long distance relationships, ...? Options

[Angelos]

wondering.... my girlfriend is moving back to the mid-west while im staying out in md i mean we have a good relationship but is it worth to have a long distance relationship and do they really last?

What do you guys think about long distance relationships? Have you been in any?

[xnastyninjagrlx]

Long Relationships are REALLY REALLY hard to tell you the truth cuz relationship takes time spending with each other and with long distance you can't do that easily. I know cuz my b/f was in Taiwan for 3 months..he's back, but then again he's leaving for Australia for another 2/3 months. I mean, if you really love her and she really loves you, then I believe love will conquer all. But if your love is not
that strong and stable then I would say prepare for a lot of pain and sadness. I honestly believe if two people love each other soooo much, distance should not be a problem..that just means you each both have to try a little harder.

[leeeza702]

uhmm... it CAN work if you want it to work... you have to be able to trust her and she has to be able to trust you... but it'll be hard...

[Angelos]

Long Relationships are REALLY REALLY hard to tell you the truth cuz relationship takes time spending with each other and with long distance you can't do that easily. I know cuz my b/f was in Taiwan for 3 months..he's back, but then again he's leaving for Australia for another 2/3 months. I mean, if you really love her and she really loves you, then I believe love will conquer all. But if your love is not
that strong and stable then I would say prepare for a lot of pain and sadness. I honestly believe if two people love each other soooo much, distance should not be a problem..that just means you each both have to try a little harder.

hmm i mean there is strong love but i would say like 50% was love/sexual lust i mean we loved spenindg time with each other as much as we loved like messing around but.. hmm i just have doubt and is that good or bad first time i have ever really doubted a relationship

[aznplayaz]

Hey..they work if you really love her but if you dono't really love her its gonna end sooner or later so if you really love her kepp goin' for it but not don't let her think that you love her if you really don't so ya hurr

[xnastyninjagrlx]

hmm i mean there is strong love but i would say like 50% was love/sexual lust i mean we loved spenindg time with each other as much as we loved like messing around but.. hmm i just have doubt and is that good or bad first time i have ever really doubted a relationship

I think to have doubts is sometimes healthy cuz not every relationship is all happy and good all the time. But if your love is based on really your lust for each other than you really gotta consider if you feel that you can't live without her at all. I would say give it a try, take risks cuz if it doesn't work out at least you know you made an effort.

[aznriceboi]

it all depends on both of you, if you have enough trust and feelings for each other than by all means it'll last. but once that begins to fall. then it ususally to work out after that. if you get to visit her like at least once a month then yea

[Angelos]

it all depends on both of you, if you have enough trust and feelings for each other than by all means it'll last. but once that begins to fall. then it ususally to work out after that. if you get to visit her like at least once a month then yea

naw if i her see her it wont be in a while like if she comes to maryland to visit or stay with her aunt otherwise she is so far out...hmmm......we establiahsed trust in everything so i guess its just a matter of will to see it through

[MeanBastard]

It cant work out. Destory it. Now.

[dfly112]

if u truly luv da grl den its worth it. if shes def the type to party alot then i'd break it off... it all depends on u n the grl if u madd close keep it. if u aint break it..

[xjjajeengx]

mmoving to relationships. ther are alot of topics on this, perhaps searching through the search engine will help?

[LiNHy POO]

im in one too! and yess they are very difficult to handle.... but if your love is strong enough and the trust is there... then most likely it will work! me and my boyfriend would fight alot... more fighting then with non long distance relationships i had.... but its alright! we always work them out! but all that matters is the trust and the love you have.

[*stephinika*]

i think it can work. if you guys really treasure the relationship and want it to work and love each other, then yeah its definitely possible. i have a friend who's just had their one year anniversary and my friend lives in vancouver, canada while her boyfriend lives in new jersey! crazy huh? so i think it can work.

[lidocaligurl]

yea i was in a long distance relationship but mine was hard cuz the guy i was wit wasnt lyk tryin to keep in touch so i think it depends how much u realli care bout keepin in touch wit that person and wantin it to last..

[*Weird addiction*]

tim u have a gf and u didnt tell me!!! im gonna kill u lol anyways...long distance relationship work if u want them to work just u have to trust the person to the last...if u guys really wanna be together then distance shouldn't be the problem....i cant believe i just wrote this

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

depends how long you've had a relationship with the person, what stage of relationship were u guys in, chances of ever seeing each other again, and trust . and if ur relationship last long enough maybe day u guys can live near each other again oO;

[KrAzi3piNoY]

#1 it could be worth it if u had the time/money to see her if u see her say once a month or 2 twice i month then thats good i dont really know its up to you

[x3chrissyx3]

if you LOVE each other and trust each other, all will be fine.
Lack of trust KILLS relationships.

