i love you, when to use those words Options

[smthngcrprategrl...]

i was over at my boyfriend's house the other day and he told me that he loved me. we're only 14 and we've only been going out for like a month. but he told me that he'd loved me for a while. i told him that i liked him a lot but wasn't ready to use those words. was that a smart move? i mean i really do like him but we're only 14 and to me those words are like really special...ya know what i mean. i just...i'm not sure if what i said could have hurt him or not. do you think what i said was right?

[iNT0XiCAT3_MEeEe]

well i mean the way u said it, like "im not sure if i used the words at the right time" might seem a bit harsh =/ i guess u have to explain that like, it doesn't mean u don't like him and all that, just that those words mean very much to you...so ya

[HaN4RaNg]

not to sound mean, but GOODNESS... THANK GOD U DIDNT USE THOSE WORDS! so many immature kids using the word "love" so openly. as if its supposed to melt the other person's heart and tighten their relationship. it doesnt mean cr4p if the feeling of love isnt there and i doubt he feels that way. no offense, but i dont think anybody feels true love until after experience and understanding of the value of the word. to put it shortly, he most likely doesnt know what the words "i love u" means. he just probly thought it was the right thing to say at the right time. it was smart of u not to say it especially when u know thats not how u really feel. dont use those words so lightly thinking its going to strengthen ur relationship with him. save those words for someone u really do love. wait until u understand what they mean and the true value that they hold. it'll all b worth it for when u do use them for the first time coming from how u really feel

[*stephinika*]

^^^ i agree. it was smart of you to say that because i believe that yeah, it IS a strong phrase to use and it should be used more wisely. so props to you for saying what you said. and if he really does love you, he'll understand.

[ShadowPixie]

i told him that i liked him a lot but wasn't ready to use those words. was that a smart move?

^That was a very smart move. Now not to condescend, but most people at 14 don't know what love is. They say it because it sounds good. But I think it was really really wise of you to not say it. "I love you" is a very serious phrase, and it's good you dont use it lightly. But dont let him fall into a pattern of him telling you he loves you all the time, especially if you cant say it back to him.

[sharerol]

Right. It was smart of you to say that because I agree, "love" is a very strong word to use. And some people really don't understand the meaning of true love. Love doesn't come as quick as a month, but it will come to you.

[WhiteLotus*]

I say,"I love you" to my boyfriend all the time. But, it'snot like we're gonna get married or something.

Anywho, it's teenage love. It's how I describe it.


I think maybe you were right. You sounded a little too harsh, though. Maybe you should have said," Love is such a strong word. I do have deep feelings for you, though.

[jecissa]

save it for the one who deserves to hear it. you'll know it when you are in love. your unsureness shows that you aren't yet. but it will happen!

[oO_BrItTiShBaBe_...]

I think you did the right thing. I'm proud of you. I know how hard it is to not say "I love you too". Believe me, I know. Congrats dawllin!!

[Pineapplepower]

I think you did the right thing. You are to young to get caught up in that world. You have your whole life to find that person whom you will truley love.

[*krnxswat*]

If he really "loved" you, as he told you, he should be able to wait until you're ready, as well as respect your decision; but, goodjob with the move.

[xtremeliquid]

not to sound mean, but GOODNESS... THANK GOD U DIDNT USE THOSE WORDS! so many immature kids using the word "love" so openly. as if its supposed to melt the other person's heart and tighten their relationship. it doesnt mean cr4p if the feeling of love isnt there and i doubt he feels that way. no offense, but i dont think anybody feels true love until after experience and understanding of the value of the word. to put it shortly, he most likely doesnt know what the words "i love u" means. he just probly thought it was the right thing to say at the right time. it was smart of u not to say it especially when u know thats not how u really feel. dont use those words so lightly thinking its going to strengthen ur relationship with him. save those words for someone u really do love. wait until u understand what they mean and the true value that they hold. it'll all b worth it for when u do use them for the first time coming from how u really feel

Yeah...true.

[*Statistik*]

"I love you" is a strong word

[jennyjenny]

It's stupid how little kids, when they have girlfriends/boyfriends, they're all.. " I love you. " I mean, " I love you" are strong words.

[MeanBastard]

Okay nonreaders. I think we have covered the ground that "I love you" are strong words. Damn.

[choo]

smart move. u should say it when your not ready. i see my friends doing this all the time, and they're like, "no i love u more." " no i love u more" and i dont think that they're ready for that.

[sammi rules you]

Okay nonreaders. I think we have covered the ground that "I love you" are strong words. Damn.

haha. i hate it when people just restate what everyone else has already said.

anyway, i don't think your age should affect whether you love someone or not. you can love someone if you're 14. sure, it's not the same KIND of love as if you were 30 or something, but it can be love. and you can love someone in a month as well. it just depends how you feel about them.

[tresa1992]

Umm, my friend, who is a boy, told his girlfriend he loved her (same age as you, 14). His girlfriend broke up with him three days later, because she wasn't ready.

You can love at any age though, it's just a matter of readiness.

[*krnxswat*]

You can love at any age though, it's just a matter of readiness.

I disagree.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

i love you, seon ho

[*krnxswat*]

i love you more, elba

[*AngelicEyz00*]

n0o, I love you more

[*krnxswat*]

No, you don't. I do!
It's impossible for you to love me more than I love you.
That's how much I love you.

[*Statistik*]

I love ashley..she's so cuttte

[*autumn.*]

I disagree.

no, you can love (parents), but you can't be in love.

[*krnxswat*]

no, you can love (parents), but you can't be in love.

-Edit. Okay, I got your point now.
As for the other post, she said you can love at any age, and I said I disagreed. Can you love when you're 1? 6 months old?

