virginity, im scared to loose it..., help Options

[katybrown09]

okay me and my bf have talked about having sex whenever were ready, alot of my friends aren't virgins and they tell me to just get it over with ... i want too but im scared,plus i dont want to bleed on my bf when my hymen breaks... isnt that embarassing although its proly broken already cuz i ride horses every day

[yummy_delight]

if you're scared, then you definitely should NOT do it. don't let your friends pressure you if you don't feel like you're entirely ready. smart move talking to your boyfriend first about it...

[177emories]

don't do it when your scared... do it when your ready... but probably before you do it would would be scared anyways... but don't do it just because your freinds did it, do it because YOU wnat to not your bf wnats to, guys are horny..

[*Kathleen*]

Mmm yeah, definitely don't fall victim to peer pressure. That's the worst. If your boyfriend cared about you, he'd wait until the right time, too.

[happygoluckyng]

dont' be pressured...do it when you feel like your ready...if your friends and your bf really care bout you..then they wouldn't try and get you to do it w/o your own will

[Nicolatofu]

hey i'm in the same boat. i have maybe 3 friends who are still virigns. But it doesn't intimidate me one one bit. if they were ready, that was their choice, but they control whether or not theysave their virginity, not mine. Your boyfriend is just plain horny. if he really cares for you, & you tell him you wanna wait, he should understand

[ArtificialBlonde]

don't give into peer pressure..you're really lucky that you are able to talk to your guy about it tho..my only advice for you is that it's your choice, do it if YOU feel like you're ready, not if your bf is ready..

[laur3nw]

Gahhhhhh, I hate peer pressure. Don't let that get to you. Do it when you're ready because right now, it seems like you aren't.

[Fatality]

When you want to do it.
Do it.
But be entirely sure that your ready for everything that follows.
If your boyufriend knows your a virgin the blood shouldn't be a problem.

Don't just do it because of friends.
Having your virginty can be a proud thing.
So, really don't worry about it.
If your not ready.
Your definetly not ready.

[katybrown09]

see we have talked about it and my bf says that he will wait he doesnt wanna rush me into anything i dont wanna do, i want to but then again i dont... its weird

[angel-roh]

im scared if i will lose my virginity too im only 16...good thing i survived so far... T_T;; it's hard...

[tallaznkate]

YEA, EVERYONE DAT POSTED iS RiGHT. DO iT WHEN YOU`RE READY

[pretty_pinay057]

well even if your friends lost their viginity you don't have to and plus if your boyfriend knew that you weren't ready he wouldn't talk about it with you and you should save your girlhood until you get married because that's the only way you for sure know that it's with the right person...

and guys are just ready to hit that and i know as a girl that you love him and what not but hold it in you and be sure that he is the right one to lose your virgince to...

in scary movies, virgins live!!

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[Pineapplepower]

Listen to the ppl who say when you are ready. I don't relly know for I'm only 13

[lyin_in_wait]

it sounds like your not ready so ya know what? dont do it! you should do it because you want to not your friends cuz virginity is something that you can never get back...may not seem special now but if lost with the wrong person then you can have that morning after regret and stuff....

[Just_Dream]

WAIT WAIT WAIT..

By looking at your birthday, You're ONLY 14! Don't you dare lose your virginity! Especially if you're scared. You might regret it later! You're not sure that you'll spend the rest of your life with him, so don't give in! And how can riding hourses break yoyur hymn or whatever it's called? How do you know your boyfriend isn't just dating you to score and get in your pants?

[*tyedyefroggy*]

Ya, dont let peer pressure get to you. You must wait until YOU are ready.

[aznxdreamer]

if your afraid, then your not ready.

[x shootingstar x]

14? don't do it. how long have u been dating? *you answer* i dun kare.. u'r stil 14.. dun do it. DUN DO IT!!

[*stephinika*]

exactly. you are only 14...i'm 16 and i'm not even THINKING about losing mine yet. just wait...it'll be worth it. and the fact that you're even questioning yourself means that you simply just aren't ready yet.

[katybrown09]

thanks for helping me out ppl i neede the advice, im gunna wait for a while i feel stupid for even posting this...

