Interracial Relationships, ignorant people these days... Options

[acidophilus]

Yeah, I'm currently in an interracial relationship, and I can barely get through a hallway without hearing some kind of remark. 90% of the time it's derogatory. Sometimes I feel like socking one of them. You'd think people wouldn't care so much these days what with nearly everyone trying for the "ghetto" persona. (Hence one of the reasons why I love her, she's one of the few that don't try to be "ghetto," and she acts nicely and everything) Have you ever been in this situation? (Note: I am NOT going to break up with her, so don't think that's what I'm asking)

[TheSilenceInDict...]

It's actually pretty common where I live (Los Angeles, California) so I really haven't had any trouble dating someone of a different race.

[acidophilus]

I live in a pretty large place (Miami, Florida) and yet I see racism. From so many people. Not to mention homophobia.

[silver-rain]

eh, i live in nyc, and people here are pretty tolerant. anyways, i don't see anything wrong with interracial relationships. in fact, my last relationship was interracial (i'm asian, he's white) and no one had problems with that. i guess you just have to ignore them, and its good that you're not gonna break up with her because other people think its wrong.

[goofipinay]

well try askin one of the ppl why he/she's even talkin bout yall!
most ppl r mixed so...ionno..
i dont think im helping...

[*autumn.*]

if it doesnt offend you, what races are you and your girlfriend?

here, white and asian isn't uncommon, neither is black and white. however, black and asian is uncommon. i'm just curious.

[Shattered_Hope]

honestly....u get remarks because of jealousy probably...yepps..how they look at you and they see that yur closerthey tend to be negative....in my pov anywayz.

[smile4me]

dang.
its really..common here. im "dating" a caucasian..and im asian...

[xj_liana_tx]

its like the controversial between gay marriage thing.. its how just that ppl rint ready to accept the new society yet. i mean in ancient greece, ppl compete in olympics naked, and homosexual is a very common thing.. ok i m not tryin to make this into another topic, but well just go with wat u feel like, its just peer pressure.

[*autumn.*]

interracial dating is nowhere near as controversial as homosexuals.

[XaZnX07]

um yeah its fine i guess and i dont see why people would say nething bout it i guess people are Guse stupid

.:tonY:.

[xquizit]

Well, I'm a filipina who loves black men and have been dating black guys since I was in middle school. Of course I get criticized, judged, insulted, looked down on, you name it, by black folks and asian folks alike. I've been called many names including "whore", "slut", "tramp", "bitch" because "a black man would never date outside his race unless the girl was easy" and that "an asian woman who dates outside her race is ashamed of her heritage and is a disgrace". I don't care what these people say because they are just being ignorant. I know who I am and I know that they are wrong about me, and that is all that matters. I am a confident, classy, strong, and proud filipina, thankyouverymuch.

[DIRTYdirt]

Well, I'm a filipina who loves black men and have been dating black guys since I was in middle school. Of course I get criticized, judged, insulted, looked down on, you name it, by black folks and asian folks alike. I've been called many names including "whore", "slut", "tramp", "bitch" because "a black man would never date outside his race unless the girl was easy" and that "an asian woman who dates outside her race is ashamed of her heritage and is a disgrace". I don't care what these people say because they are just being ignorant. I know who I am and I know that they are wrong about me, and that is all that matters.

go ahead girl. you done tell them!

[LittleLulu]

ppl r retarted. thats the main freakin problem

personally i have nthn against it... u kno if u hade babies they wud be mixed....n mixed ppl r HOT! haha lmao.

[SSJ Kenshin]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with any type of interracial dating. I'm a black guy, and I've only dated one black girl. The others were White, filipina, and Indian, respectively. I got most of the same stuff you all got, but quite frankly, I don't give a damn what others think.

[adnilamila_fe]

i'm in a interracial relationship rite now. i'm asian and he's half mexican and half white. but so far, we haven't had any negative remarks about us, i think (though there were some rumors spread about us when we first started dating) but there are some positive..like for example that we're a cute couple and stuff. but neways, just ignore those mean and rude people. they're probably jealous cuz u two make a very cute couple. it doesn't matter wat those people say. the only thing that matters it that u like the girl and you want to be with her.

[acidophilus]

As I said, I am NOT breaking up with her.

I'm Cuban-Armenian and she's African-American.

