boyfriends, wat 2 do Options

[LoST SouL]

yes idk wat do do my b/f keeps yellin at me n its gettin on my nevers n i kant stand bein single but i still do love him is lovin him the rite thing 2 do?

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

if there is n0 reas0n f0r him t0 be yellin at y0u then there is s0mething seri0usly wr0ng.. y0u need t0 talk t0 him and see what's 0n his mind .. d0n't let any guy mistreat y0u f0r n0 reas0n .. even if y0u l0ve them .. d0n't be afraid t0 be al0ne f0r a while .. y0u have t0 respect y0urself .. especially if he d0esn't ap0l0gize f0r is acti0ns when he is at fault .. y0u'd m0st certainly deserve s0me0ne better .. y0u can't help wh0 y0u l0ve .. s0 i w0nt say that l0ving him is the wr0ng thing .. but i have t0 stress that y0u have t0 DO WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU .. even if y0u l0ve him .. s0metimes the best way t0 sh0w y0u care is the hardest .. maybe he sh0uld see what it's like n0t t0 have a go0d pers0n like y0u in his life .. and then he'll c0me ar0und .. go0d luck and do what y0u have t0 d0

[*Podomaht*]

hm, i never yell at anyone, much less get yelled at. if he yells at you alot it could go into physical abuse...

[xjjajeengx]

hmm... he dont deserve you. i mean, you shouldnt have to endure so much stress for him just cause you love him. if he truly respected you and sh!T, he shouldnt yell like that. maybe you do need to let him noe that you think its sh!tty how he yells. and if that dont work, forget him dear, he's not worth a bit of your time.

[*CEP*]

You need to talk to him and tell him that his yelling is gettin' to you. He'll prolly stop then. Ofcourse, you can always just kick his nads. He'll shut up quicker.

- Chinkieeyedpnoi

[phanaticalazn21]

killl him

[*AngelicEyz00*]

killl him

I wouldn't go to such extremes... But if i were you, and he were yelling at me, Id be like "who the hell do you think your are ?" heh. I wouldn't take that from him, ya know?

[COLDasICE]

If I were you I'd actually stick up for myself and say "F U too" you know?!, cause there's no way I'm letting a guy yell at me for whatever the reason.. And I would have to say NO about loving him cause you shouldn't when you've been really fair to him and he hasn't in return.. I recommend you to seek for your friends' help, maybe you'll have a better chance to get through to him about the way he makes you feel..

[*jimmyjackiechan*]

I read the first sentence and I just thought to myself...

Abusive relationship = Stress every day~
So bad... Man, I hope I don't have kids till I am 30 or something~

[aud_chua]

don't let him yell at you.. that'll only make him think that he can do worse.. he'll be more abusive as time goes by...
i think that you should stand up to him.. tell him that you really don't feel he's being nice. explain to him that you feel bad because of his actions.
just talk to him.. it'll make things easier....

[fragrance]

yell back
fight back
dont settle for his BS
tell him off
take his money
slap him
leave him

choose one that best fits ur situation.
i, for one, dont like getting yelled at
especially by a guy?! oh helll no!
unless, of course, im at fault.
but if u didnt do anything?? NO
dont put up with it cuz it aint worth the tears, stress and drama

[*jimmyjackiechan*]

State ur opinion in a positive manner and handle it in a mature way than he does. Just to proove who is the "mature one" in the relationship. Like I said earlier, abusive relationships, once they start they should never continue. Diengage right away because ur getting hurt more and more every day and I am sure NON OF US at Createblog wanna see that now~~~

[LoST SouL]

ok my b/f yells at me sumtimes almost everyday 4 no reason is tat abuse?

[Just_Dream]

abuse is something that is done physically, isn' it? I think your bf needs ANGER MANAGEMENT. Don't you agree? lol =P

[conster]

i say talk to him about it, and never ever cry if anything happens... so not worth it.. and y do u need a guy to yell at u? boyfriends are suppose to be there for u and make u happy (thats y people get into relationships cuz they're happy with each other) dont put up with his yelling

[Just_Dream]

He needs Anger Management or something, lol. Aww, he needs to chill! It seems that you deserve SO MUCH BETTER because you seem to take alot of crap from him, since he yells at you so much. Don't let him hurt you. Even if yo love him so much, is he truly worth it? Ask yourself that.