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[booger butt]

peer presure is a royal pain in the ass.

If your scared...thats probably a sign that your not ready yet.

[weirdness]

like what ze other people said

if you dont want to, dont.

[Shattered_Hope]

I think you should wait till you're older. And more ready.

[inthemudhole]

Don't feel pressured..
If you do, then don't go through with it.

Wait until you're older.. or at least wait until you're ready to enjoy it.

[__xxfrappachino...]

im scared if i will lose my virginity too im only 16...good thing i survived so far... T_T;; it's hard...

me too.. hehe..and i ish 16 too =)

[ANG33ZY]

like what ze other people said

if you dont want to, dont.

yeah.. you don't gotta if you don't wanna. hey that rhymed.

[jennyjenny]

yeah.. you don't gotta if you don't wanna. hey that rhymed.

no, it didn't.


Don't do it until you're ready.
And you can always tell your friends that you're non-virgin anymore
They're not gonna know.. unless your boyfriend tells them otherwise.

[mouse_3k]

okay me and my bf have talked about having sex whenever were ready, alot of my friends aren't virgins and they tell me to just get it over with ... i want too but im scared,plus i dont want to bleed on my bf when my hymen breaks... isnt that embarassing  although its proly broken already cuz i ride horses every day

if ur scared, then dont do it. besides, u dont want to be known as a whore at school sooo...if ur scared, then stop questioning urself cause ur damned not ready

[Skyline Drive]

If you are scared then you are not ready. Don't be peer pressured!

All guys want in middle school & highschool is to have sex. Half of them can't even toast their own bread or do their own laundry. I don't think they should take on trying to have sex if they can't even fold their own socks. The end.

You guys should be skipping in the park.

[unfortunatekiwi]

i'm only 12...in 7th grade and there are girls losing their virginity. it's scary. i don't plan to until i'm like....18.

[me1issaaaa]

well... if you're having ANY doubt at all, you're definitely not ready. when you are, you should know you can trust your boyfriend and you know you have no doubt about it. and you're second guessing it, so i would say to wait. at this age, most of the time it's just the 'in the moment' hormones that lead to it, not the actual wanting and loving/trusting your partner. just save it until you know you're ready.

god, i sound like a nurse or something...

[KRicoBoriqua]

Many of my friends are not virgins and they tell me to wait becuz they wish they had becuz they were pressured into it or it just wasnt the right guy or time. Youd should feel better about urself knowing u are one. Oh and about the bleeding thing you shouldnt have to worry about being embarrased...if it was the right guy becuz u should feel comfertable with them.

[inlonelinessidie]

see we have talked about it and my bf says that he will wait he doesnt wanna rush me into anything i dont wanna do, i want to but then again i dont... its weird

If there is a doubt (which you are having) then here's the answer: don't. That simple. God your friends aren't virgins? And so young . . . what a shame.

My advice, don't lose your innocence so young. If you grow up too fast, then what will you have to look forward to in the future?

//EDIT: What the hell? You're 14?!? You're too young to have sex and 90% of the time you'll regret it. Ready to have a baby so young? Condoms and birth control fail sometimes, did you know that? Ready to have sex, ready to have a baby and responsibilities. God, kids these days. Wait until you're at least 18, you won't have legal problems that way. Don't give it up to a horned up 14 year old.

Kids these days are getting more degenerated as we speak.

[blah1234567]

hes your bf?? have sex when your married lol coz remeber he CAN dump you

[*Weird addiction*]

if ur scared,dont do it

[*krnxswat*]

Uh, then tighten it?

[ghjgfkgfk]

hes your bf?? have sex when your married lol coz remeber he CAN dump you

i'm assuming divorce doesn't apply to you.

[imm]

Wtf? You're what, 14? And you want to lose your f**king virginity? What the hell has this world become. Sorry, but don't. Seriously, if you don't feel good about having sex in the first place, things like pregnancy and crap will come later, and that's even worse.

[X_xhidden_tearsx...]

you know alot of people are born without hymen, just so you know

[Skyline Drive]

you know alot of people are born without hymen, just so you know

That doesn't make it right.
Even if she didn't have a hymen , she is still young and is undediced about it which is a clear sign that shouldn't be having sex.