[avsugarhigh09]

i think you did the right thing. i'm 13 and this guy who i'd been going out with for 2 weeks was like i love you and i was like wtf? and i broke up with him 2 days later because he started getting all psycho. save it for when you really mean it.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

i still love you more, Seon Ho

But I would have to agree that there is a difference between loving someone and being in love--For me, at least

[Shattered_Hope]

hmm...well..you have a great point..very smart of you to realize this..and he may just be saying it becuz he wants to advance in yur little relationship. honestly..one month dating is not exactly the right time to tell someone you "love" them. those words are very precious..so ...be careful?? meh, after a few months..is normally the right time. =)

[HaN4RaNg]

oops, nvm... already stated above

[simplyannoy]

you did the right thing! ^^ He probably said that to get you into bed! LOL anyway, I think at that age, it's too young to use the word "love" because teenage relationships are not eternal (not saying they are not but majority of them don't last 4eva). You need to feel experience it and it will naturally come out to ya. Saying "I Love You" shouldn't have you worrying whether you said the right thing or not.

[x shootingstar x]

*sigh*.. i think i've said it too soon.. but i do feel i really love him. A lot of ppl can doubt that.. but yea.. sure.. *sigh*

[dani41790]

yea that was the good move to make. its better to tell the truth to him and stuff

[cleec]

That is so awesome that you said that to him. Most teenagers use those three words so carelessly. I don't think it's possible to be "in love" when you are 14 and you have been dating for only a month. You should express those feelings when you are ready and when that is absolutely how you feel, not just because you say it because your boyfriend did and you feel obligated to.

[jecissa]

^ i second that.

if you aren't sure if you love him.. you don't.

[nexuskpl]

i think love is something everyone throws around too much...when said too soon, it's meaningless...so i dunno, in my case...i just disregard it...

i'm personally very careful with the word...and won't say it til at least a few months down the line...

[imadorkabledxd]

i think you did a smart move there

[bibliomania]

I regret saying "I love you" to someone I didn't really love, just because I was feeling sorry for that guy. See, if you don't think you do, then you shouldn't say it. By saying it, you're sort of lying about your own feelings. You'll get mixed up. I got mixed up and got in a big mess in my own head. Later, I realized that I never really loved him. I just... liked him a lot.

And if you say it too many times, it will become meaningless. "I love you" should be saved for someone REALLY special.

[jezika]

if u didnt think it was appropriate then just dont use it. personally i would say i love you but never i love you FOREVER. coz i just dont believe in it

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

its good u didnt give into using the word love. Nothing is wrong with that. Just remember if u do love someone , dont question ur age, love isnt limited by age

[Yemmerz]

Never ever ever ever say 'I love you'.

You're just gonna end up taking it back.

[Tung]

love is a fallacy in middle school, high school, and maybe in college. you can't know what love is until you been through lots of shit, like been through many relationships and understand how it goes. when your in love you give 100% to your "love" one. but as your young and still in school, its hard to give the realtionship 100%. school is too important and its hard to find love then. most people find love after high school and college, becuse then they can finally settle.

[mirage]

don't say it until you mean it. my friends always throw these words around like they don't mean anything. say it, but mean it.

[smthngcrprategrl...]

most of you are saying i did the right thing. which makes me feel better but i talked to one of my friends who told me this "if you can explain love your not in it" so i was wondering...if 14 is to young to be in love? when is?

[WishfullDreamer]

that WAS a smart move! *applauds* NEVER say you love someone if you arent sure....love isn't somethin you should lie about cuz someone will end up getting hurt. wait til you KNOW you love someone before telling them that cuz love is somethin special and throwing the words "i love you" around is very not cool....

[aintgotone]

My 2 cents for all it's worth...

I happened to meet my Mr. Right at 14. I'm 21 and planning my wedding this summer. :) I couldn't be happier. (okay, so don't read my xanga lol) We got serious after about a year and he gave me a promise ring. I was his from then. I love him no matter what. He said those three little words about 8 months into the relationship on the phone one night - I didn't say it for a while after that.

You CAN be "in love" young. Sometimes your fate comes early.

[comeupon]

"I love you" is a strong word

lol strong words. Everybody does it now without even thinking about, it doesnt mean anything in highschool or middle school. If you ask someone out and they have AOL or AIM orsomething alone those lines you'll see the words "I love blah blah blah" like 12.7 seconds after they start going out. To love someone is different that to be in love with someone. Most people seem to love the IDEA of maybe loving someone more than they actually love the person.

[topsyturvy]

"i luv you" >> too strong for words.

once my best guy frend came up to me and went "i luv you, do u luv me too" and i was like to heck with that.

[lilxroxy]

i was over at my boyfriend's house the other day and he told me that he loved me. we're only 14 and we've only been going out for like a month. but he told me that he'd loved me for a while. i told him that i liked him a lot but wasn't ready to use those words. was that a smart move? i mean i really do like him but we're only 14 and to me those words are like really special...ya know what i mean. i just...i'm not sure if what i said could have hurt him or not. do you think what i said was right?

your right...

use i love you when yu mean it...so its meaningful

[ANG33ZY]

Good move. Too many people that I know are always throwing around those 3 words.. gee.

[sheepy]

i think you made the right choice. you just know when you're ready to say those words :]]

[HaN4RaNg]

COMPLETE RANDOMNESSSSS::

sheepy, u go to soompi?

[177emories]

well if you don't mean it then you can't said but it could possibly hurt since he said it and didn't get the same love in return.

[sweetlyz]

if that`s how you feel i believe its right to have said that. too many people use those words even if they don`t truly feel that way .. that`s why some believe there is no love.

[remini]

Good for you. At least you're honest. ^^