[*Podomaht*]

ild dump him. why would i want to be with someone that is abusive????

[xjjajeengx]

because she loves him (as finishing podomaht's question...)

does he love you dear? if he does, why is he screaming/yelling? i call that abuse of your love, meaning he is taking advantage of you and yelling at you even tho you love him... which is wrong. if it is for a specific reasonable excuse, i wouldnt say anything, but i mean... WHATSS UP WITH THAT! take charge and kick his pitiful @$$... i hate guys like that. or at least most... some guys, all you have ta do is yell back and they'll shut the f*** up

[LoST SouL]

ok like i sed in my other post my b/f yells at me sutimes 4 no reason some people may consider this abuse sum ppl may not i relly love him tho n we have been together for 1 yr n about 4 months now wat shud i do?... shud i break up wit him?

[Just_Dream]

you've been asking this question repeatedly. I know you're lookking for an answer, and I'm not trying to be mean, but I believe reading this twice. Please don't start another question when it's being answered in another. It's quite pointless.

For advice, you shouldn't take that kind of crap from him. 1 year and 4 months? I've been wif my bf for almost as long, and if i were you, i would have a talk with him. don't take his crap. =P

[Just_Dream]

Okay, so i MERGED these 3 SAME topics. I don't know WHY you chose to make 3 different topics talking about the same thing. PLEASE dont' do this again. Sorry for the double posting. This thread seems long, but it is really 3 topics in 1. I just wanted to clean up this section. Please just post one topic, not multiple ones.

[xjjajeengx]

i agree with just dream.
hmm... dont you have two other topics on this...? man... lots of truble eh..? well, just DUMP HIM. its like you loving him but he's just like taking advantage if he cant stop yelling at you. i mean, if you cant take it from the guy you love, maybe you should confront him or yell at him back for once. i've been with my bf for 498 days now, and he never yelled at me except for once, but we ended up making up. make up with ur bf if you want a lasting relationship... i mean, me and my bf are like... BLEH right now cause i derno... we just didnt make things up after being kind of... misunderstood by each other... i ono im depressed as well. but i mean, you should dump him because you desrve better, not a crappy yelling abusive guy like him... so dont worry, just dump him if you cant take it any longer. but if you want another try at it, just talk to him about it... tell him to stop. be the dominant one... yell at him back, fight and make up afterward. thass the best way... (or at least for me...) and dont stress over it... it'll only cause you to be more grief stricken.

what i was about to type before just_dream cleaned it all up...

[LoST SouL]

i wish it were tat ez but like i relly love him n i try n tlk thins out wit him but he jus dun listen n its like i tried 2 hit him once n im jus 2 slow so he stops me then he gets even madder n walks a way then i feel bad n i follow him n have 2 apologize.... o yes btw srry bout creatin so many thingys

[Just_Dream]

Well he doesn't deserve a great girl like you if you could take so much from him. Justleave him. It doesn't seem like he even cares anymore. Does he? Sure, if you leave him, you'd still have feelings for him, but hey, would you rather be in a relationship where you feel like you're nothing? He doesn't seem to appreciate you at all. How can you love someone who would hurt you so much? You're too good for him. He doesn't even know it.

[LoST SouL]

i kud hardlly get the words out of my mouth... thikin bout it makes me cry i relly love him n tis suks... idk its hard i guess isk... its like i also may have a fear of bein single.. wat if he relly does love me n i break up wit him .. i wud have jus threw a 1yr n 4 moths of happyness down the drain...

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

i kud hardlly get the words out of my mouth... thikin bout it makes me cry i relly love him n tis suks... idk its hard i guess isk... its like i also may have a fear of bein single.. wat if he relly does love me n i break up wit him .. i wud have jus threw a 1yr n 4 moths of happyness down the drain...

well i recall you saying in one of your other topics that you don't see him that often .. he yells at you and things of that sort .. if he really loves you he wouldn't mistreat you like that .. it's disrespectful .. you should have a little more respect for yourself and walk away from this before you continuously hurt yourself .. it doesn't seem to me that you're happy in this relationship if you have so many topics saying that you have problems .. regardless of how long you've been together it doesn't seem you guys are on the same page with everything .. and if you guys can't even get together and have a civil conversation to sort things out then it's not going to work .. you have to learn to be strong and not be afraid to be single .. sometimes it'll save you a lot of unnecessary pain .. it seems many people are in agreement that you should break it off with him .. ultimately it's your choice .. but you have to realize that you should do what's best for you before this becomes a serious problem..

