I have a problem, im a mom Options

[Rei]

Daym im only 15 and i have a 3 month old daughter my husband divorced me. i dont know what to do and i know this isnt the place to talk about it but i cant find any other place i need advice. i really do.

[adoggydog195]

well, you are in the wrong place, but maybe i can help. go in the lounge and ask

[Just_Dream]

could someone in the xanga staff or the admins maybe move this to the lounge forum or maybe even the girl's locker?

thanks =)

And also, REI, if that is even your name (lol), how CAN you have a husband that divorced if you are ONLY 15?! You can marry at 15 years old... can you? O_o"

[*krnxswat*]

moved to girl's locker.


Just_Dream: Thanks ^_^

This post has been edited by Just_Dream: Mar 18 2004, 12:38 AM

[*NatiMarie*]

I'm sorry to hear that. Can you obtain help from your parents? Or maybe welfare...it sucks but have you thought about having your kid up for adoption? This is a tough situation, because I haven't really experienced it. I know it's hard, but because you now have a child, just try your best to have a really good home for your child. You are really young, and you have to live your life extra hard because you have a child, but you need all the help you can get. Try seeking help and finding information online about teen pregnancy. I'm sorry I don't really know how to help you but I wish you the best of luck to you and your baby.

[xjjajeengx]

wait... is this true? because i mean, its kind of weerd... ;blink: well er... i dont noe what to say hah except that this seems a bit like a scam. but, if its true, er... go get another husband? i mean... they easy to find... guys= swarming everywhere*i think* so yea...?

[blah3868]

how do u get married at 15???

[iloveyou07]

people can u try giving her helpful advice!!! yes u can get married at 15 all u have to have is a parent with you!!!

ok now.. im sooo sorry that you a mother at the age of fifteen, im fifteen and i cant imagine having a child at my age. r u going to school? if u are stay and get your degree, and if u arent GET BACK!!! (as soon as possible) do your parents help u??? i dont know if i can say this on here but im gonna!! u need someone that i know and if u want to know who He is then IM me. He will give you comfort in you troubled times. He will give you strength and will to go on!!

MY SN IS: MARTINCHICA07

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

wow .. so very young to have been married and have a child. =/ .. there isn't much that any of us can do to help .. is your family helping to support the baby now that your husband has divorced you? you have to be a bit more specific with the situation here. a baby is a huge financial burden so unfortunately, as the mother, you have to make a lot of sacrifices -- further education, job, etc. unless you have someone help to watch the baby for you. try to be strong and do what you have to do to get by. that's really all i can tell you. it's going to be hard. hopefully the father will be responsible enough to take a part in the babies life and do everything he possibly can as well. i'm sorry to hear that you're going through this at such a young age. best of luck :(

[iheartsimba]

well...raising a child at 15 could be difficult....honestly i think the best thing to do would be adoption or maybe you parents coulld adopt him or something like that...=[

[xEoreMehttax]

yeah. ..i left something on ur xanga...yeah...never been thru that... so...

[xEoreMehttax]

hmmm...how come ur xanga is linked to another one...hmmmm??

[F_L_I_P]

Are u For real?!?! How do u get married in 15. r u even from this country? maan. Im really sorry about that. daym must be really hard to raise a child by urself. ima holla at ur Xnga.

[F_L_I_P]

wut yall talking about? linked to another site? . . . . . Oh! Yeah why is that? to Bkye....Something like that iono!

[Rei]

im not lying i really am married and divorced and i really do have a child.

[IIO__oII]

im sorri =[

[ThePrincessofTKD]

yall...

you can get married at any age under 18 as long as you have parental permission...

didnt yall watch LIAR, LIAR??

girl...you remind me of another girl i saw at da mall...she was around yur age and pregnant..

i mean...(some) ppls look down apon girls like dat..

dey assume they're sluts, whores that have no life..

i can only give you my condonsolence...(is that how its spelled?)...or sympathy..

some parents would abandon their child fer having a kid at an early age..

dont you feel regretful?..fer what hap?

its a cruel world out there..

but God made it to be a happy ending..

so if yur not happy...its not the end..

look fer counceling maybe...if yur parents abandon you...

look fer guidance of yur friends..

there is always someone out there to care..

jus remember that...

