I only go for.. Options

[jambaJUICE]

Just wondering..

How many people on CB "only go for personality, and not looks."
or how many people say, "i dont care for blahblah, i only go for personality"

It's nice that you look onto personality and not looks.
But, how do you meet people then?

I mean.. since most people that declare that, believe that people who just look at random people and determine if they're goodlooking or not or think positive or negative things, are stereotyping.

Like for instance..
You're in a room with new people that you never met before.
Who would you try to befriend, without "stereotyping."

This post has been edited by jambaJUICE: Dec 25 2004, 10:42 PM

[inthemudhole]

I just go for personality.
Once I start to like someone, they become really cute to me. [shrugs]
If that made sense at all.

I don't even know how my crushes form.
I just like someone all of a sudden.. it's not because of the way they look, however. I guess maybe the way they talk, their intelligence, their tastes in music, the way they carry themselves..

[ShadowPixie]

Yeah, to me, looks hardly play a role in my meeting people. i jsut talk to them or whatever, and if I like who they are, no matter what they look like, I start to get feelings for them. Meh, thats how it is for me.

[jambaJUICE]

No no, i'm asking like how do you meet people before you even know them.
You only can see how they appear, and you don't know anything about them.

Like for instance..
You're in a room with new people that you never met before.
Who would you try to befriend, without "stereotyping."

[ArtificialBlonde]

i do go for personality..i get to know the person..and then after you find out how great their personality is, they tend to get cuter..lol.

but i dunno how i meet people..i have one of those personalities that stand out..so its easy for me to talk to people..and then people just start talking to me..and well, it's random. i dunno what i'm talking about now..i just confused myself

[Nicolatofu]

^^ i agree with artificialblonde, as i get to know them, they tend to get cuter...i must admit though, looks do count for something at times, especially when i first get to know them, but then if they treat me right and i really start to like them, i could care less how they look

as for meeting people....i notice how they look, and can usually make a pretty accurate observation of the person, but i try to set that aside to give them a chance to prove to me what type of person they are. In all, i'm pretty open minded about people, or i try to be...

[inthemudhole]

No no, i'm asking like how do you meet people before you even know them.
You only can see how they appear, and you don't know anything about them.

Like for instance..
You're in a room with new people that you never met before.
Who would you try to befriend, without "stereotyping."

OH. Koff. I get it.

Well.. I kind of befriend the people that don't seem bitchy.
I can kind of tell if someone's going to be bitchy.. not by the way they're dressed, but more like the way they talk to other people.. and the way they just.. speak.. kinda.. Yeah.

So I usually tend to befriend the people that seem interesting.
This may be extremely stereotypical of me, but I'll befriend people that don't wear Aeropostale and crap like that. I might befriend people who seem a bit more shy and held back.. people that are maybe wearing band shirts that I would wear. Stuff like that, yah know? I'd just try and figure out their personality by the way they're talking and dressed.. stuff like that.

If that all made sense. XD

[jennyjenny]

People say I'm very outgoing..
if they were my age or somewhere close, I would befriend them..
if they seemed like the person who were jerks to other people, I wouldn't even bother.
Basically, I would probably befriend the people who are friendly to other people, my kind of style, or who are nice.

And it's sort of nice to have online friends, because you know them because of personality. There was this one kid, and we were friends for like, a year or so.. and then he showed me his picture and a lot of my friends and I agreed that he was really ugly, and then we became not friends anymore because of that.

[misoka]

What happens if the guy you're dating ends up in a car accident and loses an arm or a leg? I sure as hell wouldn't say, "oh well sorry. I hope you get better. Later!"

For me, if a guy is interested in talking to me...shares the same interest...and most of all cares for me as a friend...that's when the feelings start to develop.

That's what makes a relationship strong. True feelings are the ones that makes your heart full of joy...not the ones that fade away when the tide rolls in.

And personally...I'd rather stay in a long term relationship anyway. Not something that's taken for granted. SO, if I had met someone somewhere...I wouldn't exclude everyone...I'd talk to them all. And then I'd see which personality shines out the most from the crowd.

Which is why I say I only go for personality...Because if I was at a place, I wouldn't want someone to exclude me for my looks...Everyone's personality is unique. And I know that I would NOT want to be excluded just for my looks. I'd want a chance. And that's what everyone deserves.

I hope I've made my point clear.

[jambaJUICE]

What happens if the guy you're dating ends up in a car accident and loses an arm or a leg? I sure as hell wouldn't say, "oh well sorry. I hope you get better. Later!"

For me, if a guy is interested in talking to me...shares the same interest...and most of all cares for me as a friend...that's when the feelings start to develop.

That's what makes a relationship strong. True feelings are the ones that makes your heart full of joy...not the ones that fade away when the tide rolls in.