[Just_Dream]

i kud hardlly get the words out of my mouth... thikin bout it makes me cry i relly love him n tis suks... idk its hard i guess isk... its like i also may have a fear of bein single.. wat if he relly does love me n i break up wit him .. i wud have jus threw a 1yr n 4 moths of happyness down the drain...

1 year and 4 months of.. HAPPINESS? Are you sure you are really happy with him? Yes, sure you love him, and if you leave him it might be a mistake, but you can't just sit around as if nothing's going on. If he doesn't want to talk and just yells all the time, how can u expect any love from that? Doe she have any family problems? He shouldn't be taking it out on you. Becuase if he's just angry all the time for no reason, maybe he doesn't love you back. I mean, all this pain, is he really worth your tears? Ask yourself that.

[LoST SouL]

wat if he relly does love me n i break up wit him.. n i love him more then ne thin in the world either wheter i stay or leve i get hurt in the end...

[aj637]

so you been with him for a year and 4 months? everything you have done he was always there right by your side. for the first few months his been nothing but a sweetiepie and his words metled your heart and now true color shows and his yelling at you pretending not to care. ive been in this kind of relationship before. seriously the only advice i can give you is listen to your heart. if he is hurting and he doesnt know that he then blame yourself because your letting him do that. but if his yelling and picking fights with you and you told him how you felt about it and yet doesnt seem to care about how you feel then somethings wrong. one thing my best friend told me when i was in a type of relationship like this before she told me "when is enough? when will it be the day that your happiness means more than being with him? when will it be the day you see he was a complete asz and you could do so much more?" it got me thinking, even though i knew i was happy to be with him since he was my everything i knew i was hurting and that i wasnt happy anymore. take the time to think about it and if you cant take it anymore then let it go... and dont worry about being single its not that bad as most people think it is...

[LoST SouL]

ive neva been single in my life n i hate bein lonly its the most depressing feelin in the world n yes i have friends but friends kant give the same feelin as a b/f n its very depressin w/o that feel.. at lest 4 me....

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

ive neva been single in my life n i hate bein lonly its the most depressing feelin in the world n yes i have friends but friends kant give the same feelin as a b/f n its very depressin w/o that feel.. at lest 4 me....

i understand how you feel .. nobody really likes to be lonely .. but what you have to understand is that when you are better off alone rather than being in a relationship where you don't seem happy it's not worth staying in it. be patient and wait for the right person to come along.. someone who'll make you feel good and happy and respects you .. to say that you've never been single in your life is an overexxageration.. there was at least one point in time that you were single and perfectly fine without someone else in your life. what you have to realize about what love is is that it's a PLUS in life .. but you can do equally well without one if need be. don't make yourself become dependent on a person. you can do everything for yourself sufficiently .. that's why you were made an invdividual.. so that you don't lean on someone else as your crutch your whole life .. you need to learn to walk by yourself.. it'll be lonely and depressing in the beginning but you'll slowly find it gets easier over time .. certainly friends don't give the same feeling as a boyfriend .. but know that friends care about you the same, if not more, than a boyfriend would.. so learn to suck it up and be strong when you need to .. don't be weak and feel you can't get by on your own because you're wrong .. you can do it if you put your mind to it..

also in response to another previous post .. you may think now that you love him more than anything in the world .. but slowly you'll find that changing .. i'm sure in the past with your other boyfriends you've felt the same exact way .. that you couldn't be without them .. that you cared about them more than anything and you didn't want to not be by their side .. you have to take those situations into consideration every time you become blind to the fact that you can be just as well off alone for a duration of time .. it isn't a lose lose situation for you whether you stay or go .. it's smarter for you to let go sometimes and let nature take its course..as i've said before.. if you were meant to be with him .. in the future your paths will cross .. and you might end up finding someone else that treats you even better in that time and you'll wonder why you were so scared to let someone else go in the past .. this is what love is all about .. it has it's ups and downs .. it's hard always to let go .. but you are still living .. and you do eventually find someone else who makes you feel the same, if not better, than the last person you were with .. be open to meet new people .. you're still young and have a whole life ahead of you .. it would seem like torture if you were to rush in saying that he's THE ONE and it turns out he's not .. life is only too short when you know you're with the perfect person for you .. and you still have yet to find that person..