The end.

[toodlepops.]

dont do it under pressure and do it when ur ready.

[gelionie]

Erm... here's some advice... not written by me though...

How does one stay virgin?
KNOW your attitudes and standards and why you choose them and good and practical.
VALUE your virginity for your own good and your future great mate.
ACT
- choose friends with high standards
- stay away from dangers and temptations
- show others you are proud of your values
- be kind but firm


just learn how to say no

[miss barnes]

if you're scared to do it then dont do it. just take your time and do what you're comfortable with.

[lilJdawg]

if your not ready to lose your virginity yet, don't lose it. don't let your friends pressure you into doing it. when you feel the time is ready, you can tell your boyfriend that your ready. if your boyfriend really loves & cares for you, he will wait for you till your ready.

[skaterjswife2]

if you're scared to lose it, you're not ready for it, don't do it. k.

[*not_your_average*]

okay me and my bf have talked about having sex whenever were ready, alot of my friends aren't virgins and they tell me to just get it over with ... i want too but im scared,plus i dont want to bleed on my bf when my hymen breaks... isnt that embarassing although its proly broken already cuz i ride horses every day

a lot of your friends aren't virgins??? that's not cool. plus you're only 14, definetely wait till you're older!

[spootiee]

you should not if you feel pressured. you should not if you feel scared. you should not if you feel embarassed. you will know when the right time is and perhaps it is not now.

[angel-roh]

me too.. hehe..and i ish 16 too =)

you're 16 wow... i didnt know that... well you look bit older looking in your picture. i thought you would be 19 or 20 lol

[Chii]

i don't see what the big deal is, you people shouldn't just outright say "no don't lose it" just give a suggestion, it's not like you know her personally or that you're her, it's her body she can do whatever she wants as long as it's not going to kill or severely damage her.

what's the big deal about losing your virginity when you're 16? i lost mine in august and i'm 16, (soon to be 17 in february), also to be honest, i had sex with my boyfriend yesterday

blah blah blah we (my boyfriend and i) know that condoms are only 90 something percent effective but whatever, we love each other and it just feels right

[whywasisostupid]

actulay im scared to lose it too. la

[katybrown09]

i don't see what the big deal is, you people shouldn't just outright say "no don't lose it" just give a suggestion, it's not like you know her personally or that you're her, it's her body she can do whatever she wants as long as it's not going to kill or severely damage her.

what's the big deal about losing your virginity when you're 16? i lost mine in august and i'm 16, (soon to be 17 in february), also to be honest, i had sex with my boyfriend yesterday

blah blah blah we (my boyfriend and i) know that condoms are only 90 something percent effective but whatever, we love each other and it just feels right

seriously i think ill wait longer and not do it now, but im gunna end up loosing sometime soon, and almost ALL my friends have done it and they tell everyone, im not ashamed of who i am... ppl who want to label me as a "whore" can go right ahead i dont care what ppl say about me cuz within a few years i proly wont even know who they are you dont understand, dont say that my bf doesnt respect me and he just wants in my pants... he told me he doesnt want to rush me into anything i dont wnna do, nad i talked to hima bout it not him to me,

[BEBEx_iNFAM0USS]

omg, if you are scared, u are def. not ready. and dont let your friends tell you what to do, its your life!

[BEBEx_iNFAM0USS]

and it depends on the PERSON. there is not proper AGE for it.

[katybrown09]

and it depends on the PERSON. there is not proper AGE for it.

Thank You ive only found 2 ppl who feel the way i feel about it

[usagimoon72287]

just because your friends does it doesn't mean that you have to do it to,some of my friends do it but i don't want, people think that sex is noting but its a whole lot more than that. Your virginity is your diamonds, your pearls, it has to be with the right person at the right time, there are alot of steps on getting ready for it, alot od cautions, u have to know your partner very well (check if they ever done because you don't want any diseases from them) and don't let your friend pressure you to do it, only you can decide.

[Me= Sex-C Love x...]

