If the answer is no...., is it really no forever? |
If the answer is no...., is it really no forever? |
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There is a light that never goes out.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,044 ![]() |
After a break up, I have asked after I was dumped, if we would ever be able to get together again. And each time I hae asked that, (2 out of my 3 relationships) I was told no. Is no really forever? Is there ever any chance for a reconciliation? I mean, i have been told no, then maybe, then no, then perhaps. Can it really happen? Truely? I have heard of it in movies and sch, but how reliable is that? Is it really possible?
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![]() I'm Dan... and no I'm not gay. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 134 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 9,977 ![]() |
I most definetly try again... all the girls I've been with have told me they regret dumping me... and most have had their crisis' after dumping me. One had her dad die and her next boyfriend cheat on her horribly... but I always have tried to show them the mistake of dumping me and breaking my heart... and if I sound concieted I apologize, that's not my aim. Really if it's love... no is never forever. Forever to most people these days is anywhere from a month to a year or so... it all depends on the individual. It's really up to you what to do, and remember, there's no right and wrong to your decision. Good luck.
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#3
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There is a light that never goes out.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,044 ![]() |
QUOTE(pympgangsta4real @ Dec 13 2004, 10:29 PM) It's really up to you what to do, and remember, there's no right and wrong to your decision. Good luck. yeah, I believe that. I mean, I still feel like if I can show her that I still care, and that I am trying to be the very best person I can, maybe she will think twice, and take me back. You know? |
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#4
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![]() I'm Dan... and no I'm not gay. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 134 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 9,977 ![]() |
Hah hah you think like me. Just be careful. I got my heart broken twice by the girls I kept striving for rather than just once a person. Get a friend you trust very well to watch your back, and keep you from destroying yourself, as a sort of a lifeline, otherwise you might cross the fine line and it's not a pretty picture after
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#5
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![]() Pimp Status ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,200 ![]() |
I would try again... For as long as i have feelings for a person i will always try my hardest to get back with that person. People come and go, but love often times stay
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![]() I'm Dan... and no I'm not gay. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 134 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 9,977 ![]() |
Two claps. *clap clap*. Cheers, you guys're great, and we all deserve wonderful ladies hah hah. Anyone interested?
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() *cricket cricket* ANYONE?!?!? Hah hah just playin'. ![]() |
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#7
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![]() Brown hand smash ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 654 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,582 ![]() |
their is nothing wrong to take another chance and might work out just fine. They say that love is Sweeter in the 2nd time around.
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![]() Blasian, Asian, INVASION! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 ![]() |
of course it is still possible. I mean there is always room for a second chance. It is never forever.
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There is a light that never goes out.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,044 ![]() |
QUOTE(mouse_3k @ Dec 14 2004, 6:05 PM) of course it is still possible. I mean there is always room for a second chance. It is never forever. ![]() ![]() |
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*Azarel* |
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Nothing is ever forever.
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#11
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![]() baby, be good to me ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 592 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,358 ![]() |
Depends, why did you break up? If you were my boyfriend and you cheated on me with my best friend and then we broke up and you tried to get back together with me, NO would be my answer forever. Well, then again, maybe not forever. That's an awfully long time. All girls are different, some stay firm on their decisions while some flip flop..like john kerry
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There is a light that never goes out.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,044 ![]() |
QUOTE(cleec @ Dec 14 2004, 8:55 PM) Depends, why did you break up? If you were my boyfriend and you cheated on me with my best friend and then we broke up and you tried to get back together with me, NO would be my answer forever. Well, then again, maybe not forever. That's an awfully long time. All girls are different, some stay firm on their decisions while some flip flop..like john kerry ![]() Well, i really dont know why. I mean, each time it was just out of the blue: 'Jesse, I'm dumping you." ![]() ![]() |
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#13
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it depends on how much i luved that person..if i luved him reeeli much than it would probably be a yes....if i was ju playing around with someones <3..that obviously...a no
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#14
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AsianUniQ ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,713 ![]() |
Given a time and place, things happen for a reason, and those reasons govern how you feel about things. So it depends how the person felt at the moment. Such as when you break up. So for what ever reason, and depends on how that person felt at that time and moment, chances are if you ask again , it would be a no. You see the key here, its time.
So jsut give that person some time. And then give it a try later. It would help tho if I know the story. |
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No...it doesn't mean forever.
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![]() Yawn ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 ![]() |
no doesn't mean forever...thats def a given. Ppl's feelings change alot. My dad proposed to my mom like 10 times before she said yes. Course now they're divorced...go figure
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There is a light that never goes out.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,044 ![]() |
QUOTE(KissMe2408 @ Dec 16 2004, 6:27 AM) My dad proposed to my mom like 10 times before she said yes. Course now they're divorced...go figure damn... ![]() |
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Brie ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 ![]() |
Eh..