[aznguy711]

yea its all about trust u can do it

[Maddie]

I'm in one too. With somebody who just happens to be a CB member
Although we are separated by a considerable distance, the love we share is no less real than if she was right here.

[sweetdreamsx3]

If you guys really love each other, then it'll probably last. The majority don't really though...

[Maddie]

Some do work out though. If there's enough love, anything's possible.

[mglbaby]

has anyone ever had a long distance relationship? did it work out? was it hard

[xquizit]

Yes I have. He's not that far I guess, an hour away but we only see each other once a week or less. It didn't work out. We broke up after 2 1/2 years.

[JasonAkAWolf]

I'm sort of in one right now...But she is only like a 4 hour drive away..and its working out so far...but turst me your turst for your partner has to be very strong to do this ;D

[ohBrian]

it sucks... it never really work out..

but An Internet or Cyber relationships works... my cousin met his gf through Asianavenue.com now they getting married soon -.-

[babiedoll03]

i agree with ^^^... I met two of my boyfriends online.. the one i'm with now I actually met online and he's great.. but hes not long distance. My ex was 4 hours away... and the only reason why it worked out is because we ended up moving in together... which I would not suggest doing.

A long distance relationship can def. work out if you really like/love the person. It's a given. hehe. Just go with how you feel

[islandkiss]

I never had a long distance relationship before.. I don't think it's worth it.

[LiNHy POO]

im in one too... in the beginning it was working out pretty good, but lately its not been soo good. we've been through some things but we're growing on them and making it through!

[Too Asian To DIE]

i neva had a long distance relation ship.... one of mai guy friend did and it didnt work out because of the distance.... NJ and CA very very far away frum each other

[sheepy]

never been it on. but if you REALLY love that person, i think it could work out :]

[SiLLYxRUBBERduck...]

i'm in one right now. we've been together for almost a year now! it is hard, and i've cried because of it a million times.. even though it's hard, we're making it through. i really miss him, but since we always talk, i guess it's okay!? and plus, i love him, and even though there's distance, i love him as much as i did when we first got together..

[conster]

never had one, but i dont think it would work out very well tho =]

[lilxroxy]

mine din`t relli work out. cos i grew up with him. i`m in taiwan him in cali

[Individualityy]

Um. Can I give some advice? If your relationships is that strong..it'll work out in a long distance relationship..

[Auktane]

oh like the same ole word...


depends...

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

i'm still workin on mines,it isnt going very well

[inquisitive_]

I've never been in one but I think those relationships can work if both of the people are willing to make it last and work it out.

[Dark Saga]

Yes, I am currently in a long distance relationship. It's one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.. but, I love my girlfriend very much, and we've been together for almost 4 months..

[memoriesareforev...]

just wondering if they ever work out, cuz practically all my friends say they never do .

[gelionie]

Seriously, there are already 13 topics on this (not including this one you started).

[_sarcastic_]

well sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't. you've gotta trust the other person ALOT.

[rockmyx]

lt depends if the person really love you. l know alot of people who has a long distance relationship and keep going well.

Long distance relationship? Being world apart does'nt really matter unless you really love and trust that person

[xquizit]

They can work... but it's hard and you truly have to be in love and committed to one another for it to work.

[waccoon]

They do work. An immense amount of love and trust must be present.

Must.

If there is a lag in either, it will go to hell.

[misoka]

Time. Patience. Strong relationship. Love. Trust. Loyalty. Commitment.

All those are needed...with some additional side aspects~

It all depends on you and the other person~ If both of you have enough commitment and loyalty to hold onto each other, it'll work out..It just depends ^^

[teeners4]

well it depends on how commited the people are. and the distance. like if different continents it's kinda hard for people our age to commit to that. so yea

[pympgangsta4real]

As popular belief states, it depends on the people. I know if the girl I was with hadn't've had so many family and academic problems, it definetly would have worked out, but the stress of those two made her feel overburdened, and she didn't feel as if she treated me as well as I treated her, which made me feel odd. I mean, I treated her like she should be treated and didn't expect as much in return, yet she expected to give as much and couldn't do it... but anyway I'm not gonna spill my life here. It definetly could work out, as long as you see each other from time to time. Otherwise problems arise... and we won't go there either hah hah.

[nockey]

omg i have a long distanxe relationship.........it half works out and all but yer...lol at least we care and trust for each other..mmm maybe....

[lovescream]

usually it doesn't work out.
one cheats on another are most cases so far i've seen.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

not really... you need commitment

[kae]

i'm in one and its really hard...
u better get used to writing long emails....


read 'what do you make of it?' for a sample!!

any advice would bemore than welcome.... it is real long so just read te 2nd half of it

thnx

[x3chrissyx3]

They do work out if you want it to. Usually works well if you're IN LOVE and not just ya know aww he's my bf holding hands and hooking up type deal. You need A LOT of trust, A LOT of love and A LOT of determination and the will to make it work. After it's all said and done distance really makes the heart grow stronger and fonder

[sammi rules you]

depends on the people.