And personally...I'd rather stay in a long term relationship anyway. Not something that's taken for granted. SO, if I had met someone somewhere...I wouldn't exclude everyone...I'd talk to them all. And then I'd see which personality shines out the most from the crowd.

Which is why I say I only go for personality...Because if I was at a place, I wouldn't want someone to exclude me for my looks...Everyone's personality is unique. And I know that I would NOT want to be excluded just for my looks. I'd want a chance. And that's what everyone deserves.

I hope I've made my point clear.

Yay, that made sense.
A LOT of sense... except for the leg part. =X

[ShadowPixie]

No no, i'm asking like how do you meet people before you even know them.
You only can see how they appear, and you don't know anything about them.

Like for instance..
You're in a room with new people that you never met before.
Who would you try to befriend, without "stereotyping."

Well, I just go by feeling. If i get good feeling of of people, I will talk to them.

[misoka]

Yay, that made sense.
A LOT of sense... except for the leg part. =X

LOL...what I mean by that was...you'd still love someone even if something happened to them...because your feelings are that strong. I envy people that have relationships that are true and proud...and that's what I want to follow.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

i go for both personality and looks... sucks that sometimes looks are more important... or that they may get in the way sometimes.... but meh, i can't help it

[pikimoo]

I meet people through friends. Or whoever is sitting closest to me.

Yep.

Or I just start doing something stupid. Whoever will speak to me after I make an idiot out of myself must make a good friend.

[bad_girl]

i go for both.

[misoka]

I meet people through friends. Or whoever is sitting closest to me.

Yep.

Or I just start doing something stupid. Whoever will speak to me after I make an idiot out of myself must make a good friend.

that's so true. whoever puts up with the weird things I do...or say...really shows something.

[ichiban]

I usually meet new people through my friends. So my friends talk to them, I get an idea of their personality, and yeah.

[Flip-o-Matic]

usually, to me, the way they dress and hold themselves determines whether i'll like them or not. other than that, personality rules. i don't go on by looks.

[Too Asian To DIE]

for me its personality and then i start to lyk how they look... its lyk a process...

[tina_dc]

With me, there are people who i become attracted to that are attractive but once i get to know them, there personality plays a big role. I mean if it sucks, it's done. Then there are the people who are less attractive who i don't see myself with. But as i get to know them, if there personality is actually really great, i start to fall for them.

[christiee_nax]

you cant notice a personality from across the room. most of the time anyways.

for me, sure i might get attracted to the guy if he's good looking but then if his personality sucked.. oh well. there have been times too tho that i crushed on just-okay-looking guys because their personalities were awesome.

[LiLrEbL365]

dude i go for looks...such as if i was in a room full of new people i would look for the cute ones and talk to them first.

[ApunBindaas]

I'm not even going to lie. I go for looks. I mean personality comes later but when was the last time an unattractive person made you want to date them?

[*Kathleen*]

Okay, so if I walk into a room full of people, you're asking how would I choose who to talk to and befriend? Anyone I possibly can...and from there, I get to know them and then if it clicks, it clicks. If it doesn't, I still...have a friend. Okay, I'm officially not making sense.

[lovescream]

I go for personality. Well, sometimes. Sometimes if they're too hot to resist.. i like them. But I have a crush on my male friend who I spend talking to most of the time. He's really understandable, funny, nice, sometimes stupid, but he's like me. =]

[*basick*]

looks/how they dress

dont front you know you are like that too

[Shattered_Hope]

I go mainly for personality..I mean I wouldnt go for a guy just for looks...meh, he might be stuck up or vain...not willing to take that chance...

[jambaJUICE]

for me its personality and then i start to lyk how they look... its lyk a process...

I go for personality. Well, sometimes. Sometimes if they're too hot to resist.. i like them. But I have a crush on my male friend who I spend talking to most of the time. He's really understandable, funny, nice, sometimes stupid, but he's like me. =]

I go mainly for personality..I mean I wouldnt go for a guy just for looks...meh, he might be stuck up or vain...not willing to take that chance...

To the those that said that..

How would you be able to know what their personality is, before you even talk to them? I had asked how would you befriend someone that you don't even know. You're in a room filled with other people your age; and your friends aren't with you.

Like Christiee_Nax said,

you cant notice a personality from across the room. most of the time anyways.

It's understandable that you would find a crush with a great personality, but in order to find that personality.. wouldn't you have to meet him first?
So how would meet somebody with a nice personality in a room filled with people, in which you don't know anyone.

[xTINAA]

well i think that no matter if you say you go for personality, looks do come into play. i think you base everything off that FIRST time you see them, as in if you want to even try to get to know them better y`know? which is based on the way they look. like let`s say you are a prep or whatever. and you see someone who is all punked out. well because of the way they look you probably won`t want to get to know their personality because of who are you, y`know? so looks DO come into play. you can`t only go for someone based on personality or only based on looks. they kind of go hand in hand. and also, if you do like someone based on personality who you might not think is that goodlooking in the first place, well usually they get better looking. and someone who might be really hot who has a sucky personality, they might get uglier to you. so they go hand in hand kind of.

