So maybe someone could help me with this, friends with benefits wanting more |
 Nov 28 2004, 11:38 AM
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catastrophic sweetness  Group: Member Posts: 92 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 58,334  |
Okay, so my friend...I'll call him Lloyd, and I hooked up. His girlfriend recently broke up with him because of other reasons. So baisically, his view right now is that he doesn't want to be 'tied down,' and doesn't like younger girls. [I'm one year younger but I've got more maturity than he ever could] So yeah, I've been wanting him since I baisically got to know him, except he always had a girlfriend, so I couldn't. Hooking up with him was a tad awkward, since we've been friends for so long, but it happened anyways, and I really liked it. I'd really like to go out with him, but it turns out that he doesn't like me in that way. Ahh I made a big mistake...getting emotionally attached and it sucks. Advice...please?
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Nov 28 2004, 01:00 PM
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 What the fack. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,164 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,519 |
I guess the only piece of advice that I could give you is to wait it out.
Hang out with him and such, but don't pressure him into going out with you. Take things as they come and eventually he might realize that he likes you and you two can officially hook up. Hope it works out. 
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Nov 28 2004, 01:49 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
does he know you feel this way? if not tell him, if he does, then just tell him you want a relationship and that ur not a second..becuz thats what friends with benefits is...if he finds another girl...you wont be friends with benifits with him anymore..so just tell him...
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Nov 28 2004, 02:28 PM
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catastrophic sweetness Group: Member Posts: 92 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 58,334 |
QUOTE does he know you feel this way? Yep. |
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Nov 28 2004, 10:15 PM
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 i need an sn change. Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 |
wait hold up. yall are friends with benifits?
//edit have u tried asking him out urself? tainted_angel gives good advice
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Nov 29 2004, 06:40 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 73 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 67,203 |
well i think that if the feelings aren't mutual and u can't keep the relationship...er, platonic...then u should gradually distance yourself? i dunno, i guess it would save more heartache...=T
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Nov 29 2004, 06:27 PM
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catastrophic sweetness Group: Member Posts: 92 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 58,334 |
QUOTE(blowpops69 @ Nov 28 2004, 10:15 PM) wait hold up. yall are friends with benifits? ill edit this once u answer my question QUOTE wait hold up. yall are friends with benifits? Seeing as we're not boyfriend and girlfriend...and we still kiss, yes...we're friends with benefits. I didn't talk to him today, but he winked at me. God, it's hard to not get my feelings in the way. I think I'm just gonna keep the benefits going until he gets another GF which might be for awhile. I mean, if we're friends with benefits...why can't I use them? |
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Nov 29 2004, 07:10 PM
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 a dorkie lil gurl Group: Member Posts: 65 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,392 |
friends with benefits? wow... first time I heard of it! LOl but seriously... you want to keep it that way? do you REALLY want to? I mean, let say another great guy comes along and he likes you but he sees you kissing your friend... he might back off and you might miss a good opportunity...
 but you should really talk to your friend. Tell him that you're not "just" a friend with benefits... a kiss should be shared between two people that likes each other... at least so I think ^^;
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