[LoST SouL]

from wat i kud tell u n ur b/f have been together 4 3 yrs rite.. well ur so lucky n tass wat i want 2 happen wit me n my b/f i wanna try n make tis relationship work.. my longest relationship was 2 yrs n it relly hurt felt worse then diein wen he left n tis time i dun wanna get hurt like tat so im tryin 2 mae thins work out but wat do i do 2 make thins betta...

[angel-roh]

i jus have to say that...
...i dun like being single either, so i jus try to ask my friends who had the same problem too u kno? friends are da best solution^^;; hope everythin works out for u!!

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

from wat i kud tell u n ur b/f have been together 4 3 yrs rite.. well ur so lucky n tass wat i want 2 happen wit me n my b/f i wanna try n make tis relationship work.. my longest relationship was 2 yrs n it relly hurt felt worse then diein wen he left n tis time i dun wanna get hurt like tat so im tryin 2 mae thins work out but wat do i do 2 make thins betta...

yea .. we've been best friends for 4 and been together for 3 .. but we've had our share of ups and downs .. right now we're having a little downside .. we're still seeing each other .. but we're being patient and taking things day by day .. relationships are NEVER easy .. and i understand exactly how you feel .. of course you want to be with someone and be proud to say it's been for a very long time .. but sometimes if it isn't with the right person it could all be for nothing .. if HE also wants to make things work and you're both willing to work TOGETHER .. then go for it .. but if the feelings aren't mutual that's where the problem really starts .. i know what it's like to really care about someone for a long time and for them to drop you like you meant nothing .. it truly does hurt .. but you have to learn to stay strong despite it and move on .. the world doesn't stop for one person .. and you did ended up finding someone else to make that hurt go away .. so you can do it again if you have to .. one thing you have to accept when you feel that you love somebody is that *love is pain* .. love isn't that fairy tale, dream come true kinda thing that people WANT it to be .. love requires time, patience, sacrifice, and often great endurances of suffering..love makes you realize that no matter how much it can hurt if things don't work out that it was still worth it for the time that it did last and you'd never trade it for anything else in the world ..

my advice to you if you want to make things better is to talk to him about how you feel. first find out if he ALSO wants to make things work with you guys ..

be patient .. it all takes a lot of time and you both have to be willing to endure it together no matter how long a period of time it is ..

also, don't try to force love .. you can't force it if it's not there anymore.. or at least for the time being .. let things take it's natural flow and it'll be okay..

lastly, establish amongst each other a policy of respect .. you should both treat each other right .. he shouldn't be treating you wrong all the time and making you feel bad because you certainly don't deserve that .. give each other some space at times when needed .. and if they truly care as much as they say they do .. trust me .. they'll ALWAYS come around .. =]

[LoST SouL]

i remba wen he asked me 2 mary him...n have a family 2getha

[LoST SouL]

first find out if he ALSO wants to make things work with you guys ..

how do i find that out?.... n like 2 day especialy it hit me tat i relly love him i relly do n i kno it hurts n im willin 2 give up everythin 4 him n its like i hate the way he treats me n idk wat to do... i love him soo much a part of the way he acts has to do with his personality n i kant chnage that but idk did i create a monster?... afta my 1st love broke up wit me i promised my self i wudnt fall in love again...honestly i dun think i eva stoped lovinn him.. jus found some1 replace tat n love even more...wen i met my b/f i realized i kudnt control love... n i kno i love him deep inside i feel it i sense it i kno its there a part of me relly loves him even tho the other part of me hates the way he treats me... i was tlkin 2 my best friend n he told me 2 discover wat makes me unhappy and fix it.. a part of me wants to say its my b/f but in actuallity he keeps me alive... i was watchin walk 2 rember starn mandy moore n it was like i rembaed the times he was there 4 me wen i ahd no friends or wen i was depressed or angry at my parents or wen i found out bout my mothas illness or wen my best friend at the time stabed me in the back... o wen ppl tlked sht bout me he stood up 4 me... he truss me he kares bout me i remba how he took kare of me wen i was relly sic how he always wants the best for me.. i remba the 1st time he told me he loved me he looked me straght in the eyes n held me in his arms n kissed me n i felt the truth behind it... i kant describe wat i feel 4 him .. all i kno is tat its love.. up to tis day he looks me in the eyes n tells me he loves me... however i dun even kno if he realizes how hes actin.. it tell him 2 stop but he dun...idk am i too kinda?... am i too soft heart?... im torn part in2 2 pieces...