[Jean4evr[sK]]

I go for personality. Usually I just do something real stupid first... then see who laughs at me and who laughs with me. I talk to the ppl who laugh with me (I can tell these things), and just say f**k you to the ppl who laugh at me.

I don't really concern myself with looks, I mean if they got like 300 zits on their face..... naturally I wouldn't like them. But overall personality means more.

[Wishful Thinking]

i mostly meet people (that are guys) because they insulted me. =/ mostly because of my voice.. it's really high so yeahs. =.= then i go, "I don't know you, don't talk to me." and then they kinda introduce themself, even though i don't want them to...

or because they sit near me, so i usually ask random people questions.. cuz i'm a slow learner, i don't understand things.. or listen =.=" i never pay attention so i need to work on that..

if they help me... which people mostly do =) i'll find out that they are really nice, which they are... and really helpful. =D and i think that's all i need, but i think they are more of a friend? =P

[177emories]

i go for EVERYTHING.. needs the whole package... personality, looks, money, car... you know?...

[cmgchica717]

If I was in a room with a bunch of unknown people I would work my way around the room and befriend everyone. Whomever I connected with the most is the one I would contine to pursue. I guess i am just a friendly person.

[blah1234567]

i go for personality but then if they are really hott i would go for looks

[tallaznkate]

UMM, i DONT WANNA SEEM SHALLOW OR SUPERFiCiAL BUT i GO FOR LOOKS FiRST. CAUSE HOW CAN YOU TELL WHAT KiND OF PERSON THEY ARE iF YOU`VE NEVER MET THEM? iF THEY LOOK GOOD BUT HAVE A BAD PERSONALiTY [LiKE THiS ONE GUY i KNO], i JUST FORGET ABOUT iT.

[to-devastate]

I go for looks and personality.
I get hooked on them- first for looks. then see if they got a good personality. If they don't, I'll just pass them off as "cute guys" but not as my crush.
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and hm. i would just see if anyones looking kind of nice and interested. Usually; i just blab out whatever to anyone.. yeah. I'm kind of weird . . .

[miss barnes]

i must admit...looks are a must for me. ok- if two boys tried to talk to me and i didnt know neither one, sorry but, the cuter one will be the one ima talk to

[shortiiex]

At first i go with looks, then i get to the personalitys

[gnawxela]

mmm...i basically try to "befriend" everyone .... haha, yeah, i'm a pretty outgoing person, but if they like brush me off then i leave them alone...pshhhh

[mouse_3k]

i go for personality but looks wouldnt hurt

[misoshiru]

i guess when i meet people, i go for personality, and people who look friendly

[mistaken_identit...]

My crushes are always depended the hottness, and y'know the usual; but the guys that I actually 'go for' I go for them with good personalities and I wouldn't exactly care how they look like 'cause I like him for his person, not his face.

[iheartsimba]

exactly.

see i would probably notice a boy if he was cute...then if i got to know him and he was a jerk, no way. i'd never go out with someone who ecpecially treats women wrong..

[sammehmyst]

I just go for personality.
Once I start to like someone, they become really cute to me. [shrugs]
If that made sense at all.

I don't even know how my crushes form.
I just like someone all of a sudden.. it's not because of the way they look, however. I guess maybe the way they talk, their intelligence, their tastes in music, the way they carry themselves..

That kind of happens to me, too.

[xkiller_muffiinx]

I go for both..I mean the personality is more important than looks but the guy has to be at least reasonable looking. But Id rather date an ugly guy whose super sweet rather than a hott jackass

[*stephinika*]

yeah i do go for looks at first, but personality is definitely a bigger factor. and i just meet guys who seem to be interesting, for instance, i look at how they interact with the people around them.

[EddieV]

I don't want to lie to anyone, but I go for looks first, than personality later, mainly what I look for in personality is if me and her have any similarities, is she a good person, does she look trust worthy, is she sweet, would she still be friends with me if we break up...

No wonder why I have only had one girlfriend, I'm too picky...

Aside from that, no offense to anyone but I have lost interest in Asian girls...

[Rachel]

well obviously looks are somewhat important but personality is what wins me over.

my boyfriend, now i dont think he is OMG SO f**king HOT but to me he is the cutest thing ever because he has an amazing personality which makes him more attractive.

[ZiggY]

i go for personality cuz looks can always change

[silver-rain]

ok, well first thing i notice is their looks, so yeah i go for looks first. but after getting to know some people after a while, i like their personality and they become cute to me then.