[waccoon]

Under 18: If either the bride or groom is under 18, at least one of the minor's parents,
or legal guardian, must appear with the couple. Certified copies of birth certificates are required. The couple must also schedule an appointment with a counselor and then appear before a superior court judge.

i see no reason why this can't be true - only unusual

[thedilenquent]

how do u get married at 15???

depends on where u live.. in some states u can be a wifey at 14

[waccoon]

In most states you must be 18 to marry without parental consent. With such consent, many states allow marriage at a younger age, typically 16. In some states, due to special circumstances such as pregnancy or the birth of a child, the courts may allow marriage at a much younger age.

[thedilenquent]

ok, im gonna try and put myself in your shoes because i have said things about teenage moms in my xanga and blah blah blah but ok most teenage moms are on there own they dont even get funding from the family. what i want to know is what exactly is your problem besides the fact that you have a child to take care of. is the father still willing to contribute to the well being of the child? do u get help from parents or gardians? i wouldnt feel right critisizing you and giving advice when i dont know much about the situation but im willing to give advice where ever needed (especially if its a kid involved)

[Just_Dream]

Aww, well maybe you should've gotten an abortion or something. But then, did Bush ban abortions? I heard he did.. but I'm not sure.. I'm not up to date these days I don't know whyb but i ahve to agree with someone else here that YES, this seems sort of like a scam. You haven't really replied back either. Well anyhow you should go through all that stuff that helps yo with teen pregnancy. Since you're 15, YOUNGER than me, I can't BELIEVE that you could even deliver the baby. I know that if that happened to me, I'd die from it O_o

but anyhow, you need to talk to people for help. If your parents love you, they'd help you. And plus, there are people who are in your shoes as well, talk to them. I believe there's a website about it. Good luck

i'm just wondering.. sorry if it's person.. but.. were you by any chance raped? If so and you're still taking care of the baby, wow O_o

[Dr3aMeR]

um ok..its sad and all but why did you post that...what did you expect to get out of that...sympathy???

YOU GAVE "IT" now its time YOU DEAL WITH "IT"

[thedilenquent]

Aww, well maybe you should've gotten an abortion or something.

.... its not the babys fault that the mother didnt protect herself and got pregnant. i believe in taking care of your responsiblities. and abortion seems like a quick fix to the problem. but dont u think the baby atleast deserves a chance at life?

[waccoon]

why doesnt rei answer at all? she was the one asking for help, and it's been almost a week since your plea. you may be going through some shit, but asking people on a xanga forum for help? sounds just like someone who has too much time on their hands to me.

[*Podomaht*]

>__<

lets hope its not a joke.

[xEoreMehttax]

heh...i dunno about that...did u see her xanga??its connected to another one

[Rei]

im sorry but i dont have time and my friend made tis for me. she said it was a skin she got from here. but im not lying really.

[2ruPnoy]

Daym Yall. Leave the girl alone. She has a baby! and its a freaking skin! all skins link somewhere else yo! like mine except i changed it. thats right! back off the little honey.

[Mireh]

Daym Yall. Leave the girl alone. She has a baby! and its a freaking skin! all skins link somewhere else yo! like mine except i changed it. thats right! back off the little honey.

Woa...way to go!


Anyways...If you can't support the baby, I seriously recomend putting him/her up for adoption. If you really want the baby to have a better life, and if you can't support him, it may be the best choice.

[iheartsimba]

.... its not the babys fault that the mother didnt protect herself and got pregnant. i believe in taking care of your responsiblities. and abortion seems like a quick fix to the problem. but dont u think the baby atleast deserves a chance at life?

I think she should give birth and put them up for adoption...so you know, they can have the best life possible with someone capable of taking care of them..

[F_L_I_P]

Daym Yall. Leave the girl alone. She has a baby! and its a freaking skin! all skins link somewhere else yo! like mine except i changed it. thats right! back off the little honey. 

Thas Tru.

[*Podomaht*]

sorry, i didnt know. ill pray for you.

[*CEP*]

Well, like a lot of people here say, put the kid up for adoption. You obviously are too young to support the child. Unless ofcourse, your with your parents. In that case, you're in the clear. I mean, even if you got pregnant and everything, your parents will still love you and their grandchild.
And how'd you get married? Isn't it illegal? You're still a minor.

- Chinkieeyedpnoi
PS: Podomaht's already praying for you, so I don't think I need to do that anymore.

