asking out online.., what you think about it? Options

[jnukes]

it's supposed to be easier when you ask someone out online.. but like yea it'll make you less confident when you actually meet. so yea.. what you think?


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do you guys think i'm doin this? it seems like you're giving me advice to see if i should do it or not.. i'm just askin what you think about it

This post has been edited by jnukes: Nov 14 2004, 01:44 PM

[dreamerOi]

i think asking is easy online but going would be the hard part. but in person asking is hard. but the rest is easy. so i think in person is betr or easier.

[*stephinika*]

yeah i've been asked out over msn messenger a few years ago...lol but then we ended up deciding we were better off as friends...

[dafunnybunny]

i think its better if a person asks you out in person. i mean like sometimes, you might not now if the person is actually fooling around with your emotions. like if you want to say something or ask them something, say it to their face

[expoised]

dont ask people out online.

this one guy asked me out online and i said no, b/c i wasn't sure if he was serious. if he was kidding, and i said yes, i'd look stupid. but... he was serious =/

[jambaJUICE]

poised,Nov 10 2004, 12:10 AM] dont ask people out online.

this one guy asked me out online and i said no, b/c i wasn't sure if he was serious. if he was kidding, and i said yes, i'd look stupid. but... he was serious =/

that happened to me too...

and i wouldn`t believe him because people do shizz like that to me all the time.

[expoised]

that happened to me too...

and i wouldn`t believe him because people do shizz like that to me all the time.

haha yknow what though?

i wouldn't go out with someone who asks me out online. it shows they've got no balls.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

theres nothing really wrong about it, but its not really charming either.

I suggest if ur gonna do it, mite as well do it in person, because it does have a big impact on how u choose to meet people and such

[*wind&fire*]

it shows that they dont realy like you enough to say it to your face...

[apple.]

hahahahahahahaha...dont ever do that.

[jambaJUICE]

poised,Nov 10 2004, 12:19 AM] haha yknow what though?

i wouldn't go out with someone who asks me out online. it shows they've got no balls.

Heheh. Yeah i know, and plus, probably even if you had said yes, and he wasnt shitting you, you`re relationship would probably be through aim @.@

[LadyXTor]

I don't think it's as personal as ...in person. But i do think it's an easy way out. Just in case they don't feel the same about you, you can just...get off the computer without embarassment.

[vivien]

asking other ppl out is easy
but for the person who is asked
i think iz kinda stupid to go out
because it might be a trick only

if thats the case
maybe u should first chat thru the phone~

[Heathasm]

hahah yeah i know....call them or some thing if you cant do it in person
asking them out online would be kind of awkward @_@

[WildGriffin]

Asking out people in real life is much better.

I mean sure, online could work, but why not just suck it up and ask it face to face? If you cant handle the person enough to ask them out..then you probably shouldn't start dateing them just yet.

[*Weird addiction*]

online is not bad but its very easy,i mean u can lie bout ur age,hehe,some advantage tho

[inthemudhole]

It's hard to tell if they're serious or not.
I've been asked out [through AIM] a few times.. but I'm not sure if some of them were geniunely serious.
I know one of them was.. [sigh]

I would probably ask someone out through AIM.. I'm really shy.

[grlzl0vemeeh]

my advice is never ask a girl out over the internet i did it myself once just a few months ago for a welcome back dance....i asked her online it was her sn but what i didnt know was that her neice(sorry if i spell it wrong) her neice was on her sn and i ended up asking her neice to the dance but she didnt go to my sckool so she didnt go but did make myself look like a fool....

[redpeony]

please don't.

[booger butt]

if you know the person, then hey go for it.
if not...then why bother?

my boyfriend did, 9 months tomorrow. (it didnt make him less confident of whatever, just it happened)

you never know!

[houjin_himo]

theres really nothing wrong with it but you dont feel the same because there are doubts about it like what if they're trying to be someone they arent or its just a prank cuz a guy asked me before and ahha u need a heck alot of TRUST to have an online relationship

[bigpoppaproppy]

grow some nuts and do it in real life

[silver-rain]

yeah, don't ask someone out online. you can never tell if they're serious or not.

