sex and he knew i was a virgin, make sure he understands and respects the fact that you don't believe in premarital sex, it's all good after that 
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Jan 12 2005, 03:46 PM
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 november 25th,, <3 Group: Member Posts: 473 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,226 |
QUOTE(Despise @ Jan 12 2005, 2:18 AM) Eh. Just tell him you don't want to go that far. If he gets aggressive, dump his arse. lmao "arse" thats hawt... so what if he isnt a virgin. it didnt kill anybody did it? so ya, but if your not ready tell him and if he doesnt take the time out to listen to you QUOTE dump his arse
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Jan 12 2005, 08:41 PM
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hello : ) Group: Official Member Posts: 4,227 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,139 |
QUOTE(chii @ Jan 12 2005, 1:18 PM) well, it's not like you can trust people automatically, people need to gain your trust i've dated a guy 5 years older than me (he was 21) he never pressured me into sex and he knew i was a virgin, make sure he understands and respects the fact that you don't believe in premarital sex, it's all good after that exactly. if you are dating someone you should have gotten to know them long enough to know that you trust them. they should have gained your trust by the time you date them. of course it doesn't come automatically. |
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Jan 12 2005, 08:45 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
I don't you should be dating somebody you don't trust.
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Jan 12 2005, 09:36 PM
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 define our lives for us. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 11,656 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,293 |
See what he does. I mean, you'd never know at start.
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