my best friend of 5 years,, just chose her bf over me. |
 Dec 7 2004, 12:24 AM
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 Linny the dork.  Group: Member Posts: 178 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,258  |
okay me and my best friend, let's call her dee, are like the closest people in the world, we know eachother in and out, and we've never had problems with eachother's bf's until this year, i don't know why.. i was really heartbroken when the last guy i liked rejected me, and she showed no sympathy, and now she's found apparently "the one", let's call jake, and jake is a really good friend of mine, but now that they're together she won't talk to me anymore because she thinks i'm acting jealous, and i'm not talking to them because i don't wanna get in the way of their blooming relationship. i don't know if that would be called jealousy but i don't know if i should be apologizing or even why we're fighting lol. i live a very complicated life people, sorry
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Dec 7 2004, 12:27 AM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
eh , i wish i had a life like urs , its far from complicated ><; . You say u are just letting ur friend and her guy to have space . Your not being jelous and ur not doing anything wrong, i dont see why u should apologize, i just think u guys should talk to clear this thing up.
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Dec 7 2004, 04:59 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
ouch, i don't think you should apologize since you didn't do anything wrong. i agree with vinh, you guys should talk about it and clear things up, afterall you guys have been best friends for 5 years. don't let the friendship go to waste
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Dec 7 2004, 05:25 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
don't apologize to her for sth you didn't do. she's just being over protective of jake, and she just can't accept the fact that you and jake are close friends. but i think you should talk about it, i mean you guys have been friends for 5 years
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Dec 7 2004, 07:29 PM
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 Master Debater Group: Member Posts: 1,066 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,719 |
Basic rule of life seen over and over...and over again. Get a boyfriend/girlfriend, bye bye best friend.
Tough sh*t. |
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Dec 7 2004, 07:35 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
^wow, i like the way you showed sympathy
It may be basic life, but that doesn't mean it's easy to get over. Time to get some friends who really care for you. Maybe she's just really insecure about you and her boyfriend, and sh'e afraid you'll take him away. |
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| *stephinika* |
Dec 7 2004, 08:23 PM
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yeah from the sounds of it you've done nothing wrong so don't apologize. i think you should talk things out so there's no miscommunications and whatnot.
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Dec 7 2004, 08:39 PM
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 :hammer: Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,849 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,700 |
Why should you apologize? You should always choose your best friends over your boyfriend.. I don't think you're jealous of her because she has him, I think you're jealous over the fact of their relationship.. because she's getting closer to him when you guys were really really close?
She's either obsessed, or just infatuated.. if she's infatuation, it'll go away soon.. I hope.. and if she has any problems with her boyfriend she'll come to you. Then you can help her, and if she blows you off again, just remind her about what you did for her.. and blow up in her face.  Anger is your friend ;]  Okay now I'm just rambling..
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Dec 8 2004, 12:50 PM
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 Prez of Student Council 04/05 Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 |
your not jealous and its good that ur giving her space but she is so wrong for not talking to you cause she has a new bf... i admit that i ahve drifted form my freinds cause i spent too much tie with my bf but like i still talk to them and make it clear and stuff..
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Dec 8 2004, 01:02 PM
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 I can't believe its not "Ryan" Group: Member Posts: 1,981 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,368 |
Bitch slap her! j/k do what you feel is the right thing. But, remember boyfriends don't last as long as friendships do...
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Dec 8 2004, 05:11 PM
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 Saap!? Group: Member Posts: 568 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,151 |
that just stinks. why should you apologize? you didn't do anything wrong. i would go up to her and ask her why she's avoiding me & ect.
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Dec 8 2004, 08:01 PM
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 free hugs Group: Member Posts: 188 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 68,202 |
u gotta tell her how U feel! tell her that a guy should never come between a friendship. n if she gives u all this shit, u tell her that u tried but that your relationship cant work if she cant trust u
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Dec 8 2004, 08:57 PM
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 whatever d00de Group: Member Posts: 1,349 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 63,060 |
talk to her about it and show her your point of view. don't apologize if you think you're doing the right thing.
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Dec 8 2004, 09:02 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
dont get yourself all tripped up. time will tell everything. just wait. after thier relationship is over. your "friend" will try to get back with you and shit lol. so yeah. just dont get yourself all tripped over.
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Dec 8 2004, 09:33 PM
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 ilikeyouSofreakingmuch. Group: Member Posts: 2,014 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 643 |
if youve been best friends of 5 years, you should tell her you're not jealous and would like to have your friendship back.
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Dec 12 2004, 02:48 AM
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 hardcore procrastinator =] Group: Member Posts: 186 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,340 |
Eventually she'll break up with him. (Probably)
And then she'll be sorry she ditched you. Maybe she'll come to you for comfort? But...sometimes love "blinds" them. Makes them do stupid, unforgiveable things. It's up to you to do what you think is right. |
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| *tyedyefroggy* |
Dec 12 2004, 04:10 PM
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Just go out there and tell her, but that is hard not being chosen by your bestfriend....thats really harsh.
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| *x____duckii* |
Dec 12 2004, 04:28 PM
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Wow. Your best friend of 5 years chose her bf over you? Just try to talk to her about it and get her ass to listen. If she doesn't listen to you, then she was never really your best friend. What kind of a friend would choose a guy over her best friend?
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Dec 29 2004, 03:53 AM
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 I'm slooow Group: Member Posts: 61 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,538 |
woah, i'm sure my best friend would never do that to me. Well, he'll probably date way later than me...You see, we are alike, but I'm the ummm...how would i say it. "Badder" one? I swear more than him. My grades are not as good. And so on....
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Dec 29 2004, 03:56 AM
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 High Voltage!∞ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,728 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,157 |
wow. hmm..I think you should talk her about it [= i hope everything goes well for you
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Dec 29 2004, 04:23 AM
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 白人看不懂 !!!! Group: Member Posts: 3,838 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 40,824 |
i had this happen to me on my vacation w/ my best frend..he ditched me. >.< for a grl he met on the spur. It was depressing.
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Dec 29 2004, 03:52 PM
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 [*]i AM your star!![*] Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,520 |
Dont apologize...you did nothing wrong. The two of you girls need to sit down and have a serious heart-to-heart and work it out. True friends do not let anyone especially boys get in between their friendships.
Good luck!! |
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| *Kathleen* |
Dec 29 2004, 09:52 PM
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I notice you don't mention their real names...darn. *Shoves unregistered gun back in closet*
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Dec 29 2004, 10:10 PM
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 Can't have the hand without the cock. Group: Member Posts: 2,481 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,622 |
Well.. then apparently she's not much of a best friend anymore =/
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Dec 30 2004, 12:46 AM
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Linny the dork. Group: Member Posts: 178 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,258 |
QUOTE(Kathleen @ Dec 29 2004, 9:52 PM) I notice you don't mention their real names...darn. *Shoves unregistered gun back in closet*  omg LOL well yeah i talked to her about it and turns out she's still with "that guy", but we're all good now, she said she was sorry for shuttin me out and now i just kinda give them their space cuz that's what couples want, right? haha well really, thanks for all the advice and support you guys, yall ROCK 
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