[bigpoppaproppy]

yeah, don't ask someone out online. you can never tell if they're serious or not.

not to mention it's lame
the girl should say no every time, b/c the guy obviously lacks the self-esteem or courage to do it in person..what kind of bf will that be

[whywasisostupid]

i never know if the guy was serious or not. rawr

i said yes once cuz i was liike psh fine okay w/e and it was summer so i iddnt realy c nebody

[tooeffingcrazy]

asking out online is very low. its not only low, but it makes you lose your self confident like you said. and if you ask online, then when you guys acually go out together.. then you will get really shy, and then the relationship is not even a real relationship

[*instantmusic*]

no. (period)

only exception is if your 4'10 and 230 lbs.

[smthngcrprategrl...]

i don't really like it because you can see the person face to face and see if they're being honest about it or not. i dunno i just think it's better in person but hey what do i know?

[sammi rules you]

online...
ehh. it's a tricky business there.
i would advise anyone not to do so unless you're sure you're ready for a long distance thing.

[betrayedbytheduc...]

what i think about asking out online..shows how cowardly you are. you're not really seeing their expressions or with them in person, so it's easy. you can just simply say i g2g, and sign off if they said no.

[lonelydevil426]

i asked someone online once and he rejected me...so i'm kinda glad that i didn't ask him in person...it hurts more but that also means that i'm too coward to do it in person...actually it was over the summer and i couldn't see him neways.

[Rachel]

i think its kinda lame....if thats how you choose to do it, you may not have balls =)

[kaka1204]

yeh askin online wuld be easier..but the person hu was asked wuld feel that you don't care enough about about him/her to gather ur confidence and ask her out in person...????/ ok i didn't make any sense

[*AngelicEyz00*]

john, will you go out with me?

[The 1 and only J...]

i think asking some one out online is stupid. i mean if u can't ask them out in person then wat confidence are u gonna have when u are with them? im a shy guy and i mean really shy but i have never asked out any one online and never will.

[*FreeStickers*]

Asking someone out online seems kind of lame.

[tina_dc]

I'd say it would be appropriate if it were just like hanging out at the movies and what not, but i mean if you were asking them to the prom or soemthing, i'd choose the phone or maybe even better, in person

[*x____duckii*]

I'd never go out with someone that I'll barely see and met from the internet. It's just too sketchy.

[tina_dc]

Oh i thought you meant asking out a friend and talking to her online about. Jeez i'm slow

[*autumn.*]

true story:

guy on AIM: will you go to the dance with me?
girl 1 on AIM: ....wtf?

next day at school, girl 1's friend goes up to that guy in person. friend kicks guy in balls. then says, "just making sure you have some"

so yeah, don't do it. it's soooo much better in person. online is so impersonal.

[emmalie]

ive been asked out on messenger the last guy i went out with to be exact and he asked me there because he was SHY obviously..if he has a fear of rejection things wud go easier online then in person..( and we were talking on the phone and online when he asked me )

and he dumped me online too..but it hurt les..u kno..without having to hear his voice..( he asked if i wanted to know online or on the phone though..)

we know eachother personally..he goes to my school.

[GzuzFreak101]

Ii think it's better when u ask someone in person cuz dis is a really important thing and u don't really want to mess it up and its not really nice when u don't get to see da person and atually talk to her ...it's more important when u actually see her and ask her dt way so yeah

[audory]

my current bf asked me out online. i really don't like it when guys do that though, b/c it's more personal in person. but oh well. at least they ask.

[yoohgotpangd]

People do that to me sometimes, I think it`s stupid. First off, YOU DON`T EVEN KNOW WHO THE HEKK THIS PERSON IS !! Which is gay .. So my answer`s no. NEVER do that.

[Flip-o-Matic]

i think it's dumb... very pointless asking them out. i feel the point of askin out is to express how u feel personally. so if it's not face to face, then it's not really worth anything. it's just not the same... it doesn't show u don't really care as much as u think.