[xbladeoffire90x]

haha you guys are probably very very cute ^.^

ignore the oens that make the comments, make friends with the people that don't

and it sounds like you like her for the right reasons, i see why she likes you to, lol

[WhiteLotus*]

[I]It's so hard in Los Angeles to find a white guy. Like...85% of he population is eiher hispanic or asian...

My bf's Hispanic.

[Winter]

I know what you mean. I live in a multi-racial country in Asia and yet you still get looked down or scorned at if you're dating someone outside of your race.

I'm Chinese and I've dated white, Pinoy and Korean guys before.

I don't think this is the matter where you're living but here, interracial dating is an issue because of religion. I'm not dissing any Muslims okay but there's this rule or something that says you can only marry another Muslim. So if a Muslim wants to marry a non-Muslim, the non-Muslim will first have to convert to Muslim. Most conservative parents will not allow such a thing. This is just an example though.

But I say screwwhat everyone thinks. If you love her you should be with her.

[*Weird addiction*]

haha,im blaq and has neva dated a blaq guy,im not just attracted to 'em...white and blaq aint wierd,but blaq and asian...ppl would talk bout dat,like theres this chinese girl in my school dating a portugez,jezus its soo horrible cuz she gets insulted evri day!!

[*jooleeah*]

Actually, no, I haven't been in an interracial relationship. But, I have er....some advice. All I have to say is ignore them. They're just being pathetic losers for making fun of you and putting you guys down.

[Just2CYouFall]

Well its not pretty comman where i live, no body cares what color they are as long as they love you back! Well all i have to say it dont listen to other peoples coments and go with YOUR heart!

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[shinigami300]

Yea, i live in California and it's entirely common here. I have a boyfriend of a different race too and no one has looked as us strangely or made any sort of racial remarks. Some parts of the U.S. just arn't the same tho, so it's really hard for others to accept you if they arn't used to it. i agree to the other people on this board and say to ignore them. If you truely like each other a lot, other's opinions shouldn't matter all that much.

[acidophilus]

Yea, i live in California and it's entirely common here. I have a boyfriend of a different race too and no one has looked as us strangely or made any sort of racial remarks. Some parts of the U.S. just arn't the same tho, so it's really hard for others to accept you if they arn't used to it. i agree to the other people on this board and say to ignore them. If you truely like each other a lot, other's opinions shouldn't matter all that much.

Just gonna say that they aren't "affecting" me at all for the final time.

I just feel like punching them sometimes to shut them up.

[literemix24]

lols well i live in nyc..anything is possible. =]

[LiNHy POO]

where i live its really diverse, and you can date anyone without the those kind of remarks. i dont see anything wrong with dating someone from a different race and i have quite a few times too. dont let anyone get to you about that.

[happygoluckyng]

my bf is black ...but I really don't care for the race...cuz my baby is sexy no matter what

[*stephinika*]

that's ridiculous. there's absolutely nothing wrong with dating outside your racial background. where i am, luckily, no one that i've personally met has had a problem. my boyfriend is caucasian while i'm mixed asian/european/south pacific so yeah. but i think people shouldn't care. its not their business so why do they care? its stupid.

[christiee_nax]

pshht. some people just keep living in the past

[whywasisostupid]

i live in texas, and at my school we dont have any racial comments at all.

ive never had that problem thank god.

that is compeltly wrong for people to say that about you and the person u are currently seein. whats wrong with not datin ur own race? thats just sick for people to think that

[sheddingtears]

I live in CA too, but at my school, when people see interracial relationships, the only thing they can really do it accept it. There are some remarks there and there like "they don't really match", but yeah, most of the people don't get bothered by seeing things like that. I haven't been in that kind of situation, but if I was, yeah I'd probably be annoyed, but I wouldn't care what they think.

[MXAngel11]

where do yu live? don't think any of this would happen at my school in NY

[s0pnayish]

I guess it really depends where you live, that's why some people look down on interracial dating. Either that or their just really traditional. Since I started dating, I've been through various interracial dating, and not once have been looked down on. I live in San Diego, so it's pretty common. Even when I was living on Guam, I still didn't get any racial remarks.

As of now, my boyfriend of 22 months is Mexican, and I'm filipina, and not once have I heard anything bad about us. I mean, even both our families are fine with us being together.

[you suck]

mayn, i neva even had an italian b/f..n im italian. but its queens ny n no 1 really cares bout that stuff.