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

how do i find that out?.... n like 2 day especialy it hit me tat i relly love him i relly do n i kno it hurts n im willin 2 give up everythin 4 him n its like i hate the way he treats me n idk wat to do... i love him soo much a part of the way he acts has to do with his personality n i kant chnage that but idk did i create a monster?... afta my 1st love broke up wit me i promised my self i wudnt fall in love again...honestly i dun think i eva stoped lovinn him.. jus found some1 replace tat n love even more...wen i met my b/f i realized i kudnt control love... n i kno i love him deep inside i feel it i sense it i kno its there a part of me relly loves him even tho the other part of me hates the way he treats me... i was tlkin 2 my best friend n he told me 2 discover wat makes me unhappy and fix it.. a part of me wants to say its my b/f but in actuallity he keeps me alive... i was watchin walk 2 rember starn mandy moore n it was like i rembaed the times he was there 4 me wen i ahd no friends or wen i was depressed or angry at my parents or wen i found out bout my mothas illness or wen my best friend at the time stabed me in the back... o wen ppl tlked sht bout me he stood up 4 me... he truss me he kares bout me i remba how he took kare of me wen i was relly sic how he always wants the best for me.. i remba the 1st time he told me he loved me he looked me straght in the eyes n held me in his arms n kissed me n i felt the truth behind it... i kant describe wat i feel 4 him .. all i kno is tat its love.. up to tis day he looks me in the eyes n tells me he loves me... however i dun even kno if he realizes how hes actin.. it tell him 2 stop but he dun...idk am i too kinda?... am i too soft heart?... im torn part in2 2 pieces...

you'll always have those memories .. i know exactly how you feel .. i think one of the things that you may be missing is that you're still in love with the person he was .. in the past he's done some pretty wonderful things for you it seems .. and i love that movie a walk to remember too .. it's so0 sweet .. try to hold on to the wonderful memories you've shared with one another .. they'll always be alive in your heart .. and just like you said you'd never fall in love again after your first love .. you'll be able to do it again if that's what's meant to be ..

if you want to know if he wants the same things as you you have to confront him and talk to him about it .. talk about what you want in this relationship and see if they're the same .. simple as that .. you can't beat around the bush about these things .. always be honest with yourself and him and he'll be honest with you .. and whether what he says is what you may or may not want to hear you have to be strong .. don't keep living in the past if it's long gone .. live for the moment .. no matter what a part of you will always love him and nobody will take his place .. but sometimes you have to give other people a chance .. you have to give YOURSELF a chance to see if what you have with him is really love .. you'll never know if there is someone else more perfect for you if you don't stay open-minded ..

so keep that all in mind and i really hope you learn to be a bit stronger ..good luck!!

[Just_Dream]

You dont' always have to have a boyfriend. SURE, you can feel lonely, but is it better to love someone who always ends up hurting you or makes you cry? How can you let him treat you like this? I mean, if you truly love him, then you woudl tlak to him. At least try to make things WORK. You say you WANT to try, but you don't, or at least it seems so. If you treally DID want to try, then you would've somehow fixed this. Maybe he isn't the one for you. My friend loved someone who wasn't there for her. The beginning he was ther, but later on, it changed. Eventually, the broke up, and he left holes in her heart becuase she never recieved any love in return for giving her heart away. It's going to hurt, but I don't think he would be right for you then. EVEN if you've been together for so long, he seems to be very angry and such.