[silver]

I don't really recommend adoption, just for the fact that you might regret it later

You seem to be trying to put your life back together, so I'm getting from that that you wouldn't want to give up your baby.

I don't know you at all, so these are all assumptions, and I could be completely wrong.

But my opinion is that should really look inside you, think about things, think about how you got in this situation. Talk to your parents, talk to your ex.

You're korean, so I'm guessing your parents are typical rigid Korean parents, but you're their daughter, they'll help you through it all =]

[*CJ1*]

I think you should ask for real help cause most of the people here are still young and haven't thought about getting married... Anyway, rei, sorry... Just try the best you can in life and never give up....

[ichiban]

Best I can say is, Put your child up for adoption, or maybe let your parents take care of him/her for awhile? I really don't know . . sorry if I can't help

[Just_Dream]

.... its not the babys fault that the mother didnt protect herself and got pregnant. i believe in taking care of your responsiblities. and abortion seems like a quick fix to the problem. but dont u think the baby atleast deserves a chance at life?

yea, that's true. I'm sorry that I said the abortion thing. I wasn't htinking. The baby does deserve to live, and yes, adoption seems like a good choice. But the thought of the baby never having his/her real mother... =( But anyhow, try to take care of the child as much as you can. If it fails, then put him/her up for adoption. Even if the child "might" hate you forever, at least you know the child might haev a chance at having a better life.

ps: I'm not a big fan of children..

[*jooleeah*]

adoption seems good. but then again if you bonded with your child ( sounds corny i know) then i would think it would be too harmful for you to give it away. like silver said, you might regret it soon. talk to your parents about it. if they don't really respond the way you want them to, talk to a friend. ask your parents if they can take care of it. if they can't for some reason, ask another adult to help you out. you'll find a way to fix this problem soon.

[angel_girl]

wow ur onli 15 n having a babii u should get a nice job

[dani41790]

O_o

[perdyperdybirdy]

adopton would be the best thing to do.

[scissor_kiss]

i just want to let every know that i think you guys are all great people for helping out this girl and you don't even know her. that's why i love creteblog. you can ask anything and a ton of people will relate, help, or just plain listen. sometimes thats all you need. thank you.

rei: i am praying for you.

[177emories]

you got married and divorced already? are you sure that you even legally married??? anyways so your 15... it was your decision to have the child, cause if it was tooo late and u realized that u were pregnent, you could of have had an abortion... its more simple than having to take care of a child, especially when your still in high school!!! so its too late for an abortion of course lol... but now since u already have it... go to your ex-husband's family and demand to get a certain amought of money from them each month, like have your family talk to their family... if he wasn't going to be responsible for a baby than he should not be having sex with young girls in the first place, and his parents has got to be respnsible for their son who cause a teenage to be a mother at such a young age... no girl at that age should have to worry about a baby... they should be out having fun not having to take care of a baby... and ain't your parents there for you? to support you?? okay i'm typing too much...

[177emories]

wow ur onli 15 n having a babii u should get a nice job

you should not get a job, you should stay in school and get a good education and put the child in daycare while your at school...

[Just_Dream]

you got married and divorced already? are you sure that you even legally married??? anyways so your 15... it was your decision to have the child, cause if it was tooo late and u realized that u were pregnent, you could of have had an abortion... its more simple than having to take care of a child, especially when your still in high school!!! so its too late for an abortion of course lol... but now since u already have it... go to your ex-husband's family and demand to get a certain amought of money from them each month, like have your family talk to their family... if he wasn't going to be responsible for a baby than he should not be having sex with young girls in the first place, and his parents has got to be respnsible for their son who cause a teenage to be a mother at such a young age... no girl at that age should have to worry about a baby... they should be out having fun not having to take care of a baby... and ain't your parents there for you? to support you?? okay i'm typing too much...

Yea, I said that thing about abortion too, but thedilenquent told me that the chid does deserve to live, and well, I agree with her on that one. The baby should get his/her chance to live. It's not the baby's fault. =T

[F_L_I_P]

she quitted now even her xanga.

