advice??, i really need some >.< Options

[mzz_shotee]

my friend just realized she's a bisexual. she's really scared and dunno how to deal with it and she asked me and my girlfriend for some advice. since i'm a bisexual, i'm supposed to be able to help her, right? well i can't
when i realized i was a bisexual i just told everybody and made a joke out of it and people were mostly like "haha i knew it!! " and they treated me the same. but half of the people in my friend's school (we go to different schools) already dislikes her alot because they suspect she's a lesbian. isn't that HORRIBLE?!? anyways, she's afraid of what's gonna happen if people finds out. she's proud that she's bisexual and doesn't really wanna hide it from everyone (trust me, it's freaking HARD to keep this kinda stuff in). so what do you think she should do?? and how should she tell her parents? i haven't told mine yet and i don't think i EVER will, but my friend hates lieing to her parents(such a goody-goody ). please help
oh and we're 16, by-the-way

[angel-roh]

well there are lot of haters... i actually kinda do dislike bi-sexuals... so yeah but i wont leave flames to you... well i guess what you need to do is, go to talk to your closest friends or a counselor to help you out?

[Nicolatofu]

if she tells her parents, she will feel a lot better, and then her parents may be able to help her through the kids who only dislike her just because she's bisexual. i think that's stupid.

[toodlepops.]

maybe u should ask her to talk to a councelor first. they'll noe what to do.

[lyin_in_wait]

well maybe she should wait awhile before opening up...not cuz shes not proud but maybe for her safety...but she should go see some one who can help go through what shes going through

[swe3ttemptasian]

well if they were really friends.. they could care less b/c of someone's sexuality.. but yeah.. I have a bisexual friend.. but everyone treats her the same..

[lilJdawg]

she should tell her parents but you can talk to an adult or a consuler for help.

[angel-roh]

^ i agree with this person too.

she should tell her parents. but if she did and she she a strictly-religion rules...dun dun dun... you will never see that friend again. lol it's true sometimes haha. but yeah--- but i would tell her to keep it to herself for like years and years until the next few years?? yeah... when did you guys both started to be bisexual..what makes you girls think that you are too.

[h0y_Kalbo]

my gosh its like sexiest these days, why cant we all get along, my gosh i bet some day someone gonna be like martin luther king jr. but talk about different sex, like "i had a dream that all sexes will be treated the same or something." whats wrong with being bisexual shoot, i wouldnt care if i was bisexual it'll will be my way of life or something haha.

[charanjust4yu]

who cares what other people think???? i bet half of them are bisexual, gay, or lesbian. they dont tell anyone because they dont want to be made fun of. go out there and tell the world. maybe more people will get courage after seeing that they are not the only ones.. im sorry its quite long but i think this will happen

[Animelover113]

Yea, she should talk to someone who is close to her or tell her parents. it's not wrong being a bisexual because in my school, there are so many bisexuals it's not even funny. everywhere you go there are bisexuals. anyway, just talking to someone close to her is good enough

[perfectxflaw23]

I'm not sure there's much to tell her that will help. Just stick by her, and stick up for her. That's the best thing you can do. My friends did it for me, and it helped so much.

[*Programmer*]

it's up to her...there's nothing wrong wiht bi-sexuality...and anyone that says other wise can go f*ck themselves...

[rOckThISshYt]

Yep. I had that same problem.

I just grew up a realized that I couldn't control people's opinions of me. I knew that my true friends would stay by me and the ones that didn't want to weren't real friends in the first place. That helped me get through it.

I knew I could control how I feel about it. I accepted myself and basicly made a personal agreement with myself that I wouldn't let anyone bring me down no matter what because that's not WHO I am. It's just one of those details. I think that's one of the biggest reason people disgriminate and some people are ashamed of themselves.

I'm totally comfortable with it and everyone knows. I was tired of keeping it in so I told my friends and I told them I didn't care if it got out. So, basicly, it got out to a lot of people. The next week one of the school's gossip saw me hooking up with a chick outside the mall in front of everyone and EVERY eighth grader found out and many seventh graders. But like I cared.

Later, I told my parents. I have really cool parents (when it comes to that kind of thing). I pretty much just came out and told them. It was pretty sudden but they didn't really care. But I knew they wouldn't. If she's scared her parents won't be as comfortable with it, she should probably break it to her much more slowly. My parents didn't care.

But it depends where you come from and your own confidence. It took most people a little while to warm up to me but a lot of a girls soon realized that I wasn't about to hit on them or anything (if I knew they wouldn't want me to ) and they got used to it. Some people would talk and some would question me about who I thought was hott and all that stuff. But I got used to it.

It's really not too hard as long as you're prepared to handle it.

And a huge tip is that after girls get comfortable with their sexuality, they start hitting on girls that are straight and not caring and making the girls really uncomfortable. You should not do that because it's a great way to get people to hate you.