I wouldn't listen to your friends. It's stupid...if you don't think you're ready to do it. DON'T

[angelrevelation]

haha pretty_pinay057 that IS true (the movie thing)

personally, i think you should wait until you're married. and from this post, you're definetly not ready, even if part of you wants to... do it... and you should tell your friends that you dont feel comfortable about them pressuring you like that.

and wow. you're only 14! and most aren't virgins anymore?? wow i'm 13 and i only know of 2 girls that supposedly aren't. what's the world coming to?? *sigh*

[freeflow]

you should wait
you do it when you ready
not when your friends are ready for you to get it over with

[ladys1mpt1m0uz]

hey if you're not comfortable dont do it. it'll be fine, just hope you're bf would support with you're decision. dont worry about you're friends. if they were you're true friends, they would totally understand. it's you're body not theirs. remember just think what's in you're heart not what other people say.

[dOyOOHtHINK]

I def. kno im afraid... i mean i dont really have anything to be afraid of.. more than half of my friends arent virgins but when im ready ill be ready.. and when i got out with a guy.. i make sure he knows that he cant push me to do sumthing i dont wanna do.. and if he likes/loves me he will respect my decision..

[HelloSunshine]

Be sure you're completely ready and sure before, though!

[tresa1992]

If you're scared / nervous / afraid, then that's a sign of not readiness. And yes, don't let your friends pressure you. You do it when you feel like doing it. Plus, what's the rush for? Stick to making out / kissing, then maybe, later on in life, you'll be ready. If you're not ready, then you're not ready. It's your decision. Plus, you're only fourteen, you have a long way to go. Just wait, and the time will come to you.

[endura88]

virginity is a very speacial thing that us women or girls whatever have....so dont lose it yet if you're not ready and please youre friends dont listen to them....it's your body so you have the right to choose not listen to your friends who might be trying to get you to lose your virginity cause they done it and they prolly regretted it that's why they wants you to do it so that they can see what you've done and you might regret it...so please make the right choice....hell whatever your friend say for staying a virgin but it's special so do it with someone who u trust and love not some 14 year old love that will probally break after a few weeks or something after you done it...

[iheartsimba]

Ok, its up to you.

Do you want to do it or not?

We can't decide for you if your ready =/

[misoshiru]

if you're scared then don't lose it...if you're scared it probably means you're not ready to lose it.

[sammehmyst]

Read the lyrics to "Genie in a Bottle."

[to-devastate]

If you're scared even onebit, a teeny little bit, don't do it.
If you want to have sex, and you both are ready, then feel free to do it but even one bit of insecure-nce(sp?) is totally not worth it.

[you suck]

well if ur scared dont do it. duh.

[lovescream]

If you're scared, then dont do it until you feel that you're ready. Your friends should be supporting your choice. If you dont want to do it, you're not being forced to. Just because all of your friends aren't virgins.. doesn't mean you gotta lost your virgnity. listen to your heart..

[darkmisry]

dont let ur friends or ur bf presure u into doing something that makes u feel awkward...just let it happen when u feel that ur ready. If ur still scared look at this pic.... it reminds me of myself....

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[nyctophiliac]

Don't feel pressured..
If you do, then don't go through with it.

Wait until you're older.. or at least wait until you're ready to enjoy it.

^I agree with you. I mean you're only 14 and I'm 13...I'm not even thinking about having sex...you're way too young.

[xGlovex]

Do It..Wait A Second..YOuv Rideen A Horse Before And YOur A Virgen?
That Makes No Cents..lol jk.

[Angel_Cece]

Do what YOU want to do. Don't have anyone pressure u into anything... follow your own mind!!!

[a smile is power]

wait til your older....if youre afraid of losing your virginity, keep it!

[dani41790]

dont be pressured into doing sex just because people have done it and tell you to. only do it when you are ready to and not afraid to.

[vickiwang123]

If ure not ready, dont do it. dunt let ure friendz peer pressure you. it's not the right thing. if they force u to, break up with them because they arent ure true friendz

[sw33tdr3mer]

I am scared also I have friends who having sex since middle school....but I just don't know why I am so scared!