[F0r3v3r]

why doesnt rei answer at all? she was the one asking for help, and it's been almost a week since your plea. you may be going through some shit, but asking people on a xanga forum for help? sounds just like someone who has too much time on their hands to me.

thats what i was thinking...it doesnt even sound believable

[blah3868]

Posted on Apr 24 2004, 3:29 PM
QUOTE (waccoon @ Mar 23 2004, 3:27 PM)

why doesnt rei answer at all? she was the one asking for help, and it's been almost a week since your plea. you may be going through some shit, but asking people on a xanga forum for help? sounds just like someone who has too much time on their hands to me. 


thats what i was thinking...it doesnt even sound believable 

i agree shes da one whoz askin fo help so if it waz tru den she would have came and replyed

[rOckThISshYt]

oh my god. i feel so bad for you. you are so young. did you have to drop out of highschool. why didn't you put your kid up for adoption or get an abortion? i sure as hell know that i would have!!! i feel so bad!

[shawty_redd]

she left! oh no i didnt get to say what i wanted..u guys think that u may have scared her away??

[Blueiyzboy]

personally, I thinks a large number of guys walk out when that have a kid at such a yound age. due to the fact that they know they are not going to be able to be responsible and take care of it. Also they might be afraid and not know what to do with the rest of there life

-jus a thought
(from a guys view)

[*grrfield*]

o how sad though!!

[kirbymuixo]

I think it's best to put the baby up for adoption cuz if you're that young, you need to focus your life on school and all that important stuff. Taking care of a baby would hinder your goals for the future since you need to spend all that time caring for the child and you don't have time for other stuff...

[DixieDaCutie]

shouldve used condomz... ^_^

[waccoon]

this isn't real. people, stop commenting.

[F_L_I_P]

this isn't real. people, stop commenting.

For real..i think i just noticed that.

[islandkiss]

you could always give your baby up for adoption....

[swtpumkinpie]

Aww, well maybe you should've gotten an abortion or something. But then, did Bush ban abortions? I heard he did.. but I'm not sure..

i don't think abortions are right, with the exception of rape. you know what you are doing so you shouldn't kill a human being just to solve your problems.

anyway, if your parents don't help out you should get child support from your ex. that's a way to go. you could get help from welfare and there are places to help young mothers or something of that sort. you should look more into it. there are definitely services like that to help you. you just need to look into it.

my friend had a baby at 16. i don't even know how you cantake a care of a baby at that age, but you have to be grown now and deal with what comes. just look into those services. there should be tons of those around.

[miss-blasian]

uhh...is this real?? well anyway..i am sorry you are a "teen mother". but. yeah. if youre gonna ask for help...the best thing to do is at least read and check back up..but yeah...

[LatinaLady]

this could be true and all but i wont belive it at all. i have come across people who fake to be moms especially in kiwibox so ill just ignore it and close my mouth...

[ji_cabinx]

i'm 15...and i don't think i'll have to worry about that till i'm twice my age! ^_^

[princess2113]

ask parents to help, pray, and he or his family, depending on his situation, or maybe both? im pretty sure have to pay child support so press that!

[uT oH iiTs sTePh]

woaaaahhhhh amazing i didnt know none of that

[emrzz09]

uhh..sorry, but you cant get married when you're 15.

[babygurl_xtacy]

how can your be married when your 15.....? like legally married? so bs..

[americasidol]

i was adopted, my birth mom had me when she was 16, personally, im VERY glad she did,(give me up for adoption)you should consider open adoption, then you can see your child from time to time and watch her grow, but you wont have to give up your life to raise her/him. my birth mom went to pharmacy school and shes really smart and im proud of her. I didn't know you could get married at 15?!? But anyway, consider it. You could call places mayb like planned parenthood or sumthin? hope this helps! email me if u need to kno ne thing else its dumblonde101@hotmail.com.

[x hYpErRoSeY x]

im sorry for what happened :( but r you in school? if not go back, maybe find a nicer man later, ask your parents for help if you can

[AznPryde324]

i was looking around the old threads in the girls locker and i found this and youre pregnant and youre asian!?! you make us look bad. you just made the girls look like sluts

[pink_tootsie]

im sry... idk how to help but maybe u can go to ur family for help like ur mom dad grandparents any relatives!

[F_L_I_P]

i was looking around the old threads in the girls locker and i found this and youre pregnant and youre asian!?! you make us look bad. you just made the girls look like sluts

Dude man seriously your pissing me off. dude i dont care if this thread real or not she might be pregnant or what so ever but you dont call a girl you dont know a slut. youre making asians look bad not her a-hole.

