Obsessive boyfriends., The curse |
 Nov 5 2004, 06:13 PM
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 Somethin' bout the way you shine...  Group: Member Posts: 577 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 48,223  |
Im in a brand-new relationship. With a guy named Don, who is cute and nice and funny and everything. But-
everytime i go out with the guy, i find them quite obsessive. Wanting to be with me every moment, calling me 24/7, talking to me online for hours, following me, staring at me, ect. ITS SO f**kING ANNOYING. ive broken up with many guys for that reason. Don is turning into that guy. I mean i like him but it ANNOYS THE HELL OUT OF ME AND IT BUGS ME. I want to make the relationship long-term, becuase ive never had a long term one before, because of problems and obsessiveness i seem to break up with the guy before the 3 week mark. How do i make this work? Is this just me? I seem to crush all i want and flirt all i want. Im not prude ive like made out with guys im not going out with so WHATS THE PROBLEM? |
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Nov 5 2004, 06:16 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,957 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,665 |
maybe he s fallin love with u, it could be.
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Nov 5 2004, 06:21 PM
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no idea...what xj_liana_tx said...eh
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Nov 5 2004, 06:24 PM
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 i need an sn change. Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 |
actulay i like obessive boyfriends. cuz that means they love you. but thats just me
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Nov 5 2004, 06:31 PM
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 I like it like that Group: Member Posts: 1,248 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 5,961 |
Maybe your just that great of a person that they want you to be their own and they don't want you to hang out with other guys.
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Nov 5 2004, 06:46 PM
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Somethin' bout the way you shine... Group: Member Posts: 577 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 48,223 |
yeah but i mean... isnt that controlling? im not freaking making out with other guys, or even flirting, so shouldnt he chill?
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Nov 5 2004, 06:50 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
eh, i wish my ex was like that- maybe our relationship would've lasted longer. but i like it, it seems like he really does like you. i would probably be like that.
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Nov 5 2004, 06:55 PM
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 .::sweet on you::. Group: Member Posts: 509 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,753 |
my one week aniversary is next wednesday...lol
yeah I wish my baby was like that...lol |
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Nov 5 2004, 07:08 PM
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Somethin' bout the way you shine... Group: Member Posts: 577 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 48,223 |
does anyone get how i feel?
i want a life outside of a boyfriend. |
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Nov 5 2004, 08:15 PM
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 Lauren loves YOU. Group: Member Posts: 2,357 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,793 |
i understand completely.
there is no problem with you. it's the GUYS that are the problem. tell him straight up that he needs to stop being overprotective and controlling. warn him that if he continues this way, then you'll break up with him. |
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Nov 5 2004, 08:46 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
everyone deserves a warning so give him one.
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Nov 5 2004, 08:48 PM
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 jn Group: Member Posts: 713 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,769 |
ur just too addictive. ahahah. yea, give him a warning but dont stay w/ those guys too long cuz they'll start doing crazy things...for example kill himself over you...too extreme..
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Nov 5 2004, 08:50 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 734 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,507 |
Maybe you could tell him you need a little more space.. but apparently, I don't really know, because I wish more boys would be like that.
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Nov 5 2004, 10:39 PM
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Somethin' bout the way you shine... Group: Member Posts: 577 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 48,223 |
okay thanks guys.
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Nov 6 2004, 02:48 AM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
well maybe he likes u alot. just tell him how you feel
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Nov 6 2004, 04:57 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,343 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,767 |
honestly tell him you need some space (don't forget to mention that its not him, its you)? i don't know... me and my guy go to different schools and i'm lucky if i get to see him once a week.. so i end up missing him a loooot, which is not that great for you. but we've lasted considerably longer than you have in your previous relationships so i guess the space is good.
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Nov 6 2004, 11:23 AM
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Gackt's Wife Group: Member Posts: 411 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,549 |
in a couple weeks it might wear off... ive never had an obsessive boyfriend before... but its IS always nice to have a boyfriend who cares
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Nov 6 2004, 11:39 AM
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0mg i hate guys like that,i usually dump them when they start getting possesive or obsessed with me
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Nov 6 2004, 11:56 AM
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 WUT THA DUCK? Group: Member Posts: 3,950 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,138 |
oooo yehh i know how that feels! but its nott badd... it juss shows that he really likes you and wants to spend as much time with you as he can. it can be annoying... you should tell him how you feel.
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Nov 6 2004, 04:04 PM
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Somethin' bout the way you shine... Group: Member Posts: 577 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 48,223 |
i will. i think its just the new relationship thing, its prolly going to wear off.
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Nov 6 2004, 05:06 PM
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 Day's Nearly Over Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,553 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,183 |
well..
moved. |
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Nov 6 2004, 05:44 PM
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 Linny the dork. Group: Member Posts: 178 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,258 |
yeah i hate it when guys are like that.. i mean you need your space, you know?? well if you really think he'll change then just tell him that you want a non-obsessive/possessive guy, but if he's just too stubborn or if he's always like that(like my last bf, ::sigh::
 ) then dump him, knowing myself he'd eventually drive me nuts.
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Nov 6 2004, 09:09 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 55 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,859 |
that happens to me too....i hate clingy guys!
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Nov 6 2004, 09:10 PM
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hey probably loves you tons, and is afraid to lose you
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Nov 6 2004, 11:24 PM
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 Oh babyy. :d Group: Member Posts: 616 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,708 |
maybe u shuld talk to him about it... it mite help ur relationship to talk to him about ur problems with him...
YAY!! 100th post!!!  x3, cindy |
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Nov 7 2004, 12:32 AM
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i agree with blowpops69....it probably means they erally love ya...
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Nov 7 2004, 01:05 AM
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 i love you <3 Group: Member Posts: 45 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,884 |
QUOTE actulay i like obessive boyfriends. cuz that means they love you. but thats just me i agree w/ her first post hehe..god im bored... 
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Nov 7 2004, 11:28 AM
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I love you <33333 Group: Member Posts: 2,928 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,404 |
you should talk to him about it. if the talk doesnt help,and it starts getting worse,you know,cutting you off from family/friends,not letting you go out,him starting to be abusive,i would get a away.
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Nov 7 2004, 12:51 PM
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Somethin' bout the way you shine... Group: Member Posts: 577 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 48,223 |
lol. okay thanks guys.
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Nov 7 2004, 01:00 PM
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 Junkie's Running Dry Group: Member Posts: 317 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,797 |
haha I've never been in a relationship so I wouldn't be any help. I am a guy though.
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Nov 7 2004, 01:34 PM
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 LunchboxXx Group: Member Posts: 1,789 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,810 |
it sounds like you need to tell him to back off a bit.
and if it doesn't work out, that sucks. |
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