And in the end, what if you end up hurt, broken hearted, and maybe even phsyically abused? You'd give yourself up like that for love? Because if you do, you MUST realize what sort of thing you're really getting yourself into. I've been with my bf for just as long and people tell me that I shouldn't be so considerate and stuff towards him, but he's not abusive or angry or anything. He's there for me and I love him, and if I talk to him about it, he'll understand, or eventually he will. He just needed a little push towards the understanding part. You need to talk to your bf YOURSELF! And if you already TRIED and failed, maybe he's not the one. EVEN if you love him so much. People get their heart broken everyday, by people that they love. They grow stronger from it.

We're giving you our input and we hope that you will follow it because if you really want your problem solved, you HAVE to take CONTROL of your relationship. It seems like you don't have much control. If he's always makign you cry, and always hurting you and isn't even TRYING to make things work, you'll find yourself throwing your heart away, sinking it down to the deepest, darkest ocean. Don't let yourself get hurt any longer. Don't sit around and le thim push you around. There's plenty of fish in the sea...

---Christina

[LoST SouL]

im scared of losin him not even tat im scared period.... i gave him everythin i have nuthin left name it i gave it 2 him.... n getin my heart broken makes me weaker in the past b4 i got my heart broken b4 i was strong i wasnt like tis it changed me 2 this depressed lil grl who hardly eva smiles or is very seldom happy... the times i am happy r wen im wit my b/f.. well wen he aint mad at me... its so complicated summa the songs from the evanescence cd espically hello and turniquet and taking over me describe wat i feel...

[Just_Dream]

well I can't give yo any more advice. IF YOU DON'T TAKE ANY ACTIOn towards it, then what's the point of changing him? You have to do something. You can't jsut sit around and mope or anything like that. True love is when both lovers care alot about each other. If he does make you happy, then I guess stay with him. But if he ever hurts you and doesn't love you in the end, well, we warned you =T Try to do something to help this relationship. Giving him everything seems to never be enough. I know what it feels like to give up everything you have and end up with nothing left to give. But in the end, don't let him control everything. DO SOMETHING. How else can you fix it? TALK to him. It will help. Sure, there's a 50-50 chance you might break up, but would you rather be in a relationship with someone who hurt syou? ANd plus, if HE TRULY LOVES YOU, then he'll STAY with you and try to change or something so that you'll be hapyp again. IF NOT< then it was never meant to be. It's going to hurt, but eventually, you'll have to find someone new. Are you sure you love him, like TRUE LOVE? Because in my opinion, you can't love him alot if he hurts you so much. You'll feel too sad to love. Do something to solve this situation.

[LoST SouL]

im scared that hell jus yell at me n my heart willl get crushed in2 lil pieces i dun think i kan live threw tat its affectin me physically alread im literally shakin... krushin my heart mite jus stop my lungs from workin... im scared ima try it tho thanks i guess

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

im scared of losin him not even tat im scared period.... i gave him everythin i have nuthin left name it i gave it 2 him.... n getin my heart broken makes me weaker in the past b4 i got my heart broken b4 i was strong i wasnt like tis it changed me 2 this depressed lil grl who hardly eva smiles or is very seldom happy... the times i am happy r wen im wit my b/f.. well wen he aint mad at me... its so complicated summa the songs from the evanescence cd espically hello and turniquet and taking over me describe wat i feel...

christina is absolutely right .. we're trying to guiide you in the right direction .. ultimately it will be your choice on how to deal with the matter .. however try not to be blinded by your love .. i've been in your situation plenty of times and i know how much it hurts but you have to understand and realize that you do have worth and you can do just fine without him if you have to .. like i've said before to you .. if you were strong enough to find love again after you were hurt before .. you can easily do it again .. you just need to take the first step in acknowledging that you two are not having mutual understanding on a lot of things in your relationship .. you gave a lot to him, yes .. but you can take that back when they don't apparently deserve it .. you have to be your own best friend .. don't do things that will hurt you .. and if you move on from this .. be careful when it comes to giving your heart to someone .. make sure they truly deserve it first .. don't become attached too fast .. keep in mind that at one point you were single and you were just as fine without someone to lean on .. it's an adjustment but over time you'll find it gets easier .. it seems the bad times outweigh your good ones with him .. and you have so much fear of him YELLING at you when you talk things over with him .. that isn't right at all .. if you can't talk civally with him then there's definitely a lot of problems that will be difficult or nearly impossible to fix. he has to learn to listen and be more understanding and he hasn't been to you .. so stop falling deeper and deeper in love with someone who doesn't' deserve that love .. at least not right NOW .. let him realize what he can be losing and maybe he'll come around .. and it seems you need the space as well to learn to be a bit stronger ..