[audory]

some people are just so ignorant. it's really annoying. but no matter what relationship you're in, there's always going to be those ignorant people standing in the sidelines, just waiting for a chance to bring you and your bf/gf down. the best thing is to is to turn around and kill them! jkjk. just try your best to ignore them, and be sure you talk to you gf about this. be sure she understands that no matter what you love her and you won't break up w/ her no matter what the other bastards say.

[misoshiru]

interracial dating's really normal, even in taiwan. in asia, people look up to other asians if they're dating someone outside of their own race, especially white.

[ApunBindaas]

Yes there's ignorance everywhere. It's just how we take it and not let it bother us. I know it's easier said than done.

[hi-C]

Just gonna say that they aren't "affecting" me at all for the final time.

I just feel like punching them sometimes to shut them up.

Well, punching them doesn't really solve anything. If anything, you've let them know that they've gotten to you, and that's all they really want in the first place.

I've personally never been in that situation because my community isn't diverse like that. My high school was (still is) around 97% Black (just an estimate, I'm not exactly sure of the exact percentages). But now that I'm at a college in NYC, being that it's a lot more diverse, the probability of me being with someone from another race is higher, which kinda scares me, just because I don't know how my parents would react. I'd like to think that they're open-minded, but something tells me that they wouldn't exactly welcome a non-Black boyfriend with open arms.

My parents are really old school, they were teenagers during the civil rights movement, and those old prejudices, stemming from past hurts, even though they should be long gone by now, are sill there. My mom still talks about this racist elementary school teacher that failed the six Black kids in her class and said that they would never amount to anything. My mom understands that the woman was just ignorant, but I guess that just proves that you can forgive but never forget.

So in short (not really, I know this reply is hella long), I really don't know if I would ever be in an interracial relationship. Not because I'm not open to the possibility, cuz I totally am, and I support all interracial couples since they have the balls to be put under such harsh scrutiny, but because it's a lot easier to be with someone of my own race, as bad as that sounds.

[*mzkandi*]

me being black i have always been attracted to other races. my first crush in 5th was this white boy. i have dated more out my race than in it. but it has nothing to do with race at all its all about whether me and the guy have a connection. i had friend tell me "Kiera you sure do love you some white boys" I was like ummm ok...i do but so what

[NobleSpirit11]

I'm a black male, and although my preference is to date black women, I would definitely date outside my race, and I don't care if anyone else does the same thing as long as they are happy.

Unfortunately, this situation exists everywhere. I went to NYU -- one of the most tolerant colleges when it comes to cultural differences -- and some people still talk and give weird looks if you date someone outside your race.

If you are happy in your relationship, don't let these people bother you. Chances are, you are going to hear people talking regardless.

[heyyfrankie]

i have not been in one, personally. but my aunt and mom have both been in interracial relationships. i don't know why people seem to look down upon relationships like that? i mean, if you are in love, you are in love. right?

[sweetdreamsx3]

Yeah, my friends make comments about that when I date someone out of my race, but they can't do shit to me.

Anyway, yeah. My friend who lives in Chicago has some girl or guy that made a website about interracial couples. She doesn't know who it is, but we got his/her xanga shut down. :D

[kimbutt]

who cares about what they think.

[shewasradiant]

ppl r retarted. thats the main freakin problem

personally i have nthn against it... u kno if u hade babies they wud be mixed....n mixed ppl r HOT! haha lmao.

i agree. mixed babies grow up to be extremely good looking.

[dani41790]

hmm no never. there are sooo many different races here in Hawai'i that interacial dating is very common so yea ive never experienced that

[*instantmusic*]

interacial dating is the way to date. rawr. i like cat people.

[miss barnes]

haha you guys are probably very very cute ^.^

ignore the oens that make the comments, make friends with the people that don't

and it sounds like you like her for the right reasons, i see why she likes you to, lol

yea thats what i was thinkin...yall are most likely cute together too

[*Programmer*]

from the jungle fever in africa...all the way around the world to the tundra of canada...yummmmmmmmmmmm......color doesn't mean shyt. anyone that says otherwise is a dumbasss. thas why imma supposedly a sexy mix :) thank you to all the people who are in Interracial Relationships. without you i would not of been possible :)

[royalfreshness]

This doesn't happen in my school cos everyone is mostly black. But I don't think there's a problem with interracial relationships

[KrunkMuzik]

Dude, there's abs. NOTHING wrong with that. I had a mixed gf (mexican & white) before, and no one ever said a comment to me. Dont let them hataz get to your head, keep doing your thing!