[sweetxsimplicity]

I don't really think it's dumb, but it would be better to ask someone out in person. But yeah, I think that it's a lot easier for me ask them out online, because it's like..you don't have to look at them, and you might feel nervous, since it's your crush, or whatever..><;;

[remini]

It is easier... Thats why I like it when guys DONT do it online, cuz it shows that they have enough courage to face you and tell you. And if they dont have courage to tell u this to ur face, then what will it be like if the person actually says yes???

[sweetxsimplicity]

It is easier... Thats why I like it when guys DONT do it online, cuz it shows that they have enough courage to face you and tell you. And if they dont have courage to tell u this to ur face, then what will it be like if the person actually says yes???

Wow. You have a way with words.

[Just_Dream]

It's easier, but true, it will be more awkward. But hey, it's better to have it awkward first. Getting to know each other online.. It's like.. you are not for sure what that person will say. I can't trust the internet too well.. I mean, what if someone else was on his/her screen name? That would be embarrassing. I remember I THOUGH my boyfriend was talking to me and that he messed up during his 6 hour behind the wheel last year and got his permit revoked. Turns out, it was his BROTHER who said that, so really, he didn't get it revoked and passed. I was pissed, lol.

At least when one talks to another in person, there's eye contact and one is sure that the other is listening.

And I agree with remini... asking in person shows that the guy/girl has the courage :]

[sheddingtears]

for a moment, i thought you were this one guy i know.

anyways, if you're reaaaaally shy, maybe asking online is okay.

but, i say you be brave and ask her out face to face. that way, you'll see her reaction and her smile if she does say yes.

[bad_girl]

it's freaky when u get asked out online. u never kno if the guys probably with his friends and trying to have a good laugh. dont die over embarrasment.

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[HelloSunshine]

well..i think personally..itt's better to ask someone out in person..shows you have guts..plus it's sweeter

[Jealousy]

I would rather have the person ask me where I can see them and hear them. Just because its a nice moment and I would want to remember it.

[heyyfrankie]

if you get the girl/guy, i guess that is all that matters.

[sheepy]

ugh its stupid. i wouldn't like it ><

[WishfullDreamer]

iono... i guess it shows a person that you're too shy to ask them out in person. And if you are....over the phone is better than online(in my opinion)

[sweetdreamsx3]

Whoever does that is a chicken. Relationships like that end faster.

[Shattered_Hope]

meh, I don't really like asking online??but then again..I wouldnt ask anywhere...

[misoka]

I don't really think it's dumb, but it would be better to ask someone out in person. But yeah, I think that it's a lot easier for me ask them out online, because it's like..you don't have to look at them, and you might feel nervous, since it's your crush, or whatever..><;;

That's the same for me...I remember telling my friend that I liked him at school...God it took me a while because I was nervous...and people kept talking to him and...ahhh...Well but then again if that happens, you should talk to them alone somewhere.


I don't think it's stupid. But that's just my opinion.

[xTINAA]

i agree. i think asking out online does make it easier then but then it kind of makes it harder when you actually meet and are together in person. but personally i think asking out online is kind of well, lame. haha. especially since i was asked out online before. it just makes it less personal and romantic i guess. i think in person is better. and if not in person, at least on the phone.

[177emories]

If you wnat to ask someone out ask her in person!!!! don't be P**sy! atleasy on the phone not online!! thats just lame... you can't be embrassesd by these kinda things you need to learn and grow up... things liek this will eventually happen you can't always rely on the internet.

[cmgchica717]

I would rather be asked out in person so you can look into that persons eyes. Yes it might be harder but in the end its worth it. IMO

[miss barnes]

is it between 2 people that see each other or 2 people that met each other online?

[turtlekid75]

BadIdea

[HelloSunshine]

^
yes, it's not really romantic..hmm

[Ataryu]

Person+al=personal

I think personal matters should be delt with in person. If you can't handle it, then go home, grab a sharp object, and cut your balls off, because we know you don't have any....

And for the ladies...umm...yeah, just go home.