[rOckThISshYt]

okay, no offense, but if your bf is hurting you physicly or emotionly, you're too good for you. i know my bf wouldnt do that. and if you cant stand being single then that's just being desprite, no offense. i mean i was single for over a year before my last boyfriend. but good luck. you're probobly too good for him anyway.

~Julia~ xoxo *smooches*

[Just_Dream]

okay, no offense, but if your bf is hurting you physicly or emotionly, you're too good for you. i know my bf wouldnt do that. and if you cant stand being single then that's just being desprite, no offense. i mean i was single for over a year before my last boyfriend. but good luck. you're probobly too good for him anyway. 

~Julia~ xoxo *smooches*

yep, julia just summed it all up for us =)

You truly do care about him, but even so, you can't just let him do this to you. If he truly lvoed you, he wouldn't hurt you like that. Don't let him take control and physically hurt you forever. You can get better. By not doing anything, it gives him the feeling of control. It makes him feel better, but it hurts another. That another, being YOU.

[LoST SouL]

but i dun think he even realizes how much hes hurtin me

[Just_Dream]

Sorry for posting after a single post, mods. O_o"

Well anyhow, you NEED to tell him. If he gets mad (which he shouldn't if he TRULY LOVES YOU), then you should get mad too. If you really loved him, you'd fight for him to be happy again. If he's ANGRY all the time and you don't even TRY to make him happy and he gets angrier at you and he hurts you ro anything, psst, It doesn't seem like he even loves you! I know, I shouldn't assume things, but DO SOMETHING. That's all I have to say for this post. I've posted far too much on this single, 3-threader-merged topic. Hopefully you DO do something about this situation. (I said DO twice for a reason) TALK TO HIM about it. That's all the advice I can give you. ONLY THEN will you figure out whether he loves you or not.

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

you've told him before and confronted him about these matters.. i don't see how he wouldn't get what you are getting to here .. you're obviously unhappy and you try to talk things over with him and he refuses to listen .. taht should be enough for you to realize that there's something seriously wrong with the relationship .. if you guys can't talk things out nothing will ever get solved .. i think it's best you move on and see how things work with your best friend because he at least seems to make you feel happy ..

[LoST SouL]

omg tlkin works sooo well!!! i got the courage 2 tlk 2 my b/f a serious 1! n like he told me how he felt n guess wat!?!?!??! he felt the same f'in way!! n we worked out the problem n we decided 2 give it another try!! yaya woo hooo im soo happy yay!!!!

[Princess_sarsa]

omg tlkin works sooo well!!! i got the courage 2 tlk 2 my b/f a serious 1! n like he told me how he felt n guess wat!?!?!??! he felt the same f'in way!! n we worked out the problem n we decided 2 give it another try!! yaya woo hooo im soo happy yay!!!!

Humm the honeymoon period of a relationship? Sorry but your user name is right, you're lost. i would watch out and make sure that he doesnt revert to his old ways.

[Just_Dream]

yea, sure you can talk and talk, but jsut remember, don't let him take control of the conversation. I agree with princess sarsa, don't let him revert back to his old ways. Guys tend to do this and not listen.

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

yup i agree with both of them .. i'm glad things are working out right now for you .. but be prepared for the worst .. you never know if he can revert right back to his old ways where he wouldn't listen .. and don't forget about your feelings for your best friend as well .. things like that can all result in different outcomes in the future .. enjoy the happiness but just don't be disappointed if things go down sometimes because it happens .. try to be a lot stronger for yourself and be ready for whatever may come ..

[dani41790]

well i dun think u should b with a guy who alwayz yells at ya n getz on ur nerves.

[whomps]

if you truly love him and he loves you.. there's always a chance to make things right =] a person that really loves you would hear you out and notice their faults if you just tell 'em. there's no wrong in telling him how you feel..

hey.. he shouldn't be yelling at you =]

[brian_deegan]

why is he yelling at you?