[leogirl73089]

i don't think they do work. like i mean u needa lot of trust. and u hardly see the person. it could work but it's hard. u need to know the person well and it's hard to say....

[Dark Saga]

I've been with my girlfriend for over 5 months now, we are completely in love.. and it's the greatest thing that has ever happened to me.. also, it's the hardest thing in the world to do.. =(

[*tyedyefroggy*]

I believe that distant relationships do work out if the two make it work comfortably.

[XPLICITxDORK]

i have been with someone in pa for about 4 months and a couple of days....everything works out bewteen us except their is thsi moments we have wen we just fight,fight,fight and its really depressing but then evrything goes back to normal and we r cool with eachother again.So i guess all u need in a long distance relationship is ...love and trust.

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[Tung]

most likely it wont work out. i mean the guy/ or girl your going out with far away . you dont see them everyday. and you dont know what they do everyday. you figure the rest what im trying to say. =\

[nockey]

damn...ok i have a long distance relationship and i dont think i can go on anymore cuz im kinda losing trust.....its scarying me... ...whaa....

[BoogythatBe]

I'm in a long distance relationship. And I'm going to tell you this- It can work but it's HARD. I'm not going to sugar coat it for you and tell you that it's easy, because it isn't. As any human, I have the desire to see him and hold him and I simply can't for the fact of the distance. He's in California, I'm in Florida. Yeah, it's not easy. But next to caring for the person deeply, these are the three things that you essentially need-

One: Trust. If you don't have this, don't bother with it then. If you're going to be getting suspicious of every little thing he does (keeping in mind that he does have a life of his own that doesn't revolve around you 24/7) and reading too deep into little things... it'll go to hell in a hand basket in the span of a second. If he says that he has deep feelings for you and you know in your heart he means it, that's all you need to get you through until you get the chance to be with him.

Two: Respect.

Three: Loyalty. If you feel you won't be able to do it because your eyes might wander elsewhere or you don't think you'll be able to restrain yourself... you have no business in being in the relationship. Or if you attempt it and then find out you can't do it, it's better to step up and admit it then let it play out and causing damage later on.

[lilboriqua2006]

do you think it works? I need advice plz

[*Programmer*]

no it doesn't...only ends up with you both getting hurt so save your time.

[heyyfrankie]

probably not. only if y 'all can see each other like everyone weekend or something like that. because one of my sister's friends is in a long distance relationship with her boyfriend and she has been hooking up with other guys while he is away at college. he has no idea. but then again, i am sure that he is getting with girls over there, too! but they plan on getting married.

[sweetdreamsx3]

Most long distance relationships don't last. Unless you can see each other a lot.

[boing_avenger]

ya they can work, it just depends on how commited both parties are to the relationship. my boyfriend and i are 3 hours apart and i get to see him every other weekend and weve been going out for 7 months.

[Litobabygurl88]

it might work out sometimes if you can both see each other, but most of the time if you're not that committed into the relationship, it wont work out the way you want it to

[perfectxflaw23]

It really depends on how far the distance is, how much trust there is in the relationship, and how dedicated you are.

[racoons > you]

i dno. my best friend is in a pretty steady ldr, and they're both happy tho. sometimes its tough tho, they can tsee each other for ages and the like.

i guess ut depends on how much you like the gu.y if you like him enough, you will make the effort

[*AngelicEyz00*]

Some work, some don't. It all depends on the couple.

[_sarcastic_]

^ i agree.
you've got to put a lot of effort into it, and also trusting the other person. communication is pretty important

[Heathasm]

i dont think its good for young people but for older yeah (older like 20+)

[Just_Dream]

True, it does depend...

All relationships that involve love are built on trust and devotion.

Ask yourself these questions: Are you being true to your significant other? Is your significant other being true to you? Do you both actually trust each other? Are you both willing to do whatever it takes to be together [in the future]?

I've never had a long distance relationship, but it must be tough. But it's nice to have one because once you meet up with that person, it's like heaven because you finally get to see them after a long time.. That feeling.. It might even be the best feeling in the world. When I didn't see my boyfriend for a month and a half after freshman year (2 years ago), I almost died. We called each other everyday... Even though he only lives like a mile away lol. We go to the same school and luckily, during that summer there was summer school that we took so we could be together and take chemistry together, that way we'd get a class over with and I could see him every day. Summer is like.. almost 3 months w/o school, so good thing I only had to last 1.5 months.. :]

[cewinee]

if you love her and she loves you then it can work if u both try. you both have to have a real strong bond and an indescribable love.. i cant explain..
but ive been with my boyfriend for 2years, 2years long distant relationship.. n we visit each other every 2-3months, its not easy tho, we're both not that wealthy.. but we always try because we're in love and we're in such a serious relationship, serious enough to know we have a future together.. so it has to be that worth it u know?

if its not that serious but u do care for her, talk to her n ask her wat she wants.. see if she wants to try it anyway, but promise each other to be honest to each other cuz long distance relationships require a lot of trust and honesty.. so if u meet someone or vice versa wherever u are, u must tell each other asap before the pain is too intense.. if u want to truly avoid the pain for the both of u, then i suggest u remain best friends.. it depends how serious u are with her

sorry if i havent made any sense! its hard to explain..
gluck!