-Phil-

[lilteardrop]

eeks. bad situtation! idunno how to help. sorry!

[PingPong]

ur in the wrong situation in the wrong time.. never do stunts like those... go listen to Dr. Laura or even better... call her. she will give u advice. stay wit ur parents (if ur not right now) n just take care of the kid... let ur maternal instinct take over.. do wats right for they kid.

well note to all the gurls that are reading.. dont have sex before Marriage. if u do... use a stupid condom dam... if ur to afraid of buying one in the stores.. then ur not ready to have sex. so yea..

[babyytookrazie]

this isn't real. people, stop commenting.

how do you know it isn't true.. i have a 13 year old friend who is pregnant 8 months already, and don't even ding dong tell me it isn't true... because i went to the doctors with her alright? and if she IS lying then that's just low.. but i think she's telling the truth..

[sheepy]

i think u should like go tell someone about it. if u hav a whole future ahead of you , you could give the child to adoption, or soemthing.
i feel sry for you..

[swtpumkinpie]

i would say you go straight down to welfare and they could help you out.

my bf's friend is older and he just lives in his parents house and has two kids. they're planning on a third even though they can't pay for them but the government can. you should get help from the government.

[lyin_in_wait]

i think that you chose to have unprotected sex and the results were a baby, so if your looking for sympathy im all out when your pregnant unless you were raped then i can make an exception but u made the choice, now live with it....im sure theres welfare out there like foodstamps and thrift stores in your neighbor hood anyways im sorry for being harsh but its the truth

[XHiddenbeautyX]

having a child at 15 is hard, cuz if u still have skool an all, ull need someone to care for ur child. not to mention responding to their needs

[highdive95]

first off how old were you when you got married?! if you had a kid at 15 were you only married for 9 months or something? if you want to keep your baby, i can only say get help right away- if your parents are still behind you, then get a monetarily good job and ask your parents to pay for stuff if you pay for some too...my dad's girlfriend has a a 19 year old daughter with a 2 year old daughter- shes sort of in the same situation because she had her kid when she was 16- she dropped out of high school and now lives with her mom [and pays for nothing] so just dont follow in her path..thats all i can tell you... i hope you figure something out

[tallaznkate]

FiRST OFF, i`M SORRY ABOUT YOUR SiTUATiON. SECONDLY, MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET YOUR PARENT'S HELP. THEN YOU CAN FiNiSH HiGH SCHOOL, GO TO COLLEGE N AT LEAST HAVE A DEGREE.

[inthemudhole]

Wow.
This is OLD.
Jeez.
Sounds fake to me..

[ciara nicole]

wow. sweetie if you want to help this baby have a great life, i think you need to get off of the computer and spend time with that baby. hopefully your parents will help you with the baby and you can continue to go to school and get an education becasue in the long run that will help both you and your child. i hope everything works out for you. you'll be in my thoughts.

[*FreeStickers*]

...you can get married at 15?

[cmgchica717]

why doesnt rei answer at all? she was the one asking for help, and it's been almost a week since your plea. you may be going through some shit, but asking people on a xanga forum for help? sounds just like someone who has too much time on their hands to me.

HAHAHAHA yah where is the girl now. She hasnt commented. I totally agree

[*Fallen_Fairy*]

That's sad. I'm hoping that at least you have the support of your family.

[mouse_3k]

go to ur parents or a shelter? or get a job and support urself and kid?

[sweetONyou080]

why is this oOOooOLD topic back? o.O'
hmm....people please read. :-/

[apple.]

isnt it illegal to be married before 18 ?

[DixieDaCutie]

good luck w/ tht-- seems kinda out there to me, but if it really happened, then ya might wanna talk to a counciller or somethin ya know?? professional help~!!!!!

[murderwaltz]

how did you marry someone at the age of 15? parents signed some paper? anyway.. im sorry to hear that. i think this is the part where you seek for your mom's help. i mean, she raised you didn't she? she can help, she's been in a baby situation before. if not then ask one of your best friends if she can help for a little. go to her place and stay there until you get a job or something. i dont know. i tried my best.

[iki2aZei]

..had sex.... 15.. mom.. 3 months-old daughter.. married.. divorced.. wow so much at just 15.. ask ur parents for help......

[HongKongDong]

...you can get married at 15?

You revived this topic.... because?