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 Dec 16 2004, 07:29 PM
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So.. theres this guy that really likes me. He's been asking me out constantly and i have no idea what to say to him. Im mean dont get me wrong..the guy is really sweet. I just dont see us as a couple. I've know him for to long. My friends say that i shoud give him a chance. Should I ? I just dont like him in that way at all. I only wanna be friends. Im afraid if i do go out with him..it'll ruin our friendship. Cuz thats exactly what happened to my friend. I dont wanna end up unhappy like her..what should i do? HELP!!! Ayuda!!
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| *x____duckii* |
Dec 16 2004, 07:33 PM
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Don't go out with him. Tell him that your afraid that you'll ruin the friendship like that and that you just don't like him that way.
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Dec 16 2004, 08:28 PM
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 There is a light that never goes out.... Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,044 |
QUOTE(x____duckii @ Dec 16 2004, 7:33 PM) Don't go out with him. Tell him that your afraid that you'll ruin the friendship like that and that you just don't like him that way. As much as that hurts sometimes, I have to agree with x____duckii. Becuase it would save a friendship, and who knows? Somewhere down the line you may feel the way he does, or he may just remain a friend. |
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Dec 16 2004, 08:33 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
ahah holy shit . this sounds way too familar . lol. cuz this is the exact shit that's been going around in my life. yeah i tottaly agree. freindship are the best. its better than a relationship. i mean friends last forever. and if u guys ever go out. what happens if u guys break up? are u guys ever gonna talk again? so yeah.. just tell him ya wanna be friends and shit..who knows. whatever happens after that, its all good.
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Dec 16 2004, 08:37 PM
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 I'm Dan... and no I'm not gay. Group: Member Posts: 134 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 9,977 |
Friends don't generally last forever... sadly... but if you don't want to be with him then don't go with him as a pity date. That's the worst thing you can do, unless you give him a chance and you fall for him. That's what happened to me when I gave someone a pity date. Hah I know it's bad, but I was young and stupid at the time. Anyway... it's really up to you. Quit leading him on though, by saying maybe to him or saying I'll think about it, 'cause it really rips a guy up waiting for an answer from a girl. Trust me, my friend waited for an answer for a month stupidly enough and he was hurtin' hah hah. Anyhow, it's up to you, good luck, and I hope you do the right thing.
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Dec 17 2004, 06:23 AM
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don't go with him if you don't feel comfortable, don't just go with him cause you feel sorry for him .friendship is always best
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Dec 17 2004, 03:34 PM
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if you see nothing between ou two then don't go with him, but now he will feel more uncomfortable around you. he will feel rejected.....
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Dec 18 2004, 07:07 PM
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 cacaboii. [SAN FRAN is where... Group: Member Posts: 566 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,562 |
just telll him is it ok i f we can b jus goodfriends.everyone gets rejected and its ok.. he can get over it some how..
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Dec 18 2004, 10:58 PM
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 High Voltage!∞ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,728 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,157 |
QUOTE(pympgangsta4real @ Dec 16 2004, 5:37 PM) Friends don't generally last forever... sadly... but if you don't want to be with him then don't go with him as a pity date. That's the worst thing you can do, unless you give him a chance and you fall for him. That's what happened to me when I gave someone a pity date. Hah I know it's bad, but I was young and stupid at the time. Anyway... it's really up to you. Quit leading him on though, by saying maybe to him or saying I'll think about it, 'cause it really rips a guy up waiting for an answer from a girl. Trust me, my friend waited for an answer for a month stupidly enough and he was hurtin' hah hah. Anyhow, it's up to you, good luck, and I hope you do the right thing. hmm..i don't suggest gouing out with him only out of pitty  ...say you don't want to ruin the friendship..but the only thing with that is that later on, if you have feelings for him..he might've already moved on  well..good luck, though 
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Dec 18 2004, 11:40 PM
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i have a guy friend that likes me too. for as long as i can remember, i've only thought of him as a friend. he is sweet, but i can't see us doing what high school couples do. i would say no, because i don't feel the same way he does and i don't want to go out with him. i wouldn't go out with a guy whom i feel sorry for because i say no to him everytime he asks me out.
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Dec 18 2004, 11:45 PM
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 a dorkie lil gurl Group: Member Posts: 65 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,392 |
awwwww...how cute! LOl! but yea, if you don't want to risk the friendship then don't go out with him and if you feel guilty then... don't be! ^_^ because if you say yes, it might lead him on and since it's out of pity... then... that's even worse.
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Dec 31 2004, 05:27 PM
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 november 25th,, <3 Group: Member Posts: 473 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,226 |
take the chance
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Dec 31 2004, 08:23 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
Well, if you don't want to go out with him because it will ruin you guy's friendship then don't go out with him. Tell him you want to stay friends because you don't want to lose you guy's friendship.
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Dec 31 2004, 08:47 PM
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 Tennis is my verb Group: Member Posts: 177 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,126 |
Just tell him the truth. If you think it'll ruin your friendship, just don't go out with him. I'm sure he'll understand.
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Dec 31 2004, 11:45 PM
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 Apr 24 '05* 1000 posts! Group: Member Posts: 1,184 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 56,049 |
if u really dont want to then dont force urself to. but then again, maybe u should give the poor guy a chance. i mean, u might think of him differently afterwards. and like i said in one of the other topics: if u want to love, u have to take the chance to be heartbroken.
edit.//if he's been asking u out constantly and u didnt say anything.. chances are that his hopes are down alreadi. |
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Dec 31 2004, 11:45 PM
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 ¢¾ Wanting it. ¢¾ Group: Member Posts: 2,060 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 39,234 |
QUOTE(x____duckii @ Dec 16 2004, 7:33 PM) Don't go out with him. Tell him that your afraid that you'll ruin the friendship like that and that you just don't like him that way.  i agree |
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Jan 1 2005, 01:22 AM
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 The Bone Collector Group: Member Posts: 2,860 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,162 |
This is just too easy. You don't want to go out with him, then dont! Your making this harder for yourself. You don't want to lose your friendship, but i doubt that won't happen, cause he would be kind err, when you reject him. Right now, i think you just want to go out with him becuase of pity. You don't really like him, but you want to go out with him.
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Jan 1 2005, 10:22 PM
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 I'm not mean; You're just a sissy. Group: Member Posts: 796 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,520 |
i agree with the above said.
.. dont go out with someone just because you feel sorry for them in thinking that you'll eventually start to like him. |
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Jan 1 2005, 10:24 PM
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 Prez of Student Council 04/05 Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 |
if u don't like him don't go out iwth him,
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