Probably not no forever.. >_> I don't know, it's best to move on. |
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#19
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,498 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,711 ![]() |
cha probably not forever.
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#20
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,831 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,324 ![]() |
If I really liked the person, then maybe I'd try again. Maybe you should ask her why.
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There is a light that never goes out.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,044 ![]() |
QUOTE(sheddingtears @ Dec 19 2004, 12:06 AM) If I really liked the person, then maybe I'd try again. Maybe you should ask her why. I did. She didn't really give me a straight answer, but the impression I really got was she just found someone maybe cuter or more popular or whatever, so I wasn't really important anymore. She still maintains we should be friends, but.... if I wanted to just be friends, I wouldnt have taken it so far. Besides, it's always there at the back of my mind: "I think she just got tired of me" ![]() |
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#22
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![]() Love hates me ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 54 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,805 ![]() |
i dont think so...its not ALWAYS forever....and forever is a long time....so you cant really count on it. Besides people change their minds. BUT, if it didnt work the first time what makes you think it'll work the second time? or the third? Sometimes you gotta think about WHY things didnt work out and is it really worth it to try and get back together, risking another break up?
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#23
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 775 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 45,754 ![]() |
i think it would depend on the relationship and the people and why they even broke up in the first place.
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![]() ...and this is me.. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 ![]() |
Sometimes...if the couple was really close, then
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There is a light that never goes out.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,044 ![]() |
QUOTE(Shattered_Hope @ Dec 22 2004, 12:56 AM) Meh, but the risk is sometimes not worth taking. When it comes to her, and I, if it means I could be with her again, I would definetly take the chance. Definetly. |
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 524 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,003 ![]() |
I would try again, just not right away, I would try to get to know them better and maybe one day sparks will fly
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![]() and then he died... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 338 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,047 ![]() |
nah dont worry about it
it wont be forever.. eventually one day... someone will say yes. who the hell do u ask out? u gotta think is there a chance for her to like u b4 u ask her out. or... be a friend at first... i usually reject strangers ask me out unless im drunk... but then it wouldnt be strangers cuz by then i woulv made out with them already.. lol let me stop. u jsut have found the right person yet.. but believe me SOMEONEZ OUT THERE FOR YOU... the longer u wait the better shed be. there :) -btty. |
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There is a light that never goes out.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,044 ![]() |
QUOTE(DoOdOox3 @ Dec 23 2004, 9:47 PM) u jsut have found the right person yet.. but believe me SOMEONEZ OUT THERE FOR YOU... the longer u wait the better shed be. there :) -btty. ^ yes, but, I don't want to wait for the love of my life. haha, I want to find her as soon as I can. ![]() |
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![]() none of it seems real ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,469 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 73,889 ![]() |
I think it really just depends on the situation.
If you cheated on her and thats why you broke up then that would be a definate no forever. If you were too clingy or didn't get to spend enough time together and thats why you broke up then maybe there is a chance for you to get back together. Like I said.. it just depends. |
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#30
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 ![]() |
theres's always another chance, just wait awhile. time to time, you guys will be back together again. it's not forever. my first bf & i broke up & we went back together, then broke up again.
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There is a light that never goes out.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,044 ![]() |
QUOTE(LEDO_D0RKETTE @ Dec 31 2004, 7:45 PM) theres's always another chance, just wait awhile. time to time, you guys will be back together again. it's not forever. my first bf & i broke up & we went back together, then broke up again. ^yeah, I am so afraid of that happening. It killed me the first time, I would hate for it to happen again. But, I dont know, I may still take the chance. |
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#32
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,153 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,193 ![]() |
i would say that no isn`t really forever unless the person really knows how to hold a grudge or if something utterly horrible happened. but most of the time people grow up and tend to let go of these sort of things.
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#33
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![]() I'm not mean; You're just a sissy. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 796 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,520 ![]() |
it depends on the breakup. why you broke up, howlong was the relationship and how intense it was.
if maybe the reason was that for example.. one person had to move away but they were still so into each other, then maybe, sure, they could get together again someday. |
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![]() dizzy me up. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 ![]() |
i don't think it means forever :]
some things are just worth waiting forever for |
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#35
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![]() Prez of Student Council 04/05 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 ![]() |
depends on who
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![]() Quand j'étais jeune... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 6,826 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,272 ![]() |
Nothing is definate, however, if you persists to chase for a "yes" answer, then you might annoy the girl.
I'm sure a lot of people have heard of the saying "what part of NO don't you understand?" The more you ask, the less charming your question become. As in, it might be sweet for you to ask the first and the second time, but after the third and the fourth, she might just sick her dogs on you. If you love someone, you should always want their happiness. So if this girl wants to part from you with reason, then let her go. If you don't think the reason is sound, then you can try to change her mind, but really, don't force her into something she no longer wants. |
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