[*XLilAznGrl592X*]

My friend just broke up with a girl that lives far far away. He lives in CA and she lives in NY. His other ex was from NY to and they broke up. At first they were madly in love with each other... then i got home from fun and then figured out that they broke up... I felt so sad for him... He acted like he was fine with it but i could tell he wasn't... I knew he loved her dearly and he was crushed because if it was the other one I knew he wouldn't go and write a song about it... What do u think? will he somehow fall in love with his next long distance relationship or will it just fall apart like his last one? I know this is confusing but w/e... I know know weird

[*Azarel*]

They work.

[*mzkandi*]

I agree with Anna, they can work but so does the search button

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php...topic=50114&hl=
http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php...topic=34251&hl=
http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php...topic=70871&hl=

[jordanriane]

Long distance relationships depend on the person.

If you're the kind of person that constantly needs physical affection, obviously not seeing the person you like/love for long periods of time is going to cause alot of pain and stress.

I've been in three long distance relationships.
#1
He moved away from me to NY; we tried dating, and lasted for six months until I broke up with him. I got tired of just being able to talk to him, since I was still in school and couldn't visit him, and he didn't have the money to visit me often. We're not really talking right now, but we're on good terms; This was about three years ago.

#2
He lived near me, but went to college about three hours away. Seemed like alot at the time, but we dated for about three months; It was quite serious; It wasn't so bad so we got to see each other every other weekend, since he'd come home to visit then. Ended up breaking up with me for some odd reason. We're good friends now.

#3
He ended up living about five hours away. I'd drive down to see him whenever I could, since we had just started dating.. Then he found an apartment, and asked if I wanted to move in with him; Been with him ever since. This one wasn't that much of a long distance relationship when we were dating. We were friends through long distance for many months, and lost contact for almost three months because of this... But, hey, waiting pays off, at least in this case; living with the love of my life. :)

Again, it depends. If you can handle being without that person until the next time you see them, then hey, go for it.. Otherwise don't waste your time, especially if you think about taking advantage of the situation and see other guys while that person lives so far away and might have a hard time finding out about you and whomever else.

[*XLilAznGrl592X*]

lol srry i didnt search i just went through the forums and pressed CTROL + F hoping that there wasnt something on this already... wow the last post was long and im so sleepy im gonna read that 2morrow lol

[whomps]

They depend on the couple.. by long-distance, do you mean ONLINE or like, once in awhile seeing eachother but most of the time being separated ?

[jnukes]

i think they're dumb ..


but like .. as long as tha couple can see each other like once a week at least . then it works ..

but like ONLINE relationships .. that's wack ..

[ItzOnlySydney]

not for long =(

[dreamerOi]

they work depending on how much you can put into the relationship. plus they give an "i miss you" feeling and you cant get sick of them or bored of them i guess. plus it also kinda says if you can really trust the person or not. im actually in one righ tnow O_O and we are happy. ima visit him in summer

[*Azarel*]

but like ONLINE relationships .. that's wack ..

[dahding]

they work just fine...

[shereyol]

i think they work

[belg]

They don't work for long for some reasons. That's hard... temptations are around.

[Nicolatofu]

Depends on how dedicated anf faithful each person is to their mate. If they both really care enough to keep the relationship healthy, then it has a better chance of working out. It's not just that they all "work out" or that they all "don't work out".

[forgottentears]

I'm sure they will work as long as you guys talk to each other... if you guys really love each other it will work. you gotta have faith in your partner. as of now i'm not in a long distance relationship but once sept. rolls around i will be since my bf is going away for college and i know we can get thru it. <3

[Shattered_Hope]

Some long distance relationships work...but many do not. A long distance relationship will work if the person....both actually....are OK with not seeing each other every moment of the day....or....how much they love each other and if they are really willing to dedicate themselves to the relationship and to each other.

[mouse_3k]

For a while but my first love was a long distance relationship. It was the best/worse of my life but worth it. It can last if you make it last.

[dani41790]

Well it depends. If you're commited to that kind of relationship then yeah it can last. I know some couples who had a long distance relationship since they were in middle school and now they're married.

[macb]

long distance relationships are really tough

follow your heart. if he/she is worth it, you will want to put in the effort. But just remember